Grey’s Anatomy Actor T.R. Knight: “I’m Gay”

Knight_1Whether or not it was related to the brawl that erupted between Isaiah Washington and Patrick Dempsey on the set of Grey’s Anatomy earlier this week, in which Washington allegedly referred to T.R. Knight with several derogatory slurs, Knight revealed to People magazine today that he is gay:

“I guess there have been a few questions about my sexuality, and I’d like to quiet any unnecessary rumors that may be out there. While I prefer to keep my personal life private, I hope the fact that I’m gay isn’t the most interesting part of me.”

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Comments

  1. jimmyboyo says

    Sam ^5

    unlike lance…..this guy chose to come out while his career is on the rise. Good for him

    I went over to IMDB to check out his board, and some fan girls didn’t believe it “But he had girlfriends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” LOL not realizing that their own ballerina fashion designing boyfriends are using them for beards

  2. Zeke says

    Kudos T.R.!

    Happy belated National coming out day!

    Jimmyboyo, it’s not necessary to slam Lance to praise T.R.. We should just be happy that they’ve BOTH come out. Many others haven’t; either while they were at the top of their game OR otherwise.

    Progress is always good, no matter when or where it happens.

  3. jimmyboyo says

    ah zeke

    now you have gone and made me feel all guilty.

    😛 <<<<

    Ok, Good for Lance as well.

    T.r. coming out while his career is on the rise and no leaked pics is a rare and wonderful thing indeed

  4. peterparker says

    I agree with Jimmyboyo’s original statement…it’s cool that an actor whose star is on the rise has come out of the closet. In my opinion, that is the better scenario for our community. It models to the younger generation that you don’t have to hide in fear that others won’t accept you. And, given that an ascending star means one is still relevant, T.R. Knight will hopefully be able to effect change as opposed to these has beens (I’m not naming names…there are a LOT of them!) who come out only when their career is dead and they need a p.r. boost.

    Bravo, T.R. and welcome to the community!

  5. bboy says

    So, so cute! I heart these slightly nerdy boys–now I finally have a reason to watch Grey’s Anatomy (which I generally refer to as “that show with the guy who is desperately trying to revive his career”)

  6. J.R. says

    Interesting to note that during the first season of the show, T.R.’s character had to deflect inuendo that he might be gay. Great actor, seriously. I don’t believe this should affect his career.

  7. Zeke says

    Jimmyboyo, you know I love ya brother. It wasn’t my intent to make you feel bad. :(

    Peterparker, I also agree with Jimmyboyo that it’s good when a person comes out while at the top of their game. It may be preferable to the “movement” but it’s not always preferable to the individual. It certainly takes an even greater degree of courage to do it while still a star and it’s perfectly reasonable to applaud celebrities who make this leap.

    I just don’t think it’s necessary to belittle Lance’s step FORWARD by singling him out and comparing his timeline with T.R.’s. Lance is living openly and happily NOW, and is using his celebrity to help promote gay issues. That’s what’s really important as far as I’m concerned.

    Jimmyboyo knows what I’m talking about. I was really impressed with how much more positive and inspiring his second comment was.

    You rock Jimmy my friend! : )

  8. jimmyboyo says

    zeke

    :-)

    If your remark had come from anyone else, I probably would have simply dismissed it. It is due to my respect for you that tuly you did make me feel guilty. You made a very valid point.

    :-)

    “a slap from a friend is better than a kiss from an enemy”

    If I ever say something stupid again, please point it out.

  9. says

    >now I finally have a reason to watch Grey’s Anatomy

    Ugh, what a stupid thing to say. Some of you people are bigger sheep than the entire flock of born again christians that organizations like American Family Institute keep in their stables. Just ugh.

  10. Pandora says

    “An actor on a hit show, whose career is ascending, has actually come out? Wow. Good for him. Maybe it’ll start a trend.” – Sam

    I wish it were true guys, but sadly, like Lance Bass he was “forced “out of the closet by gossips (magazine, on-line etc.).

    The gossip tongues have been wagging about the talented T.R. Knight since last November.

    He is not closeted in his personal life BUT has apparently given the impression that he was straight on more than one occasion which confused a lot of people in New York media / theatre circles.

    The gossip rags have made a big deal out of the “scuffle” between Grey’s Anatomy actors Dempsey and Washington partly because the incident confirmed their “reporting” of T.R. Knight’s homosexuality.

    When the story first broke much of the mainstream media such as “E. T.” never mentioned that Washington maliciously “outed” his co-worker by referring to him as a faggot. Instead they focused on the scuffle which distracted from the slur that Washington allegedly used.

    Now, many in the LGBT community what an apology from Isaiah Washington. Who is now being referred to as the “McBigot”.

    Yes – it would have been great to see an openly gay actor play “straight” and still be accepted by the t.v. viewers but, as it stands now, T.R. Knight joins the long list of actors/ public personalities that have been forced out.

    It will be interesting to see how this will affect his role and storyline on “Grey’s Anatomy”.

    And what about the gay viewers of Grey’s Anatomy? Should they still watch the show with this “alleged” bigot Isaiah Washington as part of the cast? I don’t know – but – Isaiah you have some explaining to do.

    Peace

    Pandora

    UNITE IN THE FIGHT FOR CIVIL RIGHTS

  11. DRH says

    > The gossip tongues have been wagging about the talented T.R. Knight since last November.<

    The gossip tongues have been wagging about lots and lots of people, who are much more famous, for much longer. So what?

    Also, lots of dumb-asses call lots of people “faggots,” and that doesn’t mean they’ve “outed” them. Stories like the “Gray’s Anatomy” backstage fight have a short shelf life, even here in LA; just because something’s on Entertainment Tonight doesn’t make it front-page news.

    TR could have stayed in the closet, as many people with much less to lose have done, but he didn’t. That’s good news. End of story.

  12. Joseph says

    While Knight’s statement does kind of indicate that he’s coming out reluctantly, I’d like to think that a part of him did it just to stick it to Washington to out HIM as a homophobe.

  13. says

    Whether he came out reluctantly or with guns blazing, he did it gracefully (simply) and it’s I think it’s a huge awesome deal. He’s on one of the biggest shows on TV right now. When has that ever happened? This is awesome.

  14. peterparker says

    Zeke,

    If you reread my statements, you’ll see that I never mentioned Lance Bass when discussing celebs who come out after the pinnacles of their careers have long since passed. I didn’t name names because there are MANY gay celebs and former celebs who fit into that category.

    And call me cynical, but I have a hard time applauding someone’s public disclosure of homosexuality when A) the disclosure seems little more than a thinly veiled attempt to revive one’s failing/failed career and B) the celeb could have come out at the height of their fame and used their position to advance GLBT causes (simply by coming out), but instead they waited until it was ‘safe’ and thus were not able to leverage their fame for the good of the community.

    I’ll bypass Lance Bass and use Michael Stipe as an example. I attended college in Athens, GA during R.E.M.’s heyday. All the members of the band were idolized by the campus frat boys, and, indeed, by legions of straight men across the country. Meanwhile, the campus frat boys harrassed the gay guys on a regular basis. Now, we gay boys and girls in Athens knew that Stipe was gay. We knew guys he had dated and we’d all seen him out at ‘Disco Night’ the *one* night that *one* bar in town was totally hospitable to queers. We knew Stipe was gay. But the frat boys who worshipped at Michael Stipe’s feet had no idea. If he had simply come out, he would have been able to get a lot of straight guys thinking about what it meant to be gay. Instead, Michael hid in the closet. A reporter from The Advocate magazine asked him about the homoerotic lyrics in R.E.M.’s music and asked him if he was gay, and MIchael flat out denied he was gay. Meanwhile the straight guys continued to harrass us. Once R.E.M.’s star began to shine a bit less brightly, suddenly Stipe comes out of the closet. By then it was too late…their fan base had dwindled and refocused their attention elsewhere…R.E.M. was no longer newsworthy…and, because he waited until it was ‘safe’, Michael has not had much impact in changing people’s mind about what it means to be gay.

    There are thousands of Michael Stipes out there. Some of ’em look like Lance Bass. Others look like Richard Chamberlain. While still others look like George Takai. And I find it difficult to respect any of them.

  15. Leland says

    Now, Brother Zeke, you’re gonna make me eat crackers in bed again? [not a play on words :-) ] That is, if you keep giving awards out prematurely like HRC. “Lance is … using his celebrity to help promote gay issues.” Other than his pledge at their dinner, I’m unaware of his doing anything else that fits those words—YET anyway.

    In any case, bravo for Knight, and a pox on Washington’s house if the stories are true. Just goes to prove “hot” doesn’t necessarily equate with hip.

  16. Amanda says

    I think some of the biggest bigots here are the homosexuals. To call Washington a bigot is bullshit! Some gays here are pretty bigoted and racist. After reading some remarks by some gays on a previous thread its clear racism is alive and well in the gay community. Washington makes one negative statement and the gays are ready to burn him at the stake. So what? Washington called Knight a faggot. Washington didn’t force Knight to delcare he’s a queer. Knight decided to come out so that’s his problem not Washington’s.ABC has Washington under contract there could be a lawsuit, a lot of negative publicity for the show. ABC is not firing Washington they will let this story blow over. Knight chose to come out so that’s his deal.

  17. Eric says

    Maybe he’s not a bigot, but I think he’s an asshole for it nevertheless. Like Mel Gibson drunk, when the going gets tough, the true feelings show. P.S. — Always thought T.R. was cute. This whole “McDreamy/McSteamy” thing is so lame.

  18. Pandora says

    “I think some of the biggest bigots here are the homosexuals. To call Washington a bigot is bullshit! Some gays here are pretty bigoted and racist. After reading some remarks by some gays on a previous thread its clear racism is alive and well in the gay community. Washington makes one negative statement and the gays are ready to burn him at the stake. So what? Washington called Knight a faggot. Washington didn’t force Knight to delcare he’s a queer. Knight decided to come out so that’s his problem not Washington’s.ABC has Washington under contract there could be a lawsuit, a lot of negative publicity for the show. ABC is not firing Washington they will let this story blow over. Knight chose to come out so that’s his deal.” – Amanda.

    “Washington makes one negative statement and the gays are ready to burn him at the stake. So what? Washington called Knight a faggot.” – Amanda.

    It is a big deal to many people in the gay community. Washington and Knight are co-workers. Washington knows that Knight is gay and yet he chose to use such a derogatory slur as faggot.

    If it had been reversed?

    What if Knight had called Washington a nigger? Would you not think that Knight was a bigot?

    I am sad to hear that you’ve read other sites that are making this into a racial issue especially since so many black gays are having a hard time in the black community for being gay. Many, many pastors in the “black churches” preach hate from the pulpit. Keith Boykin.com has followed this issue many times. But that is not what we are discussing today.

    I had posted a previous comment earlier this afternoon which pointed out that the mainstream media either omitted or neglected to report that Washington used the word faggot.

    Also…

    “Washington didn’t force Knight to declare he’s a queer” – Amanda.

    That is true – but – Washington’s reference to his co-worker Knight as a faggot during the scuffle with Dempsey certainly did put pressure on T.R. Knight declare openly to the public (TV viewers / Grey’s Anatomy fans etc) that he is gay.

    Peace

    Pandora

    UNITE IN THE FIGHT FOR CIVIL RIGHTS

  19. peterparker says

    Amanda,

    Sadly, I agree with you that racism is alive and well in the gay community…and that is a shame and a disgrace. However, that does not make Washington any less of a bigot.

    peterparker

  20. Zeke says

    Peterparker, if you reread my statement you will notice that I agreed with your statement of support for part of Jimmyboyo’s statement. I then went on to say where I disagreed with him. I didn’t link you to that disagreement. Sorry if I was unclear.

    Leland, I promise I won’t send you to bed with crackers tonight. At least I don’t think I will. I’ve never heard that expression. What does it mean?

    You’re right though, I probably gave Mr. Bass a bit too much credit too quickly. I should have said that he “has made a public pledge to” work for gay rights.

    I get the feeling that you’re gonna keep me in line from now on. That’s cool. Just be gentle! :)

  21. Leland says

    I fear I convoluted the expression too much, Zeke. :-) It was just a variation on the saying that you shouldn’t eat crackers in bed because of all the crumbs that would end up there, etc., etc. I meant I’d have to punish you by eating crackers in bed for passing out gold stars too soon to young Mr. Bass.

    Lame, I know….

  22. Zeke says

    Amanda, I agreed with the basic message in your comment. I too was surprised and disappointed with the blatantly racist comments made in this thread. However, you completely lost credibility and legitimacy because of your offensive, homophobic presentation and therefore your legitimate concern was lost in the bile.

    You don’t effectively challenge bigotry and ignorance by acting like an ignorant bigot sweetheart.

  23. Zeke says

    I thought it was a Barbara Mandrel reference. All I could think of was “You can eat crackers in my bed anytime…” It brought back memories of when I was just a little faglit in Mississippi; I had such a crush on her (don’t laugh). I was ready to come out swingin in defense of Ms. Mandrel — Say anything you want about me but leave Miss Barbara out of this. :)

  24. Rey says

    hey Amanda!
    What is it the kids say?
    GO SUCK A FUCK.

    It’s one thing to read a thread of comments by a variety of HOMOSEXUALS and come to the conclusion that gay people are racist.

    It’s quite another to hear about one individual man making a very hateful comment and to be so willing to not believe he’s an asshole. And probably a homophobe.

  25. Pandora says

    For Zeke and Leland

    Singer: Barbara Mandrell
    Song: You Can Eat Crackers In My Bed Anytime

    Hello baby
    I’m sorry I said the things I did.
    It was a silly fight.
    I was wrong you were right.
    What I really mean to say is…

    You can eat crackers in my bed anytime, baby
    You can kick off all the covers in the middle of the night.
    You can sleep with the window open wide.
    Do anything as long as your by my side.
    You can eat crackers in my bed anytime.

    I should be happy.
    No dishes to wash now but my own.
    No clothes to pick up.
    A double bed to myself now that your gone
    Oh but it’s lonely
    I’m sorry i every let you go.
    It’s a matter of fact I’ve got to have you back.
    I just want you to know…

    You can eat crackers in my bed anytime, baby
    You can kick off all the covers in the middle of the night.
    You can sleep with the window open wide.
    Do anything as long as your by my side.
    You can eat crackers in my bed anytime.

    You can sleep with the window open wide.
    Do anything as long as your by my side.
    You can eat crackers in my bed anytime.

    Whoa, you can eat crackers in my bed anytime, baby
    You can kick off all the covers in the middle of the night.
    You can sleep with the window open wide.
    Do anything as long as your by my side.
    You can eat crackers in my bed anytime.

    Kisses,

    Pandora

    UNITE IN THE FIGHT FOR CIVIL RIGHTS

  26. Anon says

    This was really classy of TR! Even Perez Hilton was surprised, so I don’t think there were too many rumors, though everyone here seemed to know it was true the other day.

    I do think that Lance’s successful coming out INDIRECTLY contributed to this, so he gets no personal credit per se but we are still the beneficiaries.

    Now, if TR’s career survives, and I don’t see why it shouldn’t, then maybe the floodgates will begin to open in Hollywood. Are cracks appearing in closet doors around the land? One can only hope.

    My father just informed me that the Mets lost. Oh well…

  27. Zeke says

    Thanks Pandora! :)

    My husband just told me he doesn’t know what all the fuss is about, he has a cracker in bed EVERY night.

    The NERVE!

    I’m tryin to figure out if I should be offended. 😉

    No problem Peterparker. It’s all good bubba.

  28. says

    And the Season of Outing continues:

    Lance Bass (one-fifth of NSync)

    Darren Hayes (one-half of Savage Garden)

    Thomas Roberts (CNN/CNN Headline News anchorman/reporter)

    (shudder) Mark Foley (disgraced US Republican congressman from Florida)

    Michelle Babin (who, along with her twin Amanda, is still in the running towards becoming the seventh America’s Next Top Model) [to be fair, she did say that she didn’t know what she was]

    RJ Helton (finalist, American Idol 2002) [Because Clay Aiken won’t do it. Kidding. :-)]

    TR Knight (George O’Malley on “Grey’s Anatomy”)

    Three quasi-high-profile comings-out in one week. Is that a record? Well, it IS National Coming Out Month.

    Anyway, I KNEW THAT T.R. WAS GAY!

    Good on ya, O’Malley. :-)

  29. tjc says

    Don’t forget another (mildly derogatory) variation of the “crackers in bed” phrase:

    “I wouldn’t kick him out of bed for eating crackers”
    meaning
    “I’d have sex with him, but that’s about it.”

    (This is how I learned it in highschool, but in a heterosexual way.)

  30. Chesnut says

    I guess there’s only one Hollywood PR move that Isaiah Washington can make at this point, and that is to release the following press statement:

    “I am an alcoholic and am checking myself into rehab. You see, alcohol makes me say things that I don’t really believe. It wasn’t ME that said those things, it was the booze.”

    Hey…it worked for Mel Gibson. And Foley too, for that matter.

  31. CaliNexus says

    Pandora: But Knight didn’t call Washington the “n-word”, which apparently you felt necessary to spell out. Nothing worse than a wolf in preacher clothing. Please…

  32. Zeke says

    Hell I can remember when being left handed would get you a cross look in this country, at least in Mississippi schools.

    My best friend’s left hand was tied behind his back in primary school to “encourage” him to write with the “right” (right) hand. Unbelievable but true. I personally witnessed it.

    I guess it’s what busy-body control freaks did before they discovered the joys of running “Ex-gay” “reparative” therapy torture chambers.

    By the way, my friend also turned out to be a big ole homo (with really bad handwriting!).

  33. Kevin says

    You know, Zeke, that happened to some of my friends as well. They’d be smacked for using their left hands. It didn’t happen in my (city) school but it did happen in Irish country schools and to a Long Island friend of mine (who blames it for his shitty handwriting). I’m 26 now so this only happened about 15 years ago. Crazy.

  34. says

    Thought so. Used to see him at the gym in Hollywood and he just had that look in his eye. Now if only a couple other TV stars that I know would follow suit. Especially the one who’s made a career out of playing gay!

  35. Harrison says

    Is it sad that this is the first gay celebrity I’ve had a crush on in a really long time, and so I’m glad to find out T.R. is gay?

    Well, I don’t care if it is. He is lovely!

  36. Leland says

    And, here I thought there was only ONE Barbra [sic], Zeke. LOL. Never heard enough of BM’s music to get hooked but she is damn purty and seems mighty nice. Now, Dolly and Patsy and Suzie and….! THAT’s singin’! Thanks, Pandora for the lyrics. A new song to moi. Do either of you know on what CD Reba and Kelly Clarkson do her old duet with Linda Davis, “Does He Love You?” I have ALWAYS dreamed of seeing this performed with a woman and a MAN—who only appears on stage when his stanza begins—imagine the explosions in the audience! Maybe Reba and Clint? LOL

    Reba:
    I’ve known about you for a while now
    When he leaves me he wears a smile now
    As soon as he’s away from me
    In your arms is where he wants to be

    Clint:
    But you’re the one he rushes home to
    You’re the one he gave his name to
    I’ll never see his face in the early morning light
    You have his mornings, his daytimes
    And sometimes I have his nights

    Both:
    But does he love you (Does he love you)
    Like he loves me (Like he loves me)
    Does he think of you (Does he think of you)
    When he’s holding me
    And does he whisper (Does he whisper)
    All his fantasies
    Does he love you (Does he love you)
    Like he’s been loving me

    Clint:
    But when he’s with me
    He says he needs me
    And that he wants me
    That he believes in me

    Reba:
    And when I’m in his arms
    Oh he swears there’s no one else
    Is he deceiving me
    Or am I deceiving myself
    (Am I deceiving myself)

    Reba:
    Oh shouldn’t I lose my temper

    Clint:
    Oh and shouldn’t I be ashamed

    Reba:
    Cuz I have everything to lose

    Clint:
    And I, I have nothing to gain

    Both:
    But does he love you (Does he love you)
    Like he loves me (Like he loves me)
    Does he think of you (Does he think of you)
    When he’s holding me
    And does he whisper (Does he whisper)
    All his fantasies
    Does he love you (Does he love you)
    Like he’s been loving me?”

    And, Zeke, your partner used the same play on words I was initially alluding to—no offense meant. :-)

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  37. ______ says

    Pandora: But Knight didn’t call Washington the “n-word”, which apparently you felt necessary to spell out. Nothing worse than a wolf in preacher clothing. Please…

    Posted by: CaliNexus | Oct 20, 2006 10:50:18 AM

    Yeah, and Pandora typed faggot instead of the “f-word”. Is Pandora a homophobe? Seriously, you’re a fool CaliNexus. Get over yourself.

  38. Leland says

    PS: Wouldn’t THAT have been a great song on the Brokeback soundtrack?!!

    PS2: “Psychology Today” reported last year on a study that showed: “… lesbians have a 91 percent greater chance of being left-handed or ambidextrous than straight women, while gay men are 34 percent more likely than straight men to not be right-handed.”

  39. Leland says

    PS3: I do not in any way mean to make light of the emotional damage that bisexuals [or, at least, bisexual performing] and their partners go through. I only meant the song would be a dramatic way of illustrating that just because someone is married, etc.
    As I’ve mentioned before, I know a man who, even in this proverbial day and age had only finally found the courage to be himself after his THIRD marriage; a few months after which he saw Brokeback. The tears ran down his face like many in the theatre but he said that what the others didn’t realize was that he was having to literally grit his teeth to keep from bursting out wailing while “seeing himself” and so much of his own wasted years on screen.

  40. Zeke says

    This is why I think comparing sexual orientation to handedness is so much more legitimate and appropriate than comparing it to race or even eye color. If nothing more, it avoids all of the bitching and moaning over who owns THE deed to THE civil rights struggle.

    No one really knows what makes a person left-handed but we know for a FACT that it is not a CHOICE.

    We know for a fact that you can make a left-handed person write with his right hand but that doesn’t make him right-handed. It just makes him a screwed up left-handed person writing with his right hand.

    We know that identical twins, who share the exact same DNA, can have opposite handedness.

    We know that a person who is deprived of the use of his natural hand of handedness can and will resort to using his other hand, at least until his natural hand again becomes useable.

    We know that there is a similar number of left-handed people compared to gay people as a percentage of the general population.

    AND (and here’s where I’m gonna catch some heat) we know that, although a few people are truly ambidextrous, most who claim to be are if fact not. Just because one CAN write his name with his left hand doesn’t mean he’s ambidextrous. I personally believe the same can be said of bisexuals; there are in fact SOME but most who claim to be simply are not. Let the flaming commence!

    There are MANY more similarities and few differences.

    I have made the handedness orientation/sexual orientation comparison for years. If you do a side by side comparison of the two phenomena, it is striking how similar they are. I don’t know why there isn’t more research into the comparison. My guess is people are afraid of what the results of the research might reveal.

    Anyway, sorry to have hijacked yet another thread; my ADHD just won’t allow me to stay on topic! :)

  41. Zeke says

    Leland I caught your double entendre you bad boy! Hell no I wouldn’t be offended; I’m as cracker as a box of Ritz, less ritzy but EVERY bit as buttery! 😉

  42. Zeke says

    Good point too Leland about the high percentage of left-handed people who are gay or lesbian.

    Another possible indication that the influences, processes and other contributing factors that cause one deviation from the norm is similar to that which causes the other.

    Seems like a reasonable assumption to me.

  43. Zeke says

    “Does He Love You” is one of my favorite songs ever!

    Never thought about it before but it would have been PERFECT for BB Mountain but with a man and a woman singing it to each other, as you suggested.

  44. Marco says

    If they do get rid of Washington, and I hope they don’t because I think he’s very good on the show (but drama queen needs to come to his senses and apologize already), I hope they don’t pull a Daytime Soap BS move and just switch actors. They need to get rid of Burke. I suggest his hand never recovers or he gets caught in the midst of a boy sandwich.

    Or, killed when a float in a gay pride parade speeds off-course and tragically slams into the hospital.

  45. rudy says

    It occurred to me that another benefit of having T.R. Knight come out of the closet is that it puts another face on the diversity within our gay family. He busts another gay stereotype. We are not all pretty boys, just like we are not all effeminate, without being “straight acting” (whatever that is supposed to mean). We are simply who we are. Moreover, I am heartened that some within our family find Lance and T.R. appealing. Neither do anything for me sexually. I find them plain to homely but others do not. “Ain’t a pot so crooked you can’t find a lid to fit,” as my secretary used to say. Perhaps trivial, but one of the realizations that has been enabled by the Internet and blogs. It obiliterates the “Am I only one?” and “Will I ever find someone who cares for me just for being me?” syndromes that many young gays experience. Thanks again to Andy for providing a welcoming home that we can share in cyberspace. Reminds me of my “blood relations” in that we rarely agree with each other but we all demand, give, and receive respect from each other.

  46. says

    Calling someone a faggot is not nice, even if it was in a fit of misguided anger during an argument with a third party. Especially, so. For Mr. Knight to publicly come out reveals who the gentleman in this behind-the-scenes drama really is. If you look at his credits, you will note that he is first and foremost an actor, and with the best and most professional of pedigrees. I can only hope that he has a long and rewarding career, both irrespective of his announcement, and especially because of it. As for the incident between Mr. Dempsey and Mr. Washington, depending on what actually happened, in most places of business, someone would either be reprimanded, sent to anger management classes, or fired. If Washington DID say it, and he becomes a liability to the show’s bottom line, he’ll find himself being shown the door. That would have happened, slur or no slur. For all we know, apologies may have been delivered as appropriate in private to the parties affected. If the slur did occur, however, as it has now been widely reported throughout the media, Mr. Washington will also have to make an atonement to the gay community at large. Until he issues a public mea culpa (and it ought to be better than Mel Gibson’s), I wudn’t want to have lunch at the same table as him anywhere in this town.

  47. Harrison says

    So in my new two-day obsession with T.R. Knight, I found a clip of him from when he appeared on Martha Stewart’s talk show.

    (This conversation occurs during a craft segment where Martha and T.R. made heart shaped soaps for Valentine’s Day.)

    Martha: “So, any special plans- you have a girlfriend?”
    T.R.: “No…” (said in that supersexy, awkward George tone)
    Martha: “No?”
    T.R.: “No, we’ll be working.”
    Martha: “Anybody on the set that you’re involved with?”
    T.R.: “No…. (giggle)”
    Martha: “No hanky panky on the set?”
    T.R.: “I think there’s enough that goes on on screen.”

    Who knew a man making soap could be so damn cute?!?

  48. Zeke says

    It would have been too damn funny if he had outed himself right there, live on Martha Stewart.

    For once in her life, Martha would have been left speechless.

  49. Leland says

    Mr. Cranky Pants [an alias I have been known to use on occasion], imagines him saying, “In 2006, Martha, you, a woman who doesn’t even know a straight man under the age of 60, are insisting on assuming that I’m straight? How 1950s of you!”

  50. Pandora says

    “…But Knight didn’t call Washington the “n-word”, which apparently you felt necessary to spell out.” – CaliNexus

    Calinexus, the two words “faggot” and “nigger” are powerful in their ability to degrade.

    I do not come from the school of thought that thinks that spelling out a word is less offensive.

    “Nothing worse than a wolf in preacher clothing.”- CaliNexus

    What did you gain in this conversation by knocking my character?

    I am a peaceful person. Why not ask me a question?

    Example: Pandora, why did you feel it necessary to spell out the “n-word”?

    Calinexus, I’m curious as to why you chose to single me out from all of the comments posted here.

    Calinexus, please read my posts again.

    In them you’ll see that I was making the following observations based on what was being reported:

    1)Washington referred to his co-worker as a faggot.
    2)Washington may have “forced” his co-worker to come out of the closet.
    3)The gay community wants an apology from Washington.
    4)Mainstream media failed to report the whole story (they did not disclose the fact that Washington used a gay slur).
    5)T.R Knight was a gay man who worked as an “openly gay “actor in New York theatre.
    6)T.R. Knight, on more than one occasion, when asked about his “romantic life” while promoting “Grey’s Anatomy” chose to return to the closet.

    For me, this Hollywood “scandal” brings to the forefront the difficulty that all members of the GLBT community face every day, such as, coming out, discrimination on the job etc.

    Yes – it would have been wonderful to see an out gay actor cast as a “straight” character on a TV show and then see the show succeed in the ratings. Sadly, it seems that T.R Knight “had to” briefly return to the closet.

    But haven’t we all experienced being forced to return to the closet at different times in our lives?

    Peace

    Pandora

    UNITE IN THE FIGHT FOR CIVL RIGHTS

  51. Pandora says

    “Right back after a word from our sponsor with a cut from the new CD: “Lance & Reichen Sing! Live at the Bellagio!” – Leland.

    LOL :)

    Leland, your “down low” version of Reba’s “Does he love you” is too funny!

    Yes – it would have fit perfectly on the Brokeback Mountain Soundtrack as a duet with Reba & Clint and would have been quite poignant too.

    Here’s some info about Reba, Kelly and the other Barbara 😉

    From Wikipedia:

    “….Reba … will also be honored in October 2006 as the first person proclaimed a CMT Giant. A tribute concert will be held in Los Angeles featuring performances by Dolly Parton, Wynonna, Kelly Clarkson, Faith Hill, Brooks & Dunn, Martina McBride, LeAnn Rimes, and Trisha Yearwood. The concert will air on CMT in November.

    ….Reba is currently working on a duets album, which could be her final album under the MCA label, that is currently scheduled for release in 2007. Ronnie Dunn of Brooks & Dunn is the only confirmed duet for the project. Kelly Clarkson has been asked but has not been confirmed. Rumored artists include Kenny Chesney (whom Reba recorded the title cut for “She Was Country When Country Wasn’t Cool: A Tribute to Barbara Mandrell,” scheduled for release on October 17th),…”

    Thanks for the heads up on the Psychology Today article (RE: left-handedness) I must have missed it.

    :(

    “No one really knows what makes a person left-handed but we know for a FACT that it is not a CHOICE” – Zeke

    Zeke, I loved your points on biological origins of being gay.

    Have a great weekend boys.

    Kisses,

    Pandora

    UNITE IN THE FIGHT FOR CIVL RIGHTS

  52. bystander says

    >Yes – it would have been wonderful to see an out gay actor cast as a “straight” character on a TV show and then see the show succeed in the ratings.

    Pandora, it’s not quite the same thing, since he wasn’t a star, only a recurring character, but openly gay Dan Butler (convincingly) played the lecherous character of Bulldog Briscoe on “Frazier” in 41 episodes.

  53. Zeke says

    I loved Bulldog on Frasier. Funny character and, in my opinion, sexy as hell.

    I always thought he was the perfect example of how an out gay man can damn well play a believable straight character.

  54. Leland says

    Hmmm. I doubt Butler was kicked off for coming out since the producers of the show were mostly gay and out themselves.

    But anyway, Reba, Dolly Parton, Wynonna, Kelly Clarkson, Faith Hill, Martina McBride, LeAnn Rimes, and Trisha Yearwood. All on the same stage singing!!!! My nipples are hard! I’m not a full on CW fan, but I like what I like and that includes most of the material most of these women do. And not to bring up an old argument [hell, why not?] but third greatest cultural injustice of the year only after Brokeback not winning best movie and Heath not winning best actor was Dolly not winning best song for “Transamerica.” STILL one great tear jerking song that ANYONE who’s ever been on the outside looking in could relate to. I met the director once and he said she was DIVINE to work with!

  55. Kevin says

    Anon, Dan Butler was definitely not fired for being out. He publicly came out in 1994 during the 1st or 2nd year of Frasier. He was credited as a regular for seasons 2 to 6 and made on average a couple of guest appearances a year after that. Great comedic actor, great show.

    Just cos I saw this on Wikipedia: “Originally, the show was to be based in Denver, Colorado. However, in 1992 Colorado passed a controversial amendment viewed by many as anti-homosexual. The producers of the show then changed the setting to Seattle.[citation needed]”

  56. Anon says

    Maybe Butler is still bitter over being canned, so he blames the execs on NBC for going after him. I think it had something to do with his standup career. Anyway, it always comes down to money. NBC was always worried its top rated show was going to be “too gay”, owing to the mincing lead performances and the general lack of romantic interests for Frazier. Butler still goes around saying that his career was damaged by coming out. One could say that baldness and aging doesn’t help an acting career either, but I recall the interviews.

  57. phillbert says

    My my – all this mail about T R Knight and coming out. Okay – fess up everybody – what you are all wondering is not about how it will affect his career. What you all really want to know is does he have a big dick. So, what do you think, does he or doesn’t he.

    Philbert

  58. Kevin says

    Hmmmm. I haven’t seen any of those interviews but I wouldn’t have thought Butler’s career was hurt by coming out. He still appears on primetime regularly to his day. As for NBC being worried about the gayness of the show, I’d be surprised. Again I haven’t read any reports either way.

  59. Robert Alan says

    I always loved him on Grey’s, now that he is out. I still have the hots for him. Except when he had that bad haircut on the show. Now, if he can only get another shower scen!

    As for Dan Butler he quit working Fraiser because Paramount had hired that Anti Gay Hate Spewing radio show witch. He stood up for himself and took the loss of regular work as a semi-regular charater of a hit show because of his principles. I do miss seeing him & his hot chest! Dont forget David Hype Pierce also of Fraiser, his career continues on as an openly gay man.

  60. Kevin says

    I wouldn’t describe David Hyde Pierce as an “openly gay man”. He’s always refused to answer the question. His most oft-quoted response is “My life is an open book; just don’t expect me to read it to you”.

    And so now Dan Butler quit cos they made fun of a right wing radio host? I presume you’re referring to Christine’s Baranski’s role as “Dr Nora”. She was in it for one episode near the end of season 6 and her character was ridiculed. Are you trying to suggest that Dan Butler quit because he was offended on her behalf?

    Maybe I’m wrong but I’ve always seen Bulldog leaving the show as a natural progression. They had all lost their jobs at the radio station at the end of season 5 and he was barely in season 6 because most of it wasn’t based at the radio station. The only thing that will convince me otherwise is if Dan Butler says otherwise.

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