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  1. RB says

    I cannot stand Ken Starr!!! When will he simply go away?

    As for the commercail, very good job, it breaks my heart. Enough said.

  2. says

    That ad will not have the desired effect. The supporters of Prop 8 don’t really like gays, and no amount of teary eyed imagery will change that.

    If fact, it will probably have the opposite effect, and just reenforce their hatred.

    If you hate someone, the last thing you want to see them happy in life. They took away your rights, divorce would be the icing on the cake.

  3. Sam says

    I completely agree protogenes that our opponents hate us and will never treat us as humans.

    But I think this add is targeted to the CA supreme court justices now… putting a human face to their decision.

  4. Bobby says

    No, LOVE WILL NOT PREVAIL unless we fight for our rights. Saying shit like “love will prevail” and “good always win” gives people a false sense of security. You do nothing, you get nothing and as long as we’re more worried about sex and giant cocks, we’ll never be nothing more than sexual perverts and deviants to those who want to obliterate us. Wake up homosexuals, Sally Kern is right, it’s time for a revolution, just not the kind she wants. If you’re in the closet come out, urge everyone you know to stand up and be proud, it’s the only way anything good is every going to happen for us.

  5. Satori says

    Thank you. So moving.

    Where was this BEFORE the vote?

    I am glad we’re finally woken up after its passage, of course.

  6. Mike says

    My husband and I were married on July 3rd, the 10th anniversary of the date we met. In the weeks leading up to November Election, I stood on street corners, wrote essays for various blogs, reached out to each of our family members, all the while knowing that we were likely going to lose, simply because we hadn’t held a two point lead going into election day.

    As we watched the results trickle in, I received a couple of calls, both asking the same question: “whatever will we do now?” Well, we have done exactly what I said we would do. We awoke the next morning, still absolutely committed to one another, and resolved to continue the good fight.

    We decided to be more visible in public. Whereas we would walk in public near one another, we rarely held hands. We live in conservative Orange County, after all, and there is some real fear of gays here. We went to Disneyland (not on a gay day) and held hands as we sauntered in the park; we held hands at the LA Autoshow, and when we are out to eat, we reach across the table to take one anothers hand.

    We do this, not to be provocative, but because at home, in the car, at the homes of family and friends we always hold hands, and it is natural for us to do so. The more visible we are, the greater the risk–sure, but the payoff is that overtime, the more frequently that the public sees this, the less power the notion of teaching about gay marriage in school will carry.

    RB, you’re right, those who hate us will continue to hate us, but there is another faction of people who just don’t know us, who fear us, who don’t understand us. There is a group of folks who rarely get to see gays show affection towards one another, and who only recognize them as sexual animals. Those people, the people who don’t have the benefit of seeing that we are just human beings who do deeply care for one another, are those whose hearts and minds might be swayed from such an advertising campaign that reveals that there is something at stake, that there is a great investment in our relationships, just as there is in their own.

    Will some be threatened and further angered by this campaign? Sure, and my better half and I may even encounter some nastiness along the way, but this is the nature of a human rights struggle, which is what we find ourselves in: a human rights struggle.

    Now is the time to push and not capitulate. We should put this thing on the ballot every election, until the Mormon church and all the others simply run out of money. And this beautifully rendered peak inside the gay community will, if nothing else, remind us what we are fighting for.

  7. says

    1) It’s too long. Do you think we’ll have the money to pay for 3 minute commercials during an election season? Even Obama with 700 million dollars didn’t have that much money (although he did do 2 minute ads)

    2) It might make US feel better but there’s a lot of polling data and focus group feedback to suggest that images of same-sex couples does NOT change people’s mind

  8. says

    I think it’s swell. But who’s it aimed at? Us? We don’t need it.

    The Courts? I don’t see a copy of the CA Constitution featured prominently anywhere.

    The Mormons? Catholics? They don’t believe any of the couples there are married anyway. Hell, they don’t believe any of those people are couples, and think that those children are better off away from those adults anyhow.

    But at least there are a few kumbaya moments.

    Boy, they really put it to the HRC and EQCA idiots.

    Who put this together, Amy Balliett? [sarcasm]Is there anything she *can’t* do???[/sarcasm]

  9. says

    @Bobby: “Where was this BEFORE the vote?”

    Everyone was too busy pissing on HRC and EQCA to do anything on their own. Then they were too busy pointing fingers.

    Besides, this all after-the-fact posturing. It’s all a victimhood plea not to hurt us. This wouldn’t have played before the election.

  10. Terry Leftgoff says

    Brilliant and moving.

    It may not move everyone but it doesn’t need to. It only needs to continue the drumbeat to humanize us one heart at a time.

    Blast the damn focus groups. They have led us down the wrong path towards beige bland ineffective messaging.

  11. Manny says

    Although I do support this ad because it has something that the NO on 8 people never delivered–our visibility–I don’t think we should be ASKING or somewhat pleading, for rights that our courts have already established to be ours in the first place. Its like asking to let us vote.

    One of the major reasons why we lost the fight for prop 8 was because we were essentially forced back in the closet by those who sought to secure for our rights.

    Its easy to hate what you don’t know or understand. Its easy to be scared of a shadow than it is to be scared of the person who casts that shadow. If our opponents get to know us and get to know that the only thing we want in this life is to pursuit our own form happiness (no matter how different it is from them) then i becomes much harder to discriminate.Our visibility, our happiness and our representation as everyday people living our everyday lives with those we love is one of the greatest tools we posses.

    If we want to win this fight, we HAVE to show our opponents that we ARE AMERICANS, WE ARE CALIFORNIANS and most of all that WE ARE HUMAN.

  12. Robert In WeHo says

    It’s good but it’s still WAY TOO SOFT. Such emotional appeals fall on deaf ears with the right wing bigot crowd. Direct, aggressive, unapologetic, confrontational engagement is all they understand. This approach plays well within the gay community but has ZERO effect on the larger world outside our community. Religious zealots have no soul, no heart, no emotions to engage with. If we’re going to win this battle, we have to be much, much stronger with our message than this…

  13. KFLO says

    Ken Starr is an attention whore who will do ANYTHING to ruin a family. He is a truly pathetic low-life

  14. Luis says

    These are beautiful people in all shapes and colours, because they dared show their faces to defend a love that not long ago did not dare speak its name. Thank you. :)

  15. Jeff In Boston says

    Yes, because what makes homos feel good about themselves is exactly what’s going to move a general population that is always going to be pre-disposed toward taking away the rights of minorities. “Boy, they sure got HRC and and ECQA, didn’t they?” Ooh..it has bears, too!! What a crock. They still would have lost, and the only thing that will change that is time — and a California community that gets off its collective asses, leaves the ghettos and gets to know as gay and lesbian people as many straight people as possible. Or they can continue to fist one another on the streets of San Francisco. That seems to have worked.

  16. Victor says

    Hi,

    UCLA students and 13 gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual and queer families did a project together to propose an artistic and political answer to bigots and close minded persons. These families accepted to share their memories and love, make their life public, to express why prop 8 is stupid and painful.

    Prop 8 is not only taking off rights, it destroyed families and love stories.

    Soon, 13 videos will be on youtube. We are trying to tour the result (portraits and notebooks) anywhere it could open people’s minds.The opening will be on March 5th, on Bruin Plaza, UCLA campus, Westwood.

    here is the links

    http://tohaveandtoholdla.blogspot.com/

    more to come

  17. says

    “It might make US feel better but there’s a lot of polling data and focus group feedback to suggest that images of same-sex couples does NOT change people’s mind”

    If we rely on polling data and focus group feedback our future ads will feature straight people and have nothing to do with us. (Part of the problem with the ads before the vote. We were invisible.) If we can’t show images of gay couples, what’s the alternative? Shamefully closeting ourselves long enough to trick the public into liking us? I’m glad the video showed real gay people. I have trouble with the “please” tone of it–I’d prefer more rational, clear demands, and less pleading victimhood at this point.