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Fred Goldhaber, First Teacher at NYC's Harvey Milk School, Dies

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Good teachers are rarely recognized for the true heroes they are.

Sounds like Fred Goldhaber, the first teacher at NYC's LGBT Harvey Milk School, was a great one:

"Mr. G. — Fred Goldhaber, the first and, for four years, the only teacher at the Harvey Milk School in Manhattan, the first school in the country with a mission to provide a haven for gay and lesbian students, died of liver cancer on Monday at his home in Jersey City. He was 63...Stephen Phillips, a professor of education at Brooklyn College who was the city’s superintendent of alternative high schools and programs when the Milk School opened, observed Mr. Goldhaber in action. 'The kids idolized him,' Mr. Phillips said. 'Many of them never would have gotten diplomas had it not been for the way he treated them.' When his brother walked the city’s streets, Richard Goldhaber said, 'time after time' students 'would stop him, hug him and thank him for rescuing them.'"

Who were they?

"Among Mr. G.’s first students back in 1985 were runaways who had been sleeping in a shed down by the docks in Lower Manhattan where the city stored mountains of road salt. One boy had hitchhiked from Ohio after eight teenagers dragged him into a bathroom at school, bashed his head against a toilet and burned his arm with a cigarette lighter. Another boy, from New York City, had been abused by his parents after a teacher told them he was 'acting like a faggot.' He was kept at home for a year — chained to a radiator, beaten and taken by his father to 42nd Street and forced to have sex with men for money. His father went to prison."

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  1. A true example of what a teacher is, and should be. You will be missed

    Posted by: Trippsyc | Nov 16, 2010 11:46:06 AM


  2. I sang with Fred in the NYCGMC...he was a founding member (30+ years ago) and was still singing up until very recently. We will all miss him dearly.

    Posted by: Glenn | Nov 16, 2010 12:00:38 PM


  3. Freddy, who I knew off and on for 30 years, was a one of a kind and a good man. Deeply missed on so many counts.

    Posted by: esther blodgett | Nov 16, 2010 12:02:12 PM


  4. What a great way to be remembered. A life well-spent.

    Posted by: The Milkman | Nov 16, 2010 12:59:24 PM


  5. I too sang with Fred in the NYCGMC for 10 years and I have never known a braver, stronger or more resilient man. Through both Hetrick Martin and the Chorus, there is no telling how many lives he touched, changed and saved.

    Posted by: David | Nov 16, 2010 2:43:38 PM


  6. This was one, great, courageous man who made a difference in so many people's lives. I hope one day a monument is erected to him. Just a wonderful, kind, compassionate, caring man. God Rest His Soul.

    Posted by: mike | Nov 16, 2010 3:15:40 PM


  7. Can Towleroad readers let us know if there is any sort of official memorial fund to which those of us who are inclined might make a donation... money for books to be donated in Goldhaber's name to the Harvey Milk School library or some such thing?

    Andy, maybe you could do an update if this information becomes available and its legitimacy is verified, because many people don't have or take the time to read the comments.

    Posted by: Ross | Nov 16, 2010 7:00:11 PM


  8. One of the few angels in this world.

    Posted by: Kyle Sullivan | Nov 16, 2010 7:21:35 PM


  9. Thank you all for your kind words about and remembrances of my uncle. Fred was indeed a hero, saving the world one soul at a time.

    The funeral this morning was lovely, with many members of the NYCGMC singing Fred home. A number of Fred's former students were in attendance. One woman came up to my father and told him "I was a 15-year-old junkie and now I'm a 40-year-old nurse. That's because of your brother."

    Fred's partner Wilfredo was contacted last night by a man from Washington, DC, who told him that "Because of Fred, I graduated high school, I graduated college, I graduated law school, and now I'm an attorney in DC."

    And the amazing thing is that Fred did not seek any adulation for any of this, because he felt that he was just doing what he could to make the world a better place. His satisfaction came from making a difference.

    In answer to the earlier question, we are asking that any donations in his name be made to the New York City Gay Men's Chorus (http://www.nycgmc.org/donate.aspx).

    Again, thank you to all for your kind words. Fred was a hero to many, including me.

    Posted by: Mark Goldhaber | Nov 17, 2010 6:33:57 PM


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