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Joy Behar Talks to Alleged 'Ex-Gay' Stephen Bennett and His Delusional Wife: VIDEO

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Stephen Bennett of Stephen Bennett Ministries draws from the old right-wing chestnut playbook to explain his homosexuality — close relationship with his mother, lack of male bonding with his father, sexual abuse by another boy as a child — and claims that he prayed away the gay.

Fortunately for him there was a delusional woman waiting with open arms.

Watch, AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. Wait - he dropped out of ART school because he was gay?

    Posted by: Clark | Jul 20, 2011 9:29:39 AM


  2. i think jason has it most right... mark is a close second lol.

    Posted by: daftpunkydavid | Jul 20, 2011 9:30:43 AM


  3. So, he clearly says in this interview that being gay is NOT a choice yet there's this copied directly off his website (which is "pray away the gay" plain and simple):

    Homosexuality — We believe that God, throughout the Old and New Testaments in the Bible, clearly teaches that engaging in homosexual acts is sinful. We believe according to the Word of God that men and women are not born homosexual. We believe that struggling with temptation is not sinful, but acting out upon that temptation is. We also believe according to the Word of God that men and women who struggle with same-sex attraction or who engage in homosexual sin, can in fact stop engaging in homosexual activity (1 Cor. 6:9-11). We believe everyone can struggle with some type of sin, and homosexuality is just one of many. We believe through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and obedience to God's Word, anyone can overcome any sin and be victorious. (For more detailed information on SBM's biblical views and beliefs on the issue of homosexual sin, please read "What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?" on the SBM website)

    Posted by: XbonzHD | Jul 20, 2011 9:41:54 AM


  4. He can BELIEVE he's heterosexual and he can BEHAVE any way he likes.

    It doesn't change the fact he was BORN homosexual.


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    He could also pretend he's Asian or Black with equal conviction.

    Doesn't mean he isn't a white guy.


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    The problem isn't (necessarily) Bennett's fantasy life.

    The problem is his conviction homosexuality is "bad".


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    If you're not homosexual, fine. Move on. Ironically, Bennett's obsession about not being homosexual exposes the fact he is.


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    Posted by: Mark | Jul 20, 2011 9:51:58 AM


  5. The most offensive thing about these two is the HIV/AIDS issue as a gay issue (I doubt these two know the difference between the two). These two need to travel the world and ask men, woman and children with HIV to please leave their various “lifestyles” and pray their virus away. What a pair of sad simple weak people. Life is simple when you have an all controlling deity to answer all your questions. I pity their children, I see years of therapy and quandary for the little ones.

    Posted by: NE Rich | Jul 20, 2011 10:01:41 AM


  6. A broken relationship with your father causes you to be gay? Wow, what happens when you have a loving father and a close relationship with him become gay?

    Did anyone elses gay-dar go off?

    Posted by: Dale | Jul 20, 2011 10:13:26 AM


  7. Sexuality is not black or white. There's all sorts of shades of gray. I know many gay men who have had sex with women. I have. My partner has. Look, if a man is on a desert island and it's him and a palm tree, he'd find a way to make that work for himself. That's men...we're horny most of the time and enjoy sex. MANY guys are particular about where how they have sex, as long as they have it.

    But we all know what we are chemically and psychologically attracted to, what truly turns you on. You have the option to deny that attraction, you can fight that attraction, struggle against it, maybe even Stockholm Syndrome it away (the oppresser in those cases is often twisted religious upbringing or having such an overwhelming fear of not being "normal" like everyone else in the suburbs where you grew up...) but it doesn't mean it's not there. Listening to Mr. Bennett, his biggest disappointment/fear in life was never fitting in, getting picked on, not being enough of a man. Couple that with Mr. Bennett lumping his sexual orientation in with his vices it was a recipe for this guy closing off his true and honest self and finding a way to be comfortable having sex with a woman (which does feel good but I'm sure is not psychologically natural for him.) It's his life, his choice. Many of the rest of us will choose what is natural for us and realize it's how we are made. Period. Why change what is perfect?

    The wife on the otherhand...she's like women that marry prisoners. Poor thing.

    Posted by: Bart | Jul 20, 2011 10:15:26 AM


  8. Sexuality is not black or white. There's all sorts of shades of gray. I know many gay men who have had sex with women. I have. My partner has. Look, if a man is on a desert island and it's him and a palm tree, he'd find a way to make that work for himself. That's men...we're horny most of the time and enjoy sex. MANY guys are particular about where how they have sex, as long as they have it.

    But we all know what we are chemically and psychologically attracted to, what truly turns you on. You have the option to deny that attraction, you can fight that attraction, struggle against it, maybe even Stockholm Syndrome it away (the oppresser in those cases is often twisted religious upbringing or having such an overwhelming fear of not being "normal" like everyone else in the suburbs where you grew up...) but it doesn't mean it's not there. Listening to Mr. Bennett, his biggest disappointment/fear in life was never fitting in, getting picked on, not being enough of a man. Couple that with Mr. Bennett lumping his sexual orientation in with his vices it was a recipe for this guy closing off his true and honest self and finding a way to be comfortable having sex with a woman (which does feel good but I'm sure is not psychologically natural for him.) It's his life, his choice. Many of the rest of us will choose what is natural for us and realize it's how we are made. Period. Why change what is perfect?

    The wife on the otherhand...she's like women that marry prisoners. Poor thing.

    Posted by: Bart | Jul 20, 2011 10:15:57 AM


  9. Wow. That was so ridiculous. Poor lady. Poor family.

    Posted by: PrayerDidn'tWorkforMe | Jul 20, 2011 10:18:31 AM


  10. @ UFFDA, Matt26 & Scott - BUSTED! (Yes, I'm shouting.) Idleness is the Devil's playground. Thanks Joy Bean, you just cheered up what was looking to be a dreary morning for me.

    Posted by: Leroy Laflamme | Jul 20, 2011 10:21:52 AM


  11. @ UFFDA, Matt26 & Scott - BUSTED! (Yes, I'm shouting.) Idleness is the Devil's playground. Thanks Joy Bean, you just cheered up what was looking to be a dreary morning for me.

    Posted by: Leroy Laflamme | Jul 20, 2011 10:22:34 AM


  12. Sorry, that double ckick is a devil to resist somethimes ...

    Posted by: Leroy Laflamme | Jul 20, 2011 10:25:07 AM


  13. Oh honey, you CLUTCH those pearls! Seriously dude, you're gay and there's nothing wrong with that. Landing a deluded hag has never been all that difficult. It in no way means you are now straight.

    Posted by: Mike | Jul 20, 2011 10:27:40 AM


  14. She makes a better man than Miss Marcus Bachmann, I'll give him that -- but that ain't much of a compliment. Joy Behar is more of a man than Miss Marcus.

    This guy's wife, however, could stand some styling sessions from Michele's more feminine half.

    It's no coincidence that almost all of these "ex-gay" freaks have a history of massive and multiple addictions, that they're not only failed gays but they're all failed human beings.

    It is monumentally pathetic.

    Posted by: ohplease | Jul 20, 2011 10:37:16 AM


  15. This is yet another example of mistaking CULTURAL IDENTITY for SEXUAL ORIENTATION. In other words, being "Gay" is NOT the same thing as being homosexual.

    Both Bennett AND Behar make this mistake. If Behar was smart she would make the distinction between biology and behavior. She would understand that "acting" Gay is, indeed, a choice BUT that BEING homosexual IS NOT. Sexual orientation (whether homosexual or heterosexual) is a natural, unalterable, biologically determined trait.

    Behar should have realized and told Bennett his negative cultural experiences (both inside and outside Gay Culture) have no bearing on biology -- the FACT he was BORN homosexual.

    In other words: you can believe you're not "Gay". It doesn't change the fact you ARE homosexual.

    Example: Bennett's reasons for not being "Gay" have nothing to do with loving men or sexual attraction.

    INSTEAD, Bennett's reasons for not being "Gay" are all derived from cultural prohibitions and social norms. For example:

    1. a bad relationship with his father
    2. not playing sports
    3. being made fun of in school
    4. "pink dippity do"
    5. dropping out of art school
    6. "promiscuity"
    7. substance use
    8. alcohol problems

    NONE of these things have ANYTHING to do with homosexuality, OR the fact that Bennett was BORN homosexual. Instead, these are all cultural factors around which Gay Culture has developed in the context of a bigoted, homophobic culture.

    It's a shame Behar, Bennett, his wife, and Marcus Bachmann don't realize that.

    Sexual orientation is biologically determined, unalterable and naturally occurring.

    Being homosexual is NOT a choice. The way you ACT, however, IS a choice.


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    And why is it important or necessary to mention he grew up in a "very wealthy home in Connecticut"?

    To me the assertion of higher social class reveals his general insecurity and need for approval.

    Posted by: Mark | Jul 20, 2011 10:45:10 AM


  16. As long as there are people promoting that homosexuality and homosexual behavior are sins and are something to be ashamed of or cured, there will always be young people struggling with their own sexuality who commit suicide or harm themselves or fail to come to terms with their being gay. Whether the promoters are gay or straight or something in between matters not. The message these people are sending is the wrong one.

    Our society must instead focus on inclusion of all people, regardless of their sexuality. Each of us must discover that on our own and learn to love ourselves for who we are and take pride in our own sexuality because we are all equally human.

    I feel sorry for people like Stephen and his deluded wife who had to "pray for a husband." At the end of the interview, Stephen said he'd never met a former Black man. Well, he is not a former gay man....he is a gay man that chooses to live a heterosexual lifestyle. I feel most sorry for his kids. They must surely have a personal sexual identity problem with parents like that.

    Posted by: Steve in DC | Jul 20, 2011 10:45:30 AM


  17. As long as there are people promoting that homosexuality and homosexual behavior are sins and are something to be ashamed of or cured, there will always be young people struggling with their own sexuality who commit suicide or harm themselves or fail to come to terms with their being gay. Whether the promoters are gay or straight or something in between matters not. The message these people are sending is the wrong one.

    Our society must instead focus on inclusion of all people, regardless of their sexuality. Each of us must discover that on our own and learn to love ourselves for who we are and take pride in our own sexuality because we are all equally human.

    I feel sorry for people like Stephen and his deluded wife who had to "pray for a husband." At the end of the interview, Stephen said he'd never met a former Black man. Well, he is not a former gay man....he is a gay man that chooses to live a heterosexual lifestyle. I feel most sorry for his kids. They must surely have a personal sexual identity problem with parents like that.

    Posted by: Steve in DC | Jul 20, 2011 10:45:57 AM


  18. Pathetic and sad situation.

    Posted by: Roseann | Jul 20, 2011 10:46:57 AM


  19. What a pathetic straw-grasping blame game.

    You hear the same crap from addicts.

    Just keep making excuses, I'm sure if you lie hard enough long enough you might fool yourself into thinking you're 'happy' enough.

    Utterly sad and pathetic.

    Posted by: jexer | Jul 20, 2011 10:49:34 AM


  20. that poor woman has never ever had an orgasm :(

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Jul 20, 2011 10:51:19 AM


  21. No personal responsibility. As if being gay is the cause of all the mishaps in his life. Religion is batshit.

    Posted by: Todd | Jul 20, 2011 11:17:30 AM


  22. Once again gays are showing their hypocrisy in here by ridiculing this gay but chose a woman guy. How about rising above your caddy stupidity.

    Posted by: jeff | Jul 20, 2011 11:20:56 AM


  23. The only hypocrisy and caddy stupidity I see are from ex-gays (translation: gay in denial) and ex-gay supporters.

    We already know from research done on this subject matter that sexuality cannot be changed, that an extremely few amount of men who go into the ex-gay lifestyle actually end up having/having had any sort of attraction to women or report having no attraction to guys, and that the extremely overwhelming majority end up having sex with other men again, and end up depressed and suicidal.

    I wish it were a parody, but it's not. I think it's sad, but more than anything, it's utterly pathetic. I have little sympathy for these men because there are so many out and proud gays who have been in horrific situations and still came out the better, and these guys want to be "accepted" (false acceptance) so much, they try to force themselves to be something they're not, thinking that will gain them the approval they are desperate of.

    None of these guys are in control of their own lives. They're all living for the acceptance of their self-created God, of their families and friends. They have absolutely zero self-respect or self-esteem. It's all a front. That's why they go out of their way to justify their practices and try to force healthy gays into it. Deep down, they know they're gay and they hate it.

    But, it's not the fault of these delusional self-haters. It's the fault of a society that, even to this day, straight is the only valid option to live and all other options are condemned as bad. Gay=bad, bad=gay. That attitude is the reason why these guys blame the negativity of their lives on their sexuality. Because they've been taught societally, as we all have, that being gay is bad.

    Posted by: Francis | Jul 20, 2011 11:44:27 AM


  24. The point is, do you want to live as your authentic self or not? I choose authenticity any day. We all know he's suffering inside because he never came to peace with being gay, whether he's consciously aware of it today or not.... He will be.

    Posted by: anthony | Jul 20, 2011 11:44:57 AM


  25. Over a hundred men agreed to sleep with him?

    Posted by: Ral | Jul 20, 2011 11:52:04 AM


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