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  1. Brian in Texas says

    My heart was in my throat. Congratulations to this brave young man serving our country! Glad his dad was so accepting. This video will help a lot of people.

  2. DALI says

    Congratulations to America! After a long and hard battle, you’ve now joined the 40-plus list of nations that permit gays to serve openly. Welcome. Continue to fight for other rights!

  3. TruthSeeker_Too says

    Wow! Simply an amazing video. Thanks for sharing your life with us … and kudos to your Dad. Now call you Mom! She misses you, too. Good luck and Happy Freedom Day for all U.S. Servicemembers.

  4. johnny says

    I’ll probably get hammered for this, but…

    I have a slightly different take.

    Very glad that he’s come out on YouTube and very glad that he came out to his father. Not so sure about his choice to combine the two.

    (FOR ME) coming out to a family member is an extremely private matter, not for internet consumption “LIVE” during the moment. After a reveal, sure, no big deal. I realize he’s a hero for millions of kids thinking about coming out to their families, but it puts his father in a difficult place (and by this assertion, himself) to have his father’s reaction there – good or bad – for the world to see.

    I wonder what the outcome for both would have been had the reaction not been so pleasant, thus my reasoning. These things don’t always go this well and perhaps he knew it would be OK, but what about the people who may have it differently? Reactions can run the gamut (as we all know) and it’s sort of unfair to push this sort of thing live on a parent for popular consumption, IMO.

    Don’t get me wrong, it all worked out and good on him, but this struck me as a somewhat-odd methodology.

  5. Rowan says

    Voet

    You do realize that the right wing are made-up of a bunch of sociopaths right? So, they won’t care about this boy because they think he is selfish for wanting to disrupt the army and not pray the gay away.

  6. ChrisMe says

    @ Johnny. I’m sure you know as well as I do that coming out is a very personal matter and everyone does it their own way. I see this situation a little differently and applaud him. This young man, instead of *only* thinking of himself, decided to help others struggling with this and future generations by documenting this process.

  7. tranquilo says

    @Johnny. He’s just making the personal the political. No person outside of the most lunatic fringes could see this as anything but heart-warming (and who knows, it might even touch a few on that fringe, too).

  8. Alan says

    Wonderful. Today I can’t help but think of my friend, former Air Force officer Rich Richenberg, expelled in 1995 under DADT, who took his own life this year. I wish he could be here to see this.

    Rich was a decorated Air Force officer. He received a commendation during the Persian Gulf war for detecting and countering an enemy threat. The nature of the threat remains classified.

    In 1993 Captain Richenberg was ranked among the top 10% of Air Force officers. He came out as gay to his commander. Discharge hearings began that year, and a board recommended a general discharge. The expulsion took effect in December, 1995 and was upheld in appellate court. The Supreme Court, without comment, refused to hear his appeal.

    In recent years he had sold real estate and held a variety of other jobs.

    Rich took his life on or about May 20, 2011.

  9. TampaZeke says

    @Johnny, It didn’t go out live. It was recorded. I’m sure the young man would not have released it had his father reacted poorly. I’m pretty sure that he realized that seeing a positive coming out and response would be very beneficial to thousands and thousands of kids and others facing their own coming out. Though I agree with much of what you said in principle I think this kid thought what he did through thoroughly and made a decision to share his positive experience with the world. I for one am glad he did.

    I failed to send a big high five and Kudos to Randy’s dad in my last comment. Way to go Dad! I hope you will become a voice for justice for gay people there in Alabama. We need all the help we can get in the deep South.

  10. Jack says

    I was glued to the screen. This generation is lucky: my parents’ reaction (when I, also, was 21) was not to throw me out of the house, but it was definitely not: “We love you, and we will always love you, no matter what.” I bet far more gay young people get to hear those words these days. I got to experience that vicariously through this video.

    I’m not complaining, but he was sexier when all you could see was his upper body and lips — don’t you think?

  11. velocifero says

    Call or email your Senator and THANK them for this day. And the White House too. Now let’s get busy and work to get back the majorities in the House and a filibuster proof majority in the Senate so DOMA can be undone. And we need to have the back of all the people like the young man in this video — they will do more with putting a human face and realness to overcome LGBT prejudice then any thing HRC or GLAAD will ever do. Everyday people are what make change and progress happen. A great day.

  12. OberonOZ says

    @Johnny I understand what you are saying about making this moment public, but Im guessing this was not broadcast live. Im guessing that the video was made and then uploaded. He would have had the opportunity to not upload it if for some reason it had not gone well and he wanted it to remain private. I am presuming that part of the reason it got uploaded in the first place is precisely because it went well, his dad would look good [if that was a concern for Randy] and in the process he might also make a difference for others going through the same thing.

  13. HadenoughBS says

    Incredibly sweet and wonderful. If only it were so for everyone who has to reveal this one trait about themselves! Congrats to this soldier and his Dad for being so understanding and accepting. Thank God DADT is history (and let’s hope it stays an historical footnote in military history).

  14. Joey says

    Thank you! Thank You! Thank You! You are brave young man. Wish more people could be more accepting like your father. This is a major step for our country as well as you personally. Glad you have the support and love.

  15. says

    Think about the courage that took. My heart was racing right along with his. In an instant his life changes for the better or worse. Can’t think of any other declaration one can make short of having committed a heinous crime, with that kind of emotional impact.

    It shouldn’t have to be this hard. With patience, perserverance and continued enlightenment, that too is changing.

  16. justme says

    It’s vitally important that he’s an everyday guy who comes from a large blue collar family in Alabama. These are the very people who are *supposed* to reject him.

    I think there are three lessons here: 1) the world isn’t always what the corporate media wants you to think it is, 2) good people do what’s right and 3) it makes a difference when it’s personal.

  17. Caliban says

    I’m really glad he captured this moment and put it out there because it’s important that people witness events like this, good or bad. I’m thrilled for him that it went well and it was a brave thing to do.

    Things like this and the frank conversation between Belinda Carlisle and her son are a great way to reach people who may still be on the fence, to give them a window into what has always taken place behind closed doors and see what love really means.

    I came out to my father when I was 17 and during the conversation I told him I’d heard of families kicking gay kids out so I didn’t know what to expect. His response, “I could never do that. It would be like cutting off my own arm” was something that helped me later when things were tough. It’s important that people people witness moments like that, not just hear about them later as an anecdote, so they see that love doesn’t end and the world doesn’t collapse. Just think how powerful it will be to LGBT youth, the target audience for the It Gets Better vids, to see this.

  18. Artie says

    Bravo. Great courage and self-respect. The father’s regional accent makes it clear that he’s in Alabama. Some would write off entire sections of the country, but I think that Howard Dean had the right instinct when he told progressives to campaign in all 50 states and never give up on a single one of the 50 states. We are, after all, one country.

  19. Bobby says

    Congratulations to that beautiful young man and his courage, not just for fighting for America but for his willingness to show us all how hard it can be to come out to family and not know how they’ll react. Was not expecting it but I totally teared up during his liberating confession to his father. What we must all understand is that family is a wonderful thing but those members of our family that can’t accept us should not dictate who we are or how we live our lives. We must all get rid of the negativity in our lives and not allow anyone, family, friend or stranger to diminish who we are. Congrats Randy and every other homosexual who is brave enough to live a truthful life.

  20. AedanCRoberts says

    That boy is hot. Like insanely attractive, sweet, and that southern accent isn’t making it any easier.

    Also brave. And his father is fantastic. He said exactly what needed to be said and left it there. He just moved right along to other topics as if it were no different than if his son told him he was left-handed or brunette.

    Overall inspiring, wonderful clip.

  21. topher says

    One question though: what does the repeal of DADT have to do with this kid’s telling his parents he’s gay? I mean, what was it that kept him from telling them before today? And what if dadt wasn’t repealed – would he have stayed in the closet to his family?

    I know I’m a jerk here, but I just wanna know. In any case, I’m so glad for this kid. It’s never easy and his parents took this like champs.

  22. Mike in Paris says

    Today my boss told me that he would like for me to say 6 more months in Paris, I was like Hell No! I need to get back to the US and get started on my dream of marrying a military man.

  23. Timothy says

    Topher – he planned to come out to them next year, having only recently come to terms with his sexuality himself. However, due to his previous anonymous videos, he has found a lot of support from the YouTube community and bravely decided to accelerate his schedule (in part because he failed to remain as anonymous as originally planned, and didn’t, as he notes in the video, want his family to find out from anyone else). I’m so glad he did; this video made my day.

  24. topher says

    Thanks Timothy. I didn’t watch the previous video so it struck me as odd that he’d said he’d always known, and then decided to come out today. I’m a bitter cynical little man. I’m truly glad for him though!

  25. Bobby says

    As a dad, I have to say I would be PROUD to have this wonderful young man as my son! So glad for his sake that he has a dad who loves him unconditionally. Too many of our young men and women still don’t have that. Glad he’s blessed with it though.

    I echo everyone else that he’s a real hottie, so I’m not worried about his being able to find someone to share his life with. Whoever it is, he’ll be a lucky man.

    All the best to you young man. Enjoy freedom.

  26. says

    How wonderful ! And that sigh of relief at the end says it all !

    Reminds me of when i came out to my close brother……and again what a relief that was !!
    Congratulations soldier……..if the army had lost you, it would have lost one of its finest.

  27. Bryan says

    Good for him. I had been very cynical(not towards him) in my other comments about his vids, and I still maintain he wouldn’t get half the attention he’s getting if he was just “normal” looking and not the good looking guy he is, but congrats on going through with his brave decision on coming out.

    Now go get some cultural education and learn to appreciate books and movies.

  28. Craig says

    @Johnny This story is NOT about you but about the soldier and how he dealt with his situation in his own way. Your experience is your own, as the soldier’s is his, as another person is theirs.

  29. codyj says

    Congrads Randy, yr one kewl young soldier…and what a wonderfull Dad, unconditional love….perfect, good luck to you,stay safe,stay well, . I told my dad i was gay, 40 yrs ago, and thats the LASt he spoke to me..or any one else in my family, your very lucky to have such an understanding, loving folks, cherish them ALWAYS…CodyJ.

  30. Mark says

    What I would have given to hear my own father say “I love you”, instead of “you’re dead to me” when I finally came out. I’m so proud of this soldier and his father!

  31. Bob says

    I am so glad for him that it worked out well. I almost cried as he was seeking assurances that he was still loved. In the better world I imagine that will never be an issue again. I agree with previous comments that we just witnessed real family values. Maybe one day NOM and their ilk will understand that

  32. dawn says

    OMG I am so happy for them. I just about burst when his dad said I love you. How wonderful for that lovely young man. Please come home safe! (okay, now I am crying.)

  33. says

    This video was incredible. He is so brave and honest that it makes me choke-up a bit. I wish I could thank him for being such a wonderful role model, for being so courageous, and for protecting our country. :)

  34. Bill says

    I can’t wait until his follow-up video. Something tells me we will see a man who is truly filled with joy that he no longer must hide this unbearable secret. I hope he has a long happy life with a wonderful husband at his side.

  35. Will says

    This was very similar to me coming out to my dad last year. While not on video or anything, I basically just called him up one day as I was driving down to see my boyfriend who lives about 80 miles away for the weekend. You can’t really go around the bush; you just gotta say, “dad, I’m gay” and move on from there. Luckily, my father was similar in reaction to this guy as well. In any case, glad to see another servicemember enjoying just who he is and living life and serving his country like I am.

  36. Contrarian says

    In 2013 DADT, or something even more punitive will be in force thanks to Barack the spineless one. Add over his head as well. We’ll have a GOP Senate and White House and as the Turner election proved, undereducated America will simply blame the “Schwarze” for the economy and vote accordingly. Apres the “One”, le deluge. Never underestimate the mob mentality (and nutty bigotry) of a populace seeing its empire decline.

  37. peterparker says

    Oh my Lord, indeed! From those pecs to his biceps to that southern accent to his sweet vulnerability mixed with a ton of courage to that beautiful face. He’s fuckin’ perfect! I’m ready for the altar, soldier!

  38. Texistentialist says

    @Johnny re making the phone call to his father public. This young man made a series of YouTube posts documenting his life as a soldier serving under DADT, actively including us (the public) in his process. Perhaps going public gave him strength. Maybe he felt that since we were with him up to today, that we should be with him as he made that powerful phone call to “Daddy” (yes, many of us Southern boys use that term for our fathers regardless of our age).

  39. Mariano says

    This was a real tear jerker, considering my dad is the only one to whom I am yet to come out. He was a brave soul and this will help others. Thanking you for your service young man and your bravery on many different fronts. Cheers to you and I wish you a safe return home to those who love you.

  40. scotslad says

    I commend this lad on his bravery, openness & will to share with the world. My Mother was dying of cancer & asked if I was gay (she’d known for years…) but still as a 25 year old then I couldn’t say yes, then when Dad died – he didn’t need to ask but I still hadn’t said yes openly. It’s something I regret (now, at 39) that I couldn’t of shared, especially as I was the love of my life at the time & I’m sure they’d of welcomed him with open arms.

    Peace, love & luck to you all x

  41. Richy SF, CA says

    Great job documenting a profound moment in your life. If I’d taped mine, it would be suitable for academy award consideration. Lots more emotion, lots of drama, tears, and laughter. You’ve done a great service for many leading up to this and documenting an important day in history and in a way those of us lucky enough to have seen it will always remember. Thanks for strong proud people like you.

  42. Jason says

    I served in the USAF from 1996-2000. On behalf of all of us who never had the opportunity that you now do, congratuations. My Dad loves me too, and is proud of me regardless of my sexuality, but I’ve never had the fortunate opportunity that you just had with your Dad on the phone. You have an abligation Airman/Soldier (sorry, don’t know which u are). You have been handed an opportunity on the shoulders of all those who went before you. It is your duty to prove, or rather continue to prove that sexuality is not what makes you a “man” or a good soldier. Keep up the good hard work. You are brave, strong, and we as your former and present, and even future military family love you. We are proud of you. We think of you all, daily, wherever you serve in this world. With prayers we support you and with cyber-hugs we embrace you. God speed and God bless. You are loved.

  43. Eatsen03 says

    My God I thought i can only cry for a Good heart warming movies..but this video.is one of a kind…be proud of what you are..and be youself…Mommy & Daddy…I Love YOU…I’m GAY…….

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