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'Hung' Star Thomas Jane Says He Turned Tricks with Men as a Teen, Then Chose to Be Straight

In a new interview with the L.A. Times, Hung star Thomas Jane says he worked as a hustler and turn tricks with men to make ends meet when he first moved to L.A.:

Jane Hey, you grow up as an artist in a big city, as James Dean said, you're going to have one arm tied behind your back if you don't accept people's sexual flavors. You know, when I was a kid out here in L.A., I was homeless, I didn't have any money and I was living in my car. I was 18. I wasn't averse to going down to Santa Monica Boulevard and letting a guy buy me a sandwich. Know what I mean?

You're a lot more open to experimentation as a young man. And for me, being a young artist and broke in Los Angeles, I was exploring my sexual identity. And probably because of my middle-class, white blue-collar upbringing, I would have never had the opportunity to confront some of my own fears and prejudices had I not been hungry enough to be forced to challenge myself in that way.

He says the experience "blew the doors off of [his] conventional upbringing." Then, he says, he chose to be heterosexual:

And then you actually have a choice, and I chose to be a heterosexual guy because that's what my DNA dictates and my nurture dictates that I am...I don't know. I think up to a point it's a choice. But I'll tell you what — it's not a choice until you're open enough to experience both male and female sexuality. Until you've tasted the food, you don't know whether you'll like it or not, as my mom always said.

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  1. I realize I'm the odd woman out here, but in my own case I identify as a lesbian because I emotionally bond with women much better than I do men and have had consistently better relationships with women than I have had with men. I suppose many people would therefore describe me as "bisexual," but that label doesn't really fit, either, cuz I don't feel a strong attraction in general toward either sex on a physical level, but do become physically attracted to people with whom I've formed a relationship.

    I guess my point is mostly to agree with those pointing out to Rick that there IS more to it than just sex for lots of people, and to make blanket statements otherwise is unfair and grossly stereotypical. However, to those arguing that one is necessarily born either gay, straight, or bi, and that anybody who says otherwise is "ignorant," I would just like to point out that for at least some people, the labels don't really fit, and I don't think people should be disrespected for speaking honestly from their own experience, even if it doesn't match up with your own.

    Posted by: Shelly | Oct 3, 2011 7:55:49 PM


  2. If people are born gay, how come they can't say,"I'm having a gay boy, or I'm having a lesbian baby. It's ridiculous! By the way, where's my rights? And I'm a single straight female-shouldn't I be able to get something extra for not overpopulating the earth, and because I don't have two incomes? If someone is bi, can they marry a man AND a woman? Give me a break! You're not special!

    Posted by: get real | Oct 3, 2011 7:59:58 PM


  3. He may not be the most articulate guy, or the most up-to-date on the queer community's conversation about identity. But he is being frank about his same-sex experiences and how he views them, and he doesn't come off as a homophobe. And that's pretty unusual for any public person , let alone an actor.

    Some of us may feel we are "born this way" and it's that simple. And we are free to say so. But it's not ultimately useful or realistic to attack someone who's speaking frankly about his own experience and his own understanding of that experience, just because what he says seems off-message from "born this way." You can't police the rest of the world's reality to make it fit your social-marketing agenda.


    In any case I find "born this way" at least as philosophically and tactically problematic as anything Thomas "Trade" Jane is saying. Rather than affirming as primary that there is nothing with being gay, or with having gay sex if I want to for whatever reason, "born this way' tends to become a victim position, that shrugs and says "I can't help it." And so it doesn't directly confront the sinner/addiction model promoted by the jesus people, who are the main enemies of gay rights and dignity in this country.

    Posted by: Hank | Oct 3, 2011 8:03:16 PM


  4. Oops, the beginning of the third line of the last paragraph of my previous post should read: "nothing WRONG with being gay,...." Kind of an important point...

    Posted by: Hank | Oct 3, 2011 8:08:13 PM


  5. My humble opinion, take it or leave it. ---
    I've always felt that sexual preference in engrained into the DNA somehow, and we all fall on a spectrum. Whether your 100% gay or 100% straight, or maybe 70/30, or 60/40, or even 50/50, who knows. Some people seem to be able to engage sexually with both, and some i've heard can be sexual with one gender but only feel they can love another. There are so many different things, and we haven't even begun to understand the reasons behind them.

    Posted by: Willem | Oct 3, 2011 8:24:22 PM


  6. Willem, I think your point is extrememly accurate. Isn't that the point of either Kinsey and other sexual behaviorists that there is a spectrum from totally same sex orientation to totally opposite sex orientaion and all degrees in between and that we are born with our behavior already coded at some point on that spectrum.
    I also remember a number of years back about research showing that gay men had a larger hypothalmus gland than straight men and that yes we were born that way.
    I do not beleive that who a person is sexually attracted to is a choice, it is not nuture it is nature. Just as some people in Mr Jane's position might choose to get a job flipping burgers or parking cars or pumping gas because the way they were born is that they, either gay or straight, could not under any circumstances hustle themselves sexually to strangers and would take any job no matter how menial to support themselves because that is the way they were born.

    Posted by: NwYrkr | Oct 3, 2011 9:57:01 PM


  7. @Willem and NwYrkr: exactly. I could no sooner have sex with a man or woman I found unattractive than I could fly to the moon of my own volition. Other people are different or more desperate, able, and perhaps horny. Everyone has a different view on sex.

    Posted by: Paul R | Oct 3, 2011 11:28:36 PM


  8. Nope, sorry. Didn't "choose" to be gay. Just because he turned tricks doesn't mean he ever was, either.

    Posted by: Reality | Oct 3, 2011 11:41:49 PM


  9. in 1988 at the xxxxxx hotel in Cape Town, I met TJ with a fat old South African director. My friend had been the barman there and the owner of the hotel was a well known business man in Cape Town, and a lech you could drink all night if you let him grope you (while his wife and kids were tucked up in bed). We sat out side and drank in to the morning and TJ was honest about FXXXing said fat director for a part in the movie he was making. You see someone always knows something Tom.

    Posted by: Alistair | Oct 4, 2011 1:14:23 AM


  10. Good points, everyone, but I think RICK's comments have a measure of substance-truth-to them.

    Posted by: nikko | Oct 4, 2011 2:08:37 AM


  11. after reading his statement, the name, Thomas Jane, sounds pretty funny to me.

    Posted by: tjones | Oct 4, 2011 7:21:03 AM


  12. @ Aaron. Your comment hit the ball out of the park. You nailed it.

    Most people are so confused and misinformed about human sexuality. The problem, as I see it, with Thomas James blabbing about his early Hollywood days is that for most people, sexual orientation is not a choice. It chooses you.

    Posted by: Way | Oct 4, 2011 11:40:24 AM


  13. He really needs to shut up. He didn't "choose to be heterosexual" he was heterosexual. Letting someone blow you for a sandwich doesn't make you gay it makes you a hooker.

    Posted by: db | Oct 4, 2011 11:51:48 AM


  14. Have to agree with Ricks statement about gay men being weirdly obsessed with women....

    Posted by: Rowan | Oct 4, 2011 1:56:47 PM


  15. i get to choose how i identify myself and so does Mr. Jane or anyone else. personally, i believe that the emphasis on whether who i desire sexually is a choice or not hurts the struggle for equality and freedom of expression. we are letting "the other side" pick the battleground. we feed into their rhetoric of choice = sin and, while we are not responsible for creating that soul crushing idea, we do choose to stay within it when we engage on their terms. i don't personally give a s**t if it is a choice or if i was born this way. i am what i am, i like what i am, and you better believe if offered a choice i would pick this. i believe our efforts would be more effective if we spent our energy getting us to love and accept us and leaving "them" with no debate partners. of course this is an oversimplification, it is a comment on a blog, but the basic idea is very important.

    Posted by: michael furie | Oct 4, 2011 2:38:28 PM


  16. "And then you actually have a choice, and I chose to be a heterosexual guy because that's what my DNA dictates and my nurture dictates that I am...I don't know."

    Contradict yourself much?

    Posted by: Doctor Whom | Oct 4, 2011 4:05:57 PM


  17. He CHOSE to be a prostitute . He didn't CHOOSE to be heterosexual. Sexual orientation is not something you CHOOSE.

    Posted by: Phillip | Oct 4, 2011 9:51:44 PM


  18. I've always loved Thomas BUT I have to agree with a lot of you.....nobody chooses their sexuality; nobody does. He was gay for pay and nothing more. Damn, now all my hopes are dashed.

    Posted by: Scott | Oct 11, 2011 2:12:58 PM


  19. Don't know if anyone is even watching this thread anymore. I'm looking for a list of porn actors who are strictly gay for pay. I prefer to watch gay/bi men in porn and want a list so I can decide if it's a video I want to watch or not. Google searches have not been successful. thanks guys!

    Posted by: Billy | Oct 14, 2011 5:10:08 PM


  20. All men can have sex with anyone or anything, but those who can have any emotional commitment to a chosen gender defines their sexuality.

    Posted by: Victoria Melbourne | Oct 13, 2012 6:44:54 PM


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