'Old School' Italian Dad Gets Tattoo To Support Bisexual Son: VIDEO
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So: my brother came out that he was Bisexual last year and it was one of the hardest things he's ever had to do and one of the most courageous. He was most nervous about coming out to my old school Italian father who can be a bit of a hardass but mush at heart. So my brother decided to get born this way tattooed on his wrist in gagas handwriting after he met her, for obvious reasons, and it meant and still does a lot to him. My dad yesterday before Dylan came home for spring break got born this way in Italian tattooed on his wrist to show his acceptance and deep love for his only son who he is so proud of every day. I love my family.
"Pro-family" -- this is what it looks like. Watch the young man in question getting a first glimpse of dad's new tattoo, AFTER THE JUMP ...
In my view, it can sometimes be harder for a man to come out as bi than as gay. Here is why I think this.
If you're a man who comes out as bi, you don't fit into the gay political identity, which virtually the whole gay scene is based on. You get attacked by clueless and misguided queens who think that you must "really be gaÿ".
Moreover, straight-identifying guys want to encourage you to realize your straight side more than your gay side because relationships between straight guys are often based on shared sexual interests that lead to a deep camaraderie bond, something that straight guys crave from each other.
Also, it's quite different for a bi guy compared to a bi girl. Bi guys tend to be looked at cautiously by women because women generally fear men, their sexual power, and their potential for promiscuity. On the other hand, bi girls tend to align with the the sleazy straight guy fantasy, and are thus part and parcel of the promiscuity paradigm that men in general crave.
Posted by: jason | Mar 11, 2012 7:39:40 PM
Um, Jason, that sounds like a snapshot of life from someone in their late teens, early twenties. I probably saw things that way at that age, too.
And, no, I still don't get anything but gay vibes off the son.
Frankly, though, who cares - what counts is that his dad stands with his child.
Oh, and the nitpicking. Sheesh. It's a family moment which we were privileged to share, not a Hollywood production.
Posted by: enough already | Mar 11, 2012 7:53:39 PM
Enough Already,
What on earth is a "gay vibe"? You should really contact NASA. Might be some sort of new discovery they could use.
Posted by: jason | Mar 11, 2012 8:01:59 PM
Simply Beautiful, I am so proud of my brother and godson, love it....Uncle Gino
Posted by: Gino | Mar 11, 2012 8:12:41 PM
Hearing about this isn't enough; I hope Gaga hosts the entire family for dinner at her restaurant! I can hear the opera and see the finale of "Moonstruck" already....
Posted by: Dback | Mar 11, 2012 9:13:07 PM
Wow such a nice gesture on the fathers part, true unconditional love at it's finest.
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Posted by: Joey | Mar 12, 2012 3:56:37 AM
Thank you Jason for the thoughtful comments.
Posted by: uffda | Mar 12, 2012 4:14:07 AM
Yay!
Posted by: TJ Parker | Mar 12, 2012 9:10:32 AM
i keep watching it. it's so wonderfully touching :D
Posted by: LittleKiwi | Mar 12, 2012 12:47:54 PM
Wow - what a wonderful thing your dad did. He showed love, support, and acceptance to his son and that had to mean the world to him.
He ROCKS!
Posted by: Sage | Mar 12, 2012 2:16:03 PM
Being a bi woman must be pretty easy, but being a bi man is the same thing as being a gay man so I give him serious kudos.
Posted by: DrJWL | Mar 12, 2012 5:14:44 PM
This post makes me very very angry because it proves all the nonsense I spout about Lady Gaga to be completely and utterly incorrect.
Posted by: Rick | Mar 12, 2012 6:41:29 PM
Enough Already: Typical biphobia and bisexual erasure from a gay man. You're no better than Rev Phelps, the Bachmanns, Herman Cain, and Rick Santorum with your biphobia and hypocrisy.
Coming out as a bisexual man is a lot more difficult than it is coming out as a gay man, and let's not forget that a lot of bisexuals come out or identify as gay men first or during a period of their lives before they come out as bisexual or discover that they're bisexual.
Posted by: SG | Mar 12, 2012 9:39:35 PM
Little Kiwi, your coercion will not work, give it up already dude. Not everyone has to have a blog, site, or u-tube vids whatever. No one has to give into your demands. Always the same crap, different day, “…show your self, show me your site and videos or you’re not out, put up a pic, or you’re not masculine and hate effeminates…” Give it a rest. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, we got it…you’re here, you’re queer, good for you haha thankfully not everyone is exactly like you.
Posted by: Sam | Mar 13, 2012 3:22:20 AM