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'Entertainment Weekly' On 'The New Art Of Coming Out'

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From the New York Observer to Entertainment Weekly, it seems mainstream media is taking a new look at the changing ways people "come out."

As EW argues, coming out is no longer such a big deal. The "news" about someone's sexuality, in their example Jim Parsons, is so "matter-of-fact" and common place that it fails to raise an eyebrow.

More from that cover article's teaser:

Even if it’s accomplished in a subordinate clause or a passing reference, coming out casually is, in its way, as activist as DeGeneres’ Time cover, although few of these actors would probably choose to label themselves as such.

The current vibe for discussing one’s sexuality is almost defiantly mellow: This is part of who I am, I don’t consider it a big deal or a crisis, and if you do, that’s not my problem. It may sound like a shrug, but it shouldn’t be mistaken for indifference.

By daring anyone to overreact, the newest generation of gay public figures is making a clear statement that there is a “new normal” — and it consists of being plainspoken, clear, and truthful about who you are.

And it's only been 43 years since the Stonewall Rebellion.

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  1. *and via adoption

    Posted by: tcw | Jun 21, 2012 9:03:07 PM


  2. Gary,

    "Everyone is so certain about what I am." As certain as you are about others, it seems. . . Enjoy.

    Posted by: Sansacro | Jun 21, 2012 9:03:52 PM


  3. For those saying these celebrities should come out and be open and not be afraid: how many of you are using your real names to post on here? It's easy to make comments and judgements behind made up names. Just sayin'.

    Posted by: EYEROLL | Jun 21, 2012 9:06:26 PM


  4. Come out come out wherever you are! More men need to read this

    Posted by: LIndsey | Jun 21, 2012 9:25:02 PM


  5. Except I'm paid to be right.

    Posted by: Gary | Jun 21, 2012 9:29:19 PM


  6. The Conservative right always, and I sincerely mean *always* use in their arguments against our rights that we are such a small minority group. That there's so few of us. That we are so very small in the population to make any difference. We even had a Conservative leader boldly, and inaccurately, claim we're really less than 1% of the population.
    With visibility comes acceptance. There's many of us out there. Some 6 million gay couples raising children! To know that is to accept gays are here, and contributing to society and deserve the benefits, rights and respect that come with that.
    Imagine the difference ins ociety LGBT rights would make if every LGBT person was who they were meant to be, without hiding it. True progression at it's finest.

    Posted by: Los Angelino | Jun 21, 2012 10:11:32 PM


  7. Just an FYI... 'Gary' does not equal Gary A!

    I think it's great that EW did this cover/story. I think it's awesome that celebrities are becoming more and more comfortable with being Out. This means those who live in more unaccepting environments where people tend to stay closeted will have more exposure to people that are gay which means their unfounded fears and ignorance of the bogeyman that all things gay are will be eventually eroded away so that more in their closeted community will feel safe to come out and then things will really change. I just wish EW would've included Cheyenne Jackson's, Thomas Roberts' and Matt Bomer's lovely faces on that there cover!

    Posted by: Gary A | Jun 21, 2012 10:18:46 PM


  8. Just an FYI... 'Gary' does not equal Gary A!

    I think it's great that EW did this cover/story. I think it's awesome that celebrities are becoming more and more comfortable with being Out. This means those who live in more unaccepting environments where people tend to stay closeted will have more exposure to people that are gay which means their unfounded fears and ignorance of the bogeyman that all things gay are will be eventually eroded away so that more in their closeted community will feel safe to come out and then things will really change. I just wish EW would've included Cheyenne Jackson's, Thomas Roberts' and Matt Bomer's lovely faces on that there cover!

    Posted by: Gary A | Jun 21, 2012 10:18:47 PM


  9. Just an FYI... 'Gary' does not equal Gary A!

    I think it's great that EW did this cover/story. I think it's awesome that celebrities are becoming more and more comfortable with being Out. This means those who live in more unaccepting environments where people tend to stay closeted will have more exposure to people that are gay which means their unfounded fears and ignorance of the bogeyman that all things gay are will be eventually eroded away so that more in their closeted community will feel safe to come out and then things will really change. I just wish EW would've included Cheyenne Jackson's, Thomas Roberts' and Matt Bomer's lovely faces on that there cover!

    Posted by: Gary A | Jun 21, 2012 10:18:47 PM


  10. My browser is showing that my comment posted 3 times. If that's what everyone else sees, whoops not sure how that happened.

    Posted by: Gary A | Jun 21, 2012 10:20:58 PM


  11. I think Cooper may have just come out on Kathy Griffin's show.

    Posted by: Craig | Jun 21, 2012 10:23:04 PM


  12. I always thought gay people came out because they were tired of having straight people tell them how to live their lives - that's certainly why I did it. But doing that just so they can have GAY people (or worse, the self-appointed "gay leaders" or even bossy Towleroad bloggers) tell them how to live their lives instead is no improvement. If they do that, they're still taking their marching orders from someone else and being told what it's okay to do, say, and think, as well as what it's NOT okay to do, say, and think. Where's the freedom in that?

    Posted by: Prof Sancho Panza | Jun 21, 2012 10:29:06 PM


  13. DOMA will be addressed this year by the Supreme Court. What happens to the six million (?) when it is upheld, and gay marriages can not be federally legal? Christmas will come early this year.

    Posted by: Todd | Jun 21, 2012 10:47:16 PM


  14. No mention of Anderson Cooper in the EW piece?

    Posted by: Christopher di Spirito | Jun 21, 2012 11:24:41 PM


  15. So often Latinos take pride in how "Latin" they are and say it and profess it, and that demographic is basically allowed to come here illegally without much consequences. They positioned themselves that way. We as gays need to come out and be proud. WE are struggling more than any other group today. We need to be proud of who we are.

    Posted by: Kyle | Jun 21, 2012 11:57:43 PM


  16. I agree with Kyle.

    Shame to live in a country where illegal immigrants have more rights than legal GAY citizens.

    Posted by: FanofDance | Jun 21, 2012 11:59:03 PM


  17. Whats worse than a closet cases is the person who would BE WITH a closet case. How sad does that insecure soul have to be? Your whole relationship is built on shame.

    Posted by: Truth | Jun 22, 2012 12:01:49 AM


  18. I agree with other points made. Other minority groups constantly put themselves out there, pin pointing their minority group, almost like a badge of honor. Blacks have BET and Miss Black America and Latinos have all these events and shows and even have cornered themselves as a voting block. Gays need to be proud of who they are and celebrate who they are. I know my partner and I do and make no shame of it.

    Posted by: Mission2Time | Jun 22, 2012 12:05:44 AM


  19. To anyone who stays closeted, and worse, keeps their relationship with their same sex partner closeted...you are no different than some black person who would put on white face makeup. You are leading a lie, and liars get called out. Don't hate others for seeing in you, what you refuse to see in yourself.

    Posted by: letsbehonest | Jun 22, 2012 12:17:50 AM


  20. Through visibility comes exposure and acceptance. The more couples hold hands in public who are gay, the less of a stigma it will have. The more gay couples go to a parent meeting at school, the more normal it will get. The more gay couples are features in mass media, the more gays can relate with them. I'm sick and tired of gays being told to keep it behind closed doors, but I really pity the fools who are gay and subscribe to that all because they are too fearful to face the big bad straight guy. Really? grow a pair.

    Posted by: Jones | Jun 22, 2012 12:20:19 AM


  21. Why has the discussion been sidetracked onto "closet cases" when the SUBJECT of the article is about "a new way of coming out"?

    I see it as a positive development that a celebrity acknowledging they're gay no longer has to be a full-court press, People magazine cover announcement. Take Matt Bomer for example. (FWIW I've never seen his TV show.) The gossip-site take on the issue was that Bomer was gay but didn't feel he could come out because he'd just gotten a starring role on a TV show and didn't want to risk his show's chance of success, or the employment of the other people who worked on it. It remains to be seen where his career will go from here (and NO "new star's" future career is guaranteed) but he came out in a VERY low-key way, by acknowledging his partner and children at a gay event. No official announcement, no People magazine cover.

    Is that out enough or do you demand more? Being an actor or actress (or a network newsperson for that matter) are entirely different pursuits from being an activist. What if a celebrity doesn't want to be on the forefront of the movement but is happy to do what they can in a more background role? Who are you to say that isn't enough? Is what YOU do enough? Who gets to make that determination?

    Posted by: Caliban | Jun 22, 2012 1:01:32 AM


  22. @Caliban,

    Doing SOMETHING in a most fragile time for our community is important, will be respected and should be celebrated. When you have the resources and power to make a difference for your people and people who identify with you, the right thing, the moral thing and the compassionate thing is to make that difference. Your sense of indiffernece, if adopted by all, would get us nowhere. It takes the Ellens to create that change. It's that same change that enables you to live your life freely. Never underestimate those who came out to pave the way for you to come out today.

    Posted by: VacationDude | Jun 22, 2012 2:33:37 AM


  23. Caliban...the poster who feels it's more important for illegal immigrants to be openly illegal than gays to be openly gay. I can already tell the kind of person you are. You're one of those gays who puts the importance of every other minority demographic before gays. Don't be mad that some of us are passionate about our visbility, rights and respect- while you apologize for it.

    Posted by: J. James | Jun 22, 2012 2:35:20 AM


  24. @ CALIBAN

    When blacks were fighting for their civil rights, Martin Luther King called for all black artists in the limelight to stay public, and speak on injustices where and when they could, and to this very day...most all do. They pay tribute to those that came before them while celebrating who they are. You see our injustice, our plight and who we are in a different way. But don't you dare tell those of us who actually care and are passionate to be as careless as you are. We see a gay child commit suicide due to prejudice faced toward gays and we hurt. Whereas you sit on the side lines, do nothing and comment on what proactive gays are doing. Sit down and shut up. People like you take up space.

    Posted by: Conrad | Jun 22, 2012 2:40:55 AM


  25. A gay celebrity who is in the public eye, and hears about the torment grown gay men in rural American face, the troubles gay couples all over America face, and the hatred gay youth all around the world face, and does and says nothing all for the sake of their own pocketbook is no celebrity at all. And will never be a celebrity I nor those whom I know will celebrate.

    Posted by: JusDaFacts | Jun 22, 2012 2:42:46 AM


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