Bret Easton Ellis On Grindr: ‘Paris Hilton Isn’t That Far Off’

Bret1

One can only assume that author Bret Easton Ellis wishes Paris Hilton had stuck to her comments that gay men are "disgusting" and "like die of AIDS". The American Psycho scribe took to Twitter last night to say he "kind of agree[s]" with the hotel heiress' original comments.

"As someone who has used Grindr… Paris Hilton isn't that far off," he tweeted, showing his character.

Bret2

[Via Gawker]

Comments

  1. candideinnc says

    Not all gays go on Grindr, so I take umbrage at the generalization made about gays by these two. Nonetheless, I assume that since Ellis and Ms. Hilton have such heightened sensibilities about the morals of gay people, they are both virginal in their personal lives. True?

  2. Alex says

    I agree and disagree. I have met some great people on there… but it’s how the individual uses it. When I get messages like “Cock pic?” or “looking?” i ignore them. Everyone should be safe

  3. Matthew says

    This is coming from the bitter old queen who said Matt Bomer doesn’t have the acting chops to play straight. Not exactly a font of wisdom.

  4. Michael Preston says

    Bret, you have no personal integrity in your life as a semi-closeted gay man, so your comments are at best irrelevant and at worst reveal some inner torment you haven’t dealt with.

    Now that your writing career is petering out, perhaps you can get some help.

  5. DanSwon says

    Once again you are misrepresenting the facts. She didn’t say gays are disgusting. I actually agree with her that a certain kind of Grindr user is disgusting. People who use Grindr are just creeps.

  6. Pommie says

    Oh yeah so this “it gets worse’ guy suddenly thinks that after eating James Deen sh!t he has suddenly become all relevant!

  7. woodroad34d says

    I never think of this guy unless his…whatever….gets posted. he’s of no interest, he lacks integrity and intellectuality.

  8. woodroad34d says

    I never think of this guy unless his…whatever….gets posted. he’s of no interest, he lacks integrity and intellectuality.

  9. joe says

    In the gay world, you’re not allowed to criticize those who are reckless or who don’t care about basic decency – like public park hookups and unsafe hookups on grindr. You see, we gays are supposed to celebrate those who are buffoons, just because they’re gay.

  10. Miguel R. says

    Danswon- No, YOU are misrepresenting facts. She said “Ewwww … gay guys are the horniest people in the world. Most of them probably have AIDS … I would be so scared if I was a gay guy … you’ll like die of AIDS.” Note that she is talking about gays, NOT grindr. As a gay who doesn’t use grindr, I am offended that she is calling me gross. I hope this ends her “career.”

    Danswon- learn how to read before you start bullying people and telling them that they are misrepresenting facts.

  11. Miguel R. says

    Danswon- No, YOU are misrepresenting facts. She said “Ewwww … gay guys are the horniest people in the world. Most of them probably have AIDS … I would be so scared if I was a gay guy … you’ll like die of AIDS.” Note that she is talking about gays, NOT grindr. As a gay who doesn’t use grindr, I am offended that she is calling me gross. I hope this ends her “career.”

    Danswon- learn how to read before you start bullying people and telling them that they are misrepresenting facts.

  12. Tothepoint says

    Same can be said for SOME straight hookups as well. Not limited to gay community, but certainly limited to a very small portion of the gay community. She should not have used blanket terms as this is stereotyping – the idea that if you are gay then you have to ph*ck every moment of your life. Sex is only a small part of being who you are and being gay is much more about our humanity and how we foster long-term relationships.

  13. NeverEclipsed81 says

    Can somebody score this guy some more coke so he can stop incessantly trying to play devil’s advocate on gay issues? We know how to watch out for AID’S thanks, just because we haven’t directed a few crap movies doesn’t mean we can’t think for ourselves.

  14. says

    any minute now Rupert Everett will agree as well.

    Grindr, like all things, is what you make of it. You can get a hookup from Facebook. Or church. Or any “socially accepted” congregating place.

    using Grindr doesn’t automatically mean that you’re going to engage in risky anonymous bareback sex just as meeting some dude in some oh-so-“non-trashy” situation doesn’t mean you’re going to date, use condoms, marry and adopt Chinese babies and live a life free of some puritanical idea of “sin”

    Dear Ellis, get back to doing what you do best – writing about sex-obsessed heterosexuals in a manner that shows you know as little about straight men as you do about gay men.

  15. Caliban says

    I’m not defending Paris Hilton by any means but she was clearly talking about men having anonymous sex on Grindr.

    Brett Easton Ellis and Rupert Everett should get together. Oh, the drug-fueled fights and drama queen oneupmanship! It’d be a match made in hell.

  16. MaddM@ says

    I see he had to tweet that same sentiment twice, probably did get his intended level of shock that he wanted the first time.

    The comments were ignorant by Hilton (surprising) and misguided. I’ve met a couple of friends off of grindr that are decent people, it’s hard in my line of work to meet guys so it’s a nice outlet.

    I fail to see how a hookup on grindr is safer/saner than going home with someone you’ve known for less than an hour in a bar or club or the beach or frat party etc. Straight people do risky casual hookups all the time, lets not forget that in our rush to justify our internalized homophobia.

  17. Yupp says

    Ellis is a non-writer, but still a better writer than this self-hating gay hick Andrew Belonsky. And, Paris Hilton is a waste of an heiress.

  18. LiamMcG says

    The population she covered in her statement, which seems to apply to all gays, is way overbroad and moronic. The underlying sentiment as applied to a lot of Grindr users — I’ve gotta agree.

  19. Daniel says

    He meant to write: “As someone who prefers to stay in closet (to get dollars for my books from everybody, not just from gay losers), I sometimes need man sex (and company) so bad that I go on GRINDR and there are people there as desperate as I am, willing to be as slutty as I am.”

  20. Daniel Berry, NYC says

    EXACTLY what one would expect from notoriously gay-hating gay Brett Easton Ellis. I understand Ellis has a bf, but for the life of me, I don’t know how a self-respecting gay man could bear the savor of the homophobic sensibilities of such a person. He hates gay people more than any TV preacher, politician or blathering”ex-gay” phony.

  21. Perception says

    I was in Palm Springs recently and it was peculiar that most of the people in the outside patio were on Grindr. They were at a bar, where you can actually see what someone looks like, but they chose, and I personally know for a lot of people it’s just play, as in couples who are a little addicted to sex and threeways, pose and publish photos of themselves from a decade ago, just to amuse themselves.
    Why in the world would anything Paris Hilton matter? Or Bret Easton..these are people who so low on the importance pole.

  22. just_a_guy says

    Brett Ellis obviously still has a platform. Why doesn’t he ever use it well?!!

    Rather than debate his Paris-Hilton-esque dull thinking, I suggest simply that maybe he could find a way to do something GOOD?!!

    C’mon, Mr. Ellis. GET A GRIP, and do something GOOD with your still-remaining platform. Get on it, buddy. I’m tired of hearing about your internalized homophobia. Surely you are more than that, RIGHT???!!

    For instance, maybe write us something a bit more nuanced and honest than American Psycho??!!

    Stop wallowing in your homophobia, buddy, and go do something WORTHWHILE. Please.

  23. says

    What a surprise. Bret is a has-been that still coasts on his success with American Psycho, which didn’t become a cult hit until it became a movie and Christian Bale elevated the material.

    His newest grab for attention is tweeting every inane little thought of his and purposely saying inflammatory things for attention.

    Ellis is now a professional Attention Wh*ring Troll. How the mighty have fallen.

  24. Keppler says

    Sounds like projection to me. Ellis is apparently convinced that every gay guy is just as superficial as he is.

  25. just_a_guy says

    So is the real question whether B.E.E.’s internalized homophobia will make an appearance in his upcoming film “The Canyons”??

    Part of me doesn’t want to allow his broadcasted homophobia to be a platform to raise visibility for his current/upcoming work, but maybe it should be grounds for a BOYCOTT of that work?? I’m not sure. I WANT ANSWERS.

    Thing is, The Canyons plot isn’t clear to me from the trailer and kickstarter videos. The Canyons looks to be about being young in L.A., which makes me a tad sentimental :–), in good ways I think. Tho I’m not B.E.E.’s age, which shows a tad in the clips of him in the kickstarter clip. Hmmm.

    The trailer makes me want to see the film because of the L.A. element that I feel a connection with. But if B.E.E. handled gay issues in it poorly, then I don’t want to see it. Or if B.E.E. noticebly scrubbed it from including gay issues, then I don’t want to see it.

    Who is the REAL B.E.E. I am saying it matters. Who the real B.E.E. is and what he really thinks MATTERS to whether his films deserve my viewing, your viewing, and acclaim generally.

    Does anyone have answers besides those that simply pillory him too quickly??

    Yeah, he may be a little bit too old to successfully befriend many young attractive folk on, say, Grindr, these days. And he may use Grindr for trashy purposes, or experiment as if to do so, and then judge himself publicly like this, which is fine I guess.

    But in my book, these issues don’t necessarily prevent him from taking a sensible insightful look into sex/life/love/ambitions of young straight/bi/gay/questioning people generally.

    OR DO THEY?? Anyone with more knowledge of “The Canyons” have an informed view here?

  26. just_a_guy says

    So is the real question whether B.E.E.’s internalized homophobia will make an appearance in his upcoming film “The Canyons”??

    Part of me doesn’t want to allow his broadcasted homophobia to be a platform to raise visibility for his current/upcoming work, but maybe it should be grounds for a BOYCOTT of that work?? I’m not sure. I WANT ANSWERS.

    Thing is, The Canyons plot isn’t clear to me from the trailer and kickstarter videos. The Canyons looks to be about being young in L.A., which makes me a tad sentimental :–), in good ways I think. Tho I’m not B.E.E.’s age, which shows a tad in the clips of him in the kickstarter clip. Hmmm.

    The trailer makes me want to see the film because of the L.A. element that I feel a connection with. But if B.E.E. handled gay issues in it poorly, then I don’t want to see it. Or if B.E.E. noticebly scrubbed it from including gay issues, then I don’t want to see it.

    Who is the REAL B.E.E. I am saying it matters. Who the real B.E.E. is and what he really thinks MATTERS to whether his films deserve my viewing, your viewing, and acclaim generally.

    Does anyone have answers besides those that simply pillory him too quickly??

    Yeah, he may be a little bit too old to successfully befriend many young attractive folk on, say, Grindr, these days. And he may use Grindr for trashy purposes, or experiment as if to do so, and then judge himself publicly like this, which is fine I guess.

    But in my book, these issues don’t necessarily prevent him from taking a sensible insightful look into sex/life/love/ambitions of young straight/bi/gay/questioning people generally.

    OR DO THEY?? Anyone with more knowledge of “The Canyons” have an informed view here?

  27. mattsy says

    BEE stills acts like one of the characters from his 80s novel Less Than Zero-bored, bitchy, & jaded.
    I wish he would be more like one from American Psycho and get a rat shoved up his vagina and sewn shut. And by vagina I mean his mouth.

  28. Scott says

    I sortof dislike Grindr for various reasons, but depending in the guys and locale, one can make good friends on Grindr.

    Ellis is a jerk- he’s criticized the It Gets Better campaign, without offering a better solution, he continually agrees with homophobes and bigoted, ignorant, generalized statements, and he’s always hem-hawing in interviews about his orientation/love-life, which I frankly couldn’t give two sh*ts about. I think when someone has all these issues going on, it’s safe to say they’re a self-hating gay jerkwad. And hopefully, next time he runs his dumb ass mouth, it’ll be around someone with enough self-respect who is well-known and will put them in their place.

    We can all criticize and talk about problems with my given issue, but if someone continues to do it without offering a solution or making it better, they’re a jerk. And Ellis is definitely one of that crowd.

  29. bobbyjoe says

    Bret Easton Ellis stands out a chair and whines “look at me! Look at me! Look! Look! Look! Look at me!”

    Adults all ignore him.

    There, in 25 words, is everything there is to know about Bret Easton Ellis, his life, his career, and his writing. There’s absolutely nothing more to him, so let’s move on to a more interesting person.

  30. says

    Scott, I could kiss you for that. EXACTLY.

    We get it, Ellis, you don’t like _________. Now use your voice to proactively and specifically state not only what you like, but what you know can be applied to Make Things Better.

    Or does that require too much thought? 😉

  31. Randy says

    I am a 51 yr. old gay man and I have no idea exactly what Grindr is. I have heard of it, and I know it’s for gay men and that all I know about it. I have never been to it to see what it’s about, because it just doesn’t interest me! And if it’s just a place to find someone to have sex with, I want no part of it!

  32. HkFca says

    Grindr, a4s, craigslist, manhunt, all reek of std’s and you all homos know it. Anonymous sex is dangerous and disgusting, why are we defending it?

  33. J says

    What is it with gay guys who are around 50? Is it a generational thing? Why do so many of them attack other gays?

  34. FunMe says

    Brett? I thought the 80s were over. He’s still around?

    Geez, he seems like the perfect candidate for that stupid group HOMOcon or whatever they’re called. He should drag the other bitter old queen with the botched plastic surgeon (Rupert Everett) and hope that the skinny crystal meth skank Ann Cunter is around to insult them for being gay. I’m sure they’ll love it.

  35. doug105 says

    Good reason to stay off Grindr meeting Bret Easton Ellis.

    Good reason to get Grindr blocking Bret Easton Ellis.

  36. Francis says

    The actual comments that Paris Hilton said and what was reported by Radar Online are two different things. She wasn’t talking about all gay men.

    With THAT being said, what she said was extremely offensive, making ignorant generalizations. First of all, it was very much anti-HIV. Secondly, it WAS anti-gay as she said “I’d be scared if I was a gay guy, you’ll like die of AIDS.” So she made a broad negative judgment of gay men. Gay=AIDS/AIDS=gay. Thirdly, she generalized all men who use grindr and so are many gays and pro-gay straights who are chiming in with their “I agree with her” comments.

    Not everyone who uses Grindr is looking to hook up and as far as I know, hooking up is hooking up. Whether that’s through Grindr, going to the club, at a party, whatever the situation may be. Some people think all hooking up is bad, but many people do NOT react this way towards other forms of hooking up the way they do with Grindr. The reason people condemn Grindr is, once again, due to ignorant generalizations. It’s a sex app, ooooh aaah. It’s much easier to just worry about your own body and sex life instead of feeling the need to judge others.

  37. Michael says

    Can we just get our panties out our tears for a moment?

    According to women and some men, men who hook up with total strangera at the drop of a hat are disgusting. Wow, who knew?

    If you’re hooking up on Grindr and having unprotected sex you either have it already or have a death wish.

    Let’s stop acting if sex with total strangers isn’t completely sleazy, it is and that’s part of the allure. We are bashing Hilton for a back of a taxi drunken conversation with a friend. Get over it people.

  38. acevdo says

    1)Brett has some serious issues.

    2) Paris is famous for a sex tape so she has no place to talk.

    3) Without sounding like a prude, I do wish gay guys would tone down the obsessive cruising if we want to be taken seriously about gay marriage. I know it’s a segment of the population but they make the rest of us look like deranged sex pigs.

  39. mastik8 says

    Oh my, we’ve upset Ms. Easton. She stirs to grumble again. Does she have a book coming out? Bottoming out? Sad really. Maybe if we just ignore her she’ll stumble away.

  40. Steveinde says

    I guess I’m kind of jealous of poor Bret. He managed to whittle a literary career out of a sum-total of about half a good novel.

    But it’s sad to seem him fall from novelist-of-the-month to professional C-list Tweeter in only 30 years.

    I’m kind of relieved Grace Metalious isn’t around to sully her legacy.

  41. Buckie Weston says

    Wow. “While showing his character” ?

    Really, Towelroad ?

    Let’s talk about the “character” of the gay media, of gay sites like grindr, that encourage gay men to spread std’s and have empty “relationships” based on little more than just using one another.

    And look at the typical people here defending grindr. When your pretty boy looks fade, if you aren’t dead from AIDS long before then, you’ll wake up alone, where you belong, and look back at all those wonderful “grindr friends” and your wasted lives, and wonder how stupid you were.

    I find it fascinating that some of the grinder defenders here are the same people that in other comments claim they don’t know any gay men that are meth addicts. I guess that’s true, you don’t really KNOW any of the people you’ve me ton grindr, do you ?

  42. Lee says

    I’m sure that there are some people who have actually met friends or people to properly “date” through Grindr, but the vast majority of people on there is using it for casual hook-ups. I mean, isn’t that the original purpose of grindr? We need to stop claiming that it’s something different.

    And B.E. Ellis is apparently speaking from experience, so why are so many people on here claiming that he is wrong? It’s his experience, he made that clear. Others may have had different experiences, but that doesn’t prove him wrong.

    There are a lot of people who agree with Paris Hilton. Maybe not with the way she worded it, but with the sentiment that anonymous sex with strangers probably isn’t the safest way to have sex…

  43. says

    just because you’re having a casual hookup doesn’t mean you’re having unsafe sex.

    why oh WHY does this thread seem like it’s filled with a bunch or puritanical ninnies who couldn’t get laid if their lives depended on it?

    and what’s typical, “Buckie Weston”, is that your camp is one again (as always) Anonymous.

    Yes. I don’t have any gay friends that use Meth. Yes, i have many friends that use Grindr, and I’ve made many a friend from Grindr.

    There’s something amazing that happens when you’re a real gay man living in a real world and interacting with other gay people – you actually learn real things, instead of perpetuating the lies you tell yourself to justify your refusal to take part in anything. I’m sorry some of you can’t get laid. But it’s not Grindr’s fault.

    Grindr won’t make you forget to use condoms. The leap from using Grindr to anonymous barebacking is just stupid.

    I’m looking around at my friends i’ve made, from Grindr and various other gay-oriented websites and social circles, and i’m wondering why we should be apologizing for our “prettyboy looks” – it’s not our fault we’re attractive, and enjoy each other’s company. i suppose some consider a life well-lived if they’ve anonymously ranted about things they don’t know about on the internet. oh god that must be a pathetic existence….

  44. mikatune says

    If u are meeting all your friends via Grindr, I find that so sad…maybe try interacting with people face to face in real time rather through a one-dimensional sphere?

  45. says

    who said anything about meeting all your friends via Grindr?

    notice, folks, how the Bitter Bettys on here jump to insane conclusions.

    Grindr = ANONYMOUS BAREBACK SEX!
    Grindr = YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO MEET PEOPLE!!!

    Uh, no and no.

    I get it. Some of you need an app called “Troll” – it’ll be an app for guys who can’t show face pics but want to trade bitterly jealous barbs back and forth. 😉

    That some people can’t understand how an app like Grindr can lead to interacting face-to-face in real time with other like-minded gay men, in a sexual situation OR NOT, speaks volumes.

  46. millerbeach says

    I don’t have Grindr, nor AIDS, nor HIV. I’ve been gay longer than Paris has been alive, and perhaps, during my 20’s & 30’s and when I lived in Boystown in Chicago, I just may have out-manned Ms. Hilton, yet I am completely disease-free. Can she say the same? I know for certain my brain works better than hers.

  47. paul says

    Not sure what difference there is between a hook up site and a gay bar actually….you go somewhere to meet other gays..sometimes to hook up, sometimes to chat, most of the time to look at hot men. Why do people beat themselves up about it ? No one complains about Facebook and many gays use that in exactly the same way as grindr, or manhunt, or scruff, or gayromeo….why are we so quick to judge other gays when we have a whole world of people out there judging us simply for existing ?

  48. says

    I enjoy this feeling will never realize what happened, I do not know will be a day to achieve it, and perhaps one day start, day end.I hope you will have a different model of the more interesting post, thank you for sharing with us.