If you read one thing at the New York Times today, make it Maureen Solomon's "Coming Out by Christmas Card," a piece in which she weighs the uncertainty she felt about "outing" her son by using a picture of him in a Lambda Legal t-shirt as they family holiday greeting.
...In talking with Sean recently, I learned that even our loose and deferential policy seemed somewhat stiff and formal to him, lacking the organic quality of casual conversation where mentioning that my son is gay comes up somewhere between comparing the cost of braces and debating presidential politics. He recognizes, like the brightest civil rights trailblazers, that true progress is made not only in grand gestures, but in mundane moments that almost imperceptibly telegraph the many versions of normal we should all embrace.
Like a family photo with a gay kid in it.
Minnesota voters may have voted "no" on amending the constitution to define marriage as being between one man and one woman, but Star Tribune journalst Lori Sturdevant crunched the numbers and finds that the state's ruling Democratic Farmer-Labor Party probably won't be inclined to push for legislative action repealing the 15-year old law that still bans same-sex nuptials in Minnesota.
Truth be told, despite a 38-29 majority in the Senate and 73-61 edge in the House, DFLers may not have the votes to pull off a prompt DOMA repeal. It isn't lost on legislators that "yes" carried 75 of the state's 87 counties -- the rural share -- many with more than 60 percent of the vote. Some of those counties are now represented by DFLers -- and DFL leaders want to keep it that way.
They just won an election by accusing Republicans of social-issue overreach. They know that in the eyes of the 47.43 percent of Minnesotans who voted "yes" on the marriage ban, repealing DOMA would make them guilty of the same crime.
Minnesota lawmaker Rep. Patti Fritz is well aware of this political reality, and seems unwilling to take up the issue at all.
"When you bring up an emotional issue like that, it takes center stage and steals everyone else’s air, and everything else has to take a back seat," Fritz told the AP after the election.