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The Straight Girl's Guide to Gay Sex: VIDEO

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Graham Gremore illustrates the top five questions he gets from women about gay sex.

Watch (work-unfriendly language), AFTER THE JUMP...

Previously by Gremore...
You Can't Be Gay Unless You Have a Job: VIDEO [tlrd]

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  1. Is the dudes voice deliberately annoying?

    Posted by: Chris | Feb 6, 2013 12:18:15 PM


  2. Wow that voice, was it on purpose?

    Posted by: John | Feb 6, 2013 12:33:31 PM


  3. He sounds a little like David Sedaris.

    Posted by: Michael W. | Feb 6, 2013 12:38:34 PM


  4. Okay...I am a 24 yr. old het woman. And my "straight" guy friend from college told me about his one gay sex experience. He said there was poop and that he would never do it again. Was he lying? Hope this question doesn't offend anyone...just have a sick need to know.

    Posted by: molly | Feb 6, 2013 12:47:10 PM


  5. Molly, it could be possible (or he could be lying, I don't know him)- as the video stated, anal sex (whether gay or not) requires a certain amount of planning ahead (ie going to the bathroom and taking a shower first). If this guy is like most bi-curious college guys, I wouldn't be surprised if his only foray into anal was while absolutely wasted after the bar. This is perhaps the worst circumstance in which to initiate anal sex.

    Posted by: GMAN | Feb 6, 2013 1:00:55 PM


  6. Okay, plenty of gay guys DO discuss if they're a top/bottom first. It's a really easy question.

    Secondly, I was kind of hoping the "top/bottom" question included the fact that more than half of the time when two guys get together, anal sex doesn't occur (that has been proven in numerous studies), and they spend their time doing all sorts of other fun stuff.

    Posted by: Robert | Feb 6, 2013 1:01:08 PM


  7. Another aspect of the Top/Bottom question the video failed to address is that it's actually rather taboo to ask some gay men whether they are a top or a bottom (unless you're about to have sex with them of course).

    Unfortunately there's still a prevailing negative association with being a bottom (residual sexism, perhaps?) that is still runs in the gay community.

    Posted by: GMAN | Feb 6, 2013 1:07:45 PM


  8. A top is typically a bottom that's tired of waiting...

    Posted by: Mike in Houston | Feb 6, 2013 1:09:54 PM


  9. The subject of that video is NOT gay sex its gay ANAL sex. If people think anal sex is all gay men do sexually they are totally misinformed.

    Posted by: KevinSF | Feb 6, 2013 1:44:51 PM


  10. Molly--GMAN is right on this point. I'd add that the importance of cleanliness is universal for any penetrative sex. If you're going to stick a body part in a hole in someone else's body, you generally want to make sure the hole is as clean as possible from harmful bacteria or viruses. Vice versa for the recipient. And your decision about whether to put additional layers of protection between you and what might be in that hole or on that body part should be driven by your assessment of risk when it comes to that person and that situation.

    Posted by: Stefan | Feb 6, 2013 1:49:29 PM


  11. "A top is typically a bottom that's tired of waiting..."


    good one

    Posted by: Petes | Feb 6, 2013 1:56:15 PM


  12. Robert makes a great point. Anal sex is not the most dominant form of sexual intercourse among gay men. I've met more men who don't have anal sex, for example, than men who are versatile or are tops. To use the more technical terms, oral stimulation, manual stimulation, frottage, analingus, etc. are all really common and generally require less planning ahead. Anal intercourse is just one of the menu items, and as with any menu item some people only order that, some like it often, some like it once in a while to change things up, and some really don't like it at all. The key is finding a partner who is on the same wavelength.

    Posted by: Stefan | Feb 6, 2013 2:04:26 PM


  13. Stefan, your comment is disingenuous. You make it sound as though an anus and a vagina are the same thing. In reality, the anus evolved solely to excrete fecal material, making it impossible to sanitize and much too delicate for penetration. As a result, anal intercourse is twenty times more efficient than vaginal in transmitting HIV. Do not delude yourself. Any time you bareback, you court disease and death. This is not a moral judgment but an inescapable medical fact.

    Posted by: Mgc | Feb 6, 2013 2:11:50 PM


  14. I should note that I was referring to your first comment, and I apologize for calling it disingenuous. The facts stand.

    Posted by: Mgc | Feb 6, 2013 2:14:42 PM


  15. That voice hurt my ears.

    Posted by: Mike in nyc | Feb 6, 2013 2:15:09 PM



  16. @Molly: Some people have a scat fetish. I've never met one, but your friend could have met one.

    And if he has one night with one woman who does the same thing will he forever swear off women? Probably not.
    What both he and you should realize is that what he experienced has nothing to do with it being a "gay" experience per se.

    If was not a scst fetish situation, he may have had anal sex (I agree with Robert that a lot of straight people seem to imagine that's the only variation of a "gay" experience, when there are all kinds of other things gay couples do instead of that) and had limited or no experience with that kind of sex.
    For example, maybe both of the women he'd had anal sex with in the past had been more conscienciously clean and prepared than this particular man happened to be, or maybe he had never even tried that with any woman at all, and never thought in this case about hygiene. But gay men are no "poopier" than straight women are.

    There are a lot of gay men like me who have had years of "gay experiences" that have never involved a trace of poop at anytime.


    Posted by: GregV | Feb 6, 2013 2:16:35 PM


  17. If this is a guide to gay sex then I've almost never had gay sex. I don't do anal.

    Posted by: Ken | Feb 6, 2013 2:31:08 PM


  18. MCG.

    The anus is obviously one end of a digestive track that originated in very primitive organisms and evolved into a myriad of species who intake food at one end and expel waste at the other.

    Somewhere along the way, the human anus, well, the male one at least, also evolved to give quite a bit of pleasure upon penetration. That, too, is a "medical fact".

    Posted by: BobN | Feb 6, 2013 2:47:01 PM


  19. Women find male homosexuality threatening unless it is segregated. This explains why women find male bisexuality so threatening. Male bisexuals won't allow themselves to be segregated, unlike gay guys.

    Posted by: jason | Feb 6, 2013 2:53:32 PM


  20. "But gay men are no "poopier" than straight women are."

    And maybe both are less "poopier" than Straight men. There are a lot of strap-ons out there.

    "Stefan, your comment is disingenuous. You make it sound as though an anus and a vagina are the same thing"

    Well, they've been used sexually the same way since ancient times. Maybe that's why the Neanderthals disappeared--they began to prefer anal to the other type. Gotta' have both in this world--not for me, of course.

    Seriously, anal penetration is too enjoyable for many folks to give it up for fear of easier transmission of HIV. You make it as safe as possible--always with condom use. And for many folks those safe (anal) sex practices have worked for 30 years now in the fight against HIV.

    Also, there truly are some differences in Gay sub-cultures. I never heard the term "rimming" until the turn of the century. We always said, "tossin' salad"--which I swore I'd never do...but, well, Oh nevermind.

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Feb 6, 2013 3:03:20 PM


  21. Spare me all this BS !

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Feb 6, 2013 3:06:53 PM


  22. I once sat next to a particularly annoying and tactless girl in work. Upon finding out I was gay and in a long-term relationship, one of her first questions was "So which one of you is the man and which the woman?". I knew full well that she meant who was the top and who was the bottom, but was shocked that someone would ask such a personal question of a person they barely knew, so I chose to reply:
    "We are both 'the man', that's kind of the point. And in future I'll thank you to mind your own bloody business".

    Posted by: Peter Hargmier | Feb 6, 2013 3:10:11 PM


  23. Boy, is this video wrong about how many sexual partners gay men have. When someone asks about whether gay men are more promiscuous than straight men, I usually respond by saying that gay men are about as promiscuous as straight men would be if they could be.

    Posted by: Seattle Mike | Feb 6, 2013 3:36:26 PM


  24. We have a good friend who produces gay adult movies. The majority of his movies don't include anal sex and I once asked why that was. He said it was because finding men who perform top or bottom were a minority in the business. I know in our marriage it isn't something we do although we have tried it, neither of us enjoys the act, top or bottom. Yet we have one of the most enjoyable sex relationships I have ever known. There isn't a day that goes by that we don't have sex but it is that rare, if ever, occasion that either one of us will want to try anal sex. Despite what you see in the movies, anal sex is, as noted above, in the minority.

    BTW, our friend the film maker says he must pay actors more for top/bottom work and that the majority of those actors are heterosexual - many of whom who first decided to moonlight in the gay side of the industry came into the business believing all gay men perform anal sex because all gay men think they are (deep down) women. I laughed my head off at that. Most straight homophobes seriously think that to be gay means you secretly want to be a woman. Nothing could be more stupid or farther then the truth or reality of gay life.

    Posted by: OS2Guy | Feb 6, 2013 3:37:23 PM


  25. Thanks for the answers...I hope I was not being impertinent. Is it considered rude to ask such questions? I never know where the lines are drawn...And to the guy who said girls dont like bisexual men...that's just dumb. Do gay/bi men really think this about women?

    Posted by: molly | Feb 6, 2013 3:48:04 PM


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