Gay Adult Film Actor Wilfried Knight Has Died

Gay adult film actor Wilfried Knight has died, his friends in the business Matthew Rush and Chris Yosef confirmed this evening. Knight began his career as part of Lucas Entertainment and appeared in dozens of films.

KnightKnight's death, the details of which have not emerged, comes just weeks after his partner Jerry Enriquez committed suicide.

Knight wrote about Enriquez's death in a lengthy, emotional blog post dated March 3:

And i was in love, and so was my partner. He let me be who i wanted to be. He did not agree with everything i was but he let me be. He gave me the best 8, almost 9 years of my life. And this amazing guy committed suicide by hanging last week, after fighting for so long for us to stay together.

RIP.

UPDATE: Falcon and Raging Stallion studios released a statement:

"Born in 1977 and growing up in Champagne, France, the 35-year-old actor appeared in over 10 Raging Stallion productions in the last four years. Originally an exclusive for Lucas Entertainment, Wilfried became the first-ever joint Lucas/ Raging Stallion exclusive. He was a consummate performer and a joy to have on set, which was why he was chosen to appear in the studio's major releases. He contributed to the success of the biggest industry hits from Raging Stallion, including Cowboys, Giants, Tales of the Arabian Nights and Focus/Refocus.

"His skills and talent didn't go unrecognized; he won the 2010 GayVN Award for Performer of the Year, and he took home the 2011 Grabby for Best Versatile Performer.  A man of stature, standing 6'2" and weighing in at nearly 200 pounds, Knight had a huge presence, a gracious air, and a caring disposition. His charm and humor did not go unnoticed. All of these traits are what made him a superstar of the industry.

"While the details of his death are not yet know, Knight recently lost his partner of nine years to suicide.

"Chris Ward, Falcon/Raging Stallion Studios President offered these sentiments about his friend: 'Wilfried's death is a blow to our studio and to our industry. There was no nicer man. We have all lost someone very special. I can only say that personally I am devastated. Wilfried was a friend and I shall miss him. All of us at Falcon and Raging Stallion Studios hope he is at peace, and our thoughts are with his family and friends. I know that his good friend and director, Tony Dimarco, is also greatly saddened by this tragic loss.'"

The studio also issued this collective expression of loss:

"We grieve deeply at the passing of Wilfried Knight. We offer our most genuine thoughts of sympathy and warm wishes to Wilfried's family, friends and loved ones. He was an extraordinary talent and a special man who brought joy to our hearts. Wilfried, we celebrate your life and your accomplishments, and hope that you rest in peace. You will be missed greatly."

Comments

  1. lee says

    and i care because? sorry but porn stars are not people to be admired while its sad he has died it’s not like it wasn’t totally unexpected these types of people generally have mental issues, and/or drug issues.

  2. Sargon Bighorn says

    Um Ms Billy Crystal, Gay Porn actors, not the common variety of Gay man make the suicide obit list. You’re still with us. May I conclude you have either a strong skull or a strong mind? I do tend to agree with you let me say. Are these big burly handsome sexy Gay men so fragile of mind and heart that the lose of a loved on spell doom? It’s sad indeed. But we all face such hardships.

  3. Isaac says

    Poor guy. The gay porn industry should try to take care of their own. Ideally mental health would be available to all but unfortunately that is not the world we live in. And suicide victims should not be labeled as weak minded..they suffer from mental illness. Implying weakness is not a way to help people who suffer from it or further a constructive conversation.

  4. lee says

    yes they are weak death is easy living is whats hard we all could just take the easy way out and off ourselves but we don’t because we have stronger minds, those who can’t survive in this world are not fit to be in it, survival of the fittest it’s natures way.

  5. says

    I agree,this is non=news. I am sure the majority of the fans that get their daily dose of gay news gets it here at Towleroad, did not know or care to know about him when he was alive. I read parts of this story… and looked at the comments. Sadly, the comments that always showed up on google or web news are extremly bigoted and stupid and are making their voices heard here,too.

    I’m looking for an early spring to spend my time with… until then I seldom read a whole column on the majority of so called gay news…

  6. Moz's says

    Isaac

    Uhm, no industry takes care of their own unless your a white Banker CEO

    Thus why unions exist. Sex workers unite and unionize. Health care including mental health care

    but hey, this crazy socialist thinks prostitution should be legalized, regulated, and taxed …so till am God Emperor of Universe, porn stars will not find it easy to get health care/ mental health care

  7. David Hearne says

    Meth has been a systemic poison to the gay community since at least the 1980’s. People do really stupid stuff because of it and behind it.

    Have I thought of suicide? Of course. But frankly, there was so much a responsible person should do before ruining the lives of their parents, family, and friends. You have to clean your house, go through your things, tidy up your paperwork, and then go in a way that will be the least bother to other people. Or perhaps those things only occur to people who aren’t going to commit suicide. Maybe the ones who do just don’t give a damn about the mess they leave behind.

    I have no patience or compassion with this.

  8. Gerry says

    Wow, really sad. No cause of death has been given – so not prudent to jump to conclusions.

    I will however say this:

    1. Porn is a job. It’s legal. I have no tolerance for people who put down others, especially because of the way they earn a living. There are plenty of Doctors, Lawyers, Teachers, Ministers, Priests, etc. etc. who have issues, whether it be drug abuse or depression. Just because you have a career in porn doesn’t make you damaged.
    2. People who commit suicide have issues – whether it be mental illness or a horrible terminal disease. In the case of mental illness, it’s not appropriate to judge. Mental illness is an epidemic in this country and is under treated. Making negative comments about people who are sick is despicable.
    3. It amazes me just how many people who comment on these boards are idiots and cowards – or as Rachael Maddow pointed out – are trolls.

  9. Francis says

    If you read Wilfried’s blog post detailing what he and his dead partner (who committed suicide around a week ago) you would see that this wasn’t a “porn lifestyle” death, as in he wasn’t a circuit boy who self-destructed. He and his partner were forced out of the country due to DOMA, his BF found a job in Canada and he was seemingly discriminated against there too.

    Yes, the porn industry does have it’s fair share of bad apples and that cannot be ignored, but at the end of the day, they are gay/bisexual men who are committing suicide. They’re one of us. And whether you like porn or not, there are very real reasons why it has a major influence in larger gay culture. Porn is one of the few if not the only way kids, or guys sexually questioning/confused/struggling, can really see two guys have sex and make love and see what they connect with in a natural way.

    RIP Wilfried. Heart goes out to his loved ones.

  10. Francis says

    If you read Wilfried’s blog post detailing what he and his dead partner (who committed suicide around a week ago) you would see that this wasn’t a “porn lifestyle” death, as in he wasn’t a circuit boy who self-destructed. He and his partner were forced out of the country due to DOMA, his BF found a job in Canada and he was seemingly discriminated against there too.

    Yes, the porn industry does have it’s fair share of bad apples and that cannot be ignored, but at the end of the day, they are gay/bisexual men who are committing suicide. They’re one of us. And whether you like porn or not, there are very real reasons why it has a major influence in larger gay culture. Porn is one of the few if not the only way kids, or guys sexually questioning/confused/struggling, can really see two guys have sex and make love and see what they connect with in a natural way.

    RIP Wilfried. Heart goes out to his loved ones.

  11. Ian says

    How puritanical to say that this is not news. I’ll take you at your word that you’ve never seen his films. Fine—your loss. But if a gay novelist whose books you’d never read had died, would you be complaining about it being covered here—to say nothing of name calling? The idea that gay men could be so squeamish about porn as to actually troll a suicide victim is mind boggling.

  12. lee says

    @ian we should celebrate the lives of actual productive members of society like actors, doctors, novelists, and political leaders not a whore. if that’s your only talent in life then an ambiguous death is rightly deserved.

  13. Francis says

    I always find it ironic that on a gay blog that gay/bi men have an issue with anything oriented towards men and sex. Anything. There are always a few.

    Anyway, David and Lee, neither one of you have any idea what it truly means to be suicidal. Now contemplation, but actually suicidal. You have no sense of the world and you are completely removed from any sort of normal thought processes and emotional processes. It’s incredibly hard to fix a broken heart.

    Suicide is going to continue being an issue in the community as long as homophobia is as rampant as it is in our society. The job for us as a community is NOT to shame people who are on the edge but to instead help them and actually, you know, be a community. Reach out to the people who need it most instead of complaining when they kill themselves.

  14. says

    I just love how everyone on here has assumed drugs or mental illness because he was a porn star. Hmmm … is that also why all of these gay teens have committed suicide recently? Shame on any of you who do nothing but troll these sites looking for tragedy and do nothing but spew hateful, ad hominem, rhetoric in hopes of nothing more than soliciting someone to pay attention to your vulgarity.

    This, in effect, is an obituary and as such is not the place for your heinous commentary. I hope everyone on here who posts such nasty negativity, in their own deaths or demise, reap the just rewards of people discussing all of the wrongs they may have done in life and all of their assumed problems.

    Is it really to much to think per chance he died of a broken heart or lost the will to live after the loss of a loved one. This frequently happens in many types of relationships. No, though, just because he did porn it must be for the worst reasons possible. You are disgusting human beings who, for sure, will be no loss upon your own deaths.

  15. Jimmi says

    I never saw his films or really know who he was; however, he was someone’s brother, son, lover, uncle, friend, etc. Such callous judgements and nasty remarks. Your bitterness is sometimes a reflection of your self-hatred. Try to be kind. A lot of people face a lot of adversity. We all have our own private demons and troubles. I wish they could have found help.

    If you can’t say something nice–say nothing.

    “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”
    ― Plato

  16. lee says

    mar productive members of society work to better it and leave a lasting legacy, having sex on film is not productive nor does it move society forward.

  17. Moz's says

    Is it really to much to think per chance he died of a broken heart or lost the will to live after the loss of a loved one. This frequently happens in many types of relationships……

    Posted by: Chad Hunt | Mar 11, 2013 9:05:19 PM

    Yes, it seems that is what was the cause

    R.I.P.

  18. lee says

    chad suicide is weakness think i’ve had it easy? i haven’t grew up gay in the south and while most people are fine with it some are not instead of being a drama queen about it however i simply disconnected myself from those people who were jerks and if they still bothered me made them pay with some simple revenge this is how strong people handle these types of situations not offing yourself.

  19. says

    These comments are disgusting.

    1. We do not even know if Wilfried Knight committed suicide.

    2. Even if he did, there is nothing disgraceful about it. Suicide is a serious thing. How many of you have picked up a gun and put it to your head, ready to shoot? Pulling that trigger is the hardest part. There have been many incidences where there have been signs of the suicide victim struggling due to second thoughts. Even during the suicide, a great deal of will power is needed. The person has to be absolutely convinced that life is far worse than death. You are not the victim, you do not know what he/she went through. So don’t judge!

    3. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the porn industry. And if you’re upset about prostitution, porn is just prostitution with a camera. People have this false idea that because the actors have sex so much on screen, they are sex-addicts. They have sex so much on screen because IT’S THEIR JOB! Sure some of the actors enjoy it far more than others but it shouldn’t disgrace the whole industry. So I’m glad you guys felt the need to tarnish a poor man’s name just because of his job, it really shows nice character.

  20. lee says

    broken heart really? fact is he offed himself plain and simply was to weak to control his emotions and used a gun, pills, rope, or whatever means he did it with.

  21. JohnD says

    This man was a human being. He had a family and loved ones. He had fans like any other kind of celebrity. He will be missed by many I’m sure.

    At this point we don’t know the cause of his death. He did battle cancer recently and he did lose his partner recently. One can’t assume it was suicide, but if it was it is equally as sad. People from all walks of life commit suicide and to judge him for being a “sad” porn star is unfair. He did not hurt anyone and he brought joy to many.

    R.I.P. Wilfred.

  22. Francis says

    Lee, Wilfried I’m sure has done more to bring enjoyment and bettered more lives than you have and that alone means he has bettered society. What are you doing to move society forward? I wonder what your normal troll name is.

    Jerry is right, and so is Chad (hey Chad, I usually see you in Queerty!). You would think a GAY blog would be devoid of continuous ignorance on gay men, but that certainly ain’t the case. Oh well.

  23. joel says

    Lee, you are a judgemental ass. People appear in porn for various reason and those that do lead different lifestyles. The details of his death haven’t even been released yet and while it would seem to be related to his lover’s suicide that hasn’t been announced. Even if suicide was the cause it could have nothing to do with his chosen work but more to sorrow. Perhaps appearing in pornography is not as productive as other professions but obviously there are many people who get pleasure from it or it wouldn’t be so prevalent. As long as it is safely produced, I certainly don’t advocate barebacking, and between consenting adults there is nothing wrong with it and only small minded, discriminatory people such as you would find it so.

    You last statement is revolting in it’s callousness, the man wasn’t a murderer just another human being.

  24. beef and fur says

    I’m totally not shocked that a comment section on Towleroad about someone’s death has descended into a Island of Misfit Toys residents convention. SMH.

  25. RG says

    Under any circumstances, the death of a well-known gay performer (whether in the porn industry or otherwise) is absolutely the kind of news that I, a daily reader, would hope to see on Towleroad. And kudos to Gerry, Ian, Jimmi, Kevin Dorvil, JohnD and the others who defended Mr. Knight against the negative comments.

  26. Cadence says

    After reading the blog post that Wilfried Knight made about his husband’s suicide, some of these comments seem incredibly stupid.

    For those who want to judge Wilfried Knight, he supplied a little bio on that blog, he had a law degree, and did not abuse alcohol or drugs. And even if he did those things, he was still a human being.

    The reasons behind Knight’s husband’s suicide are incredibly sad, and highlight one of the reasons why marriage equality is needed.

  27. Whatever says

    Most people, including most gay men, leave absolutely no impact on society nor make any impressions of cultural significance. I suppose it’s okay for them to commit suicide since they are not “productive”. Some of you really need to look in the mirror. and “no”, commenting on a blog does not make you a “writer”. barf

  28. UFFDA says

    The man lost his husband, his life’s partner and chose to leave as well because the pain was too great. It was his call and has no moral ramifications whatever. They are now together again in my view, truly living happily ever after. Good good good for them.

  29. says

    For those of you so quick to judge someone without actually being in their shoes, why don’t you read this before opening your mouths: http://wilfried-knight.net/?p=822

    I am beyond sickened by some of the comments made here. Regardless of what you may think of someone’s choices in life, a human being has died. Doesn’t that alone earn him some respect? And if you truly don’t care about this story, why do you have to take the time to make a negative comment about it? Why not just move on to the next article and see what Justin Bieber’s up to today? While WIlfred may not have mattered to you, he had a positive impact in others’ lives and deserves respect for what he has gone through. Wilfred could be viewed as a face of those affected by DOMA. People need to know how hard it is to be separated from the ones they love and for some people, that separation can lead to tragedy.

    I was fortunate to have met WIlfred once and he was a wonderful person. My heart goes out to his family and loved ones. R.I.P. WIlfred.

  30. Caliban says

    It must be fabulous to be like some of you here, SO superior to everyone else. Oh, you grew up in the South and didn’t kill yourself?! Oh, may we touch the hem of your robe, oh great one?

    I grew up in the South too. I still live in the South in a small conservative town, hold my head high, and am still alive. That doesn’t make me Grand High Poobah of Upper B*ttcrack, to quote Dolores Claiborne.

    At some time, apparently in the past FWIW, this man had sex on film. It isn’t a choice I would have made, but it was his. Some of you may have seen his videos- I haven’t. He wasn’t a drug addict, on meth or anything else.

    Thanks to DOMA he and his partner, who had been together for many years, moved to Canada because it was the only way for them to be together. His partner lost his job and at 46 years old could not find a job though he tried. (The specifics of why he lost his job are beside the point but may have been very unfair.) It was likely this would force a move, which would have split them up.

    Wilfried Chevalier’s (his real name) partner hanged himself, and it seems that Wilfried was the one who found him. His partner also left a bottle of wine and sleeping pills so that Wilfried could follow him. (This is all in the account at the link.)

    Now think about that for a moment. I think it was both cruel and wrong for his partner to leave means of suicide behind as if expecting him to follow. It would certainly do a number on anyone’s head, put thoughts there that may not have otherwise occurred. He was grieving. He lost someone he loved dearly. He felt victimized by laws and nations.

    He killed himself. I *DON’T*, I won’t, make any excuses for that. It’s a shame that both he and his partner didn’t get the help they needed, legally and personally, in order to keep going, but I don’t believe that suicide is the answer except in VERY limited circumstances such as terminal illness. But Wilfried Chevalier didn’t kill himself because he did a few porn flicks or was a “whore”? (I’d love to know the true sexual histories of some who posted that. ALL of it, not just the parts you admit.)

    He killed himself because he was in emotional pain due to the loss of his partner and couldn’t see past that. I don’t know what the f*ck some of you are thinking that you can do a superiority dance on someone’s grave. How proud you all must be of yourselves.

  31. GB says

    Would you only show concern if he were “bullied?” That goes for legitimate suicide these days. One day all of you might find yourself at that place. “Too weak to control his emotions?” At least he had them, unlike today’s no heart, no soul — poor excuses for the gay majority.

  32. Marco Lius says

    Anyone who has posted a negative comment is one of the lowest forms of human being I can think of. What makes it worse is that there has been no report of cause. What if he died of a heart condition? All I have is compassion for anyone touched by this tragedy (whether it be because of suicide or otherwise – the cause is irrelevant). His line of work is not important. I would definitely hang out with a porn worker over a banker or doctor any day!

  33. Nick Name says

    Lee. For christs sake show some respect. A human being just died. You sound like an absolute total creep. Did you have a bad day or are you always this loathsome?

  34. says

    Lee – I’d wager that Wilfred has made more of a contribution to society by just being alive than a deplorable human being such as yourself could ever hope to achieve in a multitude of lifetimes.

    Run along now. I think I hear a few, “Billy Goats Gruff”, clip clop, clip clopping over your bridge.

  35. Jay says

    Lee, Lee, Lee…one could have a debate about porn stars’ effect on society and moving it forward. There is something about the objectification of the gay male body and gay sex that has encouraged many a closeted gay man to explore his truth. The sexual “debauchery” these men express on film (which I’m sure you no doubt have gotten off to yourself) have in many ways HELPED the gay rights movement as much as any self-hating, prudish, heteronormative gay man would claim they’ve hurt it. (Pornography outgrosses all other entertainment industries, and academic essays abound on the politics of porn.)

    “we should celebrate the lives of actual productive members of society like actors, doctors, novelists, and political leaders not a whore. if that’s your only talent in life then an ambiguous death is rightly deserved.”

    Actors who spend their time attending parties, getting photographed for tabloids, and flirting with death by drug and alcohol abuse? Doctors who turn away the sick and uninsured in favor of treating wealthy clientele, who decide to go into lucrative practices rather than practices where their passions lie, who have copped to charging membership fees but for their patients but still swindle the equally corrupt insurance companies out of millions because it’s the only way to get ahead, or who have turned off their empathy because that doesn’t pay for Caribbean vacations? Novelists who escape to the page because they can’t function in society with others and therefore the pressure to produce something brilliant while keeping a handle on mental illness pushes them to suicide? Political leaders who vote against their conscience because they want their elected position to offer job security more than they want to effect change, who won’t speak out against wrongdoing because they’re scared of suffering party backlash, who allow themselves to be wined and dined by lobbyists, and who practice what would be considered insider trading in any other industry but because they’re in Congress they can get away with it and capitalize on information that they know may hurt their constituents?

    There is good and bad everywhere and in every industry. Yes, even porn. There are good people in porn — honest, caring, loving people. Furthermore, there is good and bad in each and every one of us.

    Wilfried Knight was well-known in the gay community for obvious reasons. On top of that, he had some very educated opinions (he was educated), and he was able to write in lucid, complete sentences. Working in porn does not make one less intelligent, less thoughtful, less caring, less of a productive member of society. And, it certainly doesn’t make one hurt less when suffering loss. His death, it seems, follows a very painful personal loss that was at least informed by prejudiced politics asserting power over a minority group.

    Open your mind. Open your heart.

  36. CD says

    Mental health is not a porn star issue. It is not a gay man’s issue. It is an every person issue. The same with drug use. There have been no correlational or causational studies to confirm is gay porn stars are more likely to use drugs or have mental health issues like the rest of society. So I say to the first and third commentators STFU. Details behind his death have not been revealed @BillyCrystal, nor does your summation @Lee hold up to the smell test. All of you talking about drugs/suicide/mental health issues are making assumptions none of you can make. F**k you and the high horses you rode in on.

  37. Jon says

    What a sad thing to happen. In the big picture isn’t suicide a thing that happens everywhere in all professions? I hope that generalizing that it happens more to Pornography Actors is way out of proportion. The sadness one must feel to do such an act is heartbreaking. May Mr. Knight rest in peace.

  38. jaragon says

    Gee Mr Lee you never felt depressed or lonely in your life?! Suicide may not seem like a rational act but for some poor souls this is only way out of their misery- let’s show some compassion. Porn actors are not lesser human beings because of the way they choose to make a living. May he rest in peace.

  39. ratbastard says

    I have no idea who this man was, but can’t imagine dealing with the suicide of his partner like that. I don’t think I could survive if my BF committed suicide.

    But it hasn’t even been reported as a suicide in Knight’s case, so who knows. And of course he was involved in an industry where drugs and substance abuse are a way of life, and substance abuse can make you very moody including suicidal. He was a human being , undoubtedly flawed like everyone , and unless he was evil and hurt others, he should be shown respect in his death.

  40. Billy Fryer says

    R I P. Wilfried,

    I enjoyed our “friendship” on Facebook, I loved your hiking posts, you and the beautiful dog you loved so much. I enjoyed your comments, of “real superstars”, your wit, insight made my days better. Was happy for you in 2011 when you got first award. I find it funny people can be hateful towards you, without ever trying to know you. I feel really bad for your suffering you endured, I am glad your physical pain is over. You will truly be missed.

  41. KonG says

    Its so sad that a man like that dies! I m in tears right now! It doesnt matter he was in the gay industry… He tried to live free on the side of his husband. SAD SAD news! My sincerest condolences to his friends and loved ones! :( RIP Mr. Knight

  42. UFFDA says

    I think suicide is a great idea. I applaud it every time. This life can be too hard and when it is you can put a stop to it. More power to anyone. What’s more it leaves no scar behind on anyone unless they allow it to. Otherwise it is to be celebrated and very possibly learned from. I have thought about it from time to time my whole life when things look bad, I still think about it and, so far, stop thinking about it as soon as my basic joy floods back in.

    As a culture we are not very healthy about death. Complete acceptance of it – though not necessarily of its reasons or means of occurring – is healthy. Basically, I look forward to it, but not right now.

  43. Sean says

    Way to show that you’re a judgmental ass Lee. You’re not better than those people who think we’re all sexual deviants who are after little boys!

    The other people here who just ASSUME they know why he died because of his profession sure don’t have a problem exploiting what they think they know about these people. A lot of these people are very well spoken, educated individuals who happen to have a job that most of us wouldn’t do thanks to shame of our bodies or what has been taught to us that it’s wrong. Yet you’ll jerk off to it any chance you can get!

  44. rise says

    The male-male porn industry chews them up and spits them out. I refuse to call it the gay porn industry because most of the men are bi, not gay.

    It’s an industry of soulless pimps and prostitutes addicted to meth and steroids.

  45. iam007nyc says

    This is devastating, it is beyond shameful, that because of what he
    did for a living, we judge,and ridicule this man. Not one posting I have seen
    so far, truly says that he was a human being, who quite possibly may have
    lost the only person who honestly loved him. I am completely aware of the
    business of sex, as most of us are, and no one enters that business without making sacrifices, even if they love sex more than some aspects of life. Whatever his personal history was, must have played a part in his decision to be in porn, but even if it wasn’t, it takes a certain
    presence of mind, to know your boundaries,
    and the boundaries of others. Not so easy, when everyone wants you physically, and at the same time, will dispose of you like a used napkin.

  46. says

    That gay porn is a vitality important calling for gay people is most indelibly revealed in sad circumstances such as these. It reveals the seething homophobia which lurks in the priggish assimilationists’ hearts.

    Whose fault was it that Wilfried Knight’s marriage was not recognized in many places? Assimilationists do not want to think that there could possibly be anything wrong with straight people, their society, and their cultural values. No, the blame must go to our industry – anything to avoid confronting the wickedness of straight standards.

  47. TJ says

    Having a loved one commit suicide ups the ante, is a risk factor, regardless of orientation/career. Where your love leaves, you are tempted to follow.

  48. Charles says

    Just on the ‘strong-minded’ thing. Pepression has nothing to do with strength and there is no man, however strong, who can think his way through mental illness alone and unaided. The only difference is that, in societies that are healthier, less atomised and have a greater sense of equality and community, depressed and unbalanced people tend to kill themselves, rather than their families, colleagues and children: this is why the only negative social index that is higher in Sweden and Japan is suicide: everything else: murder, spousal abuse, random shootings, drug addiction, alcoholism, compulsive promiscuity and mental illness, are higher in the USA. It’s the strong men and women who kill themselves: the weak ones kill everybody else.

  49. Charles says

    We have no evidence that this man killed himself and if he did: so what? Maybe he died of a broken heart. People didn’t used to mock at that, or call the broken-hearted names. Suicide is not ‘the easy way out': it is a profoundly difficult choice to make and a terrifying one, and the idea that it’s weak or evil is simply a by-product of a thoughtless society. No man or woman of any mental and emoptional staure hasn’t thought about it: they pros and cons of suicide: it is the foundation of all philosophy. Only cattle graze happily along thoughtless of death. Hamlet spent hours pondering why he shouldn’t die by his own hand; the Romans defined nobility by the way they died; Socrates drank hemlock rather than compromise. There is nothing dirty or weak about taking your own life, though it is always very sad.

  50. Charles says

    It would seem that the only group who take their own lives more than adult film actors are US military veterans.

    I don’t see the whole ‘weakness = suicide’ link.

  51. Charles says

    Judging most people’s lives, particularly the lives of most people in the US and the rest of the developing world against the grotesque size of their carbon footprint and the Mount Everest of garbage they create each year (by the time an American baby is ONE YEAR OLD he will have created more garbage than an entire village of African kids do in twenty years), and the ocean of water they drink, and the absolutely NOTHING that they do in terms of useful work: creative work of real benefit to others, I sometimes think suicide it the ONLY option. The next best thing is NOT having kids at all, as Doug Stanhope once said: ‘sodomy is eco-friendly and abortion is green’

  52. Caliban says

    You know, UFFDA, that might be the trolliest troll post that ever trolled.

    The German film industry during the Nazi era was UFA. That’s my mnemonic to remember you. Encouraging suicide? How nice.

    Indeed I think that the main philosophical question facing every person is, “to be or not to be.” But don’t be fooled. There is life or there is nothing. No fat cherubs, no gold streets, no new age horsesh*t either. You are either alive in in the ONE life we get or you don’t exist, a memory at best.

    And life has value for its own sake. The lowest forms of life will fight to continue. It’s only Man who will give it up so easily. For glory, out of sadness, whatever. Our forebears didn’t have that luxury. Life is really the only thing you have worth having. Not your house, not your car, not anything. Not your lover/husband. Trust in Jesus? Well, good luck with that. Because there is f*ck all we know except that we are here now and then we are gone.

    So don’t waste it. For example by posting pro-suicide horsesh*it like UFFDA. So to him I’d say “You first, @sshole.”

  53. says

    @ LEE :

    “these types of people…..”

    You need to show more respect.
    And since when did we all become so judgmental about who is and is not “a productive member of society….”
    Your posts are just so off base as to be bad manner and oafish.
    He obviously had difficulties with the loss of his partner and the run up to that.
    It ill behoves us to write in trite and self righteous comments about another human’s pain.

  54. says

    This is so sad…

    Those of you with the clarity to understand the under availability of mental health care to lower-income folks, like our bartenders, actors, students, sex workers etc. should learn about San Francisco’s non-profit Queer LifeSpace…they are serving exactly this population.

    If you wish to take action to help prevent this kind of thing, I suggest you support this organization in the name of Wilfried or one of the other popular stars who’ve died in the past year here: http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/move-a-queer-project?c=home

  55. Jack M says

    People commit suicide because they think they have no alternatives; some people don’t think life is worth living after they have lost a loved one. Simple as that.

  56. Michaelandfred says

    According to the blog of a personal friend, he killed himself shortly after the suicide of his husband, in the hotel where they had been married. Not meth, not metal illness (he didn’t do drugs and rarely drank) but the tragic loss of a husband torn apart by years of immigration difficulties and lack of legal recognition of their marriage.

    To kill yourself after the loss of a spouse, such love and heartache…and the nasty bitches here can only assume meth and a “serves him right for doing porn” lemming mentality…. Pathetic.

  57. A.B. says

    Folks, you need to read Wilfried’s blog post to understand before commenting. This, as mentioned earlier, has EVERYTHING to do with DOMA and the twisted corporate homophobia of LULULEMON (which I’ve experienced first hand, similar to what Wilfried’s partner did). READ his blog and get clarity on the story. This is a tragic ending for two people in love who tried everything they could to have a life together. Also, if your lady friend’s buy/wear Lululemon yoga clothes, you might do yourself and the entire gay community a favor by alerting them to this story. Discourage them from shopping there. Here’s the link to Wilfried’s blog:
    http://wilfried-knight.net/?p=822

  58. David Hearne says

    What some people around here apparently aren’t aware of is that an internet forum uses news and articles as a springboard for conversation. Nothing is to be taken personally. Just as we choose to participate here, and get called names by the likes of Kiwi and Derrick, so any public figure chooses to expose himself to public opinion.

    And to the idiot who keeps repeating it: DOMA did not kill anyone. DOMA is administrative law and a bad one at that. It isn’t not, however, fatal.

  59. David says

    I hate the speculation, but we need to stop idolizing these kinds of buffed up unhealthy bodies. Sure it’s just a fantasy, but it spills out and leads non porn stars to want to obtain the same look — often using dangerous means of getting there.

  60. Fensox says

    Someone please explain failure to me. I am pretty sure it is impossible to fail at life. How can anyone who attempts suicide be considered a weak failure? They made easily the hardest decision of their lives with conviction.

    You don’t know why they did something, and they don’t want you to know. Live with your loss.

  61. Francis says

    David, what you don’t get is, that DOMA is literally both driving people out and keep people from living in the country they love, or aspire to live in. And when you’re forced to move, to Canada or a London, you would think the discrimination ends in terms of legalized discrimination of your relationship. But it doesn’t. On top of the every-day discrimination we face in society, and in this case, workplace discrimination.

    Then, the one person you have in your life by your side, who has been through all of the travails, through all the struggles with you, held your hand and the man you supported when he was down and needed love, the man who supported you, ends up committing suicide after being pushed beyond his breaking point. I’m glad most of the responses have been respectful but for you, David, and Lee, you don’t seem to get it. You probably have no idea what living with a broken heart feels like.

    Suicide ain’t an easy answer. You’re killing yourself. That’s not an easy place to get to. It’s difficult which is why most suicide attempts do not result in an actual suicide, because most people truly do not want to kill themselves. When you truly want to and/or do kill yourself, then the trauma levels are clearly extremely high. It’s a tragedy. Suicide isn’t the best answer, but it’s an understandable one. There is only so much a human being can take.

  62. Francis says

    David, what you don’t get is, that DOMA is literally both driving people out and keep people from living in the country they love, or aspire to live in. And when you’re forced to move, to Canada or a London, you would think the discrimination ends in terms of legalized discrimination of your relationship. But it doesn’t. On top of the every-day discrimination we face in society, and in this case, workplace discrimination.

    Then, the one person you have in your life by your side, who has been through all of the travails, through all the struggles with you, held your hand and the man you supported when he was down and needed love, the man who supported you, ends up committing suicide after being pushed beyond his breaking point. I’m glad most of the responses have been respectful but for you, David, and Lee, you don’t seem to get it. You probably have no idea what living with a broken heart feels like.

    Suicide ain’t an easy answer. You’re killing yourself. That’s not an easy place to get to. It’s difficult which is why most suicide attempts do not result in an actual suicide, because most people truly do not want to kill themselves. When you truly want to and/or do kill yourself, then the trauma levels are clearly extremely high. It’s a tragedy. Suicide isn’t the best answer, but it’s an understandable one. There is only so much a human being can take.

  63. boone68 says

    “@ian we should celebrate the lives of actual productive members of society like actors, doctors, novelists, and political leaders not a whore. if that’s your only talent in life then an ambiguous death is rightly deserved.

    Posted by: lee | Mar 11, 2013 9:00:13 PM”

    Lee, your cruelty is astounding. You’re worse than the homophobic bigots carrying “god hates fags” signs. How dare you lecture anyone about “productive[ity]”. You seem to have a lot idol time to be posting your hate all over the internet. Get a job. Preferably one that doesn’t require any interaction with decent humanity.

  64. jamal49 says

    Gee, Jerry, in that case, why don’t you get lost?

    This is sad and I agree with Isaac. Someone who commits suicide is not “weak”. They have a mental illness.

    Someone I know and loved very, very much committed suicide two years ago this April. There was not even a hint that such a thing might happen. But it did. It left us all in shock and wondering what did we miss? Where did we fail our friend?

    There are no answers. But, no one who commits suicide should ever be dismissed as “weak”. Judging from some of the idiotic comments here, the only weak ones are those whose hearts cannot muster even an iota of compassion.

    Wilfried Knight, R.I.P.

  65. NorthoftheBorder says

    so many of you are quick to jump to conclusions about his chosen profession and the choice he made to take his life. If you do a little digging and find the real truth behind the story, you’ll discover that his partner had recently committed suicide after losing his job in Canada, forcing them to move back to the US where their Canadian Marriage would not be recognized, and Knight, as a French National, would not be allowed to stay in the US. After being together for 9 years, I think this type of potential separation would lead to desperation and heartache. One partner takes his life, then Knight, losing everything since gay marriage is not recognized by your fricken country all assets go to the his partner’s family and he gets nada. Its tragic, absolutely, regardless of Knight’s past as a porn star. Him being one, has no bearing on this sad ending of what was likely a wonderful relationship, with problems only brought upon by the US Government’s policy against equal rights for LGBT couples.

  66. TheQueen says

    First of all, R.I.P. to Wilfried Knight. Never watched his film but he deserves respect because sex work is not dirty.

    However, I am APPALLED at this site. I checked the “deaths” tab and found not ONE mention of Erica Andrews’ passing. Truly DISGUSTING how many of you so-called “gay men” basically ignore the passing of a transwoman/drag superstar but mourn like you lost a loved one over a muscle bound, clearly masculine man you didn’t know either.

  67. says

    nothing but compassion for all who will be missing him.

    as for the snarky miserable comments….folks, let’s be real: we’re reading cowardly anonymous disses. by whom? folks who use porn as their ONLY (and gurl i mean ONLY) form of sexual release, who are now pretending some faux-moral “highroad”

    a man is dead. and trolls rejoice.
    everyone with a functioning heart extends only sympathy.

  68. anony6 says

    To the Suicide Bashers:

    I’m not even surprised to see the amount of people deriding suicide victims to make themselves look stronger, smarter, more capable, and contrarily more compassionate.

    Not killing yourself for the sake of others is not what makes you compassionate. Actively tending to, and caring for others is what makes you compassionate. A care that is apparently lacking judging by your comments

    ………..

    Tragic that this individual life’s ended so unnecessarily. (assuming suicide)

  69. says

    Wilfried’s partner of 7 years killed himself AND laid out pills and wine so Wilfried could follow. He didn’t do so on the day he found his loved one dead, but still followed suit weeks later. This is not about Wilfried’s work in porn, this is about the pain a gay couple felt that the world didn’t seem to have a way for them to be together.

    Its sad they felt so hopeless just as we are starting to make the strides that will make marriage equality possible.

    Lets hope this doesn’t spark similar tragedies.

  70. Craig S says

    Lee: sure, there are some porn stars who are nasty people you wouldn’t want to invite over for dinner — just as there are some doctors, lawyers, mainstream actors, musicians, politicians, writers, veterinarians, sales clerks, chefs, bus drivers, winemakers, graphic designers and baristas who fit that description too. But there are just as many or more people in all of those occupations who are great people and deserve every bit as much love and respect as you or I do.

    One’s occupation doesn’t imply anything either way about one’s worth as a human being, not even if that occupation is “porn star”. So kindly take your sex-phobic attitudes and stow them.

  71. Fensox says

    @Thequeen, it doesn’t take much to appall you then. Try reading any comments for any story and that will get you something to be appalled about.

    If you actually want a story that you feel should be reported on, then I would, you know, EMAIL IT TO THE DAMN SITE. Andy can’t be on top of everything.

  72. Randy says

    It would be nice once in a while to read some articles on Towleroad about porn performers who aren’t dead.

    By focusing on this man’s career, and jumping to report his death ahead of even knowing the cause, you’ve made the story a debate about his career, instead of what might have been a more interesting story about his long-term relationship, and the intensity of their bond.

  73. ryan says

    As a person who suffers from depression, I have to say I am so sick and tired of people saying that someone who commits suicide a weak minded person. I struggle everyday with thoughts of suicide, but don’t go thinking I am not strong minded. It hurts day to day living in this world, but I fight to go on. Its hard to live in this world where there is such a stigma on mental illness. People like me and others have a hard time talking about it and trusting others because of how most people look at depression and other disorders.

    I feel bad for Wilfred and his family and friends. People need to wake up. If this had been a teen being bullied, people would feel bad, but because of what this man did for a living, he’s not deserving of the same respect? When is the gay community going to really become a community and give equal respect to all members, no matter what. Its about time we start looking out for each other.

    Sorry if it was a lot of rambling. Just something that has been on my mind for a while.

  74. Joseph Singer says

    @Lee, you sound like a very bitter person. Perhaps if you put someone’s interest besides your own you’d have a better outlook on life. You evidently think that unless someone works in a line of work that’s acceptable to you then they have no worth. Work in porn is “icky” and of course you’ve never watched porn so you wouldn’t benefit them now would you? You really do sound like a heartless person.

  75. Wilberforce says

    Many porn stars seem to die early, and I wonder if it is caused by the extreme objectification in the industry, in which people don’t have identity beyond the physical.
    But the queer mainstream have objectified each other forever, and they won’t stop to consider what harm it might be doing.

  76. Arrant says

    “Porn is one of the few if not the only way kids, or guys sexually questioning/confused/struggling, can really see two guys have sex and make love and see what they connect with in a natural way.”

    I’m sorry this man is dead, and that his partner committed suicide. May they rest in peace. But the above statement is ridiculous. Teenagers of all sexual orientations receive harmful and unhealthy perceptions about sex when they watch the vast majority of porn. Gay teens, unless they are watching the tamest Bel Ami offering, are ingesting images of barebacking, multiple partners, S&M, fisting, etc. presented as the sexual norm. Personally, I’d rather they grope around in the backseat of a car or in a friend’s cellar figuring it out one awkward grope at a time, then get their sex ed from porn stars.

  77. John says

    I always find the comments on porn star deaths deplorable. For a group o men who argue that African Americans shouldn’t discriminate against gays because they know what it’s like to be discriminated against, so many gay men are quick to marginalize sex workers (and that marginalization contributes to less access to support services for those in need). We so often demand that the religious right stop subjecting us to their moral code, but we are quick to condemn those who don’t follow our personal code.

    So few gay men are serious about equality. They don’t care to eliminate hierarchies and end discrimination and marginalization. They only want to restructure the hierarchies so that we’re no longer at the bottom and are so willing to condone discrimination as long as we’re not on the receiving end.

  78. TheGay says

    Arrant, I have to agree with you; but creepy, ugly, lonely old men and closeted Republicans and drugged-out queens need to get off somehow, since nobody will touch them.

    And what would “the community” be without elevating those who sell their sexual image for public consumption to practically sainthood status ?

    After all, you aren’t anyone until you sell (or more pathetically, GIVE it away for free !) your image to the general public, and proclaim yourself better than everyone else for doing so…

    My sincerest condolences to his friends and family.

    My just as sincere condolences to the friends and family of all the gay men who are not media idols who die by their own hands in obscurity.

    I think all THOSE people deserve some sort of occasional mention and impassioned remarks just as much as somebody who sold their own image for profit.

  79. stpetegreg says

    Please guys, give Lee a break. He hasn’t had his diaper changed in a few days and obviously can’t think clearly. It has also affected whatever small sense of empathy or compassion he may have. There is no arguing with someone that is so self-centered they can’t see how idiotic and small their opinions are. To those who commented how this is a non-story, since you took the time to read the article (hopefully) and comment, it must be more important to you than you are trying to make us believe, unless you have absolutely nothing better to do in your pitiful little life than to complain about something you believe isn’t relevant, which is probably the case and I’m sorry. Wow, you are just incredibly sad.

  80. stpetegreg says

    Please guys, give Lee a break. He hasn’t had his diaper changed in a few days and obviously can’t think clearly. It has also affected whatever small sense of empathy or compassion he may have. There is no arguing with someone that is so self-centered they can’t see how idiotic and small their opinions are. To those who commented how this is a non-story, since you took the time to read the article (hopefully) and comment, it must be more important to you than you are trying to make us believe, unless you have absolutely nothing better to do in your pitiful little life than to complain about something you believe isn’t relevant, which is probably the case and I’m sorry. Wow, you are just incredibly sad.

  81. Fensox says

    I wish the bulk of his films wernt Lucas. I was gonna check one of em out tonight but I can’t support Michael Lucas. Can anyone recommend another?

  82. Swiminbuff says

    Amazing how many gay or supposedly gay men seem to have a problem with porn or those who perform in it. I don’t think I would believe any man gay or str8 if you claimed never to have watched porn or looked at a skin magazine. IIRC Wilfred had actually practiced law in Europe before begining his adult career so the guy had brains as well as a body that men lusted after. He appeared in films that other men bought and watched.
    A grieving man died. Cause as yet unknown. Sympathy to his family, friends and co-workers.
    Time for the trolls to go back to their closets where everything in clean and pure and there is no suggestion of man on man sex and they can all pretend to be holier than thou.

  83. Jason says

    I actually knew him. When he came over from France as a young man to work in Harrods foodhall. Saying that he had mental or drugs issues just goes to show how shallow our attitudes can be at times. Yes, he was a porn actor, above all he was a human being, a damned fine one at that. I will miss him as I know many of us that knew him would

  84. sad fan says

    I cannot believe some people writing such negative comments! :/

    Wilfried wasn’t just a porn actor, he was a person, a human being. He lost his husband (who wasn’t porn actor) who commited suicide and left him bottle of wine and pills to join him, which Wilfried unfortunately did just two weeks after…it’s almost like a modern Romeo & Juliet story.

    This tragic loss has nothing to do with porn industry but with some terrible life circumstances. I just wish I could give this nice man a friendly hug and confort him…and I hope he’s now with his husband in some nicer, calmer and happier place.

    R.I.P.

  85. Sam says

    For you high and mighty, nasty trolls who say this is not gay news, your sociological radar isn’t working right. Porn is as much gay entertainment as is theatre and television. Deal with it. For those who say they have no patience or compassion for these people, congratulations, you’re part of the problem.

  86. Shepard says

    Sorry, but I don’t think the death of any pornstar is news. Anyone that sells themselves for sex is garbage, be it pornstar, hooker, escort, or whatever. Thats just the way I see it. They don’t benefit humanity in any way, so big whoop, another piece of garbage is gone, only to be replaced by another worthless thing tomorrow.

  87. Tom says

    I had no idea there were so many pious, holier-than-thou, self-righteous pricks who feel the need to speak ill of the dead here on Towleroad. What a sad state of affairs.

  88. CH says

    They lived in Vancouver and I’m sorry but that city is nothing but full of drugs and a desperate gay community. It’s not a very happy place to be right now, tons of people gay and straight are depressed and on meds. For being “the best place on earth” as the tourism board touts, it sure has a high degree of drug use.

    Sadly, no one close to these guys will admit partying with them or perhaps even stepping in to see what they could help with. The gay guys there are so extremely self-absorbed, they want everything but provide very little back. It’s a vile place.

  89. Jimi says

    I find it ironic that those slamming Wilfred Chevalier “Knight” regarding his porn life, still managed to find this site and post their disparaging comments. If they are so anti porn, how is it they manage to maneuver their way here to share such generalized, uneducated and vitriolic words.

    As Francis posted, read the blog and find out what it is to have to work an immigration system that will not work with you. Discover what it’s like to be trapped in a job in big business because you need that job. Take a peek at what depression can truly do to an individual and those who love them.

    This death and the obit are not about porn; they are a reflection of what society does to gay men and women. And those of you who slam these individuals without knowing a thing about them, can consider yourselves a part of that society as well.

    His death was not a sign of weakness, but a reflection on the depth of his love for his partner and husband; and a hard look at what society can do to that love.

    Raging Stallion was his second family, and was probably the only support he truly had. Don’t slam the industry if you don’t know the inside of it and the people who are in charge. There are companies out there that use and toss their models to the lions, yes. Raging Stallion and Chris Ward do not fall into that category; particularly when it comes to such honourable and decent men like Wilfred.

  90. Freddo says

    For all those above who have compassion and understanding, the world and its people have hope and a chance. You are people with heart and feelings. To those of you who have made such horrible comments and biggoted remarks, without even knowing or understanding the circumstances, you have nothing. Why, pray tell, is it even necessary for you to say what you do. May God pay pitty upon you – for you will never be the real person or half the man that Wilfred and his partner were.

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