Comments

  1. MaryM says

    His son has not ‘come out’ – he is straigt; and part of the majority.

    Does Towleroad need a lesson in what ‘coming out’ actually means as it is CONSTANTLY belittling the coming out process by claiming that politicians who support equality are ‘coming out’.

  2. bandanajack says

    @marym unless you are part of that family you have no idea what the process was like for their son. coming out as a process has many meanings beyond coming out as gay. as a gay man, and a recovering alcoholic, revealing either to a friend, employer or loved one can be agonizing. i am also part of another sexual minority, about which i came out fully 30 years after i came out as gay. no one assigned you as sole purveyor of the meaning of a phrase, any phrase. get over yourself, mary, as the queens in the piano bar used to say.

  3. seatown says

    It’s only a matter of time before some of the real stories about Dan and the real housewife of Seattle leak out. They’re just lucky that the kid will never be able to write a tell-all. He deserved better.

  4. Jerry says

    There is nothing gays hate worse than successful gays. Look at the hate here in these comments.

  5. Jack M says

    I love Dan, his husband is hot, and I wish them all the best. Dan is our advocate, as much as some gays want to hate him.

  6. Paul says

    Nothing worse than an attention seeking media whore. He does nothing but depict the worst part of the gay “community”.

  7. MIke says

    Does Instagram exhibitionist underwear modeling pay well? Well, since there are so many.

  8. MaryM says

    “unless you are part of that family you have no idea what the process was like for their son. coming out as a process has many meanings beyond coming out as gay”

    NO-ONE comes out as straight. It is the majority of society.

    politicians who support equality are NOT coming out – they are taking no personal risk.

    Towleroad continually belittles the bravery of LGBT people who come out of the closet into a hostile and dangerous world by pretending that straight people are doing something similar by simply being decent human beings.

  9. Mike Ryan says

    He!s great and one of the best role models for the gay community. Funny too – so quit looking at his smoking hot husband!

  10. says

    Oh Mary! (m) Are you immune to rhetorical subtlety? The kid as raised by Dan and Terry — a gay family. Straights invariably expect their offspring will be just like them sexually. Dan was simply toying wit the reverse. He and Terry are gay and the kid isn’t, so the id had to “come out” to the as straight. It’s very simple really.

    But alas far too complex for the likes of you.

  11. MateoM says

    Jerry, it’s only the trolls who have a problem with Dan. I for one think he’s great, and many others do as well.

  12. Paul says

    I love how people are called “trolls” because they don’t fawn over and kiss the ass of so caleld gay “leaders” or “role models”. God forbid someone doesn’t think these are people to be looking up to.

  13. says

    Looking forward to the book! His work “The Commitment” is bloody terrific and a great read.

    He will always have his detractors, but it’s not stopped him for working his keister off.

    even Savage is very pointed about his “status”, if you will, as a “leader” or “role-model” – he’s both by default, by his own admission. He’s simply choosing to stand out, and speak out. Anyone who feels he’s doing a bad job is more than free to make themselves just as visible and vocal.

    So, have at it.

  14. Arrested Adolescence says

    Savage is a net gain for the LGBT community, and advocates very strongly on a lot of issues, though not on EVERY issue. He does seem to enjoy the attention a little too much, the performance aspect of his advocacy role, the platform to shock, the opportunity to confront, and the license to say too much. To be fair, these are probably some of the same traits that make him an effective advocate, but he always seems to overstep.

    He’s attractive enough for an older man, but his personal style almost always ends up annoying me. He doesn’t seem to be able to reconcile himself as anything other than a flirty, flighty 20-something year old twink, when in fact he’s pushing up close on 50. It just seems like with all he’s experienced and accomplished, he’d have assumed a little more gravitas by now rather than being in this state of perpetual gay adolescence. He reminds me of that 40-something year old mom of your friend who always tries to act like she’s 16, but convinces no one.

    I have to tip my hat to him for all he’s done, but even as I’m wanting to give him his due, he’s annoying me personally. And yeah, I do have this uncomfortable feeling that one day the whole story will be revealed about his private life, and it won’t be pretty, and it may reduces his effetiveness as an LGBT advocate.

  15. Leo says

    You’re not a troll if you disagree with some things Dan has said and positions he’s taken. God forbid the community doesn’t move in lock step.

    Pro’s
    The “It Gets Better” project is a huge, wonderful movement.
    About 75% of the advice he imparts on his column.
    (I’m forgetting many more)

    Con’s
    – Dan Savage believes bisexuals should only date other bisexuals
    – Used transphobia to belittle politicians he disagreed with
    – Prop 8 > There’s those that stick to reason with the facts, then there’s those that use those unfortunate data #’s to air out barely veiled racism that was there to begin with. Dan is the latter.
    – Hell-bent on reclaiming the word “***got” in the sake of destroying political correctness when he knows it’s potency and context hasn’t gone away
    (I’m forgetting many more)

    Again, I’m not a troll, nor am I a GOProud member (nor conservative), or anything else his rabid defenders will try to sling at me on here (including LittleKiwi’s aliases of people — fyi it’s getting old).

    Unlike the misogyny of a Rick, the racism of a Ratbastard, or the borderline-psychotic gun toting of a David Hearne, I’m a sane poster here letting you know there ARE a sizeable amount of people IN the community that don’t welcome Dan’s self-appointed role of community spokesman because they think the con’s outweigh the pro’s and make reasoned arguments doing so – it’s possible. Did it ever occur to anyone that Dan from a place of privilege has a much easier time being and accepted as said spokesman? I’m NOT saying he shouldn’t be one, but for his detractors to all single-handedly be thrown under the bus in the broad brush cause of “uniting the movement” is wrong.

    He’s not the devil but he’s certainly no saint either. *Off soapbox*

    P.S. When the **** is Andy changing his commenting section? Ever?

  16. jleo71 says

    @ Paul – Let’s not forget that if not for people like Dan we would still be back in the closet. These are the people who dare to put themselves in the front line so that you don’t have to.

  17. James says

    Oh damn, I really hate to say this, but Marym….

    You dear, are a moron.

    Go back to burrowing your nose in your religion. You were much happier when you weren’t trying to understand sophisticated language usage of actual adults.

    “…the animals boaded the ark, two by two I tells ya!!! Two by Two!”

  18. Bill says

    Coming out CAN happen to straight people. I have some friends who are a same-sex male couple who co-parented 4 children with a lesbian couple. When their eldest daughter was a teenager, she went through a major crisis about being straight because she thought her parents would feel betrayed if she told them she was straight. When she got up the courage to tell them, she received 100% love and support, but the anxiety she felt before she told her parents was very similar to what gay kids experience before they come out to straight parents.

  19. Toin Coss says

    Agree with Arrested–Savage often seems to overstep. He’s very good about engaging on the issues, and usually makes an effective case for the LGBT perspective. But then he comes out to take his bow, to show everyone how clever he is, or what an ironic insight he had, or to give that little extra shock-jab to the straighties, and he ends up diminishing both himself and his argument.

    If he could just learn that he doesn’t have to perform to inform, he’d be a lot more effective, especially as he gets older.

    This interview is a good example. Kind of skeezy to watch Savage (as a married father) flirt with the interviewer. Why the ‘clever’ aside about internet porn? Does he really need to interject the idea of the interviewer ejaculating to the images of Terry? Did he need to juxtapose the idea of Savage ejaculating against the journalist’s relative youth? Boundaries, Dan? Yeah, too much information.

    It’s this kind of thing that makes the hairs on the back of my neck twitch uncomfortably about Savage. Can you imagine if we saw Santorum leering at some young female Catholic journalist, and making inappropriate comments? Even jokingly? That’s the same uncomfortable feeling I have about Savage.

  20. JT says

    I agree with Arrested Adolescence and Leo. Meanwhile, as someone who lives in Seattle and sees him out, I was surprised by how small he is. He’s so tiny he could fit in your pocket. For some reason, from seeing him on TV, I thought he would be taller. That’s about as much time I spend thinking about Dan Savage.

  21. says

    “Dan’s self-appointed role of community spokesman…”:

    That needs correcting, Leo. As I said before, and as Dan has said a billion times (to apparently deaf ears), he’s only a spokesman by DEFAULT.

    As in, because nobody else seems to be stepping up to the plate to be as visible and vocal.

    he’s not self-appointed. words are important, Leo, so use the proper words and proper terms. self-appointed is wholly incorrect.

    as for privilege – there’s someting that very vocal and out and visible gay people understand: if they come from a place of provilege, they’ll understand it and speak out. a lot.

    as dan has done. and continues to do.

    you also mis-attributed the “bisexuals should only date bisexuals” thing to dan. it’s ok. it happens. but it’s a misattribution. therefore incorrect.

    seriously, folks, read his book “The Commitment”.

    although it may disappoint you by not giving you much fuel for hatred.
    he’s not shy about his opinions, nor his personal sexual life. so you shouldn’t be to worried about them, either.

    unless one is prepared to be just as visible and vocal and outspoken as Dan, one’s criticisms of him will fall, yes, on deaf ears. protest in a vacuum.

  22. Josh says

    Dan does a fantastic job representing the lower middle class gay. Rather like our Canadian commenter.

  23. mark says

    Anyone who doesn’t like Dan should write their own book, blog, and get booked on a talk show.

    I understand disagreeing but not the cheap shots.

    And yeah Terry is hot. And Dan is successful. So what if he’s opinionated. Like people here are shy? The personal attacks are stupid. And “gay rules” are soooooo boring. Can’t be over 40, can’t flirt, can’t wear a t shirt and hoodie. Who cares?

  24. Ed says

    Having an “underwear model” is the gay version of the guy in Vegas dating the woman with the biggest rack. Who cares?

  25. ratbastard says

    Please explain why this guy gets so much publicity? From what I know of him, he doesn’t appear to be a particularly nice man, and I’m not sure what he does for the gay community is particularly noteworthy. I’m sure there are many people in other minority groups who think the same thing about some of their alleged ‘advocates’ and community leaders.

  26. Zlick says

    Yes, Dan is the primo LGBT rights spokesman by default. Where is ANYONE else who consistently speaks to the points so effectively and logically, while also being eloquent and humorous? There’s no one. Crickets. Therefore, it’s always Dan the media turns to because he can speak without saying “like” and “uh” every few words, has his points down and states them effectively, and speaks with cleverness and humor and, therefore, entertainment value.

    As soon as someone else with those skills and inclinations comes along, let us know. Till then, yeah, it’s constantly Dan Savage.

    Like everyone, he has faults. But who else is there?

  27. ty says

    I like Dan allot, he is as good and smart as it gets. I do agree that his clothing could take a step up. The “just out of hot yoga” look is not age appropriate. A dress shirt, loose tie and blazer says “success” a bit better.

  28. says

    Zlick – I suppose we have some folks who want a “gay spokesperson who is more like them” – but last i checked it was sort of hard to get a charisma-deficient and semi-closeted gay man who only shares his opinions via anonymous internet messageboards to go on TV and speak about anything. right?

    i remember the ridiculous criticisms of the It Gets Better campaign. Saying it was for “attention wh0res” and was “just all about Dan.”

    except…..no.

    Dan is not the campaign, and the campaign is not Dan.

    anyone, literally ANYONE, can make a video, share it with the world, and include in it the specifics messages and guides that they feel will be most beneficial to young people, and not-so-young people in our communities. and our allies.

    alas, rather than do that, and make their own darn video, they’d rather type endless and meaningless rants against dan savage.

    hating dan more than they care about helping youth.

    tits. on. a. fish.

  29. ratbastard says

    I suppose ‘Zlick’ is Raymond Miller of Toronto, or a co-hort. ty too?

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  36. MateoM says

    It’s an insult to the legions of people who work quietly behind the scenes and out of the spotlight supporting and promoting LGBT causes to say the only way to be an effective advocate is to be a LOOK-AT-ME!,in-their-faces self-promoter like Dan Savage always seems to devolve into.

    That’s PRECISELY the criticism of Savage, and it’s a legitimate one. He does a fair enough job of making a pro-gay argument, then devolves into screaming sh!t storm when he starts insulting the people who oppose him. When he learns to advocate without self-promoting and personalizing, he’ll earn broader respect.

    As things stand, his most ardent supporters and admirers are the fawning, loud-mouthed, Savage-wannabes like Kiwi, who unfortunately simply don’t have the talent, the good looks, or the self-promotion skills.

    Just because you CAN post multiple times on each issue, Kiwi, doesn’t mean you should. Repeating the same lame arguments doesn’t make them stronger, it just makes them tireder.

  37. MateoM says

    It’s an insult to the legions of people who work quietly behind the scenes and out of the spotlight supporting and promoting LGBT causes to say the only way to be an effective advocate is to be a LOOK-AT-ME!,in-their-faces self-promoter like Dan Savage always seems to devolve into.

    That’s PRECISELY the criticism of Savage, and it’s a legitimate one. He does a fair enough job of making a pro-gay argument, then devolves into screaming sh!t storm when he starts insulting the people who oppose him. When he learns to advocate without self-promoting and personalizing, he’ll earn broader respect.

    As things stand, his most ardent supporters and admirers are the fawning, loud-mouthed, Savage-wannabes like Kiwi, who unfortunately simply don’t have the talent, the good looks, or the self-promotion skills.

    Just because you CAN post multiple times on each issue, Kiwi, doesn’t mean you should. Repeating the same lame arguments doesn’t make them stronger, it just makes them tireder.

  38. MateoM says

    It’s an insult to the legions of people who work quietly behind the scenes and out of the spotlight supporting and promoting LGBT causes to say the only way to be an effective advocate is to be a LOOK-AT-ME!,in-their-faces self-promoter like Dan Savage always seems to devolve into.

    That’s PRECISELY the criticism of Savage, and it’s a legitimate one. He does a fair enough job of making a pro-gay argument, then devolves into screaming sh!t storm when he starts insulting the people who oppose him. When he learns to advocate without self-promoting and personalizing, he’ll earn broader respect.

    As things stand, his most ardent supporters and admirers are the fawning, loud-mouthed, Savage-wannabes like Kiwi, who unfortunately simply don’t have the talent, the good looks, or the self-promotion skills.

    Just because you CAN post multiple times on each issue, Kiwi, doesn’t mean you should. Repeating the same lame arguments doesn’t make them stronger, it just makes them tireder.

  39. Ryan says

    Why is it that dan savage can’t be dan savage? he never claimed the mantle of “gay leader” he is just one of a number of decent folk with a big, self-made platform.

    I happen to love the guy, but even if I didn’t, the hatred directed at him here in many of the comments make no sense, particularly given that the interview was completely innocuous and noncontroversial.

    are people just bitter? trolling? jealous? I’ve been reading Towleroad and commenting for years and years now – there were always a couple trolls, but the comments weren’t always such a complete and utter cesspool.

    I sincerely hope Andy gets a new comment system – it’s well passed time sign ins are required and people are beld accountable for what they say.

    -ryan

  40. Derrick from Philly says

    should be, “I don’t think the above posting IS from MateoM”

  41. Paul says

    Apparently some people believe the only way to affect change is to seek out media attention. Alas, most change is done way under the radar, away from the media spotlight by people who don’t want the attention. They just live their life, don’t create a media/online persona like Dan Savage and others on here, and make a difference with no expectation of being recognized for it.

  42. Paul says

    I still get a laugh about a man whose blog and syndicated column that is full of bullying and snarky remarks started the “It Gets Better” campaign. It gets better, unless he wants to take a pot shot at you.

  43. says

    I laugh at people who do nothing who choose to pathetically (and always anonymously) lob angry nonsense towards a man who’s done a lot ­čśÇ

    There are people who use the internet, aka the WORLD WIDE WIBE, to extend their reach – getting their messages to people in those less-populated and less-enlightened places.

    And then there are people who expend more energy giving excuses to not do anything than to actually, you know, do something.

    But hey – that’s what happens.

    Person A puts themselves out into the world and affects change.

    Person B sits at home bitterly and pretends that doing nothing but complaining about Person A makes them a hero..

    it don’t, sugarpie ­čśë

  44. MateoM says

    Whoever posted as my me on page 2 isn’t me. I was in class (senior in college). Though I’m glad I’ve irritated the trolls on here to the point where they feel the need to impersonate me. Extremely flattered.

    Thanks for recognizing me, Kiwi. I appreciate it. We anti-trolls have to stick together

    I love how they posted under my name, when on page one I commented on how I only the trolls could dislike Dan Savage. I guess I was just proven right, eh?

  45. Penthouse View says

    Just for the record, Kiwi…

    You know as soon as we get this marriage equality thing done, the mainstream upper- and middle-class gays will go right back to looking down on people like you, right? Rainbow riff-raff is still riff-raff.

    To paraphrase what Lydia Hawksworth said at Hyacinth Bucket’s candlelight supper, “Kiwi is such a lower middle class fruit, don’t you think?”

    I mean, we may be on the same subway car for now, but we do get off at different stops.

    So take your tattoos and your tacky pit bull out to Far Rockaway already.

  46. Markust123 says

    I really don’t understand all the hate toward Dan. He is the Malcolm X version of our movement. We would not have gained as much traction if we just let peaceful people represent us (Or in Dan’s case non-shocking people). Dan works tirelessly to keep the gay movement going forward. His views get into the main stream because they are shocking. At least he is bridging the gap between the straight and gay world. If you want acceptance you may want to start with Dan. The haters are going against their self interest by hating on him. You sound like the Tea Party hating on healthcare reform – idiotic. Besides I really don’t see anyone else jumping up to go on the news shows to represent our side. I thank Dan for being there for us.

  47. MateoM says

    Oh, and one more thing, I may ride Kiwi’s nutsack on here rhetorically, but that does not necessarily mean I’d want to have sex with him and his dog and his daddy bear boyfriend.

    Not necessarily.

  48. says

    The good news, Troll, is that I stopped caring what other people think about me the moment I Came Out.

    feel free to follow suit. ­čśë

    @Markust – SPOT ON!

    Yes, Savage-haters. You don’t want to see him on TV. Does that mean you’re prepared to take his place? No? Didn’t freakin’ think so.

    ­čśë

  49. says

    I just don’t understand how a sweet interview like that can draw such ire.

    Get a life and you may not be as jealous of those who already have one.

    I’m Happy for Dan Savage and his beefcake hubby. They’ve done a lot to help LGBTs.

  50. ratbastard says

    #Newsflash:

    That ‘wimpy-troll’ Raymond Miller of Toronto was referring to was most likely himself, using ‘Mateo’ to criticize himself.

    Mr. Miller [AKA Little kiwi] loves baiting and trolling under various assumed ‘anonymous’ names people he disagrees with with stuff like ‘jokes’ about their mom and dad being raped and murdered, and enjoying it.

    Mr. Miller also like to post troll posts which he then proceeds to respond to with feigned outrage.

  51. MateoM says

    “I may ride Kiwi’s nutsack on here rhetorically, but that does not necessarily mean I’d want to have sex with him and his dog and his daddy bear boyfriend.

    Not necessarily.”

    Ok, troll (likely Ratbastard, who stoops to this level often and is usually the one peson on here most agitated by my criticism), even I laughed at this. If you think I take myself so seriously that I can’t laugh at these comments you post under my name, you’re wrong.

    That being said, I usually don’t use nutsack in my comments. I’m slightly more eloquent than that.

    I’m glad Kiwi and I, the anti-trolls with several other posters on here, don’t take your trolling to heart, Rat. And I’m glad we’re putting you on the defensive. It reveals just how intellectually weak you are.

    Back to the topic…..I applaud Dan Savage and his lovely family. May we all be so lucky to achieve such happiness in our lifetimes.

  52. BTW says

    When does the Kiwi show end? If you got a look at this guy’s site, you see he wouldn’t get a second glance on the street. I suppose it’s his charming self-centered, contrary over everything, personality that sells. Maybe in person all this melts away.

  53. Paul says

    It’s a good thing most of us who do good on a daily basis don’t need to be recognized or advertise to the world about our good deeds. Those who claim to do good and seek attention are only doing it so they can claim they are good people. They seeking of “fame” is their true goal.

  54. says

    heaven forbid people use their natural charisma and speaking ability and steadfast refusal to hide in the shadows to bring ATTENTION to important causes. ­čśë

  55. Paul says

    Who knew that not seeking media attention is hiding in the shadows. That’s the kind of mentality the younger generation is living under. Seek fame and attention to say you exist and matter.

  56. says

    Well, your hypocrisy undoes your statements, Paul: some people use social media, the internet and whatever resources they can get their hands on to spread a message to as many people as possible.

    You insist that by doing so they’re just “seeking fame”.

    So, if you want to insist that your way is not “hiding in the shadows” then perhaps it’s high time for you to acknowledge that a great many folks are not “seeking fame” – but are in actuality using the technological advancements of our time to reach more and more people. Some people just *get* attention, whether it’s wanted or not – by using that attention to highlight specific causes, and messages, is a rather effective use of whatever it is about them that draws folks to them.

    You can’t have it both ways, honeybun. ­čśë

  57. Paul says

    As soon as you admit your hypocricy, then I will admit to mine. But as anyone that that takes 2 seconds to read your self promoting and attention seaking blog, you are nothing but the biggest type of hypocrite and insecure person. Someone secure in his or her own skin, does not need to bash others. I’ll stop feeding into your nonsense. Most people laugh at you and your obvious attempt for fame through being outrageous. You are no different than people like Rush Limbaugh and Sean Hannity. They make outrageous comments but take no responsibility for it when they are criticized. Instead they attack more and try to deflect away. Enjoy yourself.

  58. says

    thanks for proving me right. you may now resume trolling from under your bridge.

    and if you think i’m “outrageous” then you must lead one incredibly dull existence.

    buh bye ­čśÇ

  59. BTW says

    Everyone is blindfolded. Reacting to any comment and revealing more about themselves. “Buh bye” is a hallmark of a certain generation. This particular generation is the worst – gay or straight.

  60. leprechaunvict says

    Dan Savage = awesome, international treasure!
    Haters = uptight jealous nellies

  61. Billy Crytical says

    Marym is right. There is no comparison with gay people coming out. The sad thing is gay people always like to brush aside gay history. There is a very long history of oppression of gay people worldwide. Straight people were and still are the oppressors. So a kid telling his gay parents he’s straight is totally different.

  62. Mary says

    Penthouse View, you can insult Kiwi all you want (I’ve done it myself many times), but please don’t say anything negative about Penny Lois Lane! She is the loveliest pitbull on the internet. Have you seen her air-paddle swimming? Just tell me this, if you had a pitbull and were away for 8 months would she jump all over you with kisses and dance around in a circle with joy when she saw you?

    If you don’t like Kiwi’s comments you can simply yawn and ignore his commands, the way Penny did when she told her “Sit, Bauhaus! Speak!” in one of his videos. And its a very effective way of dealing with him because he never accuses her of being afraid to reveal her true identity (i.e. “Why do you need the handle of a combined Beatle song and Superman cartoon character”) or of using her doghouse as a burka.

    I think Penny has the right idea!

  63. m says

    wasn’t he just trying to use humor? his son didn’t come out as anything. I read something about this before that dj (dan’s son) admired his dad’s and wanted to be like them. dan said at the time they could tell he liked girls and its what they expected.

    the anxiety that gay kids feel is different. that’s so intense because you feel alone and worried. the fear of rejection isn’t just in your head. the consequences are too real. the world isn’t a nice place when you don’t act like everyone else.

    doubt dj felt anything but excitement in discovering girls. though if he had discovered boys couldn’t have picked better parents to come out to as gay.

  64. moike says

    @-ryan I’m with you on ALL of that. This thread is a travesty.
    Also, Dan is Dan and I like him a lot. He is pretty much always better behaved than his (our) opponents. And the “coming out as straight” is such a neat twist, underscoring (perhaps) the upending of traditional expectations that will be happening as more societies move forward (I’m from Canada=we’re totally legal here). Coming out about sexuality could just completely disappear.

  65. Josh says

    Savage reeks low class upbringing. He learned how to harvest egos to his benefit.

  66. m says

    @Josh

    What exactly low class about Dan? Conversely, a little context please for “upper” class.

  67. Kissyfur says

    I am not a fan of Dan anymore because I feel like I’ve out grown him. But when I was closeted his column was cool. One of a kind. I didn’t always agree with his advice, but thats why you read advice columns. It Gets Better to me is flawed because I think it gives the outside world too much power. It doesn’t get better. You have to get stronger. Be tough. Buck up. How about “I’ll Kick Your ***” as a theme? Maybe we’ll stop getting shot in the face and stabbed to death.

  68. Skeptical Cicada says

    The idea that there is ANY equivalence between coming out as gay and “coming out” as straight is blatantly absurd. Yes, city streets are full of homeless teens kicked out of their homes for being straight. The graveyards are full of dead teens who killed themselves because they realized they were straight. What idiocy!

  69. Boone68 says

    Wow, he sure can get some people’s undies in a twist! I love the fact that when he is opposite Tony Perkins on CNN or other “news” programs he doesn’t run and hide behind mommy’s skirt like a good little gay boy. He lets Tony Perkins have it, and Tony Perkins deserves the verbal crushing he always gets from Dan. He’s funny, smart and cares immensely for those of us fighting to be equal under the law. I get that he makes some people uncomfortable. Good. If he makes you squirm, turn the channel, or watch and learn something. My husband and I read his book The Kid when we were in the “what if” stage of becoming parents. That book, written by Dan Savage, made me see, for the first time in my life, that I could have everything my heart desired including being a Dad. Now we have three kids, and some days I curse Dan for writing that damn book.

  70. DannyEastVillage says

    GREAT interview–very likable man. The only spin I can give to all the hating on him is the sadly typical hatred gay men have for other gay men–especially successful ones–especially handsome, sexy successful ones–especially handsome, sexy successful ones who have hot husbands. I cop to a bit of that envy myself, but it certainly doesn’t make me hate this man who hasn’t hesitated to call things by their right names.

    The haters here need to grow up and get lives of their own apart from social media. And, to those who trashed his speaking about his son’s “coming out,” it was clearly ironically and humorously presented in a sweet, endearing way. Why not listen to this with the ears of a person instead of those of what we used to call a bitter old queen?

  71. Gary47290 says

    Savage is first and foremost an entertainer. Get over the ego that comes with that job.

    PS – I bet half the people complaining about Savage salivate over every gossip article in the Hollywood shows discussing Beyonce or the Princes, or ….

  72. jamal49 says

    Until somebody else who comes here to TW is willing to step up and do the public dirty work needed to confront the other very public @$$holes who are against us, I will take Dan Savage with all of his faults any day and any time. At least Dan Savage is doing something. Oh, how easy it is to be a critic! How difficult it is to actually get up of one’s fat, gay @$$ and do something to make our gay world a little bit better.

    Check out the link to Cardinal Dolan’s call for nationwide sermons against marriage equality. Why don’t we all protest at our local Catholic Church, you know, create a disturbance, a mess, a commotion?

    God forbid there was no internet when Michael Callen and Larry Kramer and others started the ACTUP movement. Most of the sissymarys here would have had a stroke!

  73. Dr. C says

    Love this man!!!! (The amount of TROLLS on this post simply attest to his popularity!)

  74. emjayay says

    What the hell is there not to like? San Savage writes a column that has no doubt opened many people’s minds about gay and straight sex and relationships. Ever heard of the It Gets Better project? A really important part of the liberation and acceptance of gay people, and no doubt has saved many gay kids.

  75. epic says

    anyone hating on Dan(who is no saint, what ever that means) You go on CNN and shout down the bigots….Until that day you are not helping…

  76. Jake says

    He’s usually doing more damage than good. He appointed himself as a spokesman for the community, especially for gay teens (I’m not saying LGBT because I am not even sure he supports the whole community) and that automatically makes him a role model. And as such he has to live up to higher standards than the average person. That may not be fair but this is how it works. If you put yourself out there as a spokesperson some maturity, diplomacy, class and sense of responsibility should be expected.

    Yet he always oversteps the line for the sake of cheap shock and provocation and all he does achive with it is to confirm the bigots’ opinion that all gays are obscene, promiscuous, vile individuals.

    I remember when he made this comment about Rick Santorum on Bill Maher’s show, something along the line of wanting to whip some cream in Santorum’s ass. I’m sorry, but that is the point where I no longer want this big kindergarten kid to act as if he is speaking for all of us. The guy goesn’t give a f*** about gay teens. All he has achived with the It get better-campaign he destroys with comments and childish behavior like that and who is going to get punished for that? The teens. Because Dan is giving them a bad name.

  77. Jakrabt says

    Dan has done more for the LGBT community than everyone in this comment thread combined. He continually defends us against hateful public figures and I have not even started on the ‘It Gets Better’ project for troubled LGBT youth. Dan can act however, wear whatever and live his life however he wants without any criticism from me. I mean how do you expect people outside the LGBT community to exercise tolerance and acceptance of us if we cannot even master it ourselves? Geez…..