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Powerful Video Of Binational Couple Reveals DOMA's Devastating Effects: VIDEO

Tim and jamie

Meet Tim and Jamie.  They've been together since August 2006.  They got married in June 2012.  

But in June 2009 they had their first inkling that their international love would be tested: Jamie, a native of Scotland, was detained at SeaTac Airport due to visa problems and was denied the right to call Tim. Now, Jamie and Tim's marriage in Canada cannot be recognized legally in the United States because of the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act.  

With a Supreme Court decision on the horizon, we can only hope couples like Tim and Jamie will soon be married in the eyes of the law.  

Watch their emotional testimony, AFTER THE JUMP...

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  1. wow, Jamieeeeeeeeeeeee.. I am in love. haha

    Posted by: Teehee | Jun 18, 2013 7:17:44 PM

  2. Are you sure they aren’t father and son!!! When there is this much of an age difference (it doesn’t matter if it is straight/gay or which one is older) it always looks kind of pervy!

    Posted by: Matt | Jun 18, 2013 7:23:21 PM

  3. I'm going to stay away from this thread. It's clear where this one is headed.

    Posted by: Francis #1 | Jun 18, 2013 7:32:28 PM

  4. Matt,
    No, we aren't father and son. We are husband and husband. While there is a large age difference, you don't get to pick and choose who you fall in love with. Or which country they are from, which was more the point of the video.

    Posted by: Tim | Jun 18, 2013 7:33:39 PM

  5. Why was Jaime banned from entering the US? I don't get it.

    And, Tim, where are you going in Central America?

    Posted by: Dastius Krazitauc | Jun 18, 2013 7:44:37 PM

  6. I am not surprised that the age difference might make some uncomfortable. But if they told the truth on the application, the marriage is legal in Canada - and would no doubt be legal in the American south if they were a straight couple (insert brother/sister joke here). All you can do is draw an arbitrary line somewhere.

    Posted by: melvin | Jun 18, 2013 7:53:57 PM

  7. Dastius,
    Jamie was prevented from entering the US when he naively mentioned he was coming to see his boyfriend. The ICE official immediately flagged his passport and detained him, sending him back on the next flight after a night in detention. It didn't matter that he'd been here without incident 4 times previously and always left before his visa ran out.
    And we are planning a move to Belize for a couple years before we can hopefully return to the US together.

    Posted by: Tim | Jun 18, 2013 8:01:04 PM

  8. Nothing personal, but that is a massive gross age difference.

    Posted by: Frank | Jun 18, 2013 8:06:39 PM

  9. Wow, Tim, that is horrible. How can that possibly be legal? He was prevented from entering the country because he has an American boyfriend? That sounds like Iran, or maybe now, Russia, not the U.S. That just blows my mind.

    When you move to Belize, you'll be my neighbor. I live in Yucatán state of Mexico.

    Posted by: Dastius Krazitauc | Jun 18, 2013 8:13:08 PM

  10. Frank - nothing personal, but your parents has a massive gross age difference as well.

    Someone used to say the cut off line for an age difference to be not considered as gross is 20 years. Apparently a difference of 19.9 years is not gross but if your birthday is early in the year than the younger partner, that would bring it to 20.1 years gap and it becomes gross.

    Posted by: Teehee | Jun 18, 2013 8:17:14 PM

  11. Tim = Daddy
    Jamie = Son
    That whole video = Creepy

    Even if Jamie was 18 he looked way younger which makes it even more creepy!

    Posted by: Apparatus | Jun 18, 2013 8:17:44 PM

  12. This is a terrible aspect and shameful aspect of the USA. All the best of luck, hopefully Belize will be a wonderful adventure. You are a beautiful couple.

    Posted by: bructer | Jun 18, 2013 8:22:19 PM

  13. Hey Tim,

    Don't be discouraged by any of the negative comments. They are just jealous and bitter that you and Jamie have found love and are happy and they haven't and probably never will.

    Good luck to you two. I think DOMA will be history pretty soon.

    Posted by: Brian in Texas | Jun 18, 2013 8:24:37 PM

  14. The UK recognizes Canadian same-sex marriages. If the US national wanted, he could live with the Scot in Scotland. Not sure why they feel like they need to move to Central America...

    Posted by: Biggiggles | Jun 18, 2013 8:26:43 PM

  15. Heterosexual couples with similar differences in age are not usually frowned on, unless one of the spouses (the older of the two) is extremely wealthy. Once the reality is acknowledged, adults are allowed to get on with their lives. Stop judging and understand the larger, more important issue here: state-sanctioned interference with this couples' pursuit of happiness.

    Posted by: Jerry | Jun 18, 2013 8:35:39 PM

  16. Brian in Texas - I used to let it get to me but not any more. I'm the luckiest guy in the world to have found my soul mate. Here's hoping DOMA is gone VERY soon! :)

    Biggiggles - it does but unfortunately the exchange rate is a killer for me to move there, and is even worse for when we plan to move back. We get much more for our money in Belize and it is pegged to the US Dollar so will never lose its value.

    bructer - thanks! :D

    Posted by: Tim | Jun 18, 2013 8:37:53 PM

  17. And whom do we have to thank for DOMA? Bill Clinton, that's who. Thanks for DOMA, Bill and Hill.

    Posted by: Jason | Jun 18, 2013 9:02:04 PM

  18. I am ashamed of all the negative comments on this post. Since when age difference matters in gay relationships? Dan Savage and Terry Miller have an age difference; Christopher Isherwood was already a middle age man when he met the love of his life.
    I never comment on this things, but to get bashed by our own only for a little insignificance, is like being bashed for any other reason. Sexual orientation or otherwise, making another person feel the wait of one's prejudice is indecent, in bad taste. How do you feel when Tony Perkins opens his mouth? Or that Gallagher woman? How do you feel when someone uses the word faggot on you?
    Good luck to the couple. It is quite unfortunate things like this happen. I'm told Belize is something of a paradise... Be happy.

    Posted by: Beben | Jun 18, 2013 9:15:06 PM

  19. They are both consenting adults. They should be able to get married if that is what they want. Period.

    Posted by: George F | Jun 18, 2013 9:28:34 PM

  20. I didn't even notice the age difference, probably because seeing how shabbily two people who were obviously in love were treated by the U.S. government should be a national embarrassment.

    If anything, this couple should be invited to a Congressional hearing and offered an apology - it is congress, after all, that has to repeal DOMA and that passed it in the first place, with DOMA being written and introduced by Republicans who hoped to create a campaign issue to help Bob Dole in his futile attempt to beat Bill Clinton. And the U.S. government should pay their travel expenses.

    Posted by: Bill | Jun 18, 2013 9:49:16 PM

  21. stop talking about the age difference and start talking about the immigration inequalities.

    Posted by: Reality | Jun 18, 2013 10:17:26 PM

  22. There is nothing creepy about two adults in love. It's really sad that people make such comments without realizing it's the same childish "ewww, gross" reaction that many straight people have towards gay couples.

    Posted by: shawnthesheep | Jun 18, 2013 10:46:10 PM

  23. So often do I read ageist ignorance on this website that I wonder if Andy Towle should start another website that addresses an entire subset of ugly ageist gay discrimination "with homosexual tendencies!" What is with you young persons that you have "zero" knowledge about the ages old tradition among the Greeks and the Romans, as well as many subsequent cultures, that age differences were completely inconsequential to 1,000's of years of gay sex, as well as being throughout history until this present day a "norm" of older straight men marrying much younger women? Are the majority of Towleroad commenters from the boondocks of Christian Kansas? In this 21st century, why would any young person cry "yuck" like a child not realizing the benefits of eating broccoli whenever an age differential arises between two people who truly have worked hard to be together because they LOVE one another? Childish and provincial to the Nth degree. Grow the F*#k up and enter the adult world before your prejudices spoil even your own lives!

    Posted by: Tom Cardellino | Jun 18, 2013 11:02:47 PM

  24. A lot better responses than I was expected....good!

    Love is love and Tim and Jamie are in love. And their love is being disrespected and essentially seen as invalid by our US government. And that's simply inexcusable.

    Tim and Jamie are adults, they love one another. They deserve all that any other legal couple has. Their love should be celebrated.

    Posted by: Francis #1 | Jun 18, 2013 11:23:13 PM

  25. DOMA must go and these guys are just more reason why. The negative comments about age difference are nothing but irrelevant bullsh**, no one elses business at all. Rock on fellas.

    Posted by: UFFDA | Jun 19, 2013 1:00:10 AM

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