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Lesbian Couple Together For 40 Years Tests North Carolina's Ban On Same-Sex Marriage

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A North Carolina lesbian couple attempted to get married in their home county of Henderson on Tuesday, hoping the Register of Deeds, Nedra Moles, would follow in the footsteps of Pennsylvania's Bruce Hanes, Register of Wills for Montgomery County, and issue them a marriage license despite their state's ban on same-sex marriage. Unfortunately, Carole Kaiser and Mary Burson waited in line with their daughters and their church pastor only to be rebuffed, as BlueRidgeNow.com reports:

"Carole and I are here today to apply for a marriage license," said 79-year-old Mary Burson, "because we love each other, we've been together for 40 years...we've raised eight children together and we want to make the commitment that our brothers and sisters that are heterosexual can make." [...]

"Well, consider is about all I can do, because you both know that according to North Carolina law, I cannot issue the marriage license (to same-sex couples)," Moles said. "I've made you a copy of the N.C. General Statute, in case you would like to look at it, but I cannot do this today. So, I must turn you down...If I went ahead and issued you a license, I would be breaking the law, and I can't do that," she said. "That's the position that I'm in, as well as all of my deputies."

Kaiser and Burson decided to challenge North Carolina's ban on same-sex marriage as part of the WE DO campaign which urges couple across the South to push for marriage licenses in their hometowns. The movement is based out of North Carolina and has been operating since 2011. Since that time 80 LGBT couples have filed for marriage licenses in their hometowns across seven states in the South. All have been denied.

North Carolina's ban on same-sex marriage, also known as Amendment One, was passed in May of 2012.

Crowd2Though unsuccessful in receiving a marriage license, Kaiser and Burson drew a great deal of attention to their trip to the county courthouse. They also had strong support from their Church. Gathered outside the County office were 70 supporters, many of whom hailed from the First Congregational Church in Hendersonville, where Kaiser and Burson have worshipped for three years. Their pastor, the Rev. Richard Weidler, became emotional, wiping away tears, saying Kaiser and Burson are "'wonderful Christian women' who deserve the right to marry."

The couple, who first met in 1974 in Illinois, never had any intention to live their life together openly and proudly, let alone to participate in a civil rights movement. But later in life, something changed within them:

When they retired to Hendersonville in 2003, "we had lived in the closet for a lot of years," said Burson. "And we said, ‘We're not going to do that anymore. We're going to be honest about who we are.'" But she added, "We've never waved a flag saying, you know, ‘We're more than just friends.'"

Kaiser and Burson's daughter, Kim Gallagher, 54, spoke of the value she hopes her mothers' journey will provide for her own children:

"My prayer is that my children will not experience discrimination and that they will open their hearts to diversity, in whatever regard," Gallagher said. "And I think their grandmothers have taught them how to do that. And how to be brave."

(Images via Twitter - CSElive and Frank Kracher)

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  1. More and more long-term same-sex couples are standing up and demanding they be treated equally. These are the people who will change opinions and the law. *hats off to a great couple*

    Posted by: Mark | Oct 4, 2013 2:02:59 PM


  2. If their pastor is so damned upset, he should launch a lawsuit claiming infringement of the religious freedom of his congregation to conduct a marriage ceremony for these women. Freedom of religion should be a two side blade.

    Posted by: Canadian Observer | Oct 4, 2013 2:23:28 PM


  3. That's our NC county :-) Been visiting Hendersonville all my life. Bravo for these ladies!

    Posted by: KevinVT | Oct 4, 2013 2:29:02 PM


  4. This would have made a good "Candid Camera" segment but it's real.

    Posted by: Tim | Oct 4, 2013 3:01:01 PM


  5. Canadian Observer, the California Council of Churches attempted to file a lawsuit after Prop 8 was passed making that argument, that Prop 8 discriminated against affirming churches that wished to marry same-sex couples. This argument was thrown out on the basis that churches are free to officiate any religious ceremony they wish, but that Prop 8 (and thus other same-sex marriage bans such as this one in North Carolina) only bans civil marriage and the recognition thereof by the civil government.

    I suspect that any legal challenge by this pastor or other gay affirming pastors would meet a similar fate.

    Posted by: Sean | Oct 4, 2013 5:45:41 PM


  6. I see why people need to challenge their states' anti-gay marriage laws. But shouldn't it be done piecemeal with the more liberal states first, the swing states second, the somewhat conservative states third, and then the ultra-red states last? Doing them in this order would seem (to me) to maximize chances for victory, while giving your strongest opposition (in the ultra-red states) time to evolve....or time to realize that fighting gay marriage is counterproductive.

    Posted by: Mary | Oct 4, 2013 10:06:23 PM


  7. Thanks Sean, I was not aware things had unfolded that way. I guess the marriage licence thing should have given it away, that would be under state control rather than the church, temple or what have you. Again, thanks for the clarification.

    Posted by: Canadian Observer | Oct 5, 2013 3:10:16 AM


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