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Gay 'Hoax' Waitress Refunds Some Donations Sent To Her

Dayna Morales, the NJ waitress who has been accused of lying about the anti-gay note she received from two customers, has reportedly started to refund some of the $3,000 in donations that came flooding in from sympathetic supporters.

WNBC reports:

Brittney Stilgenbauer of Tuscon, Ariz. was one of hundreds of supporters across the country who immediately rallied around Morales after reading her story on Facebook. She told NBC 4 New York over Skype Friday, "I felt awful for her, and I thought it would be great if people could come together and donate a dollar each and make up for her tip that she lost."

Over three weeks later, on Friday, Stilgenbauer received another email from PayPal informing her that her $1 donation to Morales' account was refunded.

Two other people told NBC 4 New York in phone interviews they also saw their electronic donations refunded. However, one man who mailed cash to Morales at the restaurant said he has not gotten the money back.

Morales had promised to donate the funds she received to the Wounded Warrior Project but the group has said they have not found any evidence of any such donation.

Earlier this week, New Jersey 101.5 interviewed Morales' boss at Gallop Asian Bistro restaurant:

Restaurant CEO Jack Yang told New Jersey 101.5 earlier this week that Morales set up the PayPal account and he does not know what became of donations submitted to it. Other donations sent to the restaurant are being held pending its investigation into the matter. In the meanwhile, Yang said, Morales remains on the payroll but not on the work schedule because threats have been made against her and he believes she would be in “danger.”

 Watch a WNBC news segment about the refunds Morales has started to issue, AFTER THE JUMP.

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  1. this kind of story gives the gay community such a black eye, but worse is that the right wingers will grab onto this and never let go.........this feeds into their warped belief system that gays are evil, etc.........

    Posted by: Bernie | Dec 7, 2013 12:38:16 PM

  2. The headline says that Morales is refunding the money, but it's far more likely that PayPal initiated the refunds. PayPal is always on the lookout for fraudulent transactions.

    Posted by: Neil | Dec 7, 2013 12:45:28 PM

  3. If people are foolish enough to send their hard earned money to a stranger over the internet before the story has been verified and authenticated deserve to lose that money. Well intentioned or not.

    Posted by: Brian in Texas | Dec 7, 2013 1:25:27 PM

  4. The Pentagon Papers took less time to "investigate."

    Posted by: crispy | Dec 7, 2013 1:42:43 PM

  5. Bernie is right that it makes us look bad, but I think we're a large enough part of the population that it should not be hard to remind others that people throughout society do bad things, sometimes in the name of some claimed good (all organized religion comes to mind... for a variety of reasons). Dayna's also female, and looks white. Should these populations also be tarred with blame that belongs to her?

    What can get lost in this receipt business is that, while this particular one was a hoax, it was preceded by others which were real. There is a trend with tithing Christians denying tips to wait staff who are perceived to be gay or atheist, after excellent service. Some atheist customers have attempted to counteract this in a sort of way by tipping higher (e.g. "I give gods 0% so you get 30%"), all of this before the hoax.

    Posted by: Randy | Dec 7, 2013 1:46:26 PM

  6. If people want to help, that should set up a fund to get her some treatment for being a pathological liar.

    Posted by: FFS | Dec 7, 2013 2:45:16 PM

  7. So is this a backdoor way of declaring that this was a hoax? I have seen nothing on line that explicitly says so. Her hoax doesn't help the cause.

    Posted by: Jerry | Dec 7, 2013 4:40:07 PM

  8. @Randy: How do we know whether or not any of the others are hoaxes? There was no time to vet them before they went viral.

    Remember the story of the Nebraska woman who was attacked in her home by masked invaders? That one even proceeded to a candlelight vigil before it was discovered to be a hoax. These hoaxes are very damaging to our credibility, so it's not unreasonable that we wait until there is solid verification before we use them to trumpet the cause. It's not like there's any shortage of real and verifiable incidents available. In the case of the Nebraska woman, it smelled fishy from the beginning, but people who urged caution were shouted down.

    Posted by: Merv | Dec 7, 2013 5:32:34 PM

  9. Remember, gay people can be assholes too. We are not perfect. Where's Tank to prove my point?

    Posted by: bravo | Dec 7, 2013 8:17:09 PM

  10. She's vile. For not having a single shred of integrity.

    Posted by: Sean Maloney | Dec 8, 2013 1:26:50 AM

  11. This is a sad case. She's got problems. From what I've read, she seems to have a history of pathological attention-seeking. We need to remember that people are individuals first, and not representatives of entire groups. The press really helped her misbegotten hoax go viral, and that makes it much, much worse for her. This particular individual has a type of problem that's found in all groups. I hope she gets help. And I hope the press invests a little journalistic effort now and again, instead of being so bloody credulous whenever a sensational lede presents itself.

    Posted by: Brooklyn Reader | Dec 8, 2013 11:32:29 PM

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