Gay Dads’ Family Photo Causes Outrage on Twitter

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This photo of gay fathers Kaleb and Kordale, posted to their Instagram account (along with lots of cute others) is making headlines after it reportedly stirred up a ridiculous heap of anti-gay outrage on Twitter from people offended by two black men taking care of their children.

Wrote the pair on Instagram:

Being fathers is getting our daughters up at 5:30 am making breakfast getting them dressed for school and putting them on the bus by 6:30 .This is a typical day in our household . It's not easy but we enjoy every moment and eveny minute of #fatherhood . #proudfathers #blackfathers #prouddads #gaydads

KordaleMusedMag first noted the uproar, as well as positive comments which mostly took the form of "Finally, a black gay couple"

Writes Beyond Steven:

Are we that sheltered from black gay couples that the general public doesn’t think they exist? But, can you blame them? There is hardly an image of “gay” love that features people of color. In the heat of  national marriage equality campaigns, if you google black gay couple you get bunch of Tumblr links. This is not like the in-depth articles when you google the opposite. It’s almost like black gay couples don’t exist – but we do.

The couple released a statement to the Huffington Post which reads, in part:

As far as the positive; yes we are two gay men with three kids who have no problem with preparing them for their education every morning; that comes with anything and everything they may need for school! Our kids are blessed to have three parents (Kordale, Kaleb and their Mother) who love, care and support them in every decision they have made and will continue to make as they get older. We are blessed to have the ability to provide for them in ways that a lot of people cannot for their family, which ultimately makes us happy knowing that they don't want for much! Our main objective as parents is to provide, love, educate, support, encourage, and love some more!

In regard to the negative, people fail to realize that we are people too with kids who love us. We do what is necessary for them to succeed in this ever-changing world but it's sad that we're discriminated against because of our sexuality and/or what we do behind closed doors — which is no one's business. In the same breath, we take all of what's been said in stride. The picture was put out on social media for an opinion so we can't be mad when people give just that: an opinion. People tend to think that gay people cannot raise their children to be heterosexuals. Instead, they have derogatory thoughts of us "tainting" our children or "confusing them" with what society sees deems as wrong an unmanly because we're gay. But this is all comical because people forget where a lot of gays come from: a heterosexual household.

Comments

  1. crispy says

    This is similar to another incident that occurred recently… a straight African-American father posted a picture on his blog of him getting his daughter ready for school, and it went viral when the racists got a hold of it.

    I’d be shocked if the Drudge Report is not involved somehow.

  2. SFshawn says

    Nice to see.
    Isn’t it interesting that these types of loving images are what makes the religious zealots/politicos/talking heads froth over with superior judgement and hatred while gay humans are being brutally beaten and murdered every day by their supposed “love”.
    Their heads are probably exploding in Africa if they saw this display of love.
    Keep up the great work guys and your family is beautiful.

  3. atomic says

    Honestly I cannot see what the uproar is all about. The only thing I *WOULD* advise against, though, is pulling that hair back so tight–that can cause traction alopecia. Let her hair be how it is–natural and beautiful.

  4. says

    Three more little treasures today. Love it when Towleroad has articles on LGBT families. With all the animosity we have to put up with every day seeing this loving couple & their adorable little ones helps to renew the spirit.

    Good job Kaleb & Kordale. You make a beautiful family and as @Ken said, they sure look like they’re surrounded by love.

    It may not have been in your plan but you should know that you’re doing a tremendous amount of good by putting a actual face to the families hurt by those who vilify us. Stay loving. Stay strong.

  5. Gigi says

    Kaleb: We live in a five-bedroom home. We have three beautiful children. There’s a room for Kordale. There’s a room for Kaleb and there’s a room for each individual child. The oldest child says, “Kaleb, you’re my daddy’s best, best, best best friend in the whole wide world.” I say that meaning the kids do not know that we are in a relationship. We don’t portray that image in front of the kids because we don’t want to put them in the mindset of being gay and that’s what you’re going to be because we are gay.

    WTF?!?! Kids aren’t stupid. By pretending that you’re NOT in a same-sex relationship you’re doing more harm to those kids than good. FYI – don’t post pics of the two of your tonguing one another if you don’t want people to know that you’re a couple. Duh!

  6. Edd says

    This is what’s needed, more picture of same sex partners with their kids doing everyday activities. This would show the rest of the backwards country that these families are just as good as theirs.

  7. James says

    I must confess I would be one of the people saying ‘Finally a Black gay couple”.Only because every time you see a out black man he has a white boyfriend like Don Lemon.

  8. Zlick says

    Simply wonderful. What a shame they have to even “take in stride” the hateful comments their posting “inspired” in some truly nasty people. What a lovely family! I wish them tons more love, and tons less nastiness.

  9. anon says

    Do we have to guess what the negative comments were like? Hopefully, this will help push public opinion in favor of gay rights despite the public objections.

  10. D. Miles says

    There’s still a lot of homophobia within our black community and it takes us queer of color calling our Christian family out on their bigotry to eliminate that sht!

  11. Dallas Guy says

    Beautiful photo. As a black gay man, it inspires me to see this beautiful couple. What breaks my heart is seeing my own people bash these two loving dads. Some black folk don’t know their own history. SMH.

  12. Mitchell says

    I loved reading all he tweets from Christians that said they’d like to take these children away from their fathers. What loving Christians. Ripping families apart.

  13. Veejay says

    Don’t let a few state marriage wins fool you. Homophobia is still EXTREMELY PROMINENT in society. The fact that many LGBT allow their religious friends and family to get away with homophobic views because “they are religious” only fuels the homophobia more, and enables more homophobic thoughts and actions.

  14. Ricardo says

    I just read some of the comments from Christians about this beautiful family and it reminds me why I no longer consider myself religious.

    How anyone could have anything negative to say about this family is beyond me.

    And Christians consider themselves saved? Really?

  15. I wont grow up says

    How many children today have three loving parents? Most kids today are lucky to even see their one parent for more than ten minutes a day. This is a FAMILY people, get used to it.

  16. ny2.0 says

    The smiles on those children’s faces being surrounded by loving parents is the greatest weapon feared by the bigots in our society. This lovely family just needs to keep smiling and live their lives.

  17. Paul says

    It seems the uber right wing is always saying something like “Think about the children. Will no one think about the damage to the children.” This is such a great example that someone is thinking about the children. What a beautiful family filled with love! Hugs!

  18. Paul says

    It seems the uber right wing is always saying something like “Think about the children. Will no one think about the damage to the children.” This is such a great example that someone is thinking about the children. What a beautiful family filled with love! Hugs!

  19. Sam says

    I see the outrage stemming from these bigots that in their minds, these “tatted thugs” are actually loving and caring people.

    It’s shocking when stereotypes are broken.

  20. Bill says

    Could the outrage actually be due to photos showing the two parents with their shirts off? The U.S. has a puritanical streak that we still haven’t gotten over, and it has been several centuries.

    Hint to certain Christians: when parents are getting their kids ready for school, particularly if there is some washing involved, it can get a bit splashy, so there is a good reason to not be wearing a three-piece suit.

  21. gregorybrown says

    The notion and reality of a loving family with two attractive, responsible gay Black dads runs counter to the popular image of
    Black men as irresponsible layabouts who carelessly impregnate women then abandon them and their children to fend for themselves in the welfare system. This offends both white and black conservatives and reactionary racists, AND Liberals with vested interests in maintaining a unified front on matters of Black inadequacies.

  22. Troy N Houghtlaing Sr says

    Nice jog guys..you two are a dedicated couple to your girls. They all look good and healthy. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing. There is straight couples that wont even get out of bed and do what you are doing. I was 22 when I came out, first gay dad in to get his son here in my county in 1982. Keep the good work up and put a thumb on all the negative stuff and keep going…have a great 2014 and a great family of fun..

  23. david from edmonton says

    Most of us who are gay were raised by straight people and it didn’t make us straight. People need to butt out of the private lives of people and look after your own problems.

  24. Val says

    How are they going to deal with the girls’ puberty issues?
    You really can’t tell what effect this kind of parenting has on children until they are in their 20s. But there are not enough people from such homes yet to be able to do a full-scale study. And yet they already decided it is good. Rather early, I think, especially for an experiment on mankind’s most vulnerable ones: children whose minds we better not monkey with. Would it be wise to wait and see what happens?

  25. Val says

    How are they going to deal with the girls’ puberty issues?
    You really can’t tell what effect this kind of parenting has on children until they are in their 20s. But there are not enough people from such homes yet to be able to do a full-scale study. And yet they already decided it is good. Rather early, I think, especially for an experiment on mankind’s most vulnerable ones: children whose minds we better not monkey with. Would it be wise to wait and see what happens?

  26. Anonymous les×××× says

    keep it up guys..love is love as long as it’s harmless to other people.. #This should be appreciated everywhere.
    This’s a cute family , i love it. Am a lesbian, unfortunately in a country that forbids lgbt.. Hopping all kind of love will be considered equal someday.

  27. Anonymous les×××× says

    keep it up guys..love is love as long as it’s harmless to other people.. #This should be appreciated everywhere.
    This’s a cute family , i love it. Am a lesbian, unfortunately in a country that forbids lgbt.. Hopping all kind of love will be considered equal someday.

  28. The world has gone crazy says

    I would just like to point out that “homophobes” (I’m not talking radical ones) cannot be ‘cured’, any more than gay people can be ‘cured’. You need to realise that the gay sex act is thoroughly disgusting and offensive to hetero males, so no matter what rights you want or have, the sight of two gay men is always going to make hetero men uncomfortable. This is just a natural reaction and one that can’t be ‘cured’, so stop thinking it can be. If you truly kept it behind closed doors then that’s fine. I have no problem socialising with gay people, but the minute I see two gay men holding hands or anything of the like, there is just a natural repulsion there. You need to remember this. The more you bring it out, the more people with this natural repulsion are going to hate it.

  29. Shep Voice says

    Pride comes before the fall of a man. Pride parades come before the fall of manknid – sign of the end-times. Sleeping with/marrying your own gender is in effect SLEEPING WITH/MARRYING YOURSELFwhich equals being LOVER OF SELF which is an abomination [God’s VALID REASON against this practice (right vs wrong love)]. It distorts/merges/blurs God’s male/female creation differences, characteristics, attributes and purpose-Lev 18:22, Rom 1:26-32, 1 Pet 4:3-4: Gal 5:19-21: 1 Cor 6:18-20. Also, even 1 man/1 woman marriages cannot be rightly put together w/o understanding God’s purpose for it (why there are so many divorces). Accepting, promoting or participating in gay lifestyles are against God. You cannot be a Christian if you do these things. It mocks God.

  30. SHEP VOICE says

    Actually, “normalizing” same sex relationships and marriage does have a major negative impact, harming hetrosexual families. You may not understand “cause & effect” consquences but by approving same sex lifestyles you have a negative effect on inocent gullible impressionable children. They copy adult behavior.

    I call it the “undertow effect” as more children get swept into this behavior. They start with thinking two guys kissing or holding hands, etc. is a normal behavior and later that its not bad and some take it further. It will make it easier for gays to recruit more older children right under your nose – cause & effect laws of physics which cannot be broken w/o Jesus in your life=breakdown of the fabric of society just as Jesus prophecied 2000 years ago=spiritually selling and eating your children=acceleration of slavory to sin. The world is making a grave mistake approving gay marriage.

    If my God of my “religion” forbids such behavior then you are trying to make an end-run around my family (2nd-hand smoke effect), trying to (at least by your example and behavior) teach my children contrary to what I know is right for my children and family.

    Therefore, whether you know it or not you are interfering with and in fact trampling my religious beliefs. Unfortunately for you (becoming false teachers-greatest punishment is for false teachers), whether you believe it or not there will be severe consequences for your actions, some in this life (such as disasters) and finally on Judgment Day as no one can escape. Read my other posts.

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