Even if you can’t immediately place his name, you’ve definitely seen actor Alec Mapa pop up in any number of television shows and film roles. The Filipino-American actor has left his mark on series including Roseanne, Seinfeld and Friends. You might know him best from his work on Desperate Housewives and Ugly Betty, but the openly gay actor is also the proud papa of an adopted son, and an outspoken advocate for the LGBT community.
Mapa isn’t one to shy away from his flamboyant persona, but detractors would be wise not to confuse that for any sort of weakness. Recently, he spoke up on behalf of effeminate gay men in response to comments from Looking star Russell Tovey. His entire Facebook post is worth reposting in its entirety:
“He’s glad he’s not effeminate?
Well the feeling is mutual lady, I’m glad I’m not you.
I kind of feel like this is why I do what I do. Why I’m not just a homo, but A BIG ONE. Being an effeminate gay man still remains an unforgivable sin in our masculinity obsessed culture. I think about all the young sissy boys who return from school after being bullied and shamed day after day, perhaps returning home to the same treatment. I know because I was one of those kids. Was? I still am! I still get it in the neck for being who I am. I’ve spoken to so many non gender conforming youth who have the same recognizable look of despair on their faces . All they need to hear is that they’re fine exactly the way they are. That there’s nothing wrong. That they haven’t killed anyone . That they’re worthy of love and acceptance , AS IS. Perhaps if they heard that they’d stand up for themselves. Perhaps if they heard that they wouldn’t be four times as likely to commit suicide than their straight peers. Perhaps if we were all encouraged to love ourselves from the beginning we wouldn’t grow up to be gay men who treat other gay men like shit. I’m in no way outraged by this. I’ve been hearing this since day I could mince. It’s just disappointing . We experience so much discrimination from the outside world, wouldn’t it be great if we were kinder to each other in our own community? There are a billion reasons to feel actual shame and remorse. Being your authentic, fabulous, faggy self shouldn’t be one of them.
Professional Effeminate Homosexual for nearly 50 years.”
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