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04/19/2007


'Blue' Boybanders Lee Ryan and Duncan James Clarify 'Gay' Labels

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Lee Ryan and Duncan James, bandmates in the British boy band Blue, separately took time this week to clarify labels on their sexuality.

Ryan, who told a housemate on Celebrity Big Brother earlier this year that he's "been with a man,"  took to Twitter to tell his followers:

I've been asked by a few people why I haven't reacted over recent claims & my answer is this.. "The claims that I am gay don't faze me. I don't care if people think I'm gay, why would I care? I would be proud. Sexuality doesn't need to be defended or justified.

In 2014 when individual sexuality is being celebrated, it's odd that Twitter trolls and bullies focus on sexuality in a derogatory way. We have created change as a society, a really brilliant change and to those people who have not yet caught up to 2014 (for whatever reason) please just open your minds and begin to think#equal.

Everyone is allowed to be individual.

And James, who has joked about having threesomes with Ryan and revealed his bisexuality in 2009, told Gay Star News that he calls himself gay but he could still "easily sleep with a woman."

Said James:

"I think to myself, I sleep with men, so that makes me gay. Regardless of whether I sleep with women or not, I’m still sleeping with men so I’m gay. So I’m still attracted to women, I could still easily sleep with a woman. I haven’t in the last couple of years but I think if I meet a girl I could still have a relationship with her. I could still be romantically and sexually attracted involved with a girl.

"But I still call myself gay. I’m a gay guy. I like men, so that makes me gay. Don’t get me wrong, I think people can be bisexual. When I came out as bisexual at the time, it was just easier to use the word. I do say I’m gay, but I don’t really care about labels. I don’t really care if people want to call me bisexual or gay."

Glad that's all cleared up.


UMass Player Derrick Gordon Talks to MSNBC After Becoming First Out Gay NCAA Player: VIDEO

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News broke earlier today that UMass basketball player Derrick Gordon has come out of the closet, making him the first active openly gay NCAA Division 1 player. Andrea Mitchell spoke with him today on MSNBC.

Gordon said he made his decisions because "there's a lot of kids in my situation right now that can't be themselves and have to hide who they really are."

Gordon said that he consulted with Jason Collins before coming out and says he didn't expect his teammates to react with the acceptance that they did.

Gordon transferred from Kentucky and said "I just felt that I couldn't go the next couple months just hiding and being somebody I'm not...Having people out there saying gays aren't allowed in sports...I think nobody in this world should have to live like that."

Gordon says he was nervous about telling his mom and his parents froze for a little bit but his mother said "I always knew" and his father "came around and supported me."

Watch Mitchell's excellent interview, AFTER THE JUMP...

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Derrick Gordon is the First Active Male NCAA Div. 1 Basketball Player to Come Out as Gay: VIDEO

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Cyd Zeigler at Outsports shares the incredible story of Derrick Gordon, who last week became the first active male NCAA Division 1 basketball player to come out publicly. He told his team last Wednesday, two weeks after his team's upset loss to Tennessee in the NCAA tournament.

Watch an interview with Gordon by Zeigler, AFTER THE JUMP...

2_gordonGordon describes the isolation he felt and how the secrecy nearly destroyed his career:

That was all nearly derailed when Gordon’s then-boyfriend last summer posted a photograph on Instagram of the two of them in front of a gay bar on the New Jersey coast. Gordon was wary of the post but figured there was little chance someone would stumble across the photo on a random Instagram account and identify him and said gay bar. Shortly after the post, almost as though he wanted to be discovered, Gordon "liked" the photograph online. Within hours, some of his teammates asked him if he were gay.

Gordon denied it repeatedly, but that didn’t stop various members of the team from teasing him about it. The snickers and snide remarks carried on for weeks. Slowly, it consumed him.

"That was probably the lowest point I was ever at. I didn’t want to play basketball anymore. I just wanted to run and hide somewhere. I used to go back to my room and I'd just cry. There were nights when I would cry myself to sleep.

"Nobody should ever feel that way."

Gordon then began to embark in an emotional journey recounted in the moving piece, which eventually led to this moment:

Last Wednesday, after coach Kellogg broke the ice with the team, Gordon stood before them and revealed that he’s gay. As he shared with them his story of isolation, there wasn’t a dry eye in the room. While it had been easy for some of the young men to tease someone they thought was gay – and someone who denied it – the impact of their actions hit home when Gordon revealed the speculation was true, and that the teasing nearly drove him from the team.

"It was powerful for these players to see one of their brothers be so vulnerable," said Davis, who said he had to turn away from the group in the room lest they see him get emotional. "These are some inner-city kids, some rough, tough kids who Derrick wants to be friends with. They understand who he is a little bit better now.

Watch an interview with Gordon by Zeigler, AFTER THE JUMP...

Bottom image via The Daily Collegian.

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Debbie Harry Reveals Bisexuality, Says She's Been with Women: VIDEO

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Blondie's Debbie Harry has revealed she is bisexual in a German interview, the Mail Online reports:

When asked whether long-standing rumours of her affairs with girls were true, she said, 'Yeah,’ adding: ‘Let’s say women are more sensual.'

Harry, who enjoyed a long-term relationship with fellow band member Chris Stein, did not name any of her female lovers. She also insisted that her most enduring relationships had been with men and that she longed to fall in love again. 'I don’t know if I have any specific requirements,’ she said. 'Just somebody nice, who has a good sense of humour and loves to have sex. What more could you ask for?'

Harry also praised today's generation of female pop singers.

"I was criticised for being too overtly sexual, which was very innocent compared to what is going on now. I think they’re entitled to do what they feel or what they think is going to work for them. And I think they look good. It seems part of the standard for today really."

Take a look back at the video for Blondie's "Heart of Glass", AFTER THE JUMP...

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Notre Dame Releases Powerful Video Featuring Gay Tennis Player Matt Dooley and Teammates: VIDEO

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Notre Dame University has released a powerful and inspiring video profiling Matt Dooley, a tennis player who came out of the closet to his coaches and teammates several weeks ago.

In the clip (which is accompanied by an article), Dooley speaks about the struggles he faced being in the closet and also some emotional interviews with his teammate Greg Andrews and head coach about what it means to them to share the experience of his coming out.

Says Dooley: "I started to realize obviously that a lot of it was a problem with me. That I wasn't allowing myself to be successful, and to accept myself, and accept the trust and love of my parents."

Watch, AFTER THE JUMP...

(via outsports)

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Tom Daley: 'I am a Gay Man Now'

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Yesterday we posted some photos of Tom Daley's appearance (with actor and host Joe Swash, above) on the ITV show Celebrity Juice, which was broadcast in the UK last night.

Daley disclosed on the show that although he said he 'still fancied girls' (in the YouTube video last December), "I am a gay man now."

Daley also spoke about making the YouTube clip: "I came out on YouTube as I wanted to say what I wanted to say without anyone twisting it. I told my family before I told the world. I was terrified. I did not know what the reaction was going to be. I did it on YouTube because people were constantly digging and asking questions."

As for his relationship with Dustin Lance Black, it's "all good"


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