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04/19/2007


'Blue' Boybanders Lee Ryan and Duncan James Clarify 'Gay' Labels

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Lee Ryan and Duncan James, bandmates in the British boy band Blue, separately took time this week to clarify labels on their sexuality.

Ryan, who told a housemate on Celebrity Big Brother earlier this year that he's "been with a man,"  took to Twitter to tell his followers:

I've been asked by a few people why I haven't reacted over recent claims & my answer is this.. "The claims that I am gay don't faze me. I don't care if people think I'm gay, why would I care? I would be proud. Sexuality doesn't need to be defended or justified.

In 2014 when individual sexuality is being celebrated, it's odd that Twitter trolls and bullies focus on sexuality in a derogatory way. We have created change as a society, a really brilliant change and to those people who have not yet caught up to 2014 (for whatever reason) please just open your minds and begin to think#equal.

Everyone is allowed to be individual.

And James, who has joked about having threesomes with Ryan and revealed his bisexuality in 2009, told Gay Star News that he calls himself gay but he could still "easily sleep with a woman."

Said James:

"I think to myself, I sleep with men, so that makes me gay. Regardless of whether I sleep with women or not, I’m still sleeping with men so I’m gay. So I’m still attracted to women, I could still easily sleep with a woman. I haven’t in the last couple of years but I think if I meet a girl I could still have a relationship with her. I could still be romantically and sexually attracted involved with a girl.

"But I still call myself gay. I’m a gay guy. I like men, so that makes me gay. Don’t get me wrong, I think people can be bisexual. When I came out as bisexual at the time, it was just easier to use the word. I do say I’m gay, but I don’t really care about labels. I don’t really care if people want to call me bisexual or gay."

Glad that's all cleared up.


Lena Dunham Offers Tribute to Gay Sister, Expresses Regret That She Isn't Gay Too

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Girls creator and actress Lena Dunham was honored this week by the Point Foundation, the nation’s largest scholarship-granting organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) students of merit. Point provides financial support, leadership training, mentoring and hope to LGBT individuals who are marginalized because of their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression.

Vanity Fair's Bennett Marcus published an item about the event at the New York Public Library, and offered this wonderful quote from Dunham:

“I have always felt a strong and emotional connection to members of the LGBTQ community. It was actually a huge disappointment for me, when I came of age and realized that I was sexually attracted to men. So when my sister came out, I thought, Thank God, someone in this family can truly represent my passions and beliefs.

“My sister Grace coming out as a gay woman at age 17 was a huge turning point for me in my understanding of the issues facing LGBTQ people. We were raised in an environment—the art world of downtown Manhattan—where no one hid their sexual orientation, and a common question from four-year-old me was ‘Mom, are those ladies gay together?’ I was always very jealous of any child who had two dads. And because of our parents’ deeply held commitment to acceptance and equality, my sister’s process of coming to terms with her sexuality was as angst-free as anything involving sex can really be. She was assured by the adults in her life that she was not only accepted, but adored for who she is. I am so happy that this is the way she was able to enter the world as a woman and an LGBTQ person.”

Wrote Dunham on Instagram the night of the event (with the above photo): "My first excuse to carry my @charlotte_olympia clutch in public! To the very inspiring @pointfoundation honors. I save my sequins for when I know the gay boys will be out #traffickinginstereotypes"


Jessie J Comes Out as Straight, Says Bisexuality Was a 'Phase'

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British pop star Jessie J tells the UK's Mirror that she's now straight:

The star, who had previously said she was bisexual, spoke candidly to 3am about her changing sexuality.

“For me, it was a phase,” she says. “But I’m not saying bisexuality is a phase for everybody.

“I feel that if I continue my career not speaking on it, I almost feel more of a liar than if I didn’t. I just want to be honest, and it’s really not a big deal. Who cares?”

Jessie adds:

"I did talk about it, and I was open about it, and I do support being lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender - love who you want. That’s what I’m doing. I don’t regret anything I ever said, but I never knew back then that whatever I said became a fact that I couldn’t change. I’m just so bored of it, and that’s kind of it – I want to stop talking about it completely now and find myself a husband. It’s a true struggle. All the chick flicks that didn’t make sense to me, I now understand – Sex and the City is real! I’m not anything. I’m aware of who I want to be and I want to marry a man. That’s it."


Trey Songz: I'm Not Gay

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Earlier this week singer, rapper and actor Trey Songz was the apparent victim of a Twitter hoax that alleged he was gay and ready to come out. A photoshopped tweet attributed to the singer's account read, "I think it’s time to finally tell my fans. All games and jokes aside…I’m gay,” according to Hollywoodlife.com. The tweet quickly went viral. However, Trey has since come forward to refute the rumors: 

The things you people craft up with hatred in your hearts. The things people believe without question, or validity, all baffles me.

— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014

Photoshop and a retweet is all people need to believe, any and everything. I feel bad for the impressionable, no minds of their own.

— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014

If I'm gay then Tupac bringing me a ounce for this session wit Biggie tomorrow. No weapon. #LOVE

— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014

NFL Free Agent Kerry Rhodes Addresses Gay Rumors: 'I Emphatically Said No...'

NFL free agent Kerry Rhodes addressed rumors he is gay in two separate interview sessions this week. The first was with ESPN and Rhodes denies he was blacklisted after rumors began circulating last year that he was in a relationship with his male assistant, supported by affectionate photos of the two of them together:

Rhodes"I don't think I was blacklisted," Rhodes said during a phone interview Tuesday. "Especially with the NFL I don't think they would do that ... to me it was a product of me wanting to do other things and not finding the right opportunity."

As the NFL is about to welcome the first openly gay player in Michael Sam, who will enter the NFL draft this season, many assume Rhodes had not been offered a job after a former associate told a number of websites that Rhodes was gay. Some speculated that Rhodes wouldn't feel comfortable coming out, but Rhodes said that has never been the case.

"I emphatically said no once and that's all I need to say and people who know me know that's definitely not the case," Rhodes said. "To me I'm definitely not and I can't control what people think, so I move on."

Rhodes also commented on the league's would-be first gay player Michael Sam:

Rhodes said he thinks Sam will have to prove himself, just like every rookie does, in order to be accepted.

"Not just him being Michael Sam the gay player, with his sexuality being at the forefront," Rhodes said. "But accepting him as him as a man and as a player."

Sam's teammates may face more scrutiny, but Rhodes doesn't expect that the locker room will need to change to accommodate the first openly gay player.

"I don't think the locker room will change," Rhodes said. "I think they will be more cognizant of it, it's such a big deal right now. I think they'll try to police it a little more but I don't think the locker room will change. Every locker room has a different dynamic."

Rhodes again addressed the rumors (a popular topic) in an AMA on Deadspin yesterday:

Questioner Sam G: "Are you kind of peeved that everyone assumed you were gay, or at least closeted, after the reports from your assistant? It seems like the media kind of jumped on that story quickly and the narrative became one of a talented corner being blacklisted because he's gay, regardless of your comments on the subject. Personally, I think this stems from people wanting to see an openly gay player in the NFL because it would be a very public step in the equal rights movement, and would be a pretty big deal for gay folks in athletics everywhere."

Rhodes: "Great question. I agree with you in the sense that the media and or blogs are way too quick to report a story without investigating what is really going on first."

Rhodes was also asked if he thinks there's something wrong with being gay since he declined to make a "not that there's anything wrong with that" statement in the ESPN interview.

Said Rhodes: "I have friends from various backgrounds. Of course there is nothing wrong with being gay."

Rhodes also answered "yes" when asked if he's tired of the gay discussion.

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Patrick Stewart is Just Glad 'The Guardian' Reported That He's Gay and Not Dead

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The Guardian recently reported that actor Patrick Stewart (seen above with his Broadway castmate Ian McKellen outside the Stonewall Inn in October) is gay, resulting in a correction from the newspaper.

Stewart took it in humor and stride, tweeting: "Well, @guardian it makes for a nice change...at least I didn't wake up to the internet telling me I was dead again."

He later added:

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