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GLAAD President Jarrett Barrios Divorcing Husband

Sad words in today's Boston Globe from GLAAD President Jarret Barrios:

Barrios I was one of the first elected officials in the country to marry his same-sex partner. In part because there were so many naysayers, we worked to be a model couple — with each of us trying be the perfect husband. Like other lesbian and gay couples, we hoped to show our relationships for what they are: loving partnerships that deserve the possibility of “happily ever after” that marriage promises.

But as our families continue the march towards equality, the gay and lesbian community often doesn’t talk about divorce, even though some of the most important protections associated with marriage are exercised at the end of a relationship — protections that help the more economically vulnerable partner, give a formula for sharing the care of the children, and establish how two people can disentangle a life’s worth of acquisitions, compromises, and dreams.

Just as gay and lesbian couples share the joys of marriage, we will share the pain of divorce, something for which we have no template. Divorce plumbs impossible depths of sadness. It involves separating the dishes and the books and all the other things you acquired back when you both still felt the lightness of love, asserting to a judge at a public trial that, yes, your marriage has broken down irretrievably, and telling your parents whose marriage of 47 years hangs heavy over your anemic explanations to them.

Read the rest here. Barrios and his partner were together for 16 years and married for five.

GLAAD Tidings: NBC Opens Today's Wedding Contest To Same-Sex Couples


GLAAD just announced that NBC has agreed to its demand that the "Modern Day Wedding Contest" featured on Today be open to same-sex couples.

NBC's statement reads, in part:

"Over the past few days, Today has received a considerable response regarding our wedding contest application. The rules stated that eligible couples must be legally married in New York, where we will host the wedding, therefore excluding same-sex couple applicants. Our intent was not to be discriminatory or exclusive...Moving forward, we ensure that our future wedding contests will be inclusive of all couples."

The new deadline to enter is Monday, July 12. Apply here.

GLAAD's president Jarrett Barrios is "thrilled" that the show will celebrate "love and commitment, whether the spouses are straight or gay." The organization's call to action had over 4,000 signatures.

Good As You was the first to point out the contest's limitations. A job well done by them and by GLAAD.

Newsweek Tries to Put Out Fire Lit by Ramin Setoodeh Article

In what Newsweek Culture Editor Marc Peyser calls "an effort to clear some smoke away from this fire" started by the Ramin Setoodeh article which said gays couldn't convincingly play straights, Peyser attempts to have a substantive discussion with GLAAD's Jarrett Barrios and screenwriter Dustin Lance Black about Hollywood and the closet.

Says Black:  Setoodeh  

"Right now, in this atmosphere, [an A-list actor coming out is] something that would be difficult. And it is a challenge. When Jackie Robinson decided he was going to be the guy to step up and take on the challenge of being the first black player in the major leagues…there are many who could have done it before him. Was that easy? Of course not—that was a huge challenge. He had to suffer through the boos from the audience. He had to suffer through that and still perform well. And that's what this actor will have to do. This actor will have to suffer through articles like this in NEWSWEEK, these sorts of things being said that are negative. But I think in the end, what they'll be doing is paving this road toward equality in Hollywood where, yes, straight people can play gay roles and gay people can play straight roles. It will be work, but I think it's important that someone do it so in 10 years it's a given."

In related news...

Screenwriter Aaron Sorkin defends Ramin Setoodeh in the Huffington Post: "...with sincere respect to Ms. Chenoweth and the hundreds and hundreds of Internet posters who've crashed down on Setoodeh in the last few days -- some understandably passionate and some unfortunately hostile -- I don't think Setoodeh was being homophobic. Just wrong. The problem doesn't have anything to do with sexual preference. The problem has everything to do with the fact that we know too much about each other and we care too much about what we know. In one short decade we have been reconditioned to be entertained by the most private areas of other people's lives."

Andrew Wallenstein of the Hollywood Reporter says Newsweek need not apologize to GLAAD:

"That an actor happens to be gay shouldn't define him or her. That's a wonderfully idealistic notion, but sexual orientation can distort a performance, and in more ways than one. The first is that just knowing an actor is gay can color someone's perception of that actor's character. It's sad to say, but unrealistic to suggest everyone in the audience is as evolved as the next person. Just because GLAAD and its supporters wish that wasn't a possibility doesn't mean that if a writer points out that possibility, he's blasphemed. The second way applies even if the viewer doesn't know whether the actor in question is gay or not. Politically incorrect as it might be to suggest, there is always the possibility that even the most brilliant closeted actor in the most incredibly scripted heterosexual role could fall short, especially in a romantic lead role. As any producer knows, sexual chemistry onscreen is a delicate magic. Just because Rock Hudson was one such magician doesn't mean every gay actor can do same."

GLAAD Calls on CBS to 'Come Clean' on 'Homophobic Double Standard' in Super Bowl Ad Practices

Without mentioning Mancrunch.com specifically, GLAAD yesterday called on CBS to explain why it chose to "exclude an ad with gay content" from Super Bowl programming.

Tebow Said GLAAD President Jarrett Barrios: “CBS has a problem when they do something like this at the same time as they allow an anti-gay group like Focus on the Family to place ads during the Super Bowl. This network should come clean to the public about what’s going on because this seems to be a homophobic double standard.”

In related news, attorney Gloria Allred is demanding disclosure on the Tebow ad that abortions were illegal in the Philippines at the time Tebow's mother made her decision to not have one so it's unlikely that doctors would have even suggested it was an option.

Said Allred: "If this ad airs and fails to disclose that abortions were illegal at the time Ms. Tebow made her 'choice', then I intend to file a formal complaint of misleading advertising with those federal commissions."

GLAAD Announces Nominees for 21st Media Awards


GLAAD has announced its nominees for the 21st annual GLAAD Media Awards. English language nominees here. Spanish language nominees here.

GLAAD President Jarrett Barrios explains the purpose of the awards and presents a nominee reel, AFTER THE JUMP...

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Signorile and GLAAD's Jarrett Barrios on Adam Lambert Controversy

Barrios On his Sirius OutQ radio show yesterday, Michelangelo Signorile interviewed GLAAD President Jarrett Barrios about the group's mishandling of the Adam Lambert ABC controversy. As you may remember, they sent out three separate statements regarding ABC's double-standard.

Signorile has posted the interview.

Signorile writes: "Overall I think GLAAD has a long way to go in explaining what happened here and also its larger mission. It is compromised by the fact that it takes money from ABC --something else we discussed -- and that it just doesn't seem to be at the forefront of controversies and defamation, more so focused on giving out awards and patting media on the back."


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