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Graham Norton: Gay Relationships 'More Difficult' Than Straight Ones

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British talk show host Graham Norton ruminates about relationships to the UK Mirror:

“When I look back at my romantic history, I have to say it’s taken second place to my job. Perhaps I don’t expect my love affairs to last. Or it could just be that I have a low attention span. I have a theory. I think there’s something about having a male partner that makes it more difficult. This will sound sexist but that doesn’t mean it’s any less true. If I were a straight man, my female partner would have a role in the eyes of society. She would be the mother of my children, my hostess, the person on my arm at red carpet events. She would have a defined function. But that’s not the case if your partner is male. Every man – no matter how young or fey – has something of the alpha in him. So all the things they thought they’d enjoy about going out with me become loathsome in the end because they haven't earned it for themselves. Increasingly, that puts a strain on the relationship."

Norton says that his dogs Bailey and Madge are easier to love:

“They’re my heart’s delight. But we tend to love our dogs differently because we know that it’s going to be a temporary love. Barring a bus hitting me, Bailey and Madge are going to go first. In a way, that makes you adore them more or, at any rate, in a different way.”

Read the full interview here.


Studies Show Domestic Abuse More Prevalent In Same-Sex Relationships

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Two recent studies demonstrate the extent of domestic abuse in same-sex relationships and refute the myths that only heterosexual women are victims of domestic abuse, that men are never victims and that women are never the perpetrators, reports The Advocate.

The National Violence Against Women survey found that 21.5 percent of men and 35.4 percent of women living with a same-sex partner experienced physical violence in their lifetimes. This is compared with 7.1 percent and 20.4 percent respectively for men and women in opposite-sex relationships.

The Centers For Disease Control's National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, updated in 2013, reports that the lifetime prevalence of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner was 43.8 percent for lesbians, 61.1 percent for bisexual women, and 35 percent for heterosexual women, while it was 26 percent for gay men, 37.3 percent for bisexual men, and 29 percent for heterosexual men.

According to Beth Leventhal, executive director of The Network/La Red in Boston, thanks to the combination of reports like these and the Obama administration being active on LGBT issues, there has been increased funding for services to address domestic abuse in same-sex relationships.

Last year, Congress passed an LGBT-inclusive Violence Against Women Act.


Gay Oregon Couple Together For 60 Years Goes To Washington To Get Married: AUDIO

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As same-sex marriage becomes legal in more and more states across the country, gay and lesbian couples from neighboring states that prohibit same-sex marriage often pour in to nearby LGBT-friendly states to say, "I do." One such couple, Eric Marcoux and Eugene Woodworth of Portland, Oregon, who we told you about almost a year ago, have finally decided to tie the knot after 60 years together. Though Oregon has a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage, the couple travelled to nearby Washington state that just last year legalized same-sex marriage. The couple didn't rush to the altar once the Evergreen state made equality the law of the land, preferring to have their wedding in Oregon once it became legal there. However, Woodworth has recently been diagnosed with congestive heart failure and, according to doctors, only has weeks to live. He wants to marry his longtime partner now because he hopes Marcoux will be able to inherit his social security survivor benefits. From Oregon Public Radio:

Eric Marcoux and Eugene Woodworth have been together since they the day they met in Chicago in 1953. “I am here today to be legally married to Eugene Woodworth, with whom I have had an intimate deeply committed relationship for a little over sixty years,” Marcoux says. Marcoux is 83 years old and Woodworth is 85...

“We’ve observed federal government extending privileges. Then it occurred to us, ‘Well, maybe we’ll be able to transfer his social security, which is significantly greater than mine, to me,” says Marcoux. “And although it’s a modest one, it will make an enormous difference in the kind of life that I will be able to leave – live! – and leave.”

“He deserves it after living with me for sixty years,” Woodworth says.

“Maybe we should unpack that,” Marcoux jokes.

After the couple was legally married, Woodworth told the Judge who officiated,

“We’ve been married twice before in religious ceremonies...But we met sixty years ago, and this is the first legal thing. It’s such a pity that we had to wait that long.”

After signing the marriage documents, the two make their way out to their car for the 20-minute drive home to Oregon.

Marcoux gets in the car and shuts the door.

“We made it,” he says with a sigh. “Wonderful! We made it.”

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Q&A: 'Concussion' Director Stacie Passon Talks Marriage Equality and the Future of Gay Cinema

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Stacie Passon's debut feature Concussion made a big impression at this year's Sundance Film Festival and was snapped up by the Weinstein Company's RADiUS label after just one screening.  In the film, Robin Weigert (who you may know for her Emmy-nominated turn as Calamity Jane in HBO's Deadwood) plays Abby, a disillusioned housewife who embarks on a double life in the city as a high-end escort.  I spoke with Passon on the phone as her producer Rose Troche -- of The L Word -- drove her to Williamsburg after a day of interviews in Manhattan.  Concussion opens in New York and Los Angeles this Friday.

JC: I wanted to hear in your words how you came to this story and how the project started.  What was the genesis for you?

Stacie Passon Headshot 300DPISP: I just wanted to make a little film in the backyard with my friends.  When I showed the script to Rose, she felt that it sort of deserved a little something bigger, so we quickly ramped up the production.  Robin [Weigert, who plays Abby, the film's main character] was the first reel that I was just totally blown away with.  That was really the genesis of the project: getting Robin and Rose on really took it to a different level.

JC: You didn't think this would be a film that would go into theaters?

SP: Oh no.  I live in Montclair, New Jersey and I have a lot of friends who are techies; all we talk about are new digital platforms.  I just wanted to make a film that I could monetize--being with a film collaborative was my highest thought.  Or maybe I could put it on Vimeo and charge for it.

I knew that the lesbian audience was an underserved audience.  I didn't set out to write a lesbian themed movie; it just sort of came in.  My intention for it was, let's put on a show.  And it was born out of a need to do something creative after a career of serving clients.

JC: Right.  You were a commercial director?

SP: Yeah.

JC: As for the story itself--the script and the writing process--is it based on your own experiences?  Where did the idea come from?

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Need a Splash of Gay Romance to Brighten Up Your Dreary Winter? - VIDEO

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Ah yes, "first love". How sweet it is.

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Gay Portland Couple Celebrates 60 Years Together, Gets Awesome Interview in 'The Oregonian'

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For a series called Northwest Love Stories, Jennifer Willis at The Oregonian interviews Eric Marcoux, 82, and Eugene Woodworth, 84, who will celebrate being together for 60 years in June.

Here's part of it:

Q: What advice would you give to new couples today?

Marcoux: God, that's just a terror of a question. To know it's not easy, and leave if it's toxic. Wait long enough to know whether or not it's toxic or just a pain. And be in love with love.

Woodworth: The main thing that I come back to is commitment. You have to decide from the very beginning whether it's going to be a committed relationship for a long period or if it's just going to be as long as it lasts. Which is what most people do. They fall in love with lust instead of love. And they think that when the sex starts getting bad, that's the end of the relationship. That's the beginning of the relationship! That's when you start working on it.

Q: What's the biggest lesson about love and partnership you've learned along the way?

Woodworth: It never lets up.

Marcoux: To be more gentle toward my own vulnerabilities and to his inadequacies, because they disappoint him as well as me. Oh, that didn't make any sense at all.

Woodworth: You never were worried about disappointing me.

Marcoux: Oh, God, I'm going to leave him right now. May I get a ride?

Woodworth: Yeah, teasing is part of it.

Read the full interview HERE.


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