NOM Selling Anti-Gay Gala Tickets For $10k And Higher


Intent on continuing their quixotic crusade against equality, the National Organization for Marriage is hosting a gala to raise money for their second annual "March for Marriage" with tickets higher than $10,000. To be fair, each $10,000 in the larger packages buys an entire table intended for 10 guests, but that still breaks down to $1,000 per seat. Bigotry doesn't come cheap.

NOM Gala Tickets


  1. candide says

    and sullivan, tisani, and corvino, the gay collaborationists who have emerged in the wake of the eich incident to piss on their own community and write the scripts for the professional anti-gays, will no doubt be joining oscar lopez to give speeches about the so-called gay mafia.

  2. H says

    That should be interesting…to see exactly who the closet cases are that will attend. When they either come out of the closet on their own, or are outed by some future scandal we know of which they’ll be the center, we’ll have philanthropic evidence.

  3. I'm layla miller i know stuff says

    The Paranoia Switch by Martha Stout (

    Cowbird Politics

    Pg. 158

    Deliver a diatribe about same-sex marriage – not part of the same central issue, but a topic know to jab painfully at the fundamental difference between conservative and liberals. Say to your constituency, in effect, “Let’s you and them fight.”

    Such tactics of distraction and division help to conceal a power play that I call cowbird politics, after the little North American “brood parasite” that makes no home for its offspring, preferring instead to lay its eggs in the nest of other birds, who will be confused but far more responsible that he cowbird.

    A cowbird politician, who is interested only in acquiring and maintaining individual power, has few genuine convictions, either liberal or conservative, but may be ensconced in a traditional political party (as Joe McCarthy was, for example). The purloined “nest” serves as a power base and also as camouflage. We tend to honor party labels and not to look behind them, making pure self-interest difficult to see.

    But cowbird politicians, regardless of which political banner they wave, are definitely not team players. They are often the most divisive leader of all, because behind the camouflage, their agendas are not prescribed or limited by any philosophy or system of values. They can and do use the hammer of fear politics for their own purposes, ignoring protests from both halves of the political continuum.

    Typically, the unspoken subjective experience of a cowbird politician is that of traveling high above such categories, in a flight path that will tolerate no redirection. For a period of time, this lofty and sing-mined trajectory can appear heroic to the populace, until, upon closer inspection, the high-flying cowbird is revealed to be not so much free of political constraints as he is emotionally untethered from important group concerns.

  4. I'm layla miller i know stuff says

    Facing Shame:
    Families in Recovery (

    The Fairy Tale Family Archetype

    Some families exhibiting this let’s pretend quality have take on a “persona”, a family personality that is apparently healthy. They have learned to copy behavior from films, from other families, from article in magazine, from the dominant social myths, and most of all, from the artificial social sets where other play the same game.

    The game is “I’ll act like you expect t me to act in this social situation: I’ll conform to the rules. I’ll dress appropriately, join the country club, send my kids to private school and participate in the Junior League and other status organizations.”

    In other words, they adopt role behavior that they conveniently assume by accumulating things – for example, they know what cars to drive, what clothing to wear, what meals and wines to serve, what books to read, what vacation spots to choose, what churches to attend. On the outside, these families are of the envy of others in the community.

    They live a “cinematic” life, that is, they act as if there is a prescribed way for families to live life. By expending such determination and effort on achieving, they can hope to surpass their shame. The message is implicit yet strong: If you live life by our rules, then all will be well.”

    No one is allowed to tell other outside the family how empty and lonely the family members feel. An inner voice shouts: “May be I’ll just try harder, and then I’ll be like the rest. I cannot let anyone know how inadequate I feel in these roles and these social situations. There is even a community chant of “Aren’t we lucky….”

    Happiness is bought, worked for, and external. Accepting this “let’s pretend” dimension means walking the fine edge of denial, which serves to numb the pain of secrets. Indeed, they become even more deeply repressed, and the pattern of the game is hyperactivity. If the family members were to stop, they might have to feel the pain.

    R.D. Laing describes the rules in the Knots:

    They are playing a game. They are playing at not playing a game. If I show them I see they are, I shall break the rules and they will punish me. I must play their game of not seeing I see the game. (p. 1)

  5. I'm layla miller i know stuff says

    Sometimes these families become the “forgotten families”. High-achieving families are of the not allowed by other to have any pain; they look good to all outsiders and everyone outside. They contribute to the community and are often envied and held in high regard. What many in the community to not realize is that if these families were to give up workaholic patter, to cease their busyness, they would their identities as individuals and as a family.

    Therefore, the parents exert control over the children to achieve, to conform, to pretend too. If even on child were to escape, all the family’s secrets might be spilled – that dad and mom have slept in separate bedrooms for 15 years, that mom’s primary intimate relationship is with a woman friend of hers, or that did often sits alone and drinks too much late at night. Of course, often we see the scapegoat children in therapy; the parents bring them to be “fixed.”

    By the time members of these families enter therapy, they often are living behind thick layers of pretending behavior. The persons inside have disappeared. Whatever identity has been formed as individuals, and as family, has become fused with the mask – that is, the outside self is all that is know.

    This lack of identity leads to dependency; all are involved in the presentation f the family image. Many younger adults complain that they don’t know their parents. The reason they don’t is that their parents don’t know themselves either.

  6. I'm layla miller i know stuff says

    Facing Shame by Marilyn Mason (

    The Rough-N-Tough Family Archetype

    The mask of toughness is worn firmly in this family. Often the roles are highly stereotypic gender roses, with the macho male and the culturally stereotyped passive female. The rhetoric of the family is the language of toughness – “Get your butt out of that chair and let your mother sit down.”

    The family script is “life is tough; we’ll survive it.”

    Family members wearing this mask blame each other as well as everyone outside the family; the rules are those of blame (“his fault/ her fault but never “my fault”)

    The rules are clear: It is not all right to be sad, lonely, needing, or tender is this family. This is the mask of survival; the coping has been manifest in putting up multiple fences in order to push back the pain of the shame.

    The communication style is defended in a shield armor of harshness and obscenity. The pain is often buried so deep that family members begin to believe that such behavior is normal.

    At the end of an intense group therapy session in which several people show vulnerability, one young man form a halfway house for felons asked his friend, “hey man, do you thing we could talk like this when we’re with the guys back at the house?’

    The challenge is immense. Personal growth in these families has been stunted. Like blades of grass shooting up in growth, they have been mowed down time after time, unable to attain healthy growth due to the constant “mowing” of personal assaults.

    Shame is ping-ponged back and forth – “I’ll shame you first so you can’t shame me.”

    This is a vital part of their big-little relationship. It escalates, often erupting in abusive interaction. We often model limit-setting with these families, demonstrating that our rules will be followed – no abuse is allowed in our space. They can swing plush bats, they can beat on pillows, and express all their feelings – but they cannot abuse.

    Many of these family members are fearful of their sexuality; they are so frightened of their own feelings of vulnerability and softness or gentleness that they confuse tenderness in a man with homosexuality. They joke about sexuality, make racial and ethnic slurs and downgrade women. They fear the softness in themselves and suspect it in others.

    Often women in these families are dependent on their “men” and have been victimized in their early years. The women often seem to be at either end of a continuum – wearing either a mask of hardness or one of meekness (“he’s in charge here”). They allow themselves to the objects of jokes and sexism and often do not respect women, since they do not respect the woman in themselves.

  7. Joseph L. says

    With all due respect, gay rights benefits are usually WAY more expensive than $1000 per seat.

  8. Mike B. says

    @Joseph L. that’s a good sign; it means we’re winning. Hope they fail to sell their seats.