Tom Hardy: I’ve Never Had Sex with a Man, ‘Doesn’t Do It For Me’


Warrior star Tom Hardy graphically denies the gay rumors, but would rather they exist than nobody talks about him.

From an interview in UK Marie Claire:

This much candour makes you wonder whether Hardy ever regrets being, well, quite frank. 'I don't regret anything I've ever said It's just a shame things are misconstrued and I don't get the opportunity to explain.' Not even the time he said he'd enjoyed relationships with men in his twenties?

'I have never put my p-nis in a man,' is Hardy's characteristically direct response. 'Ive never had a c–k in my arse, and I have no f–king desire for it. If that's what you like, cool. But it doesn't do it for me.' He's irritated his words were taken out of context but concedes, 'one thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about'.

Discussion of Hardy's sexual past sprang to life last summer when the actor, then starring in Inception, was quoted by the Daily Mail:

"The 32-year-old Inception star, who is engaged to British actress Charlotte Riley, 28, and also has a two-year-old son with a former girlfriend.  But asked if he'd ever had any sexual relations with other men, the broody actor said: 'As a boy? Of course I have. I'm an actor for ****'s sake. 'I've played with everything and everyone. I love the form and the physicality, but now that I'm in my thirties, it doesn't do it for me. I'm done experimenting but there's plenty of stuff in a relationship with another man, especially gay men, that I need in my life. A lot of gay men get my thing for shoes. I have definite feminine qualities and a lot of gay men are incredibly masculine.'"


  1. QJ201 says

    Seems he’s talking about anal sex…so BJ’s still may have happen, as well as the teenage circle jerk!

  2. jason says

    Why is Marie Claire, a woman’s magazine, enabling denials like those of Tom Hardy? Women’s magazines need to butt out of male sexuality. Women are envious of male-male sexuality and it shows in how they attempt to denigrate us. A lot of homophobia – particularly towards men – is driven by women.

  3. say what says

    how is that a sexy pose?

    Give me a man just being himself…not contrived …….and just simply smiling

    In other words, if your posing then you are not being sexy. sexy just is

  4. FernLaPlante says

    Blah, who cares. If he did explore his sexuality then good for him. If he is backpeddling so that he is cast as alpha-male action star then forget him.

  5. Bart says

    There’s more in what he didn’t say in the denial than what he did. It sounded like publicist-speak to me.

  6. Jay says

    SAYWHAT, I think the point in choosing this picture was to play up on the gay rumors — as well as the fact that he didn’t really clarify anything other than denying anal sex with men — by picking a picture that seems rather “gay.” Also, it’s if “you’re” posing, not if “your” posing. The “you’re” that you need is the contraction for the same “you are” that you follow with in your conditional (if/then) sentence. (Notice my use of “your,” which is the possessive pronoun, showing that the conditional sentence I’m referring to belongs to you.)

  7. Gay American says

    no doubt he loves boinking women up the ass….its on practically every str8 porn Ive ever seen..the men cant wait to screw the chick in the ass

  8. TJ says

    I guess it all depends on what your definition of “in” is. His denial does not preclude frottage or manual manipulation or kissing.

  9. justme says

    He’s obviously reacting to the misconception (you should pardon the pun) that gay sex = anal sex and the myth that gay anal sex = lack of masculinity (when what could possibly be more masculine?).

    All his quote clarifies is that he’s never had gay anal sex. That’s it. Anal sex requires more space and time than oral or manual sex, is more intimate, and is riskier. It’s off the menu for a whole lot of queer men — both in and out of relationships — but it doesn’t make them any less queer. Or, in Hardy’s case, any less open.

    And, seriously, Tom, nobody sane is doubting your masculinity, anyway.

  10. Karl says

    The only thing more embarrassing than gay men’s obsession with the supposed gayness of actors is the point at which they are forced to deny it.

  11. Rocky says

    Who cares! He’s just another water-retaining macho pinhead looking for publicity.Just look at how many homos are making stupid comments about his “hotness”.There are better looking guys out there,ones who have brains and show humility and tact on many things.And no,you will NOT find them on grindr.

  12. sleepy bear says

    That pose with the swollen, botox-stung lips is a perfect mimic of the trying-too-hard pose Michael Lucas affects in every one of his pics.

  13. peterparker says

    Why do people think that Botox is responsible for puffy lips? Botox does lots of things from smoothing out wrinkles in the forehead to reducing sweat production in armpits/feet/hands to correcting a lazy eye. But it is not used to increase lip volume. That’s a job for a filler like Juvederm, Radiesse or Restylane.

  14. Stan L says

    The denial speaks volumes. He’s never done it for me, either way.

    @Jason It doesn’t matter where he issued the denial and your misogyny doesn’t do anything to help/serve the conversation.

  15. says

    Thumbs up Rocky. If anything, Hardy is using the gay community to further his career. Are we not talking about him today on the largest gay news website? Duh…

  16. Chuck Mielke says

    Ok, I have no problem with this pretty man being straight. I want to point at this, however: “… there’s plenty of stuff in a relationship with another man, especially gay men, that I need in my life.”

    Coming from a time when it was taboo for any straight man to admit even having a gay friend, when gays were supposed to be invisible and unacknowledged, I find Mr. Hardy’s comment a wonderful statement of a broader kind of manliness and an indication of our development as a society.

  17. Rovex says

    Tom is a lovely guy. I him quite a few times. Hes quite down to earth and not at all ‘Hollywood’. That picture is ironic, not serious or supposed to be ‘look at me, im sexy’.

    Nothing on his body is surgically enhanced, those lips are totally natural. He is a bit of a tease, but doesnt really understand why so many men find him attractive. He thought ‘Bronson’ would have put them all off!

  18. Hollywood, CA says

    Bahahah! That’s like someone asking you “do you hate your wife’s cooking,” and you saying “I’ve never thrown up anything my wife has cooked.” IT’S MEANINGLESS! You can still hate her cooking without throwing up, the two are not mutually exclusive.

    The correct answer should have been I have never had any kind of sex or intimate contact with another guy beyond a hug. Not, I’ve never been f’d in the arse. I haven’t either, but I’m GAAAAYYYY!

  19. Bob R says

    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I never have and still do not find this man attractive at all. To me his looks are repulsive and the hideous tattoos only detract more. He doesn’t have enough personality, from what I’ve seen, read and heard to make up for his appearance. I don’t think I’ll ever understand the reasoning for defacing the human form with tasteless ink cartoons or “art”, especially in indiscreet numbers.

    Gay, straight or in between, even if readily available, I’ll pass. I never even remember going through a bad boy phase that would find this guy good looking, even at two in the morning through the bottom of a beer mug.

  20. Rin says



    As a “breeder” who has worked to promote gay rights for as long as I can remember, who was one of those “chicks” in high school that defended gay men…I take a shatload of offense to your comment.

    In fact, when I hear things like that or anything @Rick says I become so hurt and offended and think back to all the times I allowed myself to be physically injured and/or humiliated just to try and do the right thing for my gay MALE friends. I wonder: was it even worth it?

    Do you honestly believe for one second that straight women are sitting at home all a-flutter worried that Tom Hardy or Hugh Jackman are gay? That we’re so gay envious that we secretly try to undermine an interview so that we get to “keep em on our team”?

    Jesus Christ. How ridiculous! What am I 13? Do you think I believe I could marry Tom Hardy someday if it weren’t for the fact that he is susceptible to the offer of a man blowing him occasionally?

    I don’t care who has sex with anyone else unless that person is in my bed. Beyond my own home…its none of my business.

    Tom Hardy has a girlfriend who has to deal with people calling her a beard. If he is not gay it could be that he’s trying to let people know that his relationship is real so that her feelings are taken into consideration. That is gentlemanly. I would expect no less from a gay man, either. Denials and no comments only have a place when there is no “significant other”. When there is, they deserve to be recognized.

    And, on a side note…he did mention waking up naked in bed with a dude back when he was on drugs. I wonder what he thinks happened in all the nakedness if not sex.

  21. BobN says

    He’s never had his cock in a man and he’s never had a cock in his ass.

    So he has had a cock in his mouth?

  22. Bryan says

    @BOB R: It’s comforting to see I’m not alone, never found him hot, never will. What exactly differentiates him from the generic gay for pay porn stars you see all around you these days? Muscular? Check. Tattoos? Check. An overreaching sense of manliness? Check. He just does nothing for me seeing as I could download a Michael Lucas porn movie and pretty much see men like him.

    At least he’s nice in real life according to an above comment because he comes across as one of those guys who try to be ultra macho which leads to them being uber-douchebags.

  23. jaragon says

    Perhaps this is part of the marketing of his new movie “Warrior’ the ultra macho Rocky wanna be which had a lousy opening week ( and that shot looks like it came from his Joe Gage movie audition…)

  24. Rin says

    Well, I don’t care…I saw him in an interview on a British TV show where he was being questioned about his drug past. He clearly said that one night he woke up naked in a bed with another dude and there was blood in the sheets. He said he had no idea where the blood came from or what happened.

    Two naked dudes, on drugs, in sheets. How the heck does he know whether or not a cocks been up his arse, as he puts it if he can’t remember?

  25. Shannon says

    This guy is beyond GROSS!! And who cares? he already earlier admitted to gay sex….but again….WHO CARES????? ~~YUCK~~

  26. Kenny says

    His publicist probably let him know that in Hollywood gay actors are good for comic relief only—-not leading men. Hence the, “I’m not really a poof” interview. Very sad in 2011.

  27. Charlie says

    SO DISAPPOINTED. retraction /’clarification’ simply advance Hollywood-invoked damage containment on the two ‘big macho man’ movies he has coming out: Warrior and The Dark Knight Rises. Someone told him that his career in America is doomed unless he plays it completely straight. SAD.

  28. Rin says

    I don’t think he’s gay. Bi…maybe? I do think he’s had some kind of man on man sex tho even if he wouldn’t currently call himself bisexual. I say this based off of an interview where he described his drug past.

    Not gay tho. Gay men with beards aren’t generally as cavalier.

    He’s knocked up more than one chick that he chose not to be in a relationship with.

    He was kind of a cad to women in the past which is not the type of thing Tom Cruise, John Travolta, or Hugh Jackman is known for.

  29. JCF says

    “Women are envious of male-male sexuality and it shows in how they attempt to denigrate us.”

    Why Hello, Misogyny! Project much?

    Jason, feck off. kthnxbye

  30. JCF says

    “Women are envious of male-male sexuality and it shows in how they attempt to denigrate us.”

    Why Hello, Misogyny! Project much?

    Jason, feck off. kthnxbye

  31. niles says

    The incessant chattering and gossiping by certain members of the gay community about what someone did or didn’t do sexually is not only sad but counterproductive to sexual freedom and expression.

  32. Steve Scarborough says

    The CDC announced today that new infections with the fotofishlip virus have reached pandemic proportions.

  33. Ray says

    I think his first statement was honest and as an actor I am sure it’s not uncommon. Actors have to be open and willing to explore LIFE.

    His second response is more about his movie career and the fact that the media in it’s thrist for scandal keep asking as if there is something to be uncovered.

    Bottom-line is that there is nothing to see here and he should just stop answering the question.

  34. pscheck2 says

    This guy gets in a snit every time he stars in a movie that is just released! Is this the third interview whereas he tries to convince his fan base, he is str8? If my memory does not fail me, he came out denyiing he was gay when another movie of his was released. However, it seems he did the ‘Red Carpet’ thing with his male co-star and they were seen doing the ‘town’ in London (gay bars?) and staying at the same hotel? I think he is a classic case of : “I think the lady doth protest too much?’

  35. David Hearne says

    I’m getting so old that I don’t know who half of these people are without doing an internet search for them. Moreover, it’s tiresome. The routine is the same. At twenty they flirt with their gay audience, at thirty they are playing dad to some arm-blonde’s kids, at fity they are leering, and at 60 they are fisheyed old drunks playing grabbass on variety shows.

  36. says

    Tom Hardy’s response was very direct and explicit. Some may find it untasteful…while it may not be Grandma appropriate, it does show that straight men can now be very direct about what they like. The movement for equality has helped ALL people to be more open.