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  1. Terry says

    Well, good for him. I know there are people who will say “oh, please, that’s been known for a while” or something. But still, I always like it when actors/actresses/entertainers come out. And hopefully, since Jim Parsons is very talented, we’ll see another nail slammed into the “coming out will hurt their careers” thing.

  2. CPT_Doom says

    The sad truth is that no matter how openly you live your life, the press will not identify you as gay or lesbian – or even in a same-sex relationship – unless you somehow give the green light for them to do so. It is the biggest double standard left and it totally ticks me off. The media still consider it an insult to call someone gay or lesbian when they have not publicly acknowledged it.

  3. Landon says

    This fulfills the mass media’s requirement for a celebrity to be “out”. All the tabloid pictures in the world don’t count because the media can’t print that he’s gay in a newspaper. Now Parsons is out so now they can print it. It was the same way with NPH and it’s why Anderson Cooper is still in the closet. The celebrity has to say the words, or in this case, confirm the fact-check in a legit paper.

  4. Richard L says

    Parsons hadn’t actually addressed his sexuality prior to this. While he wasn’t really in the closet, he wasn’t really out of it either. While many see it as a confirmation of assumptions and implied information, it’s always nice to see someone dispel myths and uncertainty.

  5. says

    Johnny Galecki has played gay/bi in several roles over the course of his career. He also plays roles, most famously David Healey on Roseanne, who are effette, geeky, non-“masculine,” and could be considered–in any definition of the word, queer.

    As much as many of us, this poster included, would love Mr. Galecki to come out as gay, I will have just as much respect for him and his career if he does not. If he chooses to come out, cool. If hes straight, cool. Maybe he’s one of those insidious [sarcastic] bisexuals, cool. His sexuality matters not.

    GO, JIM PARSONS! It is those of us who are brave enough to come out, stand up and be counted, and show America who we are that will continue to turn the tide in this country. Perhaps one fewer LGBT kid will kill him/herself tonight because of this casual coming out.

  6. says

    Johnny Galecki has played gay/bi in several roles over the course of his career. He also plays roles, most famously David Healey on Roseanne, who are effette, geeky, non-“masculine,” and could be considered–in any definition of the word, queer.

    As much as many of us, this poster included, would love Mr. Galecki to come out as gay, I will have just as much respect for him and his career if he does not. If he chooses to come out, cool. If hes straight, cool. Maybe he’s one of those insidious [sarcastic] bisexuals, cool. His sexuality matters not.

    GO, JIM PARSONS! It is those of us who are brave enough to come out, stand up and be counted, and show America who we are that will continue to turn the tide in this country. Perhaps one fewer LGBT kid will kill him/herself tonight because of this casual coming out.

  7. Blake says

    First Zachary, then Matt and now Jim.
    All three are friends or college friends, right.

    Ryan Murphy seems to the current link between them, so I wonder…

    So far Matt has taken the biggest risk, since he is the epitome of a leading man, i.e., a “Disney Prince”.

  8. Jere says

    This is important because visibility matters, whether we’re talking about your niece, your neighborhood postman, or a sitcom star. Everytime someone comes out, the bubble around those who think they don’t know any gay people shrinks. There may be people in red states who will think twice about their initial kneejerk anti-gay votes when they read that an actor on their favorite show is gay. There may be kids out there who still think they’re alone and that their lives will never get any better, who will have hope because Parsons, a native Texan, seems to have survived his upbringing. Parsons has made a big step with this article and I applaud him for it.

  9. Eric says

    Like every Chuck Lorre property, The Big Bang Theory almost always portrays being gay as a punchline or something the guys always feel they need to deny aggressively at even the slightest provocation. It’s sad that the actors on that show can’t or won’t change Lorre’s attitude.

  10. dms says

    Gay folks forget that many straight folks don’t seem to know gay folks and don’t really think about the world of discrimination that gays face. Until people come out and illustrate that being gay is not a strange foreign thing that impacts everyone, many people will continue to live in ignorance, fear, and hatred. I think this is why people get so angry when people who are more or less obviously gay don’t come out and set the record straight (so to speak.) I also think the gay community needs to stop being so naive as to think that being out without coming out is enough. I’m talking to you AC! Like it or not, being out is political–see all the political news generated by marriage, bullying, equality. By staying in the closet, no matter how glassy, people contribute to the problem. I don’t mean you need to have a parade, a simple shrug of the shoulders and acknowledgement would be fine. While I am upbeat about polls about marriage equality and acceptance, in the reality of the election booth, marriage and equality continues to get clobbered. The only way to change society is to be honest and to live out loud. Whispers ain’t gonna cut it.

  11. Caliban says

    Has anyone told Helen Keller? I think she may be the only one still in the dark about this.

    Congrats, though. Honestly I thought he was already out.

  12. wtf says

    I just assumed he was out when he thanked his partner at the Emmy’s. But again, it was the Emmys…so only gay people would’ve seen that. LOL

  13. says

    Somewhere, there’s a gay teenager reading about this who watches The Big Bang Theory, is a huge fan of the show, and now feels better about themselves or their ability to come out.

    Thanks, Jim.

  14. Michaelandfred says

    Just because some housewife in nebraska doesn’t know you’re gay doesn’t mean you’ve “come out” when some publication talks about it. He’s been out for years. You come out to family and friends and maybe colleagues. After that it’s just people learning about you and your life.

  15. topdawgbombadil says

    Gosh… I dunno… that wasn’t a direct quote from him… He may *still* not be out! I rather agree with the posters who have said he’s just been living his life without hiding it and the media has been the one tiptoeing around it.

  16. Rae says

    Gay celebrities count on the media tiptoeing around, so no, living your life openly but not saying you are gay does not mean someone is out. That is the glass closet. When Jim thanked his partner at the Emmy’s, there was no way of knowing who he was in Jim’s life, so that doesn’t count either. It’s not like Matt Bomer, who made it clear that he was talking about his partner when he thanked him a few months ago.

  17. Jeff says

    Galecki is straight and a good supporter too. I’m paraphrasing but he said something to the effect of why would I argue over being called something that is not offensive in the first place.

  18. Ben in Oakland says

    Vatican newspaper editor accused of smearing rival writer with rumors of gay affair: “The alleged plot has been revealed in a controversial new book that portrays the Vatican as a hotbed of jealousy, intrigue and underhanded factional fighting.”

    Nobody hear Brutus screaming, jealous queens.

    Read more: http://www.towleroad.com/#ixzz1vjFcVojG

  19. Kansas says

    Thank you to the earlier poster for commenting on homophobia in “Big Bang Theory” scripting. There was a line uttered by Christine Baranski about two male characters’ being in an “erstwhile homosexual marriage” where the comment was clearly intended to humiliate and insult the male characters. It amazes me, given some of the people involved in that show, that that line got both written and performed.

    Anyway, it’s awesome that Jim Parsons has come out. It is truly meaningful for someone to publicly make an unambiguous statement about being gay or being in a same-sex relationship. I don’t buy this “he never was ‘in'” nonsense: If you **avoid the topic in interviews**, like Sean Hayes did (very carefully, for a long time), and Jim Parsons also did until now, and Anderson Cooper continues to do, you are not out.

    Barry Manilow: It’s your turn.

  20. andrew says

    He is a really funny guy. I wish him and his boyfriend Todd all kinds of good things. And it is good that he is “officially” out, but is there anyone with a pulse who didn’t know he was gay?

  21. Kyle Michel Sullivan says

    I thought Jim Parsons asked his boyfriend to marry him after one awards ceremony and that was reported all over the place.

  22. stranded says

    @ Rae

    Bomer took a lifetime to come out. For some reason the media tabloids, blogs and all reporters left him off the hook when it came to that. He was photographed with his children but there were never questions about his partner. Ever since he became famous, I found out through the comments section but there was never any rumor made by a blogger. There was even a piece about his partner and how he chose to have kids, but there was never mention of Bomer. I still don’t understand why some people like Anderson Cooper get a lot of pressure to come out and others can go about their lives in peace. Maybe it does help to marry someone with influence in the media.

    I agree with some people here who believe Parsons was already out. There was no need for him to make an announcement Aiken-style. The problem is that whenever a celebrity comes out, they are immediately regarded as advocates, but that doesn’t mean they want that role.

    The point of being casual about this is that they’re implying that being LBGT is not the most important thing about them. It’s certainly relevant, but it’s not what defines them. Some people just want to live their lives and not be considered as a “gay doctor”, “gay news anchor”, “gay musician”. I respect that and we all should.

  23. stranded says

    @ Andrew

    It’s precisely snarky comments such as “is there anyone with a pulse who didn’t know he was gay?” is what bother people.

    This thing about the gaydar pisses more people off than you think. You can’t pretend to know what goes on in someone else’s heart and mind. It’s plain rude and offensive, IMO.

    Unless you knew him first hand, then you are entitled to make such comment. If you knew him from his show, as I do, then you were making assumptions.

    In all honestly, even if his character comes across as flamboyant, to me, I can separate fiction from reality, but apparently some people can’t.

  24. GregV says

    I had no idea he was gay, but I’m glad to know he is.

    “Didn’t he thank/mention his partner during his first Emmy acceptance speech years ago?”

    @Brian NYC: He thanked his director who is “a wonderful partner” and then said he loves “Mom, Julie, Nathan, Parker, Todd Spiewak, Melissa McNeely….”

    I watch a speech like that and have no clue whether someone is gay, straight or bi.
    First, “partner” can mean anyone you jointly work, play or deal with in ANY capacity (when Jane Lynch thanked “my wife Lara,” there was no ambiguity). In this case, his partner was a work partner, not his romantic partner. And when he DID mention Todd Spiewak, it was in the middle of a list of names whose various relationships with him (other than the word “mom”) would be completely unidentifiable to me and nearly any other viewer.

    I hope that the next time he wins an Emmy, he will be both kissing and thanking “my husband Todd.”

  25. Stuart says

    STRANDED: “Unless you knew him first hand, then you are entitled to make such comment. If you knew him from his show, as I do, then you were making assumptions.”

    I think you completely missed the point here. Yes, he never really specifically mentioned that a man was his partner, but a quick search would have given you pages and pages of information. I don’t even watch the show nor am I a fan of his and I knew that he was gay from several links posted on LGBT blogs; awards ceremonies, pictures, etc…

  26. says

    It’s all about coming out “officially.” And nothing is more “official” than “the newspaper of record.”

    There’s been a lot of silly chatter about Parsons “quietly coming out” when the NYT is the World’s Biggest Bullhorn.

    This is allabout Media Rituals. That so many of us “knew” or “guessed” that he’s gay is as nothing to the media until he SAYS THE WORDS. And now he has.

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