Mike Fédée | France | Gay Marriage

A Gay Frenchman's Gorgeous Message to Homophobes About Marriage: VIDEO


 Mike Fédée has a message to French people afraid of same-sex marriage: Fear Not.

Turn on the English subtitles by pressing CC on the video.


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  1. It's important he's gorgeous. That's how I know he's worth listening to.

    And he's so brave, being shirtless. That really bumped up the rhetorical power. Like, if Bruce Villanch gave that message: gross, right?

    Posted by: Mike B. | Apr 19, 2013 10:45:51 AM

  2. As moving a video as I have ever seen. This seems to be a week for very moving and touching videos on Towleroad. Thanks, Andy.

    Posted by: jamal49 | Apr 19, 2013 10:47:21 AM

  3. Brilliant! Thanks, Andy. (Use the "cc" button to turn on the English subtitles.)

    Posted by: ken | Apr 19, 2013 10:59:22 AM

  4. The sentiment is pleasant, the delivery is clear, but why did he shoot it in a darkroom?

    Posted by: Gareth | Apr 19, 2013 11:02:03 AM

  5. Not only is he beautiful, French is beautful. I had three semesters of it and don't know a damn thing. Well, maybe I could tell Mr Fedee, "Tu est tres joli" Is that right?

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Apr 19, 2013 11:11:19 AM

  6. I could listen to the French language forever.
    I could listen to this beautiful man forever.

    Posted by: JackFknTwist | Apr 19, 2013 11:14:27 AM

  7. Mais OUI!

    Posted by: Kile Ozier | Apr 19, 2013 11:46:07 AM

  8. As beautiful as this can be to listen to for people who don't speak French, I must say that as a Frenchman I couldn't even get to half of the video. This sounds so rehearsed and feels really fake. It looks like a drama club performance by an overzealous actor. The message itself may be valuable, but the whole theatricality of it really bothered me, as least for the part I was able to watch before I got too annoyed to continue.

    Posted by: AL | Apr 19, 2013 11:46:57 AM

  9. Oh and by the way, fighting prejudice and declaring gay people are just normal people, and still feel the need to be shirtless to say it really isn't very productive.

    Posted by: AL | Apr 19, 2013 11:50:51 AM

  10. @Derrick from Philly:
    Tu es très beau. ;)
    ("joli(e)" is for girls and objects… I know, that sounds really misogynistic, but who said the French were perfect?)

    Posted by: AL | Apr 19, 2013 11:54:07 AM

  11. unfortunately, the video, as sweet as it is, does not address the main objections the bigots have to the law. 1) children need a father and mother, otherwise their psychological development will be impaired 2)having 2 same-sex parents will create an inequality among children 3) opening marriage to gays will ultimately lead to surrogacy (which in france is illegal for everyone) 4)replacing "father" and "mother" with "parent 1" and "parent 2" in the civil code destroys the principle of sexual complementarity 5)schools will start teaching "gender theory" and so further confuse children about traditional gender roles and 6)opening adoption to gays will make it even harder for hetero couples to adopt (in France there is a shortage of adoptable children)

    Posted by: candide001 | Apr 19, 2013 11:54:53 AM

  12. How dare he be handsome? Who does he think he is?

    Geez! There are hundreds of ways to reach the moderate middle on this issue. This is one of them. He's not trying to be all of them.

    I thought it was effective, funny and sweet.

    Posted by: Seattle Mike | Apr 19, 2013 11:55:51 AM

  13. The message was great, the delivery a bit over the top, But I damn sure would not shoot the messenger

    Posted by: Steve | Apr 19, 2013 11:56:53 AM

  14. This guy looks like a Caucasian version of Tyler Perry. I think it's the lips.

    Posted by: Keppler | Apr 19, 2013 11:57:16 AM

  15. Gorgeous is in the eye of the beholder.

    I'm not beholding.

    Posted by: Truthiness | Apr 19, 2013 12:18:02 PM

  16. I agree with Seattle Mike. A message has to be presented as attractively as it can. Just look at any commercial on TV or any ad in a newspaper or magazine. And of course it's rehearsed...does anyone really expect someone to do a video and go "Um", "er" and ramble on about something? it has to be concise with phrasing meant to sink in. And so what if the guy is shirtless--all you see are his shoulders; he could be a Pilsbury doughboy farther down. This was a wonderful message wonderfully and simply presented

    Posted by: woodroad34d | Apr 19, 2013 12:21:26 PM

  17. y'all are free to put shirts on and make your own videos.

    so, will you? no? why not?

    @candide - i hear ya there, but as anyone who's been in these debates for a while will attest, those "Arguments" aren't actually arguments. they're excuses. you can shoot them down with factual logic and reason, and they'll still trumpet them. either by moving the goalposts or putting their fingers in their ears with a LALALALAAAA.

    it's the same old story. bigot says "i'm against gay marriage because _________!", you prove, with specifics, how ___________ doesn't hold up as a valid argument.
    they still use it.

    i mean, we still get complete idiots saying "god didn't make adam & steve!" as if that's a debate-ender, or something.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 19, 2013 12:23:08 PM

  18. Mike B: Vous êtes hilarant. Vous avez raison:
    Il est beau, mais pas très convaincant.

    Posted by: gwynethcornrow | Apr 19, 2013 12:32:34 PM

  19. @little kiwi unfortunately for 6 months the french media has been giving the right-wing catholic harpy frigide barjot a limitless platform for spreading those lies. the socialist party and the gay community have been unsuccessful at countering them in the public mind. support for ssm has fallen from 63% to 53% and for adoption from 48% to 41%. in the US we complain that tony perkins is given a few minutes on tv here and there by the main stream media to spread his lies. in france barjot has been making the talk show and issues program circuit where she gets 30 minutes (or more) a shot.

    Posted by: candide001 | Apr 19, 2013 12:37:55 PM

  20. fair enough, Candide - but the real problem in the USA is not Fischer on the mainstream media, it's Fischer on Fox. And pretty much any and every right-wing talk radio hack.

    i'm not entirely disagreeing with you, understand. it's just that it's an extension of what we saw in the Prop 8 court case - the bigots say ________, ________ is then proven to be a collection of baseless nonsense that holds no weight. and then.....they just keep on saying _________.

    it's hard to combat "reasons against gay marriage" that are in actuality merely EXCUSES to be against gay marriage. because excuses are, at their core, intellectually dishonest.

    Posted by: Little Kiwi | Apr 19, 2013 12:44:25 PM

  21. @AL: tout à fait d'accord avec toi..

    Posted by: Kylian | Apr 19, 2013 1:14:09 PM

  22. I see y'all have taken the discussion in a more serious direction, but I have to comment on one comment:

    @" This guy looks like a Caucasian version of Tyler Perry. I think it's the lips."


    you're just joking, right? I had to google Mr Fedee, and even though most of the entries are in French--the country of Martinique keeps coming up in his biographical notes. A brief profile of him was also featured on a French website called "Africultures".

    And AL, thanks for the correction. That's what happens when you try to learn French by taking a few classes and just listening to Edith Piaf records.

    Yes, I had to research this young man...oooh, lala.

    You all can go back to the serious issues concerning the video now.

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | Apr 19, 2013 1:52:41 PM

  23. Well, I found it beautiful. Of course, you could read the phone book in French and it would be beautiful. But with a beautiful boy and beautiful message (yes, rehearsed, d'uh - it was practically a poem), it's sold. Well, to this sucker for a cute, french-speaking, love-advocating guy anyway.

    Isn't it moot whether he covered every inch of ground, or whether this will combat every homophobe (oh my, but that word sounds better in French!). Isn't this a done deal in France? I thought there were no more legal hurdles.

    Posted by: Zlick | Apr 19, 2013 2:06:26 PM

  24. @zlick it's not over till it's over. while its passage in parliament is a done deal, the opponents still have two hopes left to block the law. The first is the appeal they will immediately make to the constitutional council to have parts of the law (those dealing with adoption and filiation)declared unconstitutional. The second is the precedent in France of the government withdrawing a bill that has already been passed by the parliament if the street demonstrations are large and loud enough.

    Posted by: candide001 | Apr 19, 2013 2:15:53 PM

  25. A very nice example of poetry (and a handsome poet)

    Posted by: Carlton | Apr 19, 2013 2:20:04 PM

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