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Study Reveals 1 in 10 Craiglist M4M Users Want 'Non-Gay' Partner

A study recently published in the journal Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity found that one in ten men who use the Craigslist M4M section specifically seek out “sexual partners who do not identify as gay, either to fulfill a fantasy or because it allows anonymous sexual encounters without discovery.”

The researchers reviewed 1,200 ads and compared ads specifically seeking non-gay-identified (NGI) men and ads not specifying the preferred sexual orientation of their partners.

ScrimschawThe study found that 1 in 10 ads were placed by men seeking sex with NGI men, and:

Although men who posted NGI-seeking ads were more likely to self-identify as bisexual, married, and/or discreet and to seek out an anonymous encounter relative to the ads of comparison men, only 24% of online advertisements seeking NGI men were posted by men who were themselves non-gay-identified. This suggests that many of the posts (roughly 76%) are placed by gay men seeking NGI men, perceived by some gay men to be more masculine, dominant, or "straight-acting.”

… men seeking NGI partners were significantly less likely to mention that they wanted to have safer sex/use condoms (15% vs. 33%) and were more likely (66% vs. 42%) to omit mention of condoms or safer sex in their advertisements. "This suggests that these men are more likely to be looking for and willing to engage in sex without a condom which may place them at greater risk for HIV/STI transmission than men who are not seeking non-gay-identified male partners," said [Dr. Eric Schrimshaw, PhD, at Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health, pictured].

The study could help further future research regarding the sexual activities and STI risks of NGI men who have sex with men. Such research could help keep everyone healthy, no matter how they self-identify.

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  1. Actually it's more like 9 out of ten on there....

    Posted by: styler | Mar 25, 2014 7:17:07 PM

  2. I don't give a good godd*mn if people want to sleep with guys who are bi-curious, "mostly" straight, etc.--but everybody, EVERYBODY should be using condoms if you're engaging in anal sex, the #1 method of HIV transmission. This is a proven fact, and anyone who tries to sidetrack or avoid the issue by complaining about "stigmatizing" people who are HIV+, or "shaming" people's sex choices deserves a good rap across the knuckles. I didn't spend the late 80's and 90's watching friends and acquaintances (and even a former partner or two) contract HIV/AIDS to watch it rear its ugly head 20-some years later because people are too horned-up to stop and think for 10 seconds.

    Posted by: Dback | Mar 25, 2014 7:18:36 PM

  3. Yup, everyone wants a dominant well endowed top on there.

    Posted by: zeddy | Mar 25, 2014 7:19:52 PM

  4. Yup, everyone wants a dominant well endowed top on there.

    Posted by: zeddy | Mar 25, 2014 7:19:53 PM

  5. Pushy craigslist bottoms are seldom actually willing to let a dominant top ... dominate. Especially if he's well-endowed.

    Posted by: Pervy McPerv | Mar 25, 2014 7:25:20 PM

  6. People actually still use Craigslist for hookups? That's so 90s!

    Posted by: wheelie81 | Mar 25, 2014 7:26:49 PM

  7. 60% don't believe in evolution. 30% believe in UFO's. There is life outside of polls.

    Posted by: melvin | Mar 25, 2014 7:32:40 PM

  8. How pathetic those people sound?

    Posted by: Ppp | Mar 25, 2014 7:49:50 PM

  9. Because if you don't identify as gay, the how could you possibly have HIV?

    Posted by: KevinVt | Mar 25, 2014 7:57:12 PM

  10. I know a clique of guys who are just into straight men. Not in the personals but real life situations. To me they have a lot of issues

    Posted by: Homo Genius | Mar 25, 2014 8:39:13 PM

  11. I don't trust men who willfully and knowingly go after "straight" married men. You either don't love yourself or you are scum. There is no inbetween.

    Posted by: Derrick | Mar 25, 2014 9:02:22 PM

  12. Only 10 percent? In my observation, it is more than half, including All the dudes who may not explicitly say they are seeking dudes who identify as straight, yet still exclude guys who identify as gay.

    Posted by: Malcolm | Mar 25, 2014 9:02:59 PM

  13. The "straight" men are just scum assuming their wives aren't privy to their dalliances

    Posted by: Derrick | Mar 25, 2014 9:03:27 PM

  14. Those guys are all the sissy bottoms.

    Posted by: Rick | Mar 25, 2014 9:12:01 PM

  15. Give me a gay guy any day. They know what they're doing (well, most of them).

    Posted by: Mike in the Tundra | Mar 25, 2014 9:18:22 PM

  16. I am surprised the % is that low. From my empirical analysis of reading M4M craigslist ads daily for months it seems more than that.
    I also notice a trend of not many posters outright labeling themselves as gay, and very few outright looking for gay or bi only. It is a very sad trend that only denotes self-hate.

    Posted by: Bestcomments | Mar 25, 2014 9:33:00 PM

  17. Yep, I think there have been studies are reports about how dudes who identify themselves as gay on m4m sites receive much fewer responses than those who do not.

    Posted by: Javier | Mar 25, 2014 10:09:35 PM

  18. In other words, guys with no self-esteem.

    Posted by: Sean Maloney | Mar 25, 2014 10:54:19 PM

  19. No earth shattering conclusions here, but one has to start somewhere. Kinsey was much more visionary.

    Posted by: Rob | Mar 25, 2014 11:11:28 PM

  20. Not surprising, but it still bums me out. That "masc" or "straight-acting" (hell, even "butch" is too gay a word to say, I guess) is such a red flag. If someone sends me an "are you masc?" message on Grindr, it's basically just "I'm looking for a top, but I have bottom shame"

    Posted by: Mikey | Mar 25, 2014 11:38:00 PM

  21. A lot of the married guts on CL only jack off or maybe do oral. So not using condoms doesn't necessarily mean unsafe sex. I have a friend who likes married guys because he is in a gay relationship and doesn't want to meet someone who might want to he told me he would never mention condoms because he doesn't want to scare off any guys not into fcking. I would think the study should have also looked at words such as 'safe' in addition. Using safe implies a condom if fcking.

    Posted by: steve talbert | Mar 25, 2014 11:42:30 PM

  22. I meant when add specifically mentioned anal. If it just mentioned hand job, etc, then it would be weird and strange to mention condom or safe.

    Posted by: steve talbert | Mar 25, 2014 11:45:32 PM

  23. It's a fetish: Like a straight guy into lesbians. No mystery behind it, just forbidden fruit (pardon the pun).

    Posted by: elgar | Mar 26, 2014 1:52:41 AM

  24. It's a fetish: Like a straight guy into lesbians. No mystery behind it, just forbidden fruit (pardon the pun).

    Posted by: elgar | Mar 26, 2014 1:52:46 AM

  25. @ Mikey - I'm certain what you're saying is true, but any guy who says "straight acting" should have a knee slammed into his balls. Those words say that they think being straight is better than being gay.

    Posted by: Mike in the Tundra | Mar 26, 2014 3:18:30 AM

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