‘Dead or Alive’ Singer Pete Burns: Gays too Predatory for Marriage

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Former Dead or Alive singer Pete Burns has split with his partner Michael Simpson 10 months after entering into a civil partnership, and he’s bitter, very bitter.

Pete_burnsBurns slams gay relationships and civil partnerships to The Daily Mail, lamenting that heterosexual marriages are more genuine and longing for his former wife of 28 years, stylist Lynne Corlett.

According to the Mail, “he had been ‘optimistic’ about his civil partnership, but now he says: ‘I learned the hard way. It’s a total joke.’ Burns accused Simpson, 40, of being unfaithful and admitted he felt disillusioned. Burns added that some gay couples had ‘open marriages’ where the partners could be unfaithful. He said: ‘There’s a lot of promiscuity in the gay community. I don’t understand why they take that union. How low is their self-esteem? One’s on Hampstead Heath meeting men, the other one’s hiring rent boys. ‘Surely marriage is throwing anchor and saying, ‘This is where I’m staying, I’ve made my choice and this is all I want because I’ve been on the up and down escalator, through the revolving door and I want to stand still.’ That’s what I expected.”

Added Burns: “I view marriage as a sacred institution. I think two men naturally are predators. Gay relationships are a commercial break, not a whole movie. The relationships I’m aware of, apart from one … it’s as though there’s some kind of emotional inadequacy or narcissism, where they feel emotionally inadequate and need more validation, from either a father figure or a mirror image of themselves. “I’m not condemning it, I think it needs researching and help…Would I get married again? If somebody knocked me on the head with a nine-inch nail-studded plank or drugged me with benzodiazepine … No, no, no.”

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Comments

  1. Maxwell says

    Wow, someone is bitter. Trust me; I know plenty of heterosexual marriages that are open. Gay or straight, marriage is a choice that should not be entered into lightly. If it works, it works; if it doesn’t get under another to get over it.

  2. Sasha says

    The Daily Mail is a conservative, homophobic newspaper, so I’m sure the editors were thrilled that Pete Burns decided to confirm all their prejudices for them. Particularly since it allows them to hold up their hands and say “Look, we’re not being homophobic! It’s coming from the lips of a real gay man!”

    It’s too bad Burns felt the need to slur every gay relationship just because his didn’t work out. But of course, when a straight marriage fails, it’s just because of the individuals involved – when a gay marriage fails, it must necessarily prove that no gay marriage can ever work. *rolls eyes*

  3. qjersey says

    Always charming when some LGBT person throws the entire community under the bus because of their personal issues.

    And given Ms. Burns gender presentation, this was hardly a marriage between “two men.”

  4. mikedean says

    Pete Burns has got narcissist written all over his botched plastic surgery face. So, of course, HIS failed marriage to a man is emblematic for all gay relationships. Solipsism, i believe is what they call it.

    Besides, if you had to look at that train wreck of a face wouldn’t you cheat? (Ad Hominem)

  5. z says

    I’ve been with my partner for 14 years. Our closest friends have been in relationships for 4, 12, 19, 25 and 30 years. If Burns took a look in the mirror, he’d see low self esteem.

  6. Brad says

    Oh please. If anyone takes this circus side-show freak seriously, we’re all doomed – gay and straight. Makes you wonder how much money they threw his way to get this “scoop”. Perhaps his chin needs a little sanding maintenance.

  7. Bryan says

    Low self-esteem is epitomized when one needs to have massive plastic surgery to “fix” what you don’t like about yourself, whether that’s a woman who wants bigger boobs or a “man” who clearly doesn’t want to be one. Good luck Pete, but the joke is on you. Don’t tear the rest of us down because you’re unhappy and made poor choices.

  8. james says

    Why have all the homosexuals that I revered growing up turned into such bitter queens? Pete Burns, Boy George, Rupert Everett and even George Michael once epitomized the defiant spirit to which I aspired… now they just seem tired and bitter. They should take a page from Sir Ian McKellen and learn to age gracefully.

  9. says

    Well most men are natural predators. It’s what makes a man!(Dna, planting the seed, etc.) Even the hetero ones! They might be married for years have kids, but they still look and THINK about the next conquest.
    The key is who acts on their impulses and if everyone is honest up front then you know what you are getting into!
    Honesty and sometimes an open relationship are what hold some couples together. If more hetero couples could look at each other and speak freely and honestly and in some cases have an open relationship, then I believe there would be far less divorces.
    Of course the men in a hetero relationship and maybe in some gay ones would not be able to handle not being the only stallion!

  10. John in Manhattan says

    What Pete really needs to do is find himself a brand new lover
    Somebody with eyes for him who doesn’t notice all the others
    What he really needs to do is find himself a brand new lover
    Somebody with eyes for him who doesn’t notice all the others…

    Seriously, what a cunt. I won’t be buying tickets for the Regeneration tour in the States this summer. Now, what to do with all that DOA vinyl?

  11. Jimmyboyo says

    Qjersey

    “Always charming when some LGBT person throws the entire community under the bus because of their personal issues.”

    EXACTLY!

  12. NaughtyLola says

    Jesus, WTF did he do to himself? He was a pretty decent looking guy, back in the day (at least as I recall, I was only 11 when they were big and I thought dudes in glossy lipstick and eyeliner were double-hot). What a disaster!

  13. Christopher says

    “Would I get married again? If somebody knocked me on the head with a nine-inch nail-studded plank or drugged me with benzodiazepine … No, no, no.”

    Interesting fantasies, Ms. Burns, but I’m certain Trent Reznor is not into you.

  14. Uh-huh says

    So, is anyone really taking this Beverly Hills science project seriously? Some past-it pop star with an asshole for a husband is saying that because his marriage didn’t work, all gay marriages won’t work. Honestly, who thinks this guy is a role model for anything?

  15. says

    It is nice to hear a gay man break ranks on the subject that must never be discussed in anything but a positive light – even if it is the motor-mouthed car crash that is Pete Burns – don’t you think?

  16. Alex says

    Peter,

    I wish he had broken rank in a way that inspired debate. To say gay marriage won’t work because some people aren’t fit for monogamous relationships is just erroneous. There are many people in successful open relationships and many people in successful monogamous ones.

    My biggest fear about gay marriage is that there will be a push to accept monogamy as the defacto arrangement. One of the things I love about being gay is that it challenge a lot of what I felt constitutes a successful relationship and they can come in many different flavors, not just the 2.5 kids, a dog and a picket fence variety.

  17. Brad says

    It seems to me that this particular couple went into the relationship with very different expectations. Poor communication and the lack of real candor with each other are their own fault as human beings and not as gay men. Lots of straight couples do the very same thing. I also detect a bit of self-hatred in what Burns is saying. Unlike him I know many same-sex couples, gay and lesbian, who have been together for decades.

  18. thin mint says

    “…it’s as if there’s some sort of emotional inadequacy or narcissism…”

    Yes. Yes, it certainly would appear that way, Pete Burns.

  19. John in Manhattan says

    That’s OK, Strepsi. I used to masturbate to Mario Cantone when he hosted Steam Pipe Alley. Now, he’s developed into a self-loathing Richard Simmons-esque bufoon who never lets a lesbian bashing opportunity pass him by during his many visits to ABC’s THE VIEW.

    Now, I jerk off to Erin Moran on Celebrity Fit Club.

  20. Chad says

    Well, granted Pete is not the typical gay man (heaven forbid), but I agree with some of what he says.

    First of all, I don’t know of anyone in a LTR that hasn’t and doesn’t fuck around, so the whole “sacredness” of relationships goes out the window for me. Men are just predators, that’s how we are programmed (some are just more butch than others).

    I’m not saying you shouldn’t have the ‘choice’ of marriage if you want it (that’s your mistake to make), but I don’t believe in it myself, and don’t really see too much love out there, either. Trust is another issue I won’t even begin to go into.

    Yeah, Pete’s a freak, but he has some good points. People just don’t want to be alone & are insecure (look at him), just don’t fuck up and bring your insecurities into a relationship with someone else…it ain’t gonna work!

  21. chuck says

    CHAD: “First of all, I don’t know of anyone in a LTR that hasn’t and doesn’t fuck around, so the whole “sacredness” of relationships goes out the window for me. Men are just predators, that’s how we are programmed (some are just more butch than others).”

    keywords there: “i don’t know of anyone”.

    because YOU don’t, does not mean it does not exist. yea, it’s obvious you have issues with marriage (“a mistake”), love (“don’t really see too much of it out there”) and trust (“another issue i won’t even begin to go into”).

    generalities get you nowhere. for every example you give, there is a counter-example. i’m sorry you have had such bad experiences and are surrounded by untrustworthy men.

  22. Shane says

    Jeebus ladies!! I don’t agree with Burns, but I am amazed at how many on here are on attack mode! Oh wait, no, I’m not surprised.

    Sometimes people speak through their pain – just give him a break and take his words with a grain of salt. Would you be so happy if it happened to you (the bad relationship, not the botched plastic surgery)? The man-thing is entitled to his opinion, even if you don’t agree.

  23. Nick says

    I agree with the what QJersey mentioned. It appears Burns wanted to recreate his heterosexual relationship with him being the woman. That doesn’t work whether you wear a dress or just do all the housework. Two men together are trailblazers, need to be honest with each other and love strong.

  24. Ty Jones says

    There are all kinds of relationships out there, communication is the key.
    Ask if the guy cheated on previous partners and you will have the answer.

  25. Tracey Estes says

    I can totally relate to what Pete Burns is saying, I had 15 BFF’s that were all Gay Men and we use to sit around discussing their GAY RELATIONSHIPS..

    These were some seriously real conversations and ALL of them admitted during one session we had, that they all agreed that they knew in their hearts that GAY RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES would never really work; that there was too much going against them as men and as Gay Men..

    As Gay couples, one usually has to keepsthe other “Grounded” and the other one is so “touchy-feely-flirty” who is “the life of the party type”, which seems to cause a lot of problems in the Gay Relationship…

    One seems totally settled and committed and the other seems to be totally aloof and in need of being committed…lol (j/k) But they all agreed to the same problems as stated above by Mr.Burns…

    My friends have all passed away now, but this was during the 80’s when it was not a good idea to come out the closet, or so to speak..

    My friends were from some of the most prominent families in Atlanta & Ga., they came from powerful & wealthy families and during that time, HIV/AIDS was considered to be caused by the Homosexual Community..

    This is something to find this article and see that another gay man saying the exact same thing; almost 30 yrs. later.. WOW!!

    I think Pete knows what he is talking about, since he has been on both sides of the fence; I know he hit home for me with my friends some many years ago and they never even heard of Same sex marriage back then, though many dreamed of it..

    Thanks for sharing this post, it is still very enlightening…

  26. Tracey Estes says

    I can totally relate to what Pete Burns is saying, I had 15 BFF’s that were all Gay Men and we use to sit around discussing their GAY RELATIONSHIPS..

    These were some seriously real conversations and ALL of them admitted during one session we had, that they all agreed that they knew in their hearts that GAY RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES would never really work; that there was too much going against them as men and as Gay Men..

    As Gay couples, one usually has to keepsthe other “Grounded” and the other one is so “touchy-feely-flirty” who is “the life of the party type”, which seems to cause a lot of problems in the Gay Relationship…

    One seems totally settled and committed and the other seems to be totally aloof and in need of being committed…lol (j/k) But they all agreed to the same problems as stated above by Mr.Burns…

    My friends have all passed away now, but this was during the 80’s when it was not a good idea to come out the closet, or so to speak..

    My friends were from some of the most prominent families in Atlanta & Ga., they came from powerful & wealthy families and during that time, HIV/AIDS was considered to be caused by the Homosexual Community..

    This is something to find this article and see that another gay man saying the exact same thing; almost 30 yrs. later.. WOW!!

    I think Pete knows what he is talking about, since he has been on both sides of the fence; I know he hit home for me with my friends some many years ago and they never even heard of Same sex marriage back then, though many dreamed of it..

    Thanks for sharing this post, it is still very enlightening…

  27. Tracey Estes says

    I can totally relate to what Pete Burns is saying, I had 15 BFF’s that were all Gay Men and we use to sit around discussing their GAY RELATIONSHIPS..

    These were some seriously real conversations and ALL of them admitted during one session we had, that they all agreed that they knew in their hearts that GAY RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES would never really work; that there was too much going against them as men and as Gay Men..

    As Gay couples, one usually has to keepsthe other “Grounded” and the other one is so “touchy-feely-flirty” who is “the life of the party type”, which seems to cause a lot of problems in the Gay Relationship…

    One seems totally settled and committed and the other seems to be totally aloof and in need of being committed…lol (j/k) But they all agreed to the same problems as stated above by Mr.Burns…

    My friends have all passed away now, but this was during the 80’s when it was not a good idea to come out the closet, or so to speak..

    My friends were from some of the most prominent families in Atlanta & Ga., they came from powerful & wealthy families and during that time, HIV/AIDS was considered to be caused by the Homosexual Community..

    This is something to find this article and see that another gay man saying the exact same thing; almost 30 yrs. later.. WOW!!

    I think Pete knows what he is talking about, since he has been on both sides of the fence; I know he hit home for me with my friends some many years ago and they never even heard of Same sex marriage back then, though many dreamed of it..

    Thanks for sharing this post, it is still very enlightening…

  28. Tracey Estes says

    I can totally relate to what Pete Burns is saying, I had 15 BFF’s that were all Gay Men and we use to sit around discussing their GAY RELATIONSHIPS..

    These were some seriously real conversations and ALL of them admitted during one session we had, that they all agreed that they knew in their hearts that GAY RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES would never really work; that there was too much going against them as men and as Gay Men..

    As Gay couples, one usually has to keepsthe other “Grounded” and the other one is so “touchy-feely-flirty” who is “the life of the party type”, which seems to cause a lot of problems in the Gay Relationship…

    One seems totally settled and committed and the other seems to be totally aloof and in need of being committed…lol (j/k) But they all agreed to the same problems as stated above by Mr.Burns…

    My friends have all passed away now, but this was during the 80’s when it was not a good idea to come out the closet, or so to speak..

    My friends were from some of the most prominent families in Atlanta & Ga., they came from powerful & wealthy families and during that time, HIV/AIDS was considered to be caused by the Homosexual Community..

    This is something to find this article and see that another gay man saying the exact same thing; almost 30 yrs. later.. WOW!!

    I think Pete knows what he is talking about, since he has been on both sides of the fence; I know he hit home for me with my friends some many years ago and they never even heard of Same sex marriage back then, though many dreamed of it..

    Thanks for sharing this post, it is still very enlightening…

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