When You Care Enough to Send the Very Gayest

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Well, maybe they’re not the very gayest cards we’ve seen, but Hallmark has put out a line of cards intended to celebrate same-sex marriage. The language inside the three offerings is “neutral” says the company, and aside from the tux design, they’re pretty neutral on the outside as well.

The AP reports: Hallmark added the cards after California joined Massachusetts as the only U.S. states with legal gay marriage…Hallmark says the move is a response to consumer demand, not any political pressure. ‘It’s our goal to be as relevant as possible to as many people as we can,’ Hallmark spokeswoman Sarah Gronberg Kolell said. Hallmark’s largest competitor, American Greetings Corp., has no plans to enter the market, saying its current offerings are general enough to speak to a lot of different relationships. Hallmark started offering ‘coming out’ cards last year, and the four designs of same-sex marriage cards are being gradually released this summer and will be widely available by next year.”


  1. Sasha says

    This is cool, but there’s one thing that puzzles/frustrates me: why is there no lesbian equivalent of the tux/two men card? I recently went shopping to buy an engagement card for a straight friend, and while I noticed several new card lines featuring the words “civil partnership” (I live in the UK) or “Mr. and Mr.”, there were no “Mrs. and Mrs.” equivalents. What gives? I mean, I thought two thirds of the same-sex couples who marry are lesbians, not gay men. I certainly don’t grudge the gay boys their man-specific cards, but where are ours?

  2. Wes says

    Yea, Sasha I thought of that too. Of course, we can’t really see any faces so it could be two women. Many lesbians get married in tuxedos anyways, maybe they left out the faces so it could go either way. Still, it seems a bit odd.

  3. says

    Interesting point, Sasha. I suspect it’s the insidious liberal bisexual double standard at work! Oops, oh no — that’s supposed to FAVOR two hot lesbian babes!

    Maybe someone hasn’t done their market research? Vermont statistics are exactly the same: two to one lesbian nuptials over gay male. So there should be twice as many cards with two brides. Or, as Wes says, two dykes in tuxes.

  4. le_sacre says

    two hypotheses:

    1) because modern society has often been slightly more tolerant of lesbians than gay men, the image of two men getting married is a bit more “shocking” or attention-grabbing.

    2) tuxedos are just graphically easier/more readily iconified than wedding dresses, which by nature lack light/dark contrast and instantly-distinguishable features.

  5. Sasha says

    I suppose it could be two butches in tuxes, but if so, they seem to be VERY butch, as they’ve strapped down their breasts. Do we really think Hallmark is down enough with the intricacies of lesbian life to have done that intentionally?

    Anyhoo, I demand some femme-on-femme cards. After all, if the two tuxes could potentially be two women, then two white dresses could potentially be two men.

    I suspect this all really comes down to the crappy stereotype that lesbians don’t spend money, and so aren’t worth marketing to. Speaking of which: hurry up with that Steak & Shake gift certificate, Crispy, because I’m certainly not PAYING for dinner 😉

  6. gr8guyca says

    I think this is one of those cultural turning point moments. When the New York Times first included gay couples in their wedding pages several years ago, that was important. But that was a New York paper and one expects them to lead the way. In this case, Hallmark is a fairly conservative middle-American company. That they would produce these cards legitimizes gay marriage to many who would not be exposed to it. Seems like progress to me.

  7. Mj says

    because Sasha, gay men care to spend pretty money on frivolous cards and pay for online dating portals. (fridae.com)

    lesbian likes free stuff – they group together and go for a Ladies Night free flow at some poor unsuspecting str8 club, they have less spending power and when it comes to things like greeting cards –

    they will claim they’re so photoshop savvy they’ll whip one right up and have it printed because that is the reason they bought their color laser printers.

    Gay men prefer to skip all those nonsenses –

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