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  1. Rob says

    wow, i knew some f*cktard would come out saying transgender people shouldn’t be part of lgbt but i cannot believe it happened so quickly. sick is a perfect name for you cuz thats exactly what you are. this woman is an inspiration, and for anyone to say differently, gay or straight, is a worthless pile of trash. go back to the dumpster where you came from.

  2. Tony says

    You’re beautiful and courageous. You survived to have a wonderful life and to give hope to all those who are going through the same thing.

  3. antisaint says

    So fitting that this woman will post her truth and story here for the WORLD to see and you hide behind the anonymous internet like a child.

  4. mike128 says

    Isn’t there a way to delete comments like the one made by ‘sick’ which is clearly hate speech?

    I support my trans brothers and sisters, and thought this was a beautifully done video. Thank you Janet!

  5. brian says

    Psychologically, Janet is now female. If this has helped her achieve a happiness in life, good on her.

    However, we mustn’t lose touch with the fact that you cannot change your gender no matter what you do on the outside. Your chromosomes cannot be changed. Janet is still biologically a male.

  6. Double N says

    BRAVO Janet! I know many trans-gendered people, and Janet proves they are wonderful, valuable people. They are the most honest, trustworthy people I have ever met, and I am proud to call them part of my chosen family.

  7. Tagg says

    To the small minded idiots on here. This is her LIFE. I think she knows what makes HER happy. She is a woman. Whether she still has a penis or not does not make her a man. It’s her identity. She is a WOMAN. Dont give me this DNA crap either. Go live your life and dont be so concerned about her’s…

  8. mike128 says

    @Brian: I think sex and gender are more complicated that what your post implies. You are clearly not an expert on the subject, so why post a statement acting as if you are?

  9. Rin says

    She is not a “woman” in the scientific sense, nor is she (or even I) one in the philosophical sense. Seriously, what does “woman” mean???

    She is an individual. She is a transgendered person, someone blessed to have a wide plethora of emotions, observations, and perspectives on life.

    If she did not feel constricted by societal definitions she would have lived happily without surgery or hormones–just as happy as she is now.

    Because we live in a world of labels, groupings, and self-segregation we have created this false idea that your outsides are what matters most.

    I feel that pressure, too. I wake up thinking…but I feel like Angelina Jolie on the inside! Lip augmentation won’t make me her, though.

    I’m glad she is happy. I’m glad when anyone is happy. I just wish that everyone would learn to first accept themselves or the complex, beautiful souls that we are, and then with that same self-love put it on others.

    I just disagree that she is a woman. I am a woman with a uterus, breasts without having to take hormones. Being a “woman” means that I can sexually reproduce and bear offspring.

    BIG DEAL. It does not define “me”. It is an aspect of my physical being in this existence.

    I am defined by my heart, my character, who I include, and the wisdom I gain in this life.

    I don’t need to be called a “woman” to do any of that.

    WOMAN has grown into a label and I feel that these politically correct social movements that are antithetical to science actually set back human development.

    The Native Americans considered there to be a “third” gender, these people were allowed to “be”. They were revered for their perspective. Now, we think to diminish that natural beauty by convincing people that surgery will “make” you into something.

    We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

    Honestly, if you were born on a deserted island without magazines, television, or people telling you what “men” and “women” were and should be you would just do what you want, dressed how you like, and feel what you feel. You wouldn’t feel like you needed hormones or surgery. Her insides did match her outsides.

    Long hair, makeup, and dresses do not make you female. They don’t make you a woman.

    KD Lang is a woman without that. Ellen Degeneres is a woman and doesn’t wear a dress.

    If we didn’t have to cluster ourselves into straight, gay, male, female, emo, republican, democrat, goth, girlie girl, etc. we would all live happier lives with less stress, hate, and self-loathing for not “being” part of a group.

    That said, if surgery makes anyone happier…go for it.

    ahem….sorry for the rant.

  10. Thomas says

    Rin,

    Reproducing and breasts don’t make you a woman, either, otherwise childless women or women who have masectomies wouldn’t be women. Why must culture draw the line of womanhood where you feel it should be?

    Feeling like you are supposed to be a different gender is different from wanting bigger lips. Please do not conflate the two. And body dismorphic disorder is different from being transgendered. Just so we’re clear.

  11. Rin says

    @Thomas

    Yes, reproducing and having breasts does in fact make me a biological woman. Having a uterus (working or not) and organs for lactation makes you a biological “woman”. Even if they don’t work in biological women, the organs were there at birth, levels of estrogen versus testosterone are self- manufactured and present. Losing them means that the biological woman no longer has breasts or that her reproductive system no longer works. Menopause does that, too.

    I’m conflating nothing. Unless organs are transplanted (and that may happen in the future), it is a form of cosmetic surgery.

    You say I compare it to body dysmorphic disorder…okay. Perhaps it is, because the individual believes that changing their physical appearance changes them; that without it they are somehow not “who” they are. Tell me, if she couldn’t afford the surgery or the pills would she not be the wonderful human she is? Would she have less value without the surgery or hormones?

    And by your same argument if it is not a label by birth to define your “gender” by reproductive capability then when you lose your breasts or uterus to disease then you are NO LONGER a woman. It’s ridiculous to obsess on the human body as a method to define “who” we are.

    If the world treated all individuals with kindness, love, empathy, and fairness they wouldn’t feel the need to conform their physical bodies to some conceptual idea of what “woman” is.

    “WOMAN” ought to JUST be a biological term because to say otherwise is to deny the power of individual thought, feelings, emotions, and personal uniqueness. It denies me my unique human experience. I am not a “woman” I am ME.

    I resent that “woman” is defined as a predilection for dresses, lipstick, etc. That wanting girlie things, wanting breasts…that these things somehow make you a “woman” because the opposite would then be true, that if you do NOT want these things you are not a “woman” on the inside.

    Is KD Lang less a “woman” because she doesn’t wear high heels? I hardly think KD Lang wakes up every morning thinking that her womanhood is tied to a gravitation to frills and frippery.

    I hear what you are saying and I hear the emotions and desire for a comfortability within their own skin of transgendered persons, but….

    when you say: “…feeling like you are supposed to be a different gender…”

    please explain what that means?

    What do you think it feel like to be a woman on the inside? What do you think I feel like every day on the inside?

    The fact is that no one can know that. No one can know any experience truly other than their own. My perception of woman is different than my best friends because we do not share the same brain.

    There is nothing wrong with who anyone is, that they should feel like they have to change their outsides to conform to society’s projection of what “that” is, be it “female” or “beautiful” or “male” ….

    Because that is all it really is–society’s projection of what “woman” or “man” is.

    That is precisely why so-called “femme” gays are considered to be play actors because “men don’t act like that” and why people snicker about “butch” lesbians.

    What is femme and butch? Explain why “femme” is “femme” and “butch” is “butch” because there is no scientific evidence that girls are supposed to act one way “naturally” and boys another.

    This false perception of masculine and feminine is the root of homophobia, misogyny, and many of society’s ills.

    It is saying…if you were born with a penis and like dresses, boys, and nailpolish that you “feel like a woman” on the inside, ergo you should become one on the outside–or if you don’t, you’re playing to stereotypes. Instead of just maybe that man likes lipstick…

    Perhaps, had society developed differently than men would have continued to have long hair, wear the tunics (dresses), and eyeliner…

    With all due respect, I just do not believe in labels, in gender being defined by what material and physical attributes you desire, and this idea of always conforming to some society-created box.

    HOWEVER, if you WANT to have surgery, if it makes you feel better…then follow your heart and do what makes you feel better. I would never deny her the ability to do that, nor would I allow someone to hurt her, take away her rights and freedoms, or try to diminish her ability to live, love, and exist unfettered.

    I would just rather live in a world where we were all treated like individuals and our uniqueness respected.

    It is an extension of homophobia and why people don’t feel that gays should marry–that your physical manifestation is how the world should define you. She was born a man but can now marry a man because she had surgery. Why? Because we are defined by gender roles and not our hearts.

    Once we get past physicality we can achieve true spirituality and become kind, empathic, beings.

  12. jamal49 says

    Courage and grace personified. As for Brian, thanks for the biological update, as irrelevant as it is to the reality of this beautiful woman and all trans-gender people.

  13. says

    But if I’m not mistaken.She has had a full sex change. That is no longer transgender…that is TRANSFORMED. That is a full fledge woman now.

    Those that still choose to keep their original anatomy is TRANSGENDERED.

    The term transgender (TG) was popularised in the 1970s[6] (but implied in the 1960s[7][8]) describing people who wanted to live cross-gender without sex reassignment surgery.[9] In the 1980s the term was expanded to an umbrella term,[10] and became popular as a means of uniting all those whose gender identity did not mesh with their gender assigned at birth.[11]

    In the 1990s, the term took on a political dimension[12][13] as an alliance covering all who have at some point not conformed to gender norms, and the term became used to question the validity of those norms[14] or pursue equal rights and anti-discrimination legislation,[15][16] leading to its widespread usage in the media, academic world and law.[17] The term continues to evolve

    But regardless opf what she is still on our side and THANK YOU Jane…You’re beautiful Gurl!

  14. Alexander says

    @Brian:
    That’s really false. A) Because gender is different sex, and B) because chromosomes don’t always determine sex. If they did, there would never be people born with XY who present a female body. If chromosomes determine sex, then what would happen to the 1 in 500 men born with XXY chromosomes? Sex determination is not a perfect science, because people’s bodies are never perfect. So how about let people be whoever they know is right?

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