Hundreds Attend Funeral for Jamey Rodemeyer: VIDEO

The 14-year-old committed suicide one week ago under intense anti-gay bullying. At least 500 people came to his funeral to pay their respects. It's hard to imagine how difficult his life must have been for him to end it. Or to imagine what's going through the minds of the kids who bullied him.

It's so important that he's remembered. Nearing the end, he quoted from Lady Gaga's "The Queen" on his Facebook: "Don’t forget me when I come crying to heaven’s door."

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  1. Humans showing humanity lends to be hopeful. RIP Jamey. Paws up, little monster.

    Posted by: Skooter McGoo | Sep 25, 2011 9:24:56 AM

  2. If you want to know what went through the minds of the kids who bullied him just listen to the audience at the last Republican "debate."

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Sep 25, 2011 9:29:19 AM

  3. I suspect the kids that bullied him have NOTHING going through their minds. They probably haven't given him a 2nd thought. It's an awful thing for anyone, especially a child, to think that the only way to get peace is to end their life.

    Posted by: Jimbo | Sep 25, 2011 9:36:25 AM

  4. I'm surprised they were able to slip this service past Archbishop Dolan. The catholics have made it clear they don't want those kind of people in their churches.

    Posted by: perkins | Sep 25, 2011 9:55:25 AM

  5. I just find it really sad that Jamey didn't have this kind of support in life. If he had experience this love and acceptance before, he might still be here. We have to stop bullying and discrimination before people get to the point where they believe suicide is the only escape from the pain and constant hate they face everyday. How many kids do we have to loose, before our eyes and hearts are opened...and we ban together to stop this. Contact your Senators, Congress, State Reps and ask them to support the Student Non-discrimination Act and for gods sake, if you see someone being bullied...say and do something about it. Let people know that you value them as an individual and that we, as a whole, will not tolerate the abuse of others.

    Posted by: Leesa | Sep 25, 2011 10:15:56 AM

  6. 1) The level of psychiatric help available here [I'm speaking of the U.S., where I live] is totally inadequate. And I suspect a great deal of government funding is basically wasted on BS regulations, rules, BS laws, etc.

    2) Jamey was imo suffering from serious depression [even suicidal] for an extended period of time. He seems to have shown many of the classic symptoms. Why did he not receive greater and more effective assistance to deal with his mental state? Where were the family, 'friends', authorities, etc. It's all fine 500 people showed up to bury him.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Sep 25, 2011 11:08:10 AM


    Posted by: Josh | Sep 25, 2011 11:09:41 AM

  8. To the usual suspects/shills:

    TRY posting one comment that doesn't involve BS partisan ideology / politics. Most of the problems our society has are the result of cross-party policies.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Sep 25, 2011 11:11:06 AM

  9. Why does it appear that you are loved more when you are dead? Just a question. Think about it.

    Posted by: Texas Law Dog | Sep 25, 2011 11:14:18 AM

  10. @Ratbastard: But this particular problem, and all problems relating to anti-gay attitudes, fall overwhelmingly on the Republicans and the right wing. Look at any votes on pro-gay legislation: Nearly 100 percent Democratic support, nearly 100 percent Republican opposition. The recent booing of a gay soldier at the Republican debate (as well as Santorum's response) was the latest example. That is something you would NEVER hear at a Democratic Party debate. There is a distinct and profound difference in the two parties regarding their views of equal rights. Cross-party policies? Really?

    Posted by: StillmarriedinCA | Sep 25, 2011 11:31:03 AM

  11. From his writings he did seem to express a fixation with suicide, and should have received better and more informed assistance with this burden.

    Kids are bullied every day. Not all of them commit suicide or blow their classmates away. The key here is to not only stop the bullying, but to provide mental health assistance to the kids who are battling depression.

    Our nation is positively horrid about caring for its citizens, especially the young.

    Poor baby :(

    Posted by: Rin | Sep 25, 2011 11:37:11 AM

  12. @ Ratbastard,

    Kids don't become depressed for no reason at all, and other students don't persecute gay students for no reason at all. You're looking for a "cross-party" reason for all the hate? Okey dokey. There are asswipe "Bible-believing" Xtians in both major political parties, and this country would be better if they kept their noxious religion to themselves rather than encouraging their children to persecute gay kids at school.

    Your suggestion, Ratbastard, was to find a line of reasoning that doesn't pick on only one political party. I think my line of reasoning should satisfy your request. Wait. An unsettling thought just occurred to me. You wouldn't actually want to defend all that New Testament poison from the apostle Paul, would you? Ratbastard, let's you and I together laugh at the twisted Xtian apologists who are always bleating "but it's only in the OLD Testament." That's not asking too much, is it? RSVP

    Posted by: Artie | Sep 25, 2011 12:10:48 PM

  13. Budget cuts are a reality. Budget cuts mean fewer dollars for various agencies which provide services to troubled children. Insurance limits the number of visits. Which party says, "taxes = bad." Which party says, "social services = socialism = bad." Which party says, "no insurance? Die." Which party opposes anti-bullying regulation. Which party signs pledges insisting on the support of DOMA and rejection of equality?

    Maybe we should all just post, "rest in peace" and ignore "ideological/partisan bs." Or we continue to take advantage of teachable moments. For the sake of children. For the sake of a better future.

    Posted by: TJ | Sep 25, 2011 12:19:53 PM

  14. If you want to know what went through the minds of the kids who bullied him just ask them, they're still alive!

    Posted by: Oliver | Sep 25, 2011 12:57:45 PM

  15. Some very bitter posters here, along with the true believer and paid shills.

    Jamey was suffering from serious mental DEPRESSION. He was suicidal, and for an extended period. WHY didn't he receive greater and more effective help? It is available. What does his family, 'friends', the 500 people who showed up to see him in a box, say about this?

    Gay rights? Yes, we should be free from legalized discrimination in employment and housing. We should have the same legal rights [and responsibilities] as everyone else. We should not have rights above and beyond everyone else. We should not qualify for reverse discrimination, AKA affirmative action, or quotas [which employers engage in, even though it's technically illegal]. MANY gay rights 'advocates' go way off on a tangent into areas and things that have nothing to do with gays or our civil rights. There are some 'progressives' ideas I believe in,many I don't. There are some conservative ideas I believe in, many I don't WTF is so hard to understand? Why do self-described 'advocates' also DEMAND you follow a party line, or else? What are they afraid of?

    Posted by: ratbastard | Sep 25, 2011 1:14:25 PM

  16. @Ratbastard--"We should not qualify for reverse discrimination, AKA affirmative action, or quotas [which employers engage in, even though it's technically illegal]."

    Nobody here on this thread and no gay rights advocates that I know of (apart from the occasional fringe nutcase) have called for such things.
    "MANY gay rights 'advocates' go way off on a tangent into areas and things that have nothing to do with gays or our civil rights."

    Umm, because we are an incredibly diverse group and have many interests beyond what you perceive to be the correct subjects for gays to be interested in.

    Why are you bringing up imaginary demands from an imaginary left? Why are you trying to limit what we talk about? Why are you steering the conversation into areas that have NOTHING to do with this post? What are YOU afraid of?

    Posted by: StillmarriedinCA | Sep 25, 2011 1:30:37 PM

  17. @stillmarriedinca,

    Let's be honest here and not F with each other and whoever else is reading this post. Gay Rights [many self-described] 'advocates' are overwhelmingly left/far left. They have an AGENDA that goes BEYOND gay civil rights, just like many black 'advocates' and other 'advocates' have agendas that go beyond [often, FAR beyond] their alleged primary advocacy. People on the left, and intelligent independents/middle of the road people, know this is true about many self-described conservative 'advocates'. People on the rights and again intelligent independents know this is true of many leftist 'advocates'.

    THAT'S what I'm 'afraid' of.

    Posted by: ratbastard | Sep 25, 2011 1:39:18 PM

  18. @ Ratbastard,

    In my comment, I was careful to address your point about partisan politics. Yes, I understand that gay/lesbian voters have diverse political views that sometimes include what people call "fiscal conservatism." The reason that I posted my comment was because sometimes people who are homophobic or self-loathing or both will hide behind the "skirts" of fiscal conservatism, when they are actually pushing the despicable hate and garbage in the Christian Bible. In keeping with the subject of this thread, that's the Christian poison which causes gay kids to have low self-esteem.

    I have no problem with any difference of opinion about government spending, government debt, welfare, Medicare, etc. I just think that you and I can agree about how stupid it is for self-loathing people to be pushing hateful Christian Bible garbage because their mommy and daddy taught them to hate themselves. Agreed?

    Posted by: Artie | Sep 25, 2011 2:28:18 PM

  19. Wondering if I qualify as shill, bitter, or true believer? Mabel, some days, I'm all three. But RAT, to point out your statement about inadequate care in this country:

    I just spoke with a friend who works for a local agency that deals with children here in CA. Funding has been severely cut. She did not lose her job because natural attrition of employees saved money when those positions were. Not refilled. She told me that they have months-long waiting lists. If I wanted to, I could pick up hours - working for free - because the need for counselors is so great. The reason why I inquired was because I just lost my job working for the local university as a therapist, because of budget cuts. The staff there has positions that have not been and won't be refilled in the future. The demand gets greater and the services get cut. I worked for another university in the past where we had a two- months waiting list after the first week of the semester; a place where the low-paid interns did the bulk of the counseling because that was how the university was able to provide at least some services. When students had no insurance (and that was most) and local services were impacted, we could do nothing to help aside from basic emergency help.

    Yes. Many reasons why a kid gets depressed. Many contributing factors. Being bullied for sexual orientation surely accounts for/contributes to developing depression. For those who try to help, it can be extremely frustrating when resources are limited. I guess funding resources depends on priorities.

    I read a comment on another thread where the poster included Jamey's social worker among those to blame. Unfortunately, a social worker/ caregiver cannot be there 24 hours/ day. He/ she can't change society ( although many are politically active, and try to do so). It's an uphill battle when one political party in particular seems to advocate for policies that not only limit funding but also promote negative attitudes and environments that contribute to mental dysfunction.

    And Mabel in the first paragraph should be maybe. Still haven't figured out how to scroll up on the iPad.

    Posted by: TJ | Sep 25, 2011 2:37:14 PM

  20. "It's hard to imagine how difficult his life must have been for him to take his own life. Or to imagine what's going through the minds of the kids who bullied him."

    Sadly, I don't have to imagine how difficult life was for him. I lived it. It's the reason I don't give a F about going to my high school reunions. I had some friends, but the majority of my class made my life a living hell whenever they could. I contemplated suicide and fortunately I was able to direct my energies into things that I loved while ignoring the a-holes I shared my classes with. It isn't an issue about gay rights or politics. It's teaching kids to treat each other with tolerance. These kids don't get their self-righteous, self-superior beliefs in a vacuum. It comes from their parents, families and churches.

    I also know what's going through the minds of the bullies that drove Jamey to his death. "Good riddance" I'm sure there are a few whose conscience was pricked, but the rest are just pricks. All the legal, political rights in the world will never change their minds. I'm glad the media is paying some attention to this now. I wonder how many thousands of kids have died over the years because they were bullied to death?

    Posted by: Brad | Sep 25, 2011 3:03:45 PM

  21. Texas Law Dog: that is the question, isn't it? God forbid the Catholic Church could say one nice thing to gay kids when they're alive. Only after death can they earn "love."

    Something about this viscerally disgusts me.

    Posted by: Skye Winspur | Sep 25, 2011 4:47:54 PM

  22. They eulogized the kid at a Roman Catholic Church? Talk about the ultimate final ironic insult. Having the funeral of a gay kid who killed himself over anti-gay bullying in the very HEART, SOUL AND SOURCE of the most enduring and vociferous anti-gay bully of all!

    Rest in Peace anyway Jamey.

    Posted by: TampaZeke | Sep 25, 2011 4:52:54 PM

  23. In continuation--Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs, which on the outside look beautiful, but inside they are full of the bones of the dead and of all kinds of filth. 28So you also on the outside look righteous to others, but inside you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness. (Matthew 23:27)

    Posted by: Skye Winspur | Sep 25, 2011 4:53:40 PM

  24. I wouldn't be surprised if Lady Gaga killed him just so she could make headlines. Lady Gaga is a talentless scam artist.

    Posted by: John F | Sep 25, 2011 5:04:51 PM

  25. @Ratbastard--you sound like the wingnuts who are terrified of the "Gay Agenda"....when the agenda is really only about achieving equality. That's it. Period. Give me some evidence of what you are talking about. Not your perceived examples, but actual examples.

    Posted by: StillmarriedinCA | Sep 25, 2011 5:37:32 PM

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