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The Lesbian Homecoming King Of Patrick Henry High

PhotoThis is the opposite of a bullying story.

Patrick Henry High, in San Diego, has always "been a little bit ahead of the curve" on social issues, according to gay alum Ben Cartwright. Now, lesbian Rebecca Arellano has been named Patrick Henry's Homecoming King, according to San Diego's Channel 10News.

Perhaps Rebecca would have preferred to be a co-queen, along with girlfriend Haileigh Adams, but that's not how homecoming works. "If there was any other way to do it and have two lesbians who are a couple win, I would," she says. Haileigh Adams was nominated for homecoming queen; she'll learn whether she's won at the homecoming dance this evening.

Members of the Patrick Henry High community have so far been supportive of their lesbian prom king. During their inteview with Rebecca, according to 10News:

... cars full of people drove by shouting out things like, "You guys are an amazing couple!"

See the station's interview with Ms. Arellano here.

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  1. I bet that the students wouldn't be so supportive if the couple was two boys instead of two girls.

    Today's young people have an incredibly hypocritical attitude to same-sex relationships: two girls "hot", two guys "not so hot".

    This is the product of liberalism and its double standard. It's why I won't be voting liberal at next year's election.

    Posted by: jason | Oct 29, 2011 7:51:57 PM

  2. I bet you are wrong.

    FTA: "Patrick Henry High, in San Diego, has always "been a little bit ahead of the curve" on social issues, according to gay alum Ben Cartwright."

    That would seem to indicate that it is more than straight guys gawking at lesbians. Seeing as he actually went to the school, and you're just forcing your own agenda onto the story, I think I'll go with his version.

    "This is the product of liberalism and its double standard. It's why I won't be voting liberal at next year's election."

    Case in point.

    Posted by: Aram Vartian | Oct 29, 2011 8:13:30 PM

  3. making a female student prom "king" is heteronormative. the whole idea is that all romantic relationships adhere to the male/female paradigm and that there must be a male and female role in each relationship. this should be rejected, not lauded.

    Posted by: dead kid | Oct 29, 2011 8:29:08 PM

  4. This is weird. Why "king"? Is it because lesbians are men and gays are women? Really?

    Posted by: topher | Oct 29, 2011 8:35:04 PM

  5. Jason: You won't be voting "liberal" in next year's election? Well, none of us will because all we will have on the presidential ballot is a centrist and a conservative. I'm still puzzled how "liberals" have anything to do with what high school kids think is hot but I think Aram is right - you're grinding an axe on anything you can grind it on.

    Topher: I think it's because homecomings have a king and a queen. They nominate several people for each title. They have to pick one for each title. I don't think this should be seen a slight. Rebecca was nominated for homecoming king and she accepted the nomination.

    Posted by: RyanInSacto | Oct 29, 2011 8:50:05 PM

  6. Instead of "Homecoming King & Queen", why not just "Homecoming Couple" or "Homecoming Sovereigns or Monarchs or Majesties". If we are going to be progressive and inclusive and do away with the standard male/female roles in such instances then we need to change the wordings we use and the way we looking at it.

    Posted by: Robbie | Oct 29, 2011 8:53:04 PM

  7. Robbie: One step at a time, buddy. Actually, isn't it kind of cool that the term "homecoming king," at least at this high school, is no longer gendered? Maybe that's even more powerful – they've redefined a long-standing term. Discuss amongst yourselves... :)

    Posted by: RyanInSacto | Oct 29, 2011 9:08:38 PM

  8. This is wrong IMO. If they are going to have a King & Queen, then it should be a man and woman. Not two women or two men. It should be one of each gender. If the woman is a lesbian and/or the male is gay, fine, but don't start making everything unisexual (best word I can come up with). This has nothing to do with equality, but can put some creedence into bigots arguments. If the voting process is you vote for King on one ballot, and Queen on another, and not as a couple then it should remain male/female. If voting for a couple, then I agree with 'Robbie', using Homecoming Monarchs/Majesties. The way it stands, this can be considered stereotyping lesbians as non-feminine and gay men as feminine (Queens).

    Posted by: CB | Oct 29, 2011 10:19:24 PM

  9. CB: I think you are forgetting that there is a nomination process. Do you think that the nomination process needs to be tightly controlled so that girls are not nominated for king and boys are not nominated for queen? What if a girl *wants* to be king? What if a boy *wants* to be queen? What if their classmates think they'd make good kings or queens and want to vote for them? Are you that intent on forcing your idea of correct gender expression on them that you won't let them decide for themselves?

    Furthermore, if you read closely, Rebecca's girlfriend was nominated for queen. So, uh, I don't think there is "stereotyping" of lesbians going on here. Rather, it is plain that a lesbian can be nominated king or queen at this high school.

    Posted by: RyanInSacto | Oct 29, 2011 10:34:35 PM

  10. The only thing this "honor" does is reinforce the belief that gay people just want to be the opposite sex.

    Posted by: ynot | Oct 29, 2011 11:12:29 PM

  11. @RyanInSacto, yes I do think the nomination process needs to be tightly controlled, as long as it is KING & QUEEN. If they want to refer to the process as the Royal couple fine, but don't redefine KING or QUEEN as gender neutral. That is all I am saying, a King is male, a Queen if female and has nothing to do with civil rights. It has been quite a few years for me since High School, so I don't know what the process is, but in this situation, if the Queen is NOT her girlfriend, how will the Queen respond, especially with the first dance, etc.? I am not condemning anyone, I am just think if it is KING & QUEEN, it should be male & female.

    Posted by: CB | Oct 29, 2011 11:17:46 PM

  12. Folks, this isn't really something that needs to be analyzed to death, or if we want to get really idiotic, a reason not to vote liberal. (Cause there's no better reason to vote conservative than the straight male teenager's hypocritical psyche. Give it a rest, Jason.) Proms are basically drag shows, for everyone! No one is at their prom in a natural state of being. If a lesbian is selected king, or a gay boy is selected queen, it's all good, as long as it's cool with them. It shows they have friends and support. The absurdity that is Prom lasts one night. Feeling ok about who you are in high school lasts a lot longer.

    Posted by: Ernie | Oct 29, 2011 11:32:26 PM

  13. CB: Wow. The world is a very concrete, black and white place for you, isn't it? That must make things very simple. I almost envy you.

    Ernie: Agreed. It's one night. No need to throw a fit over it.

    Posted by: RyanInSacto | Oct 30, 2011 12:03:32 AM

  14. Wow....I went to this school! In fact, mine was the Very First Class to graduate from there when it was New!
    So funny to see it in the news, all these years...and years...and years...later!


    Posted by: Bruce Wayne | Oct 30, 2011 3:45:29 AM

  15. @RyanInSacto...yeah Ryan, in many ways my world is concrete, black and white.

    Posted by: CB | Oct 30, 2011 5:39:52 AM

  16. Give it a rest people. What should be an amazing story about acceptance and tolerance is getting lambasted and over analyzed. It's a high school prom, not Congress or the United Nations. It's always been King and Queen, lots of other kids also get nominated and it just happens that a lesbian couple ALSO got nominated. No intended slight, no malice, no psycho sexual hetero-normative manipulation or gay gender stereotyping......just the Prom and people making good, not bad, of what is most likely a new situation. Maybe next year they'll have new titles for this kind of situation. Let's, just for once, let someone have their day and give some credit where credit is due. Right there in the article, you know, in the part you're supposed to comprehend as you read, it says if there could be TWO QUEENS they would have given it to them but the system doesn't work that way.

    @Jason. Seriously? Won't be voting "liberal" because of a high school prom nomination? Well I guess if you can all vote for who looks like the best beer drinking buddy, I suppose I shouldn't be surprised.

    Posted by: Michaelandfred | Oct 30, 2011 9:24:52 AM

  17. Okay... so I live in SD and my friend teaches at this high school. Apparently her girlfriend is also nominated to be homecoming queen, so I think that was the whole purpose. She just got the "king" win.

    Posted by: andypharmer | Oct 30, 2011 2:42:03 PM

  18. This is "the opposite of a bullying story"? Are you sh*tting me? This is totally a bullying story. Quiet as it seems to be kept in this thread, there's a difference between a Lesbian and a Transman. This "honor" plays into the old myth that Lesbians are men trapped in a female body, or they secretly want to be men. It is insulting, because it negates Ms. Arellano's femininity. I bet there were quite a few p*ssed-off males who were hoping to be voted Homecoming King. This is just the same old hetero-bigotry sold in a brand new package.

    If a butch Lesbian gets voted Prom Queen and brings a whole new flavor to the role, that's progress! It's broadening the concept of what it means to be a girl. That's not what's happening when kids choose to pretend a Lesbian isn't a girl! That's heterosexism! Lord, deliver me! Liberals don't have the good sense got gave a goat!

    Posted by: Stuffed Animal | Oct 30, 2011 4:57:15 PM

  19. @Stuffed Animal: Did you see the girlfriend? If you click through to the news story, there's a video and you see the two of them together (extremely cute couple). She looks fairly butch, too... and she's the homecoming queen. I think this undermines your interpretation of the events.

    Posted by: RyanInSacto | Oct 30, 2011 7:06:45 PM

  20. Yes. The fact that a progessive high school had the audacity to insult the LGBTQQTS community by forcing us to fit into their horrible heteronormative customs by rudely allowing a lesbian to be prom king is truly a reason to not be a liberal.

    Get your heads out of your asses, homos. There are countries in the world where men and women are still being executed for being gay. This is an acceptance; it's a hand being held out to work on making things better, and you're going to just swat it away? Yes, perhaps it would be better, for many reasons, to not expect lots of types of people to fit into lots of types of societal norms, but there are lots of things you should be pissed off about in the world.

    This is not one of them.

    Posted by: Get Over Yourselves | Oct 31, 2011 10:27:15 AM

  21. Wow. There are more negative comments on here than there were at the ABC News site where I first read about this. What's with the hate? Two lovely girls were given a very special honor by their peers. Both they and the other kids at the school are happy with the outcome. Why are people bickering about labels (a "king" is a boy...) and social morays? This is one of the most beautiful anti-bullying stories I've heard about in a VERY LONG TIME! Can't we just enjoy it for what it is?

    Posted by: Gigi | Oct 31, 2011 11:42:50 AM

  22. So uh, what if I'm a man and want to play on a womans sports team? There goes title 9. Who's to say that women's sports should be restricted to women. Right?
    Are women going to be mad if they can't be homecoming queens going forward because guys decide that they can be queens as well as kings?
    "Why are people bickering about labels (a "king" is a boy.."
    Because definitions matter. A queen definition is the wife of the king, and/or a female monarch. And the king is definitionally the husband of the queen and/or the male monarch. Its not better or worse, it simply means what it means.
    Now what does king or queen mean?

    Posted by: jr565 | Feb 11, 2014 4:11:38 PM

  23. Ernie wrote:
    "If a lesbian is selected king, or a gay boy is selected queen, it's all good, as long as it's cool with them."
    No it's not all good, considering you just muddled the definitions of kings and queens.Why must we change the meaning of words to accomodate people who don't meet the definitions of words simply because they don't meet the definition of those words?
    Should 2+2 = 5 simply becuase you don't like the number 4? It's all good if 2+2 = 4 and also 5?

    Posted by: jr565 | Feb 11, 2014 4:16:04 PM

  24. Instead of redefing the very words we utter why not instead call it a homecoming Couple? OR, have a homecoming king and queen for heteros and a homecoming King and king for gays and a homecoming queen and queen for women?
    The words themselves should not have to bend to accomodate definitions that don't match, should they? Instead, do away with those words and use words that match the criterion.

    Posted by: jr565 | Feb 11, 2014 4:18:50 PM

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