1. says

    Of course Bill O and the other Faux wingnuts will criticize her for using her children for political purposes.

    And other homophobes will simply not see them because they are lesbians. We had many many families like this testify in VT during the Civil Unions debates and during the marriage debates. Yet the opposition kept claiming that a) gay people don’t have families and b) being gay is only about anal sex. Lesbians (and they were two to one) were invisible to them.

  2. paul says

    Class. If we are going to rise above hate follow this fabulous lesbian mum’s example. Be smart, be gracious, be confrontational, but above be classy. That’s a real lady right there. Those two little girls are going to grow up to be two incredibly cool well adjusted young women.

  3. gregory brown says

    This is an appropriate way to incorporate young children into confrontations with ‘phobes. Just let them be there, being themselves–don’t coax them into sneak attacks that they can’t understand.

  4. johnny says

    What the Mayor doesn’t seem to understand is:

    It’s not just that particular comment, it’s your entire “marriage is one man and one woman” belief system. Your belief system sits on a foundation of inequality. It says that only certain citizens have equal rights and, sorry, gays can’t have them. If you are going to govern, you can’t possibly do it FAIRLY and PROPERLY with that kind of mindset.

  5. Caliban says

    That was awesome! To be honest, about half the time I don’t watch the videos posted with news stories, especially if it involves politicians, Religious Right figures, or people talking to them. Chances are, someone is going to say something really stupid and hateful and it’s going to put me a foul mood for the rest of the day. I already know what the ‘phobes think so why bother? It’s only going to make me angry.

    But sometimes a video can make your day. Like when Zach Wahls spoke so eloquently in front of the Iowa legislature and this lesbian mom doing the same in front of Janice Daniels. It’s people like these who really make a difference in how we’re perceived, not the glitter-bombers or those who rant angrily (which is probably what I would do).

  6. jpeckjr says

    Real change happens when regular folks, like this family, stand up, speak out, and call for it. She was kind because she is teaching her children to be kind and, through this, showed them, and us, it is possible to say “You are wrong. Please change” in a kind, firm way.

  7. says

    Wow, 2 days of awesome gay people standing up for their rights and dignity while keeping their cool the whole time–yesterday the Bobs, today this lesbian mom. This is indeed how change happens. Ordinary people challenging bigotry in their own civil way. Bravo!

  8. Jim says

    These women taught me a lot! I tend to get too emotional and “in your face” in confrontations. This is a much more productive approach. Good for them!

  9. says

    I watched the entire 5.5 hour meeting on Dec 5 and have been actively participating in discussions on They really need some support there. The mayor, Janice Daniels, is completely unrepentant. She has said she regrets using the word “queer”, but she thinks people are over-reacting to “just one word” that she used. She has said she “likes being mayor” and wants everyone to “move on.” She has said she won’t resign and a recall can’t be legally mounted for 6 months. The Tea Party folks that got her elected are defending her saying that calls for her resignation amount to violations of her constitutional rights.

    There is a petition which has been unable to get even 1000 signatures calling for her resignation. ( And there are a couple of facebook groups that one could support if you want to.

    The people of Troy say it’s a very diverse city. While that may be true, it seems that the homophobia runs pretty deep around there.

  10. Bart says

    I applauded too. I would have shown her my two boys and my partner but I would have probably not been as level headed after that. I’m glad when people show me how to be a better man.

  11. andnowwhat says

    whatever she said to forgive the mayor’s hate, she did ten times as much to give a face to the need for equality. and a hundred times as much to prove to her girls that you need to stand up for what is right.

  12. L.Webster says

    Open Letter to Troy MI Mayor Janice Daniels

    FORGIVE plus FORGET equals CLEAN SLATE—Not Quite That Easy !

    First: Forgiveness requires Remorse, Change of Heart, Intent to Change. There can be no hint of defending one’s wrongful deeds, hateful attitude, hateful words, bigotry, selfish unloving & unjust activity, or self justification. Isaiah puts it, “Woe is Me for I am lost and undone.”

    Second: Forgiveness is also Conditional: Conditional on our willingness to forgive others. Jesus taught his disciples and us to pray using these words: “Forgive us our trespasses (sins, hates, prejudices, bigotries) AS we forgive those who trespass against us.” If we are not willing to forgive others, then we cannot receive forgiveness. Forgiveness is conditional.

    Third: Forgiveness also requires Restitution, with sincerity: To be forgiven We must make right the wrong we did to our neighbor or those we have offended. Restitution is even “several fold” (or times the sin) according to Jesus, not just a one for one restitution. (And you did run for public office on a Christian platform.) Forgiveness requires Restitution.

    Not all churches, synagogues, mosques, temples teach and preach fear, bigotry, hatred. Thank goodness. One main-line Christian church has for its motto: “Open Minds, Open Hearts, Open Doors.” In this embattled time in Troy history, a similar motto for the city and its officials might be very helpful as a restitution tool. OR, a motto such as “We Serve All Peoples (plural)” could do much to restore the respect of the community. Even pass an anti-bullying law. Like guns and knives, Bullying and Hate words also kill.

    Acceptable research indicates that approximately 10 % of our population is Gay, both out of and in the closet. This would suggest that there are some 8,100 people in Troy that need to be positively re-affirmed, with sincerely, and not just some idol words or self justification. As a cosmopolitan and diverse community, this warmth also needs to be firmly extended to all other residents and neighbors as well: Asians, Blacks, Native Americans, Latinos, Mixed Races, Protestant and Catholic Christians, Orthodox, Moslems, Hindus, Jews, and anyone else left out of the list.

    Regarding Gay Marriage—–It is much more about Equal Rights than it is about marriage, just like slavery, Jim Crow, Women’s vote, equal education, etc.
    Our American freedom has two parts: Freedom OF Religion and Freedom FROM Religion. It is also totally Un-American to impose one’s own religious views and values on other peoples. That imposition is a Theocracy, and not a Democracy. True Americans practice freedom FROM religious imposition.

    Respectfully, L. Webster, Retired, United Methodist Clergy.

  13. says

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