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  1. atomic says

    The Ottowa Citizen article spells Scott’s name as “Heggart,” not “Haggart” as in the Towleroad article. Please confirm the correct spelling of his name.

  2. Brandon K. Thorpp says

    Atomic — Well spotted. I’ve corrected it. I think I need stronger glasses. – BKT

  3. PIR says

    I’m not sure his assertion that fathers’ accepting gay kids are few and far between compared to mothers and siblings is correct. That doesn’t fit with my own experience. I’ve known many cases where the fathers are completely cool, but a mother or sibling may yet be in a process of adjusting. Acceptance/non-acceptance doesn’t cleanly fit gender lines. e.g., several of the most prominent public homophobes are female, e.g., Anita Bryant, Maggie Gallagher, Shirley Phelps-Roper.

    In any case, we are also seeing less and less non-acceptance from everyone. Not accepting gay people is so 1964.

  4. JAMES in Toronto says

    It’s Canada, eh? (grin)

    I think that he was VERY brave, in a personal sense, wrt his teammates, but… socially, it’s all quite different up here. He had the right, and he was brave enough to take the risk. Bravo!

    (Everything is evolving quite nicely, to suit our “gay agenda”.)

  5. Dave says

    Though I rolled my eyes at the ignorantly titled “Only in America” headline for the Irish dancer story below, perhaps we can call this nice hockey story “Only in Canada”? ūüėČ

  6. TampaZeke says

    Awesome dad. My dad was accepting but my mother was a nightmare. I’ve heard MANY people say that they had the same experience. I think it’s a myth that fathers are much less likely to be accepting than mothers. I think that any small discrepancy that might exist can be attributed to the fact that males are much more socialized to be homophobic and gender conforming than females.

  7. bruce says

    Love this wonderful story from Ottawa (where I also live). I read the article this morning and was very, very moved. It (quite literally) hit close to home.

    Scott has shown how having courage and pride at a young age can change your life.

    I waited over 20 years longer than he did, to “Come Out”. What a waste of potential happiness and fulfillment.

    Bravo to Scott!

  8. Caliban says

    I read the story at the Ottawa Citizen, but better than that I watched the videos Scott Heggart himself made (which are at the OC link). His intelligence, humanity, and humility shine through whether he’s talking about being a “gay jock” or the suicide of Jamie Hubley. Seriously, they’re worth watching.

    I’ll be honest. I’ve read a few of the heart-warming stories of the star quarterback who came out to mass acceptance and while pleasant, they left a slightly bitter aftertaste for me. Star school athlete comes out to wide acceptance, whoop-de-****ing-doo! What about the art-f*gs, the band-f*gs, and the gay boys and girls who’d been on everyone’s map from day one? Their stories weren’t so pretty. Sure it was progress, but it didn’t seem like a lot. It seemed too easy for them and in a way I resented that, that they seemed to have it “easy.”

    Watch this video by Scott Heggart about Jamie Hubley and tell me he doesn’t “get it,” see the larger picture. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LYwUNiYd9DQ

  9. Lucas says

    It’s a lot easier to come out and to have other people accept it when the government of your country treats you as equal as everyone else.

    Proud to be Canadian!

  10. says

    to the point about Governments – in light of Dharun Ravi’s court case:

    while Ravi did indeed contribute massively to Clementi’s death on a personal one-on-one level, the real “cause” was cultural anti-gay bigotry.

    think about it – what has more impact? a brat kid bully saying anti-gay s**t to a classmate, or that classmate going home and turning on the news to see a prominent politician and/or religious leader saying the exact same anti-gay s**t, or worse, to a packed crowd giving rapturous applause?

    i’m not condoning bullying nor invasions of privacy nor bias intimidation. i just think targeting one person for the culture of anti-gay prejudice the world is still mired by doesn’t really solve the problem. Canada’s PM is an embarrassment, we all hate him. BUT – at least the country’s laws, our Charter of Rights and Freedoms, and indeed the greater public opinion is in favor of LGBT Equality – the PM is *forced*, if you will, to adopt a Pro_Equality stance. It has a massive impact on the country; trickle-down-Acceptance, if you will.
    we don’t get demonizing anti-gay rhetoric in the news and in politics the way the US still does. Don’t get me wrong – occasional conservative politicians up North stil try, feebly, to trot out the same old tired Social Wedge Issues. “Gays and Abortions and PraiseJeebus, OHMY!” – but nowhere near the level it was decades ago, and with massive fallout from the public and other politicians when they do so.

    It does indeed make a massive impact to young people when, despite the prejudices of the people or communities they’re stuck being around, they can look to Law, to Policy and to “facts” and see that the naysayers and bigots are the ones who are wrong. who have been proven wrong. they can look to laws to see that anti-gay prejudice is indeed as low-down ugly and shameful as racial prejudices and the other affronts to humanity that have marked our collective history.

    when politicians no longer pander to, and encourage, discriminatory bigotry it has a marked impact on the cultural climate.

  11. Nikolas says

    Um, not to downplay what he did, but I’m guessing from his hairstyle, everyone already knew he was gay.

  12. JAMES in Toronto says

    @LITTLEKIWI

    Yes, and I agree…

    “we don’t get demonizing anti-gay rhetoric in the news and in politics the way the US still does. Don’t get me wrong – occasional conservative politicians up North stil try, feebly, to trot out the same old tired Social Wedge Issues. “Gays and Abortions and PraiseJeebus, OHMY!” – but nowhere near the level it was decades ago, and with massive fallout from the public and other politicians when they do so.”

    …but I loathe Harper (our Prime Minister) and I don’t trust him.

    AND

    We’re still saddled with the manipulative Roman Catholic Church.

    …well, some of the other churches and relions too. However, the RC are the worst for playing at politics.

    Much better that it was, or that I ever hoped to see in my lifetime. Not perfect, YET.

  13. says

    when i was a teen coming out, Jack Layton (RIP, my hero) the NDP leader came to the Village to meet and talk with the gay communities.

    not pandering – he stood with us, marched with us in Pride every year, and was a true ally. it meant a lot to me as a teen Coming Out to see a Prime Ministerial candidate spending time in a GAY CLUB on the weekends to talk to the young queer people of the city.

    as a teen i cannot stress enough how much strength and comfort that gave me.

  14. Diane Neufeld says

    What a great episode. Being raised in a Mennonite atmosphere, of course I was taught that homosexuality is wrong and at the same time was told to except all people. Yeah, talk about confusing. I think of all the people in the Mennonite upbringing and how they must struggle.
    I have a question. Why is it that alot of gay men speak so femininely? Scot or his partner Brock do not, just curious.

  15. Wendy says

    “I SUPPORT “YOU” and all the other young people who have decided this is their choice of being,
    You all have the right to be whom you want to be
    Sincerely
    Wendy Newmarket
    Ontario

  16. Reta Roy says

    Scott:
    Just watched your story on W5 and I think that you are so awesome. I have one son and I told him when he wasn’t yet married at 34 that if he was gay, please tell me because I will love you no matter what. He did get married when he was 38 to a wonderful girl who loves him very much. I am around so many people who say such stupid things like, “why did he have to turn gay”? I could just scream at them and say that they need to do some real reading up on the subject. So, just letting you know that I really enjoyed your story and I am so glad your parents had the same reaction as I would have. Be who you are and be proud! You have great parents!
    Take care,
    Reta