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Diners React to Distressed Transgender Teen: VIDEO


On last weekend's ABC News 'What Would You Do?', restaurant diners were faced with a transgender teen telling her mother that she identifies as a girl, and the mom demanding she dress and act like a boy.

What happens is pretty amazing.


(via think progress lgbt)

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  1. Did anyone notice the two guys in the background at around 5:00?

    Posted by: atomic | Mar 16, 2012 9:23:28 AM

  2. Does this show really have a point? Exposing a few strangers to depths of misery, then pulling the rug out from under them? Sure, it was great that the couple at the end were so supportive.

    Though when the announcer said they were from Georgia, I thought he meant the country instead of the state. Oops.

    Posted by: Paul R | Mar 16, 2012 9:54:39 AM

  3. Too caviling to point out that male pronouns and nouns were used exclusively, even by the narrators/allies?

    Posted by: CDA | Mar 16, 2012 9:57:03 AM

  4. Total propagandistic BS on every level.

    First of all, notice that not a single male showed any sympathy, only women.

    Many women will virtually always react with sympathy when any man (much less a teenage boy) cries, because it is so unusual, regardless of the reason for it.....and because women in general love males who cry.

    And none of them actually endorsed the idea of a sex change; they were reacting more to the mother's harshness than they were to the actual issue itself.

    Secondly, the mother was overly harsh--and nobody would have a discussion like that in a public place, the situation was totally contrived and designed to get the kind of reaction that was desired.

    I wonder how many hours and hours and hours they had to do this to come up with anybody who would even sympathize with the boy for crying.....and what is the likelihood that two PFLAG members would be sitting in the adjacent booth just coincidentally? About 1 in a thousand.

    So again I call BS on every level.

    Posted by: Rick | Mar 16, 2012 11:25:00 AM

  5. Maybe someone more knowledgeable can enlighten us all, but I have been told by a transgender aquaintance that you use the pronoun that corresponds to how the person presents. So if he was wearing women's attire, "she" would be appropriate. However, since the actor is wearing men's clothing, "he" is the correct pronoun.

    Posted by: voet | Mar 16, 2012 11:34:55 AM

  6. Possibly the most goddamned stupid thing I've ever seen. Whatever happened to privacy and minding your own business. I purposely would go to extremes not to listen in on some conversation between a distressed parent and adult child. MYOFB.
    ABC is ridiculous. This crap is putty in the conservative columnist's hands.
    Pure propaganda.

    Posted by: MarkUs | Mar 16, 2012 11:52:01 AM

  7. This show and others like it go a long way to helping educate the masses about LGBT's

    Posted by: Joe | Mar 16, 2012 12:11:59 PM

  8. "not a single male showed any sympathy, only women."

    Men, in general, are less likely to display emotions like that. Especially in public. And trust me, plenty of women are assholes about MTFs no matter what age.

    "the mother was overly harsh"

    People can, have and do react that way. Mothers have disowned their kids for being GLBT.

    "nobody would have a discussion like that in a public place, either"

    I've ***seen*** it happen.

    "I have been told by a transgender aquaintance that you use the pronoun that corresponds to how the person presents. So if he was wearing women's attire, "she" would be appropriate. However, since the actor is wearing men's clothing, "he" is the correct pronoun."

    Regardless of clothing choice, if someone asks to be called "he"... you call him "he". If someone asks to be called "she", you call her "she". With drag queens, the depending on how they're dressed idea hold true.

    Posted by: Will | Mar 16, 2012 12:26:56 PM

  9. I'm sorry, but this may not be the deepest show on the planet, but at least it's a national platform where transgendered people are being talked about. Silence is the only true death.

    Posted by: Adam Sass | Mar 16, 2012 1:06:16 PM

  10. What? Who told you that, VOET?

    NEWSFLASH!... Do NOT base your pronouns on what the person looks like (aka "how they present"), because for all you know, the person may like to present themselves in a way that is not 'typical' for their gender -- or they may not have access to hormones or surgery yet -- thus giving them an appearance that YOU may mistake for the wrong gender.

    The best approach would be to use the pronoun that corresponds to what THEY say is THEIR gender, REGARDLESS of how they look. If you are not sure -- and, indeed, this is something we should do with EVERYONE -- then ask them how they wish to be addressed.

    Some people may prefer NOT to be addressed using a gendered pronoun; others may prefer to be addressed using a gender-neutral one. This is why it is absolutely important that we make no assumptions and ask.

    After all, it's better to be safe than sorry.

    Posted by: The News-Breaker | Mar 16, 2012 1:30:19 PM

  11. That said, as much as I appreciate the fact that the PFLAG couple stepped in to help both the (hypothetica) parent and her daughter, their understanding about gender identity (and gender expression) is ALL WRONG. Especially since they conflate it with sexual orientation.

    A+ for effort, though.

    Posted by: The News-Breaker | Mar 16, 2012 1:42:52 PM

  12. Ohhhhhh those poor, pathetic, gender-confused GAY boys. It's sooooooo sad the way they're uncomfortable being masculine. Afterall, all a GAY kid really needs is a good sex change operation right?

    Posted by: Patrick | Mar 16, 2012 2:21:46 PM

  13. I don't know how I would react to my kid coming out as a tranny to me. I would definitely be sympathetic, but uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. #justsayin

    Posted by: Munro | Mar 16, 2012 5:14:55 PM

  14. Is it contrived? Is it a set-up? Is the pronoun correct?
    That's not what is most important.

    What really matters is that on a national mainstream show,
    people were shown that LGBT people should not be rejected
    and instead should receive love and support.

    Would this have been shown on TV 10 years ago - or even
    5 years ago?

    Posted by: gr8guyca | Mar 16, 2012 5:30:16 PM

  15. Actually, those things ARE important GR8GUY. Because if we're going to show gay people on TV -- or in this case, a trans person -- then we better do it right the first time. Accuracy is key to educating people right.

    Posted by: The News-Breaker | Mar 17, 2012 12:19:10 PM

  16. For me, this kinda thing is more about fighting heterophobia than anything. There are people out there that will stand with you and that's very important in the equal rights arena.

    Posted by: Sunny | Mar 19, 2012 10:57:39 PM

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