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  1. Mic says

    But once again…the damage is done.

    Cue 1500 reruns of her words on Fox’s non-cognitive voter sperm pool.

    Don’t bother clarifying. With friends like you who needs enemies.

  2. johnny says

    She made a mistake and said things incorrectly.

    I am not doubting her intent, but yes, the damage is done.

    It’s a bad mistake. We’ve all made them, but most of us are not broadcast journalists ad libbing on camera.

  3. Jeff Kurtti says

    GLAAD and Hollywood Supports used to offer intensive fact-based media training, free of charge, for “journalists” who couldn’t seem to figure this out, and couldn’t walk ten feet to the bearest gay person to get a clue.

    Does GLAAD still do this, or do they just demand apologies all the time?

  4. NullNaught says

    I am sorry I laughed so hard when I read this. It is clear from the context and her clarification that she had the kindest intent. when I was a young man, I remember straight allies would say things like “Don’t hate gay people, they are ill!” Except we never got a clarification afterwards. This guy was really being about as nice and understanding as straights ever got at that time. Straight people have come a long way, but it is unreasonable to expect them never to make mistakes; even huge foot-in-the-mouth-f*cked-herself-all-over-the-place mistakes. I no longer look on such things with a jaundiced eye. She is a sweet goofy straight ally who is in over her head.
    I can understand the outrage from a younger audience; they are used to much better from straight people. I’m just saying with the long view, it don’t look so bad to me.

  5. daws says

    Reading it is definitely weird but you can tell from the video that she thinks the pastor is batshit crazy and is defending gays. Her word choice is just…odd and confusing lol.

  6. JJ says

    She means whom you love is a basic freedom. Exactly like when we (in the U.S.) go to court and say our rights hang on the word “liberty” in the 14th Amendment (and the 5th). She means people have the right to choose how they live, not that being gay is a choice.

  7. Michael says

    I support her. I can completely understand that it was a poorly-worded sentence. Let’s not condemn actual allies over some fumbled words.

    It’s because of fumbled words by Biden that Obama was forced prematurely out of the ally closet.

  8. luminum says

    People condemning her are idiots. She fumbled when it was clear she meant “consensual” and her clarifications makes that clear. The context of her statement shows that.

    But the damage by this article here is done.

    I doubt readers like Tre will revisit this page or any clarification therein. For them, Banfield will be a homophobe from now on. Great work.

  9. Bruce Dent says

    Here’s what i find disgusting: People on these gay sites, who are so quick to jump and condemn this woman for what was just a slip of the tongue. She was obviously disgusted by this creep of a ass hole and was shaken by it, and she spoke out and made a mistake. Her heart is in the right place.

    But, to read the venom on this and other gay sites…well, it makes me ashamed of those who can’t see an advocate of gay rights…but instead, only want to hear themselves spew their venom.
    Not good for the gay community, gay rights or anything else.

  10. NullNaught says

    @Luminum
    I agree completely. Consider, however, that TRE had plenty of explanation in posts here. He didn’t watch the video or evidently understand what he was reading. You can’t reach people like that and it is likely he would have heard about it elsewhere, is it not? She is going to talk about it herself on air tomorrow, if I understand correctly. TRE was destined for his point of view because he doesn’t pay attention. He addressed Mary earlier in terms that could only make sense if you assume he did not note there was a difference between “Mary” and “Mary Bennet.” He evidently pays attention randomly and draws conclusions from just a few words here and there without being able to put them in any context. It makes me sad also.

  11. Paul R says

    Not to mention, lifestyle choice isn’t even a terribly hateful comment. I’ve known a few gay people who tried to choose to be straight or bi. Of course it failed, and they chose to be honest with themselves and live real lives–some at 18, some at 30.

    I don’t find the comment especially troublesome given her apology (finally, a good one). So she messed up once. She probably ran this story 15 times, given how CNN works.

  12. Jim says

    I met Ashleigh at a social occasion here in NYC a few years ago. I was with my husband, and she had lots of questions for us, on the order of “How long you together?” “Where are you from?” “Did you get married yet?” I got no antigay vibes from her whatsoever, she was very cordial and supportive, and she seemed very smart. This seems like a slip of the tongue on CNN, and I accept her clarification. Poor choice of words, but you can’t have everything.

  13. sparks says

    If it wasn’t for religious nuts insisting that their bible tells them to choose faith over what science shows to their very own eyes, we wouldn’t still have 50% of americans believing that evolution is just a theory…. and we wouldn’t have all-time high hate crimes by people who think gays are making a choice against god.

    I’ll say again: religion has ruined this country just like it has ruined countries in the middle east.

    If the founding fathers could hear today’s conservatives talking like the US is a theocracy “founded upon the teachings of Jesus Christ” they would surely want to burn the constitution and start over — making the separation of church and state, and freedom *from* religion, MUCH MUCH clearer.

  14. NullNaught says

    @Sparks
    I don’t argue with what you say. I wonder what it has to do with the story or any comments or anything but your rather strident political views?

  15. says

    I agree with Ms. Banfield. Those crimes and the victims are different from homosexuality.We all have a choice in life when it comes to sexuality. Victims of sexual crimes have no choice. THAT was all Ms. Banfield was saying.

  16. millerbeach says

    The only choice I had was to live a lie, or live the truth. I chose truth, hence, I am out. It is much easier this way. I do not have to lie, which God does not like. He made me this way, it is the way I am. I am a perfect creation as one of God’s children. The rest of these “pastors of hate” can go bug off as far as I am concerned. I’d never visit their houses of hate anyway.

    She may have misspoke, and this is what can happen when you speak “off-the-cuff” on a live program. I do not fault her, just her choice of words…I think we all know she meant to say “consensual”.

  17. DanSwon says

    This confused me a bit at first but it’s now obvious that she meant being gay is not a choice, but being in a gay relationship is. As opposed to something non-consensual and illegal like a paedophile taking advantage of a child. I still don’t appreciate being talked about in the same breath as a child molester but she just fluffed her point pretty badly.

  18. FunMe says

    These so called “journalists” bring in the HATE mongers without anyone to debate them. Plus they don’t do their homework. What is wrong with these jerks? ENOUGH!

    These religious fanatics belong to the BAPTIST church or some crazy EVANGELICAL cult are a HATE group. No amount of justification for their hate when they want other people killed will certify them as “Christian”. They continue to ignore the THOU SHALT NOT KILL and therefore deserve all the criticism and more (hopefully lawsuits and federal investigations) for the violence they are instigating.

  19. mervin says

    I heard her when she said it. Her co-anchor looked at her a little strange but I knew what she MEANT, although it sounded a little strange. They only have so long to say something and she truncated the point so much that it was unclear but come on! She’s one of the most liberal newscasters out there. If you watch the whole segment you can see how disgusted she found that pastor’s comments while her co-anchor just sat there like a bug.

  20. rovex says

    The problem is ive heard these things said before. I realise it was a mistake on her part, but some mean it. I have a religious co-worker who says me being gay is not a sin, me acting on it is. In his view i should ‘be, and act straight’, get a wife and have children whether i want to or not, and that would be ok by God.

  21. Tim NC says

    My problem with this is the new trend of using Twitter to apologize for something said in a different venue. You don’t reach the same audience with the apology and/or explanation as you did with your original statement. So, it really isn’t much help.

    Her explanation and apology should have been on-air on CNN during the same programming block of time to ensure that as many of the same people who heard the original, hear the explanation.

    Now, on to her explanation….. She really didn’t do us any good here. Her follow-up explanation that being gay isn’t a choice but being in a relationship is… is the same argument that many anti-gay bigots now use. They say that even if being gay isn’t a choice, having gay sex is a choice and since the Bible says it’s a sin, we should just “choose” to be celibate. Just like pedophiles are expected to choose not to act on their sexual desires, the bigots expect gays to not act of their desires.

  22. Tim NC says

    My problem with this is the new trend of using Twitter to apologize for something said in a different venue. You don’t reach the same audience with the apology and/or explanation as you did with your original statement. So, it really isn’t much help.

    Her explanation and apology should have been on-air on CNN during the same programming block of time to ensure that as many of the same people who heard the original, hear the explanation.

    Now, on to her explanation….. She really didn’t do us any good here. Her follow-up explanation that being gay isn’t a choice but being in a relationship is… is the same argument that many anti-gay bigots now use. They say that even if being gay isn’t a choice, having gay sex is a choice and since the Bible says it’s a sin, we should just “choose” to be celibate. Just like pedophiles are expected to choose not to act on their sexual desires, the bigots expect gays to not act of their desires.

  23. ThomT says

    Great, make a stupid statement on national TV and then tweet your “clarification” to the couple hundred people who follow you. She’s a perfect example of why the dumb blond stereotype just won’t go away. She obviously shouldn’t be writing her own copy.

  24. Houndentenor says

    There are far too many of these morons on CNN. People who can barely string words together but look good on camera. Not only do they say things that are incredibly stupid (like this) but they let bald-faced lies go unchallenged from their guests. Enough already. She needs to be fired along with about half of the on-air “talent” at CNN.

  25. Bill Michael says

    Who is “Ashleigh Bandield”? Isn’t she a character on a sitcom? Oh, that’s right, she’s a model for rediculous eyeglass fashions.

  26. Bill Michael says

    Who is “Ashleigh Bandield”? Isn’t she a character on a sitcom? Oh, that’s right, she’s a model for rediculous eyeglass choices.

  27. says

    Ashley should not get a pass. Anyone who claims pedophilia is NOT a choice obviously supports child molesting catholic priests-despicable! She’s a homophobe who has joined the deranged Tony Perkins and Baptist ‘preachers’ advocating death for gay American citizens. She needs to be made an example of, this madness has to stop!

  28. MateoM says

    So page number two of comments is literally just trolls who choose to ignore the facts and condemn a woman who is clearly an ally and just flubbed her words.

  29. John says

    Ok, enough already, these people should be FORCED to sit down and finish eighth grade. What incredible ignorance! How do we get through to them that NO ONE chooses to be gay??

  30. wimsy says

    Wait a minute here — why is Banfield confusing pedophilia with homosexuality?

    Most pedophiles are straight — heterosxual — not gay — but her conflating of the two is a clever ruse extremists use to plant the seed that gays=perverts.

    Gay and pedophilia have nothing to do with one another.

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