NEWS: Imperiled Love, A Fiddly Pastor, And The Loveliness Of The Moon From The Thames


Towleroad-roadicon Meet Jon and Nedo, a binational married couple whose union is imperiled by an expiring visa:

Since the day we first met, Nedo and I have not been apart with the exception of the seven months while we waited for him to come to the United States on his student visa … To this day the effects of [the] decision to leave his family are deeply emotional and he can’t allow himself to communicate with them regularly because it is easier to disassociate then deal with the enormity of that decision. Every time he talks to his family he ends up crying for the remainder of the night.  He misses his nieces and nephews terribly and it hurts him not to see them regularly. The fact that he is separated from his mother is something he can’t even fully grasp without his eyes swelling with tears. Due to his current legal status he cannot risk leaving the country for fear his visa will not be renewed, but this means he also must live with the knowledge that he may never see his parents again. They are getting older and the more time that goes by without him being able to visit is another form of torment for us as a gay binational American family. My husband experiences this pain often, and it causes me to resent my government for the pain our families suffer in the name of DOMA.

… Each year we participate in the Diversity Visa Green Card Lottery and this last year was especially bitter for us as we are running out of time on Nedo’s visa. The Green Card Lottery is our final hope … Because his visa will be up in February of 2013 we are running out of options …

We can no longer put off conversations about what will happen to us next year …

Towleroad-roadicon Tasmania likely to become first Australian state to grant marriage equality.

Towleroad-roadicon Conservative news organs complain that the mainstream media ignored Chick-fil-A appreciation day.

Towleroad-roadicon Indiana megachurch pastor Jack Schaap dismissed after allegations of sexual conduct with a 16-year-old girl:

“At this time, we deeply regret the need to announce that First Baptist Church has dismissed our pastor, Dr. Jack Schaap, due to a sin that has caused him to forfeit his right to be our pastor,” the church said in a statement.

Towleroad-roadicon There were as many as a hundred Christian families in the Egyptian town of Dahshour. After mob rampage, there are none:

The violence was ultimately rooted in a dispute over a badly ironed shirt that escalated into a fight in which a Christian burned a Muslim to death, in turn sparking the rampage by angry Muslims.

"It was a devil's moment," Wehba said Thursday at the home of her Muslim neighbors, who have taken her in. "Whoever caused this was the devil's son."

Towleroad-roadicon What Afghan girls brave on the way to school.

Towleroad-roadicon Five ridiculous atheists.

Towleroad-roadicon NBC apologizes for airing an ad starring a gymnast monkey immediately after recapping Gabby Douglas's gold-winning performance.

Towleroad-roadicon Michael Phelps concludes a storied career.

Towleroad-roadicon A lucky Olympic picture.



  1. Kiss My Rapidly Disappearing Tail Lights says

    Sad that Towleroad takes the typical American media tack of fawning all over Phleps wins as a manifestation of American dominance, while totally overlooking (ignoring?) an historic performance by American distance runner Galen Rupp, who became the first American man to medal in the 10,000 meters in 40 years, and only the third American to medal in the even in the last 100 years. The gold medal winner Mo Farrah is Rupp’s training partner, and they train under American distance great Alberto Salazar. But the American only won silver, so it’s not a story.

  2. Paul R says

    Yeah, gosh it’s weird that someone who won a gold medal for the 18th time got more attention than someone who won silver in a sport that few people care about. And I say that as someone from a family of cross-country runners.

  3. Tom says

    Whilst Tasmania might legalise gay marriage, in Australia most constitutional scholars agree that marriage legislation is clearly a commonwealth power, suggesting it is unlikely to survive a high court challenge.

    Still awesome though.

  4. PDX Guy says

    “Whoever caused this was the devil’s son.”

    No, it was people with ridiculous hateful religious beliefs. Just people, nothing supernatural.

  5. Sarm says


    Both religions are rife with them.

    As for the pastor, may he be punished to the full extent of the law, that he may serve as an expample to the rest of his filthy religion that they are not above the law.

  6. Paul R says

    Also, I find it mildly unnerving when couples wear the same clothes, as in the first picture. My ex and I sometimes did it unwittingly (though not identically), and I was mortified. Be an individual.

  7. Brandon K. Thorp says

    About the atheists thing:

    I am an atheist, and an outspoken one. Hell, my best friend is James Randi. The point of the article, I think, is that it’s unwise for the atheist movement to think mere unbelief is itself a sign of rectitude. The article is arguing that it’s skepticism that’s important — scientific skepticism — and that an atheist who, like Bill Maher, doesn’t believe in the germ theory of disease probably doesn’t have enough of that stuff.

    – BKT

  8. Bill says


    In the future, could you do like Andy and let us click in for Olympic results, rather than letting unsuspecting people read a result when they haven’t watched the event yet? Thanks.

  9. says

    @Paul: I think that’s a wedding picture. I’m not sure exactly what the official dress code is, but given that bridesmaids usually wear the same color and groomsmen traditionally the same suit, it seems logical that matching outfits would be an option for a same sex couple.

  10. says


    while we have you here, just know that you’re excuse of terms like “no homo” are careless at best and dangerous at worst. It’s that type of wreckless pandering that enables societal homophibia which runs rampant anywhere from rural America, to urban cities. Folks like yourself want to use any justifiable reasoning to rationalize words that clearly CUT at the dignity of LGBT- but you’ll (hopefully) soon realize that there doesn’t need to be a tolerance of ignorance. We shouldn’t excuse, nor celebrate ignorant thinking or phrases, regardless of popularity. Words like “that’s soo gay” and “no homo” both directly and indirectly contribute to the cycle of vicious reactions toward an actual “homo”

  11. Dynex says

    Well said USC Trojans Fan.
    In the past, I’ve been able to enjoy Brandon’s contributions but I along with many other posters were clearly baffled at his Chris Brown thread. It left me both disapppointed in this site and the writer.

  12. Mikey says

    We’re still giving Brandon guff for that?

    “just know that you’re excuse of terms like ‘no homo'”

    Somehow, I find your grammar more offensive than Brandon’s words.

  13. says

    @ Paul R
    If thats what makes you mortified, you have a pretty easy life. I think there’s more things to be concerned about than what a gay couple wears, especially the struggles this gay couple endured. How about we as a community stop disecting our gay couples as often as we do? Depending on what a gay couple chooses to wear, to their wedding ceremony, to how they dance in their wedding ceremony, to them kissing in public, to them fighting for their rights…it seems the gay community has an unhealthy fixation of holding same sex couples to an abnormal standard. It’s really unfortunate. This mentality that every gay couple is representing every gay person, or moreover, has a duty to represent every gay person and constantly be mindful of what the big heterosexual man thinks is both belittling and demonizing.

    Live YOUR life as you see fit. Please stop ‘schooling’ other, notably gay couples, on how to live theirs. They have enough armchair judges.

  14. Leo says

    yeah we are. sorry we don’t all bow down to you hip hop lovers because you have an adopted sense of entitlement and think you are immune to criticism because you listen to gangsta rap.

  15. Randal Oulton says

    >> Tasmania likely to become first Australian state to grant marriage equality.

    AWWW. Good on them if they do. I know that Australia always feels inferior to Canada, as the Senior Member of the Commonwealth — happy to have the Aussies catch up to us on one or two things.

  16. Chast says

    @ Paul R
    And live your life as a bitter, old, scrooge who is so negative that he’d see a story like the one posed about the gay couple and automatically take a dig at something as superficial as you did. how old are you? probably a lot older than you act. stop being so bitter, you’ll probably end up single and miserable if you aren’t already.

  17. Hector says

    I once saw an article about a gay couple that had a lifelike doll all dressed up, and they carried it around like a child everywhere they went. That creeped me out.

  18. Diogenes Arktos says

    Somehow Jon Stewart managed to come up with some main-stream media coverage of Chick-Fil-A appreciation day (e.g. CNN). I’m not surprised that the Religious Right could not, given that their collecttive eyes are closed to reality. Perhaps they should start following blogs they don’t agree with.

  19. Diogenes Arktos says

    Oops! I just remembered that the Religious Right do follow some left-wing blogs, like They have asked the SPLC [Southern Poverty Law Center] to certify RWW as a hate organization. Why? Because RWW has the gall to report (and show videos, transcripts, and links) of what some important right wingers are actually saying.

  20. jamal49 says

    I keep forgetting it’s a different crew here at TR on weekends. Which is why we have a link to the Salon article about “Five ridiculous atheists”, which appeared earlier this week. Suffice it to say, it was a hit job by Salon. Much as some theists would object that five random evangelicals with extremist right-wing views would be selected as representative of all deistic believers, so would the multitudes of atheists object that those five gentlemen should represent the breadth of atheism. Not sure why Thorpe felt this was a link worth pursuing. Equal time, I guess, but utterly pointless.

    One hopes that DOMA will be ruled unconstitutional before John and Nedo have to suffer the ultimate indignity and calamity: enforced separation that might possibly be permanent. Reading of their daily agony and uncertainty only stokes the anger against the heterosexual tyranny we all must endure on a daily basis.

    That the “conservative” media would claim that “mainstream” media did not cover the bigot’s appreciation day shows that they really weren’t paying attention. From where I sit, it got MAJOR play throughout the day on CNN, NBC, HNN, most local stations where that chicken shack does business, most major newspapers’ websites and so forth. It is why my term of choice for those people is “whiny-cons”. That’s all they do is whine, whine, whine.

    Lastly, can we finally admit that NBC’s coverage of the Olympics has been an absolute, complete, unmitigated disaster? NBC should know that their inept, dreadful coverage is surely going to harm their network long after the Olympics are over.

  21. Derek says

    Why can’t the American partner move to Croatia? Couldn’t they then work and live anywhere in Europe? The US law sucks, but it seems that only one partner is being asked to sacrifice to be in this relationship. I’m not saying don’t fight for your rights, but if love is all that matters, don’t say that the only alternative to a green card is an end to the relationship. America ain’t all that, after all…

  22. says

    @Derek: Aren’t you presuming that there is marriage equality across Europe? There isn’t, and certainly not in Croatia. I imagine they’ve run through all the scenarios themselves, and the truth is it is much much more difficult and complicated for binational same-sex couples than it is for heterosexual couples and changing that should be the priority wherever a couple chooses to locate. And they’ve chosen to locate in the US.

  23. Henry Holland says

    “NBC should know that their inept, dreadful coverage is surely going to harm their network long after the Olympics are over”

    What are you babbling about? The ratings have been very good > great for NBC, that’s all they care about.

    “Through five nights, including the opening ceremony, NBC is averaging 35.6 million viewers, more than any Summer Olympics from outside the United States since the 1976 Montreal Games”

    That’s through Tuesday, so it doesn’t even include the women’s individual gymnastics which I assume got huge ratings, but with track & field starting, the ratings aren’t going to dip much. The coverage may suck but people are still watching it. I watch the sports I care about online.

  24. Jon says

    Thanks all for your thoughts- we appreciate the idea’s and support.

    We have thought and checked out all of our options. We looked at alternate countries but getting citizenship is nearly impossible. I can’t get a job in another country either- unless I want to teach English (scary).

    Why should we have to leave what I have worked hard for all of my life and what Nedo and I have built over the last seven years?

    Obama could solve this today without congress but he is playing politics once again with our community.

    Our options:
    1. Nedo stays illegally and accrues illegal days (ruin your chances of ever getting a VISA)
    a. He can never see his family again cause he can’t leave the US
    b. He risk’s being deported

    2. Leave and wait for Marriage Equality
    a. Live separated for years – and there are many who choose to do this- we choose the next option

    3. Stay and fight for our marriage and hold our President accountable for protecting American families that are suffering because of discriminatory laws.

    The bottom line here is that we can’t wait for change. DOMA is discriminatory and instead of focusing on what color Nedo and I wore to our ceremony- we should be coming together and fighting for our rights. Its the self bickering BS in most communities that hold them back from making progress. Its exactly what both parties want and something has got to change if we want equality.

    I had doubts about responding cause I can not always articulate points very well. Please- help us out. We really want to stay together here in the US. Nedo is so happy here. He has been able to get an “internship” with a company that he loves. He never had that option in Croatia. He wants to eventually own his own business doing what he loves with his clients here in the Bay Area. Honestly- if he had to go back to Croatia- he would go back to nothing.

    We deserve to be happy together here in the US. Every couple we have met along this journey is subjected to so much criticism- can’t we just honor each other and celebrate what we are trying to accomplish?

    Please- lets help each other. We have enough people who hate us for who we are. Why do we have to hate on one another.

    Jon and Nedo

  25. Lucrece says

    I love how the athiest article is from the progressive propaganda rag Salon, and bulk of the atheists targeted are independents or liberatarians, and in Maher’s case one who made a transgression against progressive dogma.

    And to cast a shadow on Ayaan Hirsi Ali is nothing short of despicable.

  26. Contrarian says

    The evangelical (mostly) and Republican (mostly) fast food show-up event was covered, complete with GOP talking points (Gays object to Mr. Cathay’s religion based free speech) by my area’s CBS owned all-news stations. These stations never mentioned the donations to anti-gay causes or that corporation’s activism. So much for the “liberal” CBS which is a long way from Murrow, Cronkite and Don Hewitt these days.

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