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School Disciplines Gay Student After Homophobic Knife Threat from Roommate

A student at the University of Central Missouri in Warrensburg received a letter of discipline from the school for reporting that his roommate threatened him with a knife because he's gay, Fox4 Kansas City reports:

Worthley18-year-old Alex Worthley of Sedalia said his dormitory roommate threatened him with a knife because the other student didn’t like having a gay roommate.

“He was like, ‘I do have a knife and I’ll use it if I have to,’” said Worthley.

Worthley told FOX 4 that at one point he asked the roommate to turn down his music.

“And that’s when he repeated that and he was like ‘I don’t like gay people,’” Worthley said.

Worthley said he reported the threat to the Office of Student Housing. An investigator agreed to put the two students in separate dorm rooms, but Worthley said he was shocked when he received a letter of discipline just like his accuser.
“Made it feel like because I’m gay that it was my fault that those threats were made,” said Worthley.

In the letter, the school blamed Worthley for being threatened:

“There seems to be a strong possibility that some of your own actions and comments were part of the reason this situation escalated from jesting to threatening.”

Worthley said the problem could have been solved before it even began by not putting the students together. Worthley said his roommate told school officials that he didn't want a gay roommate but the school says it "does not make room assignments or reassignments based upon sexual orientation, race or other university protected status.”

It also won't comment to the news about the incident.

Watch FOX4's news report here.

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  1. Consistently, Towleroad posts stories about how glbt individuals are attacked or threatened. More often then not, I feel like im only getting part of the story, like this website is the same as Fox news, but from a Queer perspective. Both are a dis service as we don't hear the facts, we get a filtered version that, in this case, provokes anger on our part.
    Im not blaming the victim in this story. The dorm mates comments are unacceptable, threatening and the two should have been split up immediately. But, is it possible that both of the students exchanged heated words with one another?
    This reminds me of that story about that kid who was thrown to the ground during Mardi Gras. We didnt hear the whole story, it was just, "look at what happened, the police are homophobes!"
    I read this blog several times a week, and im grateful it exists. Often, I learn about situations and people that need more attention, music that I enjoy and causes that need our support. All im asking for is an unbiased and factual source of information. Maybe thats not what Towleroad is intended for, maybe its just a Queer Tabloid?

    Posted by: Rachael | Sep 14, 2013 1:08:20 PM

  2. There's no queer perspective cause they're only repeating what Fox reported. If you're only getting part of the story blame Fox, not here.

    Posted by: Syrax | Sep 14, 2013 1:24:43 PM

  3. @Rachael: what disturbs me more is the number of people who deny the validity of an event, as reported, because they expect everything to be both factual and proven.

    ...which is not something too likely to happen outside a court of law, if then.

    Disturbing too was the ease with which the Office of Student Housing "assumed" that it must somehow take two sides to provoke an altercation. It doesn't, you know?

    It only takes one bigot, and a victim.

    Posted by: James in Toronto | Sep 14, 2013 1:25:28 PM

  4. I have to say I agree with Rachael, I've had the same thoughts running through my head. Well worded m'lady.

    Posted by: Matt | Sep 14, 2013 1:33:30 PM

  5. It doesn't matter if both insult each other, he is not reporting that his roommate insult him, he is reporting that he threatened him with a knife.

    And it's obvious the kind of guy his roommate is when he asked that he didn't want a gay roommate (if you don't want to face diversity, stay at home, bigot)

    Posted by: jjose712 | Sep 14, 2013 1:47:32 PM

  6. If you're being threatened with a knife by a roommate, you should bypass the University and go straight to the police. Yet, the police weren't even involved? That and the school's letter to Worthley show they aren't even taking this seriously. I wonder how they would've reacted if he was threatening the roommate with a knife because of their race or religion. Then again, probably just as little unless the victim was white and/or Christian. Because minorities, y'all, will always get the short end of the stick.

    Posted by: C. Foley | Sep 14, 2013 1:52:35 PM

  7. Always amazes me to see people victim blaming.

    Posted by: homer | Sep 14, 2013 1:54:11 PM

  8. C Foley, hopefully law enforcement would take it seriously, especially if there are no other witnesses. Often when it is "after the fact," they don't want to get involved. I think when these incidents happen, it sometimes does not occur to the victim to actually call 9-1-1 for a number of reasons - fear of retaliation or not being believed, avoiding escalation, shock, or they think going to campus resources is more appropriate. A lot of folks distrust law enforcement for the very reason you stated.

    Posted by: AngelaChanning | Sep 14, 2013 2:02:47 PM

  9. @Rachael, this is the internet. If you feel you don't have enough information, follow the links back to the source and look for more details. Do a little work of your own.

    The Fox 4 reporter did get a look at the letter from the university which essentially accuses the gay student of instigating the incident but without actually specifying what he supposedly did that would warrant violent threats from the other student.

    Posted by: RJ | Sep 14, 2013 2:10:19 PM

  10. The Fox News of gay sites...there's more to this story...

    Posted by: Ankerich | Sep 14, 2013 2:30:13 PM

  11. Oh the irony, Rachel did Andy in the comments what the school officials did to the gay student in the letter.

    Posted by: Jose Barros | Sep 14, 2013 2:32:44 PM

  12. The Fox News of gay sites?

    Where did bumper crop of trolls come from?

    Posted by: Polyboy | Sep 14, 2013 2:56:21 PM

  13. They're not trolls, Rachel has a very valid point. You can't simply expel all guilt or suspicion because the person is LGBT. I highly doubt this person was threatened just because he asked for the music to be turned down. It's not trolling to point out we are only getting half the story.

    Posted by: Michael | Sep 14, 2013 3:45:55 PM

  14. Oh, that's a boy?

    Posted by: James | Sep 14, 2013 3:53:00 PM

  15. How strange that the Fox4 report on this story began with the reporter standing in front of a graphic that depicted two wedding rings and a rainbow flag unfurling.

    Posted by: Rexford | Sep 14, 2013 3:54:57 PM

  16. I don't think there's anything the victim did that justifies being threatened with a knife.

    Posted by: Alan | Sep 14, 2013 4:35:47 PM

  17. Isn't that a trans person instead of a "gay" man?

    Posted by: enough | Sep 14, 2013 5:03:17 PM

  18. It's absolutely true that college students don't often respect boundaries and that can lead to conflict, for any number of reasons. It's also completely *possible* that an out and proud teenager, knowing he's got a fundie roommate who loudly and openly hates life because he got "the gay roommate" might play up "the gay" to drive that roommate crazy. If it wasn't that, it would be music (see the other roommate) played loudly or purposely of a genre the first roommate doesn't like, or girls over when they know it bothers the gay roommate, or loud talking on the phone. This stuff happens in dormitories and sometimes gets absolutely ridiculous as young people learn how to live and work with people they absolutely can't stand. But when it escalates into a threat with a weapon, the person who escalated it into violence automatically loses much of the moral high ground they may or may not have held. Even if a gay roommate was joking about crawling into bed with him while he slept, the appropriate response is to leave, find an RA and make a complaint against him, NOT pull a knife. Short of actually needing to defend yourself against an in-progress attack, whoever pulls a weapon in a verbal argument IN A SCHOOL automatically loses the high ground, period. If a roommate jokes about raping you, even, you get out, you report, and you stand your ground until you get a room change. You don't pull out a weapon and threaten to kill them. So the idea that the gay roommate may have "instigated" it may be 100% correct(or it may not) but it's not relevant to the fact that it does not make him "responsible" or "equally responsible" for the fact that a weapon was pulled on him.

    Posted by: BreckR | Sep 14, 2013 5:10:06 PM

  19. Who is this "Rachel" troll?

    Posted by: David Ehrenstein | Sep 14, 2013 6:42:19 PM

  20. I don't care if the kid danced naked on his roommate's bed, there is no justification for the roommate to threaten him with a knife. Yes, saying you have one and you will use it is a threat.

    The kid couldn't have called the city police since this happened on university property. The city police have no jurisdiction since the university is owned and operated by the state. I doubt the campus police would have done much except for take a report which would have promptly been ignored.

    The university's anti-discrimination policy covers sexual orientation so he does have a way to appeal the letter.

    Posted by: Grover Underwood | Sep 14, 2013 7:29:05 PM

  21. Often we hear people complaining about political correctness serving liberal interests gone wrong , this case shows that so called political correctness can and does affect all .

    Posted by: Kakiristani | Sep 14, 2013 8:41:36 PM

  22. @Rachael: You wrote, "More often then not, I feel like im only getting part of the story, like this website is the same as Fox news, but from a Queer perspective."

    Did you notice that the story originated on Fox News? Just follow the link Towleroad provided. If you think (as you seem to have indicated) that Fox News is biased against gays, then you should claim that what happened must have been far worse than what was reported.

    Posted by: Bill | Sep 14, 2013 9:48:24 PM

  23. @ Bill, thanks for pointing that out to her, what a stupid c*nt - now burn Rachael, burn!

    Posted by: Booyah! | Sep 14, 2013 10:13:17 PM

  24. If this guy is really gay and not a transsexual, then why is he walking around with a female hairstyle and effectuating a woman's voice?

    There's no excuse for threats and the roommate needs to be disciplined. But this kid needs to get a haircut and start acting like a normal man.

    Posted by: Matt | Sep 14, 2013 10:33:23 PM

  25. @ Matt

    Normal is just a setting on a washing Machine, so wtf you talking about?

    Posted by: samsara | Sep 14, 2013 10:42:28 PM

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