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Sally Field Calls Being A Part of Her Gay Son’s Journey 'One of the Great Privileges of My Life'

In an open letter for the Human Rights Campaign, Oscar-winning actress and vocal LGBT ally Sally Field shared her experience raising a gay son, calling it “one of the great privileges of my life.”

Sally field“The three things I’m most proud of in my life are my sons, Peter, Eli and Sam. They are kind, loving and productive people. Each with their own list of talents and accomplishments. Sam is my youngest son, by 18 years, and he’s gay. To that, I say: So what?

“Growing up, Sam wanted desperately to just be like his older brothers – athletic, rambunctious and even a little bit macho. He wanted to beat Eli at tennis, trounce Peter at computer football and learn everything about every basketball player on the court. But Sam was different. And his journey to allow himself to be what nature intended him to be was not an easy one.

“When I saw him struggling, I wanted to jump in. But his older brothers held me back. They told me I couldn’t travel that road for Sam. It was his to travel, not mine. I had to wait for him to own himself in his own time.

“I could make it easier only by standing visibly to the side, clearly loving him, always being there and always letting him know. Finally, at 20, long after he beat his brothers at tennis and computer games and knew as much as anyone about basketball, Sam was able to stand up proudly and say, ‘I am a gay man’.

Field’s letter is part of a new fundraising campaign by the HRC to help prevent the introduction of laws similar to those brought up in Arizona and Kansas that would allow religious-based discrimination against gays.

“There are people out there – organizations and politicians, strangers who have never even met Sam – who would rather devote themselves to denying his happiness.

“Why would anyone want to prevent my son—or anyone’s son or daughter—from having basic legal safeguards like family medical leave, Social Security survivors benefits, or health insurance? It doesn’t make any sense—but it won’t change until people speak out. 

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  1. We like you. We REALLY LIKE you!

    Posted by: jmartindale | Mar 28, 2014 2:03:12 PM

  2. Sally Field is awesome. All I know her from is the Oscar saying, though - not many people my age know what else she has done. Any movie recommendations?

    Posted by: Sergio | Mar 28, 2014 2:04:54 PM

  3. I think I'll go see Spider Man 2 a second time for this :)

    On that note, it's hard to imagine a more LGBT friendly cast than Sally Field, Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone.

    Posted by: Ryan | Mar 28, 2014 2:13:22 PM

  4. we Love you Sally...yes , we Love you!!!!!!

    Posted by: disgusted american | Mar 28, 2014 2:16:11 PM

  5. This makes me love her all the more.

    Sally, you ROCK!!!

    Posted by: johnny | Mar 28, 2014 2:16:47 PM

  6. She is a great actress and a greater human being!

    Posted by: Mark | Mar 28, 2014 2:18:10 PM

  7. @Sergio:

    Norma Jean, Forest Gump, Lincoln, Steel Magnolias, Mrs. Doubtfire, and my favorite, Places in the Heart.

    Posted by: johnny | Mar 28, 2014 2:19:06 PM

  8. @Sergio:

    Norma Jean, Places in the Heart, Mrs. Doubtfire, Forest Gump, Lincoln, and many more...

    Posted by: johnny | Mar 28, 2014 2:20:11 PM

  9. Norma Rae all the way!!! We love you, Sally!

    Posted by: Frank | Mar 28, 2014 2:24:52 PM

  10. You Go Girl!

    Posted by: Howard B | Mar 28, 2014 2:32:25 PM

  11. yay sally

    Posted by: Sean | Mar 28, 2014 2:33:07 PM

  12. Whats wonderful is how she raised her older sons to be aware enough to let her know that Sam needed to find his own way.

    Posted by: Lazycrockett | Mar 28, 2014 2:35:22 PM

  13. Amazing human.
    This is an example of an evolved human being. Much of America and ALL of the humans in Africa,Russia,China and the Middle East could learn much from her example. Time for the hateful bigots evolve into real human beings!

    Posted by: SFshawn | Mar 28, 2014 2:37:32 PM

  14. Classy lady. And how this stands in such stark contrast to that other "mother" who killed her 4 year-old son for perceiving he was gay.

    Posted by: SpaceCadet | Mar 28, 2014 2:38:53 PM

  15. I second Johnny's recs, Sergio. I'll throw "Legally Blonde 2" and "Soapdish" into the mix. Bravo, Sally!

    Posted by: Håkon | Mar 28, 2014 2:43:46 PM

  16. A masterclass in great parenting

    Posted by: danswon | Mar 28, 2014 2:58:01 PM

  17. Have always loved Sally's work.

    Posted by: Drummond | Mar 28, 2014 3:07:48 PM

  18. Watched her as a kid after school in The Flying Nun, haha! Yes, over 50 here. Cheers to Sally Field & lucky Sam!

    Posted by: castaway | Mar 28, 2014 3:09:15 PM

  19. Regarding recommendations, she was in the TV series Brothers and Sisters, and had a recurring role on ER starting in season 7. She won a best supporting actress Oscar for playing the president's wife in Lincoln.

    Posted by: Gregory In Seattle | Mar 28, 2014 3:16:39 PM

  20. Ack, she was NOMINATED for best supporting actress in Lincoln.

    Posted by: Gregory In Seattle | Mar 28, 2014 3:17:43 PM

  21. There is probably more ignorance about the topic of sexual orientation than any other subject in America. And the media has done precious little to educate the heterosexual masses to help alleviate the ignorance. Rather, they often feed into the ignorance and stereotypes.

    Posted by: Max | Mar 28, 2014 3:35:42 PM

  22. If I remember right, Sam was an intern or news poster for this very website recently. He seems to have a relatively good head on his shoulders. Ostensibly the polar opposite of Stephanie Seymour's vapid, socialite, potential flotsam offspring.

    Posted by: Adam L | Mar 28, 2014 3:36:19 PM

  23. She's an angel and one of the greatest actors ever.

    Posted by: daws | Mar 28, 2014 3:38:08 PM

  24. Norma Rae, Sybil, Places in the Heart, Not Without My Daughter, Forest Gump, Lincoln, Soapdish, Mrs. Doubtfire, Brothers & Sisters,and The Flying Nun. Great Mom, Great Ally, Great Actress. Thank you.

    Posted by: Andrew | Mar 28, 2014 3:41:55 PM

  25. tearing up here. wish my mama was more like her.

    Posted by: jaker | Mar 28, 2014 3:43:03 PM

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