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Philadelphia Man Murdered After Traveling to Meet Man He Had Contacted On Grindr

Dino-dizdarevicA 25-year-old Phillly man was murdered last week after driving to Chester, Pennsylvania to meet a man he had contacted through Grindr.

Dino Dizdarević’s body was discovered early Thursday. He had been strangled and, according to Delaware County District Attorney Jack Whelan, sustained “multiple blunt-force trauma injuries to the face.”

Philadelphia magazine reports:

On Wednesday, April 30th, Dizdarević told his boyfriend, Nick McBee [below left], with whom he was in an open relationship, he was driving to Chester to meet a man he'd met on the app. McBee began to fear the worst when the night wore on and he hadn't heard anything from him. "He was a responsible person. He always called to let me know where he was," he says. "I knew something was wrong."

Dina-dizdarevic-nick-mcbeeMcBee filed a missing person's report with the Philadelphia Police Department on Thursday morning, and was called to identify a body in Chester that matched the description. It was Dizdarević, though, according to sources close to the couple, he had been beaten so severely that he was only able to be identified from his clothing.

The pair had been together since December 2012, with McBee saying of Dizdarević: “I loved him so much. We had so many big plans for the future”

So far no arrests have been made in the case, and it is not being investigated as a hate crime. Police are asking for any information that may lead to an arrest in the case.

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  1. Cue the shameless victim-blaming in 3... 2... 1...

    Posted by: shaun | May 6, 2014 12:16:04 PM


  2. Yes, I heard this on the local news last night. Very sad. Very awful. To die so young and so beautiful for nothing.

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | May 6, 2014 12:16:33 PM


  3. Sad. Beware kids.

    Posted by: Ted | May 6, 2014 12:17:45 PM


  4. Yet another argument for bathhouses as safe(r) spaces to meet for recreational frolic. What a terrible story.

    Posted by: The Milkman | May 6, 2014 12:26:07 PM


  5. I've never understood "open relationships." Hopefully, they find the perp.

    Posted by: Sean Maloney | May 6, 2014 12:29:59 PM


  6. Yes, like there have never been any beatings or murders in a bathouse?

    Posted by: AS IF | May 6, 2014 12:31:09 PM


  7. Something doesn't add up.

    Another news report says neither the victim's sister nor his boyfriend "could imagine why he'd go to Chester, where both said he'd never been before," and that "all McBee knew Wednesday night, the last time he talked to his boyfriend, was that Dizdarevic had been going to visit a friend 'south of the airport.'"

    Posted by: Sherlock | May 6, 2014 12:31:56 PM


  8. Gay culture...

    Posted by: June | May 6, 2014 12:35:13 PM


  9. We all should have reservations about hooking up with strangers online. I remember that Central Park jogger case where the woman was jogging around 9 or 10 in the evening through the Park and was violently raped and almost beaten to death by a pack of 30 rabid teenagers. Her skull was fractured and her left eye removed from the socket. You don't want to blame the victim, but what universe are you living in when a woman jogs in darkness through Central Park -- or a guy picks up a total stranger for random sex on the internet?

    Posted by: will | May 6, 2014 12:35:46 PM


  10. Yeah June, straight people never hook up with each other.

    Posted by: The Milkman | May 6, 2014 12:36:24 PM


  11. Beautiful kid. And it's not victim-shaming at all to say that really young people often underestimate the risks of meeting strangers for sex. It's just a fact--no matter how many people get robbed, or gay-bashed, or murdered doing something like park cruising, or Partyline, or AOL Chat, or Craigslist, or Grindr, there's always going to be another iteration of technology and another generation of people (young and old alike) who underestimate the risks and end up paying the price. I wish it weren't that way.

    Posted by: But It Is | May 6, 2014 12:37:17 PM


  12. To Will's comment: In what universe

    Will, I live on Central Park. it's a beautiful and safe environment that would temp any person to enjoy day or night, even back when that rape happened. The idea that you would think it is unthinkable to run in Central Park at night tells me you live outside NYC and likely have five deadbolts on your doors. While certainly unfortunate, it's not the norm here in NYC.

    Posted by: MP | May 6, 2014 12:42:28 PM


  13. i'm sure in initial reports, the bf tried to downplay the open relationship aspect of the story to minimize the shaming/blaming.

    the terms of their relationship is between them and only needed to be revealed due to the tragic circumstances.

    be careful out there!

    Posted by: dddddd | May 6, 2014 12:43:18 PM


  14. @ WILL,

    you've got a bad memory. It turned out that the young woman was raped and beaten by one man. The New York City Police forced confessions out of those teenage Black and Latino boys.

    Did you FOLLOW the Central Park Jogger story...at all?

    And this aint gotta' damn thing to do with the Central Park Jogger case. Oh, Lord

    Posted by: Derrick from Philly | May 6, 2014 12:50:07 PM


  15. C'mon, everyone. Let's be vigilant here against victim-blaming.

    It's true that meeting new people -- whether at a bar, or at someone's house -- carries risks. This beautiful young man did some very wise things, including telling someone he knew where he was going, when, and why. How many of us are similarly responsible about letting someone know when we're meeting a stranger?

    There a few things we should all make part of our messaging:

    - Tell a trusted friend when you're going to meet a stranger. Pass along the person's real name, phone number, and address.

    - Always meet in public first, before going back to someone's home. Sadly, even the most dangerous people can come across as charming and harmless, so this is no guarantee. But if things don't feel right...

    - Trust your gut. If you meet someone and things don't feel right, politely excuse yourself.

    - Report incidents of domestic or sexual violence. Sadly, many of these crimes go unreported. Most violence does not lead to death, and the scars -- emotional ones -- may be invisible. The Anti-Violence Project (avp.org) has an incredible 24-hour hotline where anyone can call to discuss things, confidentially: 212.714.1141

    Our hearts go out to the family, boyfriend and friends of Dino Dizdarević!

    Posted by: GMB | May 6, 2014 12:50:48 PM


  16. @Will: Terrible example. Apparently you never heard that it wasn't a pack of teenagers, but a lone rapist. And it was a summer night when the park was full of people.

    The police railroaded a group of teenagers, and some of them went to jail unjustly, but they were innocent. Their convictions were overturned with DNA evidnece. They have filed a lawsuit against the city. A fairly widely-screened documentary was made about their forced confession and false conviction by Sarah Burns, daughter of well-known documentary filmmaker Ken Burns.

    Were the two women who were recently mugged by a group of teenagers in Central Park while jogging at 6AM guilty of poor judgment? How about the lone male jogger who was accosted by the same group? What about me when I was threatened a couple of summers ago in broad daylight, in the middle of the day while walking around the reservoir in Central Park?

    Central Park isn't always necessarily empty (or unsafe)after dark, and it isn't always necessarily safe in the middle of the day (cf the recent rape of an elderly bird watcher). You can mitigate risk, but you can't completely eliminate it.

    Posted by: But It Is | May 6, 2014 12:51:42 PM


  17. "not being investigated as a hate crime"??

    Why the hell not? Surely hate is one of the most obvious motives for picking a guy up on a gay hookup site, and then beating him to unrecognizability.

    Posted by: Randy | May 6, 2014 12:57:51 PM


  18. Another Grindr success story! What a magnificent life is the Grindr life! Go from stranger to stranger, loveless encounter to loveless encounter. If things go perfectly, you get to use an other human being for a meaningless moment of physical pleasure. If things don't go perfectly, well . . .

    Posted by: Dan | May 6, 2014 12:58:00 PM


  19. Is there any way to trace where he went, met or talked to through his mobile phone records?

    Posted by: Perry | May 6, 2014 12:59:04 PM


  20. Milkman thinks this makes the case for "bathhouses." He can't conceive of sex outside of intercourse with an assembly line of strangers in a commercial setting.

    Milk dude, what is it like to be a pathetic shell of a human being?

    Posted by: Mike | May 6, 2014 1:00:07 PM


  21. Sad that he was murdered, but he had a boyfriend and still on grindr? Shows his mentality and respect for relationships.

    Posted by: Perry | May 6, 2014 1:09:40 PM


  22. Never go to Chester PA. It's highly illogical.

    Posted by: Kev C | May 6, 2014 1:11:37 PM


  23. Many of the comments in this thread assume the murderer was the same person this young man met through Grindr.

    But it could very well be that another person (or persons) killed him before he reached his intended destination.

    Posted by: Jim | May 6, 2014 1:17:19 PM


  24. My condolences to his grieving family and friends. What I don't understand, though, is why people in open relationships don't 'play' with people they already know? It's not like you can't go to your friends and acquaintances before you strike out for some stranger.

    Posted by: Sergio | May 6, 2014 1:17:46 PM


  25. My man I just celebrated our 25th anniversary.(Yes, we met when we were VERY young.) We are not in an open relationship. While I don't really understand open relationships (I'm far too jealous and don't like to share), to each his own. Can't we simply focus on the tragic murder of this young man without playing the blame game? NO, he didn't deserve what he got. NO, the fact that he and his bf were in an open relationship doesn't give you the right to wag your finger and play the blame game. NO, this isn't your chance to opine about "the problem" with fags today! For once in your life, be respectful. Mourn his loss and hope that it never happens again.

    Posted by: Gigi | May 6, 2014 1:34:52 PM


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