Philadelphia Man Murdered After Traveling to Meet Man He Had Contacted On Grindr

Dino-dizdarevicA 25-year-old Phillly man was murdered last week after driving to Chester, Pennsylvania to meet a man he had contacted through Grindr.

Dino Dizdarević’s body was discovered early Thursday. He had been strangled and, according to Delaware County District Attorney Jack Whelan, sustained “multiple blunt-force trauma injuries to the face.”

Philadelphia magazine reports:

On Wednesday, April 30th, Dizdarević told his boyfriend, Nick McBee [below left], with whom he was in an open relationship, he was driving to Chester to meet a man he'd met on the app. McBee began to fear the worst when the night wore on and he hadn't heard anything from him. "He was a responsible person. He always called to let me know where he was," he says. "I knew something was wrong."

Dina-dizdarevic-nick-mcbeeMcBee filed a missing person's report with the Philadelphia Police Department on Thursday morning, and was called to identify a body in Chester that matched the description. It was Dizdarević, though, according to sources close to the couple, he had been beaten so severely that he was only able to be identified from his clothing.

The pair had been together since December 2012, with McBee saying of Dizdarević: “I loved him so much. We had so many big plans for the future”

So far no arrests have been made in the case, and it is not being investigated as a hate crime. Police are asking for any information that may lead to an arrest in the case.

Developing… 

Comments

  1. Derrick from Philly says

    Yes, I heard this on the local news last night. Very sad. Very awful. To die so young and so beautiful for nothing.

  2. The Milkman says

    Yet another argument for bathhouses as safe(r) spaces to meet for recreational frolic. What a terrible story.

  3. Sean Maloney says

    I’ve never understood “open relationships.” Hopefully, they find the perp.

  4. Sherlock says

    Something doesn’t add up.

    Another news report says neither the victim’s sister nor his boyfriend “could imagine why he’d go to Chester, where both said he’d never been before,” and that “all McBee knew Wednesday night, the last time he talked to his boyfriend, was that Dizdarevic had been going to visit a friend ‘south of the airport.'”

  5. will says

    We all should have reservations about hooking up with strangers online. I remember that Central Park jogger case where the woman was jogging around 9 or 10 in the evening through the Park and was violently raped and almost beaten to death by a pack of 30 rabid teenagers. Her skull was fractured and her left eye removed from the socket. You don’t want to blame the victim, but what universe are you living in when a woman jogs in darkness through Central Park — or a guy picks up a total stranger for random sex on the internet?

  6. But It Is says

    Beautiful kid. And it’s not victim-shaming at all to say that really young people often underestimate the risks of meeting strangers for sex. It’s just a fact–no matter how many people get robbed, or gay-bashed, or murdered doing something like park cruising, or Partyline, or AOL Chat, or Craigslist, or Grindr, there’s always going to be another iteration of technology and another generation of people (young and old alike) who underestimate the risks and end up paying the price. I wish it weren’t that way.

  7. MP says

    To Will’s comment: In what universe

    Will, I live on Central Park. it’s a beautiful and safe environment that would temp any person to enjoy day or night, even back when that rape happened. The idea that you would think it is unthinkable to run in Central Park at night tells me you live outside NYC and likely have five deadbolts on your doors. While certainly unfortunate, it’s not the norm here in NYC.

  8. dddddd says

    i’m sure in initial reports, the bf tried to downplay the open relationship aspect of the story to minimize the shaming/blaming.

    the terms of their relationship is between them and only needed to be revealed due to the tragic circumstances.

    be careful out there!

  9. Derrick from Philly says

    @ WILL,

    you’ve got a bad memory. It turned out that the young woman was raped and beaten by one man. The New York City Police forced confessions out of those teenage Black and Latino boys.

    Did you FOLLOW the Central Park Jogger story…at all?

    And this aint gotta’ damn thing to do with the Central Park Jogger case. Oh, Lord

  10. GMB says

    C’mon, everyone. Let’s be vigilant here against victim-blaming.

    It’s true that meeting new people — whether at a bar, or at someone’s house — carries risks. This beautiful young man did some very wise things, including telling someone he knew where he was going, when, and why. How many of us are similarly responsible about letting someone know when we’re meeting a stranger?

    There a few things we should all make part of our messaging:

    – Tell a trusted friend when you’re going to meet a stranger. Pass along the person’s real name, phone number, and address.

    – Always meet in public first, before going back to someone’s home. Sadly, even the most dangerous people can come across as charming and harmless, so this is no guarantee. But if things don’t feel right…

    – Trust your gut. If you meet someone and things don’t feel right, politely excuse yourself.

    – Report incidents of domestic or sexual violence. Sadly, many of these crimes go unreported. Most violence does not lead to death, and the scars — emotional ones — may be invisible. The Anti-Violence Project (avp.org) has an incredible 24-hour hotline where anyone can call to discuss things, confidentially: 212.714.1141

    Our hearts go out to the family, boyfriend and friends of Dino Dizdarević!

  11. But It Is says

    @Will: Terrible example. Apparently you never heard that it wasn’t a pack of teenagers, but a lone rapist. And it was a summer night when the park was full of people.

    The police railroaded a group of teenagers, and some of them went to jail unjustly, but they were innocent. Their convictions were overturned with DNA evidnece. They have filed a lawsuit against the city. A fairly widely-screened documentary was made about their forced confession and false conviction by Sarah Burns, daughter of well-known documentary filmmaker Ken Burns.

    Were the two women who were recently mugged by a group of teenagers in Central Park while jogging at 6AM guilty of poor judgment? How about the lone male jogger who was accosted by the same group? What about me when I was threatened a couple of summers ago in broad daylight, in the middle of the day while walking around the reservoir in Central Park?

    Central Park isn’t always necessarily empty (or unsafe)after dark, and it isn’t always necessarily safe in the middle of the day (cf the recent rape of an elderly bird watcher). You can mitigate risk, but you can’t completely eliminate it.

  12. Randy says

    “not being investigated as a hate crime”??

    Why the hell not? Surely hate is one of the most obvious motives for picking a guy up on a gay hookup site, and then beating him to unrecognizability.

  13. Dan says

    Another Grindr success story! What a magnificent life is the Grindr life! Go from stranger to stranger, loveless encounter to loveless encounter. If things go perfectly, you get to use an other human being for a meaningless moment of physical pleasure. If things don’t go perfectly, well . . .

  14. Mike says

    Milkman thinks this makes the case for “bathhouses.” He can’t conceive of sex outside of intercourse with an assembly line of strangers in a commercial setting.

    Milk dude, what is it like to be a pathetic shell of a human being?

  15. Perry says

    Sad that he was murdered, but he had a boyfriend and still on grindr? Shows his mentality and respect for relationships.

  16. Jim says

    Many of the comments in this thread assume the murderer was the same person this young man met through Grindr.

    But it could very well be that another person (or persons) killed him before he reached his intended destination.

  17. Sergio says

    My condolences to his grieving family and friends. What I don’t understand, though, is why people in open relationships don’t ‘play’ with people they already know? It’s not like you can’t go to your friends and acquaintances before you strike out for some stranger.

  18. Gigi says

    My man I just celebrated our 25th anniversary.(Yes, we met when we were VERY young.) We are not in an open relationship. While I don’t really understand open relationships (I’m far too jealous and don’t like to share), to each his own. Can’t we simply focus on the tragic murder of this young man without playing the blame game? NO, he didn’t deserve what he got. NO, the fact that he and his bf were in an open relationship doesn’t give you the right to wag your finger and play the blame game. NO, this isn’t your chance to opine about “the problem” with fags today! For once in your life, be respectful. Mourn his loss and hope that it never happens again.

  19. says

    Sad. Sounds like he’s of Bosnian background, too. I wonder if his parents brought him to the US as refugees from the war… Very sad.

  20. says

    So very, very sad. I’m hoping that with Grindr logs, telephone records, cell phone tower pings, etc., that his killer can be swiftly caught and brought to justice. Terrible tragedy.

  21. olympiasepiriot says

    “I’ve never understood “open relationships.”

    Posted by: Sean Maloney | May 6, 2014 12:29:59 PM”

    Hey Sean, people get beaten and killed in ‘closed’ relationships too…like marriages.

  22. JMC says

    Does anyone know how much data Grindr saves and for how long? Hopefully they can give the police some idea of where that freak spends his time.

  23. puggleboy says

    Chester is a dangerous city, everyone (in this area) knows that, still what a terrible way to die. Sad.

  24. Steve Talbert says

    The phone apps keep records of all your texts, pics you send, etc. and I think some also gather info on just general walking around.. depends on the privacy settings and what you approve when you download it.

  25. Tony says

    I always drive around Chester. Every spring/summer it seems like Chester and Camden fight to claim the worst city title. I hope police can use the Grindr information to track the suspect.

  26. The Milkman says

    Okay perhaps I’ll take a quick second to clarify. There are lots of people who like recreational sex. That’ll never change. Bathhouses allow a venue to explore that activity without having to worry about some dude bludgeoning you in the privacy of his home. While bathhouses aren’t for everyone, there’s at least that benefit out there. I wonder what would have happened had this guy met his Grindr hookup there rather than at his Chester home.

    “Milkman thinks this makes the case for “bathhouses.” He can’t conceive of sex outside of intercourse with an assembly line of strangers in a commercial setting.
    Milk dude, what is it like to be a pathetic shell of a human being?”

    LOL. Gosh, you’re charming. Did you really call me “dude”? That’s even more uncomfortable than being called a pathetic shell of a human being. If I’m a pathetic shell, does that mean I’ll lose weight? That’s awesome.

  27. Aleck Avery says

    Quite a few posts regarding how attractive this guy was, would his death have been any less relevant if he weren’t attractive?

  28. Always Wait For The Whole Story says

    This story is strange. Another article reported it completely differently and the boyfriend didn’t appear to know anything about meeting someone from Grinder. AND if he was meeting someone from Grinder, why can’t they just find out who he was talking with on that app/site. Strange report.

  29. Brent says

    Very sad and GMB and Gigi is right. This may not even be connected to the person he met online but even so this is yet another warning sign that people ought to be careful. And yes this is anyone, gay or straight.

  30. toyotoabedzrock says

    Um hello, call the Grindr people and get the ID so the cell can be traced.

  31. Zeta says

    Their relationship is the fundamental difference between how men think and how women think, regardless of orientation.

    Rest in peace to the poor kid. He didn’t deserve to die like that. I hope the murderer is caught, punished, and given the maximum sentence.

  32. Buckie says

    I can’t imagine the crushing grief his boyfriend must be going through…

    How the hell do you recover from something like that ?

  33. Grego says

    I suspect whoever did that isn’t a novice at brutality. Hoping the police find and catch him quickly. Maybe in prison someone will show the murderer similar treatment.

  34. Neil says

    Maybe it isn’t victim blaming Shaun, but the struggle to understand why someone would risk their life through such risky behavior. There are lessons for all of us in a tragedy like this and yours are not the only valid thoughts on the situation.