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Dan Savage on Telling Ben Carson to 'Suck My D--k': 'Sometimes You Have to Fight Fire With Fire' - VIDEO


Following Dr. Ben Carson's remarks this past week that being gay is a choice because "a lot of people who go into prison go into prison straight -- and when they come out, they're gay," Dan Savage penned an open letter to the 2016 GOP hopeful inviting the neurosurgeon to "suck my d--k."

Wrote Savage:

If being gay is a choice, prove it. Choose it. Choose to be gay yourself. Show America how that's done, Ben, show us how a man can choose to be gay. Suck my d--k. Name the time and the place and I'll bring my d--k and a camera crew and you can suck me off and win the argument.

Appearing on CNN's Reliable Sources earlier today, host Brian Stelter asked Savage why he decided to "lower" himself to Carson's "equally vile" level.

Savage replied:

CarsonSometimes you have to fight fire with fire....[Carson has] compared gay people to child rapists, to people who have sex with animals, necrophilia...He really says the vilest and most disgusting things about gay people. And sometimes to get the attention of someone like that, to really make it clear to them how low and disgusting they're being, how vile they're being, you have to meet them on the field where they're doing battle and take them on. 

Watch the interview, AFTER THE JUMP...

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Former High School Football Star Explains Why He Got 'It Gets Better' Tattoo After Coming Out


The words "It Gets Better" mean so much to Dalton Ray that he got them tattooed on his arm. 

Ray is a former high school football star who's now a freshman at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse.

In a post for OutSports, Ray recounts how he struggled with his sexual orientation — both on and off the field — before finally coming out during his junior year of high school:  

Middle school was a challenge, but high school was the true battle for me. Subtle feelings turned into everyday thoughts. It increasingly became clear this wasn't just a phase for me.

To make it even worse I started hearing my peers, including some of my closest friends, use terms like "gay", "faggot", and "queer" to describe when something was stupid or wrong. Eventually that's how I felt - I felt like something was wrong with me, and worst of all I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror because I was so ashamed of who I was. ... 

One saying that has guided me through all of this: "It Gets Better." It's hard to realize that when you're stuck in the middle of the country hearing gay slurs every day. As I opened up my true self to people, I learned the power and truth of those three words. It's meant so much that I tattooed it on my arm.

In an "It Gets Better" video accompanying his OutSports piece, Ray — who also competed in basketball and track — says he didn't think it was possible to be an openly gay athlete until he became one:

Ray"I had this huge misconception that you couldn't be in sports and also be gay. That's wrong. That's completely, utterly wrong. I think once I actually came out I became a better athlete. I became a better competitor. I also became a better friend, a better brother, a better son, because I was finally being honest with not just everyone around me, but being honest with myself, and that's an extremely important part of life."  

Ray also has a powerful message for LGBT youth who are contemplating suicide:

"A bad day doesn't mean you have a bad life. If you don't think people wouldn't miss you, you're completely wrong, because you have friends and family and people in your lives that would miss you so much, so don't make them know what it feels like to live without you, because you're special, you're unique, you're an awesome person, and it gets better."

Read Ray's full article here and watch his "It Gets Better" video, AFTER THE JUMP ... 

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ABC Picks Up Sitcom Based On Dan Savage's Life

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On Monday ABC announced the latest additions to its list of pilots that it’s picked up for 2015. Along with a new show from Shonda Rhimes and a TV adaptation of National Lampoon’s Vacation, the network has greenlit a single-camera comedy based on Dan Savage’s young life.

The as-of-yet untitled sitcom will center around a "picture-perfect family" dealing with its youngest son’s coming out, The Hollywood Reporter notes: "What seems like the end of their idyllic life turns out to be the beginning of a bright new chapter when everyone stops pretending to be perfect and actually starts being real." Savage himself is on-board to produce. 

ABC’s pilot will mark Savage’s first venture into network television following a limited run on MTV with two It Gets Better specials and a season of Savage U.

Dan Savage: Prosecute Transgender Teen Leelah Alcorn's Parents for Abuse


Yesterday we reported on the tragic suicide of Leelah Alcorn, a transgender teen who took her own life by walking in front of a truck near her home in Cincinnati on Sunday (full story here).

Alcorn's death, suggested to be an accident by her mother Carla Wood Alcorn on Facebook, was revealed to be a suicide after a note Leelah wrote appeared on a Tumblr account. The note also detailed the issues she faced due to her parents' intolerance.

Alcorn's parents, who had taken her to a Christian therapist because she sought to begin transitioning when she turned 16, removed her from high school and confiscated her laptop after she then came out to them as gay, cutting off her contact from the rest of the world.

The story is now getting national attention and friends are speaking out about Alcorn.

DavisChris Davis, a childhood friend of Alcorn's, discusses the teen's struggles with WCPO (referring to her with a male pronoun):

“One day he finally posted on Facebook, ‘Hey, I’m coming out. This is me. This is who I am. Everybody was like, 'Yeah man, this is great.' He came to school and everyone gave him massive support. Occasionally he’d tell me, ‘Oh, I feel like I’m something else or I’m someone else,’ and wouldn’t go too far with it. I feel like it was something that was really personal to him that maybe he didn’t tell anybody about because he was nervous about it.”

Watch the interview, AFTER THE JUMP...

Others are speaking out as well. Activist and anti-bullying advocate Dan Savage is calling for Alcorn's parents to be prosecuted for abuse:

Marriage Equality Ohio is holding a vigil for Alcorn on January 3 at Kings High School in Cincinnati.

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Dan Savage: Marcus Bachmann Is A 'Tormented Closet Case' - VIDEO

In an interview with Playboy, Dan Savage has attacked “tormented closet case” Marcus Bachmann for promoting “ex-gay” therapy.

BachmannBachmann, the husband of Republican supreme wingnut Michele Bachmann, is probably Minnesota’s best-known practitioner of the harmful practice. An attempt earlier this year to ban conversion therapy in the state failed. In one of her viler outbursts of the year, Mrs Bachmann said that gay people want laws changed "so that adults will be able to freely prey on little children sexually."

In the interview, Savage says “anybody who has gaydar—anybody who has eyes” looks at Bachmann and “sees a tormented closet case who has externalized his internal conflict and is abusing other people, doing his reparative-therapy bullshit.”

He continues:

“It’s so sad and pathetic. A lot of the self-destructive behaviors gay people are prone to drifting into are directed inward, and then you have these shitbags like Marcus Bachmann for whom it’s all directed outward.

"Marcus Bachmann is the photo negative of the guy on the last bar stool in the gay bar, drinking and smoking himself to death, except instead of destroying himself, he’s destroying other vulnerable queer people in an effort to destroy the queer inside himself.”

Savage also opens up about coming out to his mother when he was 18 and the It Gets Better project.

On the issue of bullying faced by LGBT youth, Savage says:

“It hasn’t quite sunk into the thick skulls of high school administrators and teachers that they can’t abuse queer kids with impunity anymore, because the families are likely to be on the kids’ side. We’ve got lawyers now and we will come after you. We’re winning and we’re not going to sit idly by anymore. You can’t just beat up a queer kid at a high school in Mississippi and have it be a local story. We will jump down your fucking throat.”

Read Savage's full interview with Playboy here

There is some hope for Marucs - last month John Smid, a former "ex-gay"activist and Exodus International board member, married his same-sex partner.

Watch a video in support "the gay husband of ghastly gay-bashing anti-american religio-psychotic kook and incompetent Michele Bachmann, AFTER THE JUMP...

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Guy Candy: 20 Famous Men Who Got Shirtless and Sexy on Instagram This Week — PHOTOS


Out L.A. Galaxy player Robbie Rogers showed off his new backpack on Instagram in the best way possible this week.

Also, in this week's guy candy:

Russell Tovey, Ricky Martin, Alex Minsky, Brad Goreski, Scott Eastwood, Tom Daley, Flume and Chet Faker, Derrick Gordon, Harry Shum Jr., Tony Goldwyn, Dan Savage, Terry Miller, Darryl Stephens, Rory McIlroy, Jake Shears, Gilles Marini, Dan Osborne (below), Blake Skjellerup, and the Flaunt flavor of the week, Nick Jonas.



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