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Texas Same-Sex Marriage Plaintiffs Endure 2nd Harrowing Child Birth With No Parental Rights: PHOTOS


Cleopatra DeLeon and Nicole Dimetman were inspired to become plaintiffs in a marriage equality lawsuit during the birth of their first child. 

DeLeon experienced delivery complications, and if something had happened to her, Dimetman wouldn't have had any parental rights — even though they were legally married in Massachusetts.  

After Dimetman became pregnant with the couple's second child, it was an argument the couple's attorneys repeatedly raised as they urged federal courts to lift a stay of a February 2014 decision striking down Texas' marriage ban

Over the weekend, Dimetman gave birth to a baby girl (above), and again there were complications. 

DeLeon“Labor is scary and anything can happen," Dimetman said in a statement on Monday. "I had an infection as a complication of labor that led to an emergency C-section. A day that should have been one of the happiest of our life was terrifying for Cleo. If I had not made it through the childbirth, Cleo would not have been our daughter’s legal mother because her name is not allowed on the birth certificate in Texas.”

DeLeon said the couple was overjoyed about the birth of but disappointed that Texas' marriage ban remains in place. 

"It is unfair to deny loving parents like us the basic legal protections that provide stability and security so critical to child rearing," DeLeon said. "We pray for the day when all Texans are treated equally under the law and we do not have to live in fear that something bad could happen in childbirth and I would not be considered the child’s parent by law. We hope the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals and the United States Supreme Court make all marriages legal in Texas and across the nation.”

Neel Lane, one of the couple's attorneys, noted it's been more than two months since the 5th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals heard oral arguments in the Texas marriage case, but the three-judge panel still hasn't ruled. 

“This otherwise joyous day for Nicole and Cleo is a sad one because, in the eyes of Texas, Nicole is an unwed mother," Lane said. "Her valid marriage to Cleo is declared void by a Texas law that U.S. District Judge Orlando Garcia declared unconstitutional more than a year ago. Court after court have agreed with him, and no one doubts the U.S. Supreme Court will do the same."

The other plaintiffs in the Texas marriage lawsuit, Mark Phariss and Vic Holmes, issued a statement congratulating DeLeon and Dimetman. 

"We are so thrilled for them!" Phariss and Holmes said. "Unfortunately, Texas law does not recognize Cleo as a parent, even though Cleo and Nicole have been married for more than 5 ½ years. As a result, they must spend money to go to court to fix that, money that could be saved instead for their daughter’s future education, health care, and welfare. The time has now come for marriage equality to be recognized in Texas for the sake Nicole and Cleo and their daughter and for the sake of all gays and lesbians in Texas, including Vic and me who, after 18 years together, desperately want to marry the person we love in the state we love.”

Dolce & Gabbana Backtrack (Again!) on Same-Sex Parenting, Claim to 'Love Gay Adoption' - VIDEO


Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana have continued the damage limitation battle with an appearance on CNN - but failed to apologize for their controversial comments on “non-traditional families.”

The controversy began last week when the Italian Catholic designers said that "the only family is the traditional one" and that children born through in vitro fertilization were "synthetic.”

Following worldwide criticism and a call for a boycott by Elton John, Martina Navratilova and others, the former couple attempted to whitewash their comments.

Dolce said:

"I respect all the world, all the culture. I believe in the traditional family. It is impossible to change my culture for something different. You think what you think….I believe in the tradition of family.”

Gabbana added:

"We love gay couple. We are gay. We love gay couple. We love gay adoption. We love everything. It's just an express of my private point of view.”

Watch the interview, AFTER THE JUMP...

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Glenn Beck Warns Dolce & Gabbana Backlash Could End Culture And Science: VIDEO

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Glenn Beck has weighed in on Dolce & Gabbana’s controversial comments about same-sex families and in vitro fertilization, reports Right Wing Watch.

Following the comments by the Italian Catholic designers in support of the “traditional family,” Elton John, Martina Navratilova and others called for a boycott of the company.

Speaking on his television show on Tuesday, Beck said that such a boycott would be like locking Galileo in a tower for opposing the conventional science of the day.

"Is this the kind of freedom that we're at? Anyone who feels the same as Dolce and Gabbana, let me ask you, are they empowered to express their view or are they now afraid that Hollywood and progressives will come after them?

“The party of progress is making progress indeed, back to the Dark Ages, back to the days when differing scientific views were labeled heresy and black magic. As the march toward conformity continues, America gets farther and farther away from the place where those who will change the world with art and science and music, those who will bring on the next Renaissance just might find themselves locked up in a tower and sadly never paint the next Mona Lisa.”


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Michigan Doctor Cites Religious Beliefs in Her Cowardly Refusal To Treat Lesbian Couple’s Baby: VIDEO

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A Michigan lesbian couple has been left reeling and hurt after a doctor they were referred to agreed to post-natal care for the couple’s newborn daughter, but later reneged, Detroit's Fox 2 reports. Krista and Jami Contreras, who married in Vermont in 2012, were referred to Dr. Vesna Roi in September by their midwife before the birth of their baby Bay Windsor in October 2014. "We were really happy with her," Krista said of the couple’s initial meeting with Roi, "The kind of care she offered, we liked her personality, she seemed pretty friendly. She seemed pretty straight up with us." 

WindsorHowever, the Contreras went in to see Dr. Roi six days after Bay’s birth and found themselves face-to-face with a different doctor. Roi’s replacement, Dr. Melinda Karam, told the couple that Roi "decided this morning that she prayed on it and she won't be able to care for Bay," and that Roi didn’t even come into the office that day to avoid seeing the couple. The Contreras felt humiliated and embarrassed with Roi’s decision.

Said Jami Contreras:

"It was embarrassing, it was humiliating and here we are, new parents trying to protect her, and we know this happens in the world and we're completely prepared for this to happen other places. But not at our six-day-old's wellness appointment." 

The couple proceeded with Dr. Karam and later sought another pediatric group for their baby. The couple took to social media to share their story, which raised awareness and led people to start calling Eastlake Pediatrics to share their concerns. Nearly four months after the appointment, the Contreras finally received a letter from Roi.

RoiSaid Roi:

"After much prayer following your prenatal, I felt that i would not be able to develop the personal patient-doctor relationships that I normally do with my patients."

 "We do not keep prenatal information once we have our meetings so I had no way to contact you."

"I should have spoken with you directly that day. Please know that I believe that God gives us free choice and I would never judge anyone based on what they do with that free choice."

Watch a Fox 2 report on the story, AFTER THE JUMP...

The American Medical Association prohibits physicians refusing care to patients based on sexual orientation, but doctors can refuse treatment if it conflicts with their personal, religious or moral beliefs. Michigan currently does not have laws that protect lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender families from discrimination. 

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Anti-gay Conservatives Latching On To Regnerus-esque Flawed Study About Same-Sex Parenting

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Because who cares about scientific rigor in the search for facts when you can just mimic a famously flawed study to produce the results you want? Not Donald Paul Sullins, a Catholic priest and sociology professor at Catholic University of America. Sullins is a fellow of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute, a project of the Family Research Council, and a Fourth Degree member of the Knights of Columbus, so objectivity in his research is already on extremely unstable ground.

Sullins pulled data from the National Health Interview Survey from 1997-2013 to determine whether or not gay couples make good parents. Unsurprisingly, Sullins' results drew him to the conclusion that same-sex parents are unfit, despite the fact that Mark Regnerus - who oversaw Sullins' study - created a study that was flawed to the point of uselessness and a separate, more reliable study in Australia found the opposite.

Think Progress dismantles Sullins' study piece by piece, pointing out the myriad of flaws present, including the oh-so-small detail that Sullins has no information about whether or not the couples in the data he pulled were actually married, or that somehow according to Sullins' study gay couples are significantly worse for the upbringing of a child than a single parent.

Stand by for this study to be heralded far and wide as proof of the inferiority of gays for a while, or at least until Sullins gets caught in a scandal of some kind.

'The Talk' Hosts On-Air Baby Shower For Sara Gilbert: VIDEO


Sara Gilbert, know for her roles on Roseanne and The Big Bang Theory, was celebrated by her co-hosts on The Talk who hosted an on-air baby shower for Gilbert who's expecting with her wife - former 4 Non Blondes frontwoman Linda Perry. Gilbert revealed the pregnancy on-air during a segment of The Talk last year on Sept. 9.

This week, The Talk co-hosts presented top notch baby items in honor of Gilbert's pregnancy with items from The Honest Company, Baby K'Tan, Helen Ficarola and others. Watch the The Talk co-hosts come together to celebrate the special occasion along with a special gift for audience members, AFTER THE JUMP... 


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