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Michigan Doctor Cites Religious Beliefs in Her Cowardly Refusal To Treat Lesbian Couple’s Baby: VIDEO

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A Michigan lesbian couple has been left reeling and hurt after a doctor they were referred to agreed to post-natal care for the couple’s newborn daughter, but later reneged, Detroit's Fox 2 reports. Krista and Jami Contreras, who married in Vermont in 2012, were referred to Dr. Vesna Roi in September by their midwife before the birth of their baby Bay Windsor in October 2014. "We were really happy with her," Krista said of the couple’s initial meeting with Roi, "The kind of care she offered, we liked her personality, she seemed pretty friendly. She seemed pretty straight up with us." 

WindsorHowever, the Contreras went in to see Dr. Roi six days after Bay’s birth and found themselves face-to-face with a different doctor. Roi’s replacement, Dr. Melinda Karam, told the couple that Roi "decided this morning that she prayed on it and she won't be able to care for Bay," and that Roi didn’t even come into the office that day to avoid seeing the couple. The Contreras felt humiliated and embarrassed with Roi’s decision.

Said Jami Contreras:

"It was embarrassing, it was humiliating and here we are, new parents trying to protect her, and we know this happens in the world and we're completely prepared for this to happen other places. But not at our six-day-old's wellness appointment." 

The couple proceeded with Dr. Karam and later sought another pediatric group for their baby. The couple took to social media to share their story, which raised awareness and led people to start calling Eastlake Pediatrics to share their concerns. Nearly four months after the appointment, the Contreras finally received a letter from Roi.

RoiSaid Roi:

"After much prayer following your prenatal, I felt that i would not be able to develop the personal patient-doctor relationships that I normally do with my patients."

 "We do not keep prenatal information once we have our meetings so I had no way to contact you."

"I should have spoken with you directly that day. Please know that I believe that God gives us free choice and I would never judge anyone based on what they do with that free choice."

Watch a Fox 2 report on the story, AFTER THE JUMP...

The American Medical Association prohibits physicians refusing care to patients based on sexual orientation, but doctors can refuse treatment if it conflicts with their personal, religious or moral beliefs. Michigan currently does not have laws that protect lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender families from discrimination. 

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Anti-gay Conservatives Latching On To Regnerus-esque Flawed Study About Same-Sex Parenting

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Because who cares about scientific rigor in the search for facts when you can just mimic a famously flawed study to produce the results you want? Not Donald Paul Sullins, a Catholic priest and sociology professor at Catholic University of America. Sullins is a fellow of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute, a project of the Family Research Council, and a Fourth Degree member of the Knights of Columbus, so objectivity in his research is already on extremely unstable ground.

Sullins pulled data from the National Health Interview Survey from 1997-2013 to determine whether or not gay couples make good parents. Unsurprisingly, Sullins' results drew him to the conclusion that same-sex parents are unfit, despite the fact that Mark Regnerus - who oversaw Sullins' study - created a study that was flawed to the point of uselessness and a separate, more reliable study in Australia found the opposite.

Think Progress dismantles Sullins' study piece by piece, pointing out the myriad of flaws present, including the oh-so-small detail that Sullins has no information about whether or not the couples in the data he pulled were actually married, or that somehow according to Sullins' study gay couples are significantly worse for the upbringing of a child than a single parent.

Stand by for this study to be heralded far and wide as proof of the inferiority of gays for a while, or at least until Sullins gets caught in a scandal of some kind.


'The Talk' Hosts On-Air Baby Shower For Sara Gilbert: VIDEO

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Sara Gilbert, know for her roles on Roseanne and The Big Bang Theory, was celebrated by her co-hosts on The Talk who hosted an on-air baby shower for Gilbert who's expecting with her wife - former 4 Non Blondes frontwoman Linda Perry. Gilbert revealed the pregnancy on-air during a segment of The Talk last year on Sept. 9.

This week, The Talk co-hosts presented top notch baby items in honor of Gilbert's pregnancy with items from The Honest Company, Baby K'Tan, Helen Ficarola and others. Watch the The Talk co-hosts come together to celebrate the special occasion along with a special gift for audience members, AFTER THE JUMP... 

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Hunky Nebraska Senator Poignantly Smacks Down Anti-Gay Witness During Committee Hearing: VIDEO

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A Nebraska state senator obliterated an anti-gay witness Wednesday during a committee hearing on a bill that would allow gays to serve as foster parents. 

Nebraska is one of only two states, along with Utah, that prohibits gay foster parents, and the law is currently being challenged in court. 

Sen. Jeremy Nordquist, D-Omaha, has also introduced a bill to overturn the ban, which was heard by the Unicameral's Judiciary Committee on Wednesday. 

Anti-gay attorney Greg Neuhaus told the committee he felt the bill is "promoting an agenda," according to a video posted by Aksarbent

Sen. Adam Morfeld, D-Lincoln (above), a committee member who has also introduced pro-LGBT legislation, responded that Nordquist's measure would merely ban discrimination.  

Neuhaus then said that in addition to sexual orientation, the bill would also ban discrimination based on marital status, saying he's "just as opposed to placing a child with an unmarried heterosexual couple."   

"And why's that, sir?" Morfeld responded, his voice rising. 

"Because I don't think it's in the best interest of the child," Neuhaus said. 

Morfeld"So, my mother was a single mother for 15 years," Morfeld said. "I grew up, I didn't get into trouble. I went to school. I went to school after working full-time for two years. I went to night school while working full-time for two years. I had a part-time job on top of that. And then I went to the University of Nebraska and worked my way through the University of Nebraska, and then after that I went to the University of Nebraska College of Law. During that time, I started a nonprofit that now employs 30 full- and part-time staff. My mother was a single mother. Did she do something wrong?"

"I didn't say she did. No," Neuhaus responded.

Sensing he was in trouble, Neuhaus then tried to get up and leave the witness table.

"I'm not going to just be lectured to," he said. "If you want to ask me a question, I'll answer it."

Morfeld responded that Neuhaus could walk away, but he was going to finish regardless. 

"Under your rationale," Morfeld said, "my mother who's a single mother likely isn't the most fit parent, and the point that I'm trying to make is that fit parents come in all shapes and sizes, all kinds of sexual orientations, and that's all I have to say. Thank you for your testimony." 

Drops mic. 

Watch it, AFTER THE JUMP ... 

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Dear Abby Defends Gay Grandmother Shunned By Homophobic Son And Daughter-In-Law

Screen Shot 2015-01-22 at 7.12.07 AMA gay grandmother wrote a heartbreaking letter to Dear Abby asking for advice on how to reconcile with her homophobic son, and religious daughter-in-law, who is keeping her from seeing her grandchildren claiming that he needs to protect his children from people that are gay and that he doesn't want them to know anyone who's gay, including their own grandmother. 

"Heartbroken's” letter reads:

I came out of the closet when my son was 4. I thought I had taught him not to judge because of a label.

He is now 30, with a wife and two adorable children who own my heart.

When my granddaughter was born, my partner and I were at the hospital. We have visited them often, and they have visited us.

But after my grandson was born last year, my son quit speaking to me.

I have asked him numerous times what the issue is.

His response is: "I have to protect my children from people who are gay. I don’t want them to know anyone who is gay."

His wife and her family are very religious, and I think this is the real reason. What can I do?

-Heartbroken Gay Granny

Dear Abby wisely responded, telling the heartbroken grandmother to redirect her maternal instincts toward LGBT youth whose parents have rejected them after coming out and justly commented on her son’s homophobic antics with Abby’s signature wit.

Abby’s response:

Dear Heartbroken: If your son is under the mistaken impression that he is going to somehow "protect" his children by isolating them from gay people, he must be living in an alternate reality.

Does he also plan to immigrate to the moon?

I suspect that you have put your finger squarely on the reason why your son is now ostracizing you.

His wife seems to wield the power in that family, and she could benefit by learning more about homosexuality and her religion, which I assume preaches love and tolerance for one’s fellow man rather than judgment and exclusion.

You can’t force your son and his wife to have contact with you if they don’t want to.

Leave open the possibility that they may, over time, reconcile their love for you with their faith.

For your own emotional well-being, it’s important that you find other outlets for your maternal instincts and go on with your life because any child would be blessed to be a part of it.

Sadly, a large number of LGBT young people are rejected by their parents when they come out.

These kids would benefit greatly from having a positive adult mentor such as you.

This could be your golden opportunity to make a significant, positive difference in someone’s life. Contact Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays at pflag.org to find out how to get involved.

Dear Abby, aka Jeanne Phillips, is known for her staunch support for LGBT people backing same-sex marriage and justly taking homophobic submitters to task while simultaneously offering polite, but direct constructive criticism.


Austrian LGBT Couples Can Now Legally Adopt Children

AustriaThanks to a Wednesday decision made in the Austrian Constitutional Court, same-sex couples will now be able to adopt children. Previously, gay and lesbian couples could only adopt if one of the partners was the child’s biological mother or father.

Chief Judge Gerhart Holzinger explained that the court could find "no objective argument for a differing rule based solely on sexual orientation" of prospective parents.

Same-sex couples may form a “registered partnership” in Austria, but are not permitted to marry. 


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