Gay Parents Hub




Bills Aim To Overturn Anti-Gay Texas Law That Punishes Children For Having Same-Sex Parents

Andy

The founders of a popular support network for gay dads are taking on a Texas law that prohibits them from having both of their names on their son's birth certificate. 

Austinites Andy Miller and Brian Stephens (above and below), founders of The Handsome Father, say the law is "mean-spirited" because it punishes their son, 7-year-old Clark, for something over which he has no control. From The Texas Observer

“As he got older, it became less about us and it became more about him,” Miller said. “This is his document that he’ll carry with him the rest of his life, and it very clearly only lists half of his family on it, and that’s when we kind of became angry and said the state is treating our son differently because of who his parents are, not because of anything he has done or hasn’t done. This needs to change because of our kids. The state is basically targeting them for unequal treatment.”

Acting in the name of "conservative values," the Texas Legislature decided in 1997 to require supplemental birth certificates issued to adoptive parents to have the name of one man and one woman. Texas is one of a handful of states with similar laws, and marriage equality won't solve the problem. 

On Wednesday, lawmakers in the state House and Senate introduced bills to overturn the law. State Rep. Rafael Anchia, D-Dallas, told the Observer

“I think if you asked every member of the Legislature, they would say they care about orphaned children, and if we can get them to understand that this bill is about children and not about who their parents are, then that should carry the day. There’s no doubt that this policy has cruel effects.”

Daniel Williams, legislative specialist for Equality Texas, called the law "the lowest form of politics possible — if you don’t like someone, attack their children.”

A few years ago, Lambda Legal challenged a similar law in Louisiaina, but lost the case when the U.S. Supreme Court declined to hear it

Equality Texas is calling on people to contact their legislators in suport of the bills.  

Beach

 


Check Out The Beautiful Story of Max Lenox, the Army Basketball Captain Raised By Two Gay Dads: VIDEO

Lenox1

This week's Sports Illustrated has the moving and remarkable story of the captain of Army's basketball team and the two gay dads who raised him. Maxwell Lenox, 22, is a senior at West Point and though he's not the star player for the Black Knights, he's been voted captain two years running due to his exceptional leadership abilities and the way he inspires his teammates. “I’ll be lucky if I do half the stuff Max does, become half the leader he is,” says sophomore forward Tanner Omlid. “I want to be like him.”

Sports Illustrated, which made big news last year with Jason Collins' coming out cover, has posted this amazing story on their website, written by S.L. Price with candor, emotion, and a remarkable sense of how much the world has changed since Lenox's adoption. Lenox was born to a crack-addicted mother in Philadelphia in 1992, at the height of the urban drug epidemic. Just three days later, he was adopted by a couple from North Carolina who were eager to start a family: Dave Lenox and Nathan Merrell. Though they had reservations about the unknown challenges of raising a "crack-baby," the bigger problems turned out to be with Merrell's conservative family who was not too thrilled to find out all at once that he was gay, had a partner, and that they were grandparents to a black infant.

Lenox_merrellsIn the touching video which accompanies the story, Merrell struggles to relate how his father denied that Max was his grandchild while his mother, for the first time in her 36-year marriage, actually defied her husband. The whole story is filled with emotional moments like this as the couple faced many struggles raising Max, including Max's difficulties in school and a serious injury that derailed a potential pro career. Now, given how Max has become such a leader, the two dads are thrilled how things have turned out as there's talk their son might make general someday. A truly inspiring story.

Check out a video on Lenox and his dads, AFTER THE JUMP....

And for the full story on Max's incredible journey, head over to Sports Illustrated here

Continue reading "Check Out The Beautiful Story of Max Lenox, the Army Basketball Captain Raised By Two Gay Dads: VIDEO" »


'Family Circle' Magazine Target Of Backlash After Featuring Gay Couple in 'Modern Life' Column

Chris and Bob Osner-Hackett

Family Circle, the women's magazine dedicated to home and family life, began a new Q&A column entitled "Modern Life" as a part of their aim to "be reflective of all families." In the most recent issue Chris and Bob Osner-Hackett appear alongside their two daughters, and almost as if on cue the magazine began receiving hate mail and mean-spirited messages on their Facebook page. The magazine stood fast in the face of this bout of Christian Love™, with vice president and editor-in-chief of the magazine Linda Fears saying:

We are certainly not the first magazine or media brand to share the story of gay parents. But we will also publish stories on single parents, multi-racial couples, and unmarried couples with kids. People may not like those either, but they are all representative of American family life today.


Jenny McCarthy Says She Feels Transgender, 'Would Be So Excited' If Her Son Were Gay

JennyMcCarthy

Former Playboy bunny and The View host Jenny McCarthy opened up in an interview with Pride Source recently, and the results were unexpected to say the least. The model-actress, who has a 12-year-old son and recently married Donnie Wahlberg, was first asked about her acting career. As Us Weekly reports, one early role may have been particularly important for McCarthy to play.

It all started when the blonde was asked about playing a transgender woman in '90s sitcom Just Shoot Me! "I feel like that inside. I always felt like one of the guys wearing, like, a Playboy bunny outfit," [McCarthy] admitted. "I was David Spade’s buddy to begin with, so I was a natural fit, and I always felt like his brother. To play kind of the dude, was almost too scary natural," she added of starring alongside Spade in the series.

One wonders if McCarthy considers herself a tomboy or truly does feel akin to a transgender person, as a male gendered person who has been assigned a female sex. It is, of course, no one's place to judge.

It may be easier, however, to roll your eyes at the somewhat dated and stereotypical answer she gave later on in the interview:

The former Playboy model was also asked how she'd feel if her 12-year-old son Evan came out as gay. "Oh my god, I would be so excited," she exclaimed. "We can shop! Do my hair!"

Right, because that's what every gay boy likes to do! But at least McCarthy thinks that everyone might be a little bit gay:

"I really do feel like, with sexuality being more open and people coming out, there might be a little bi in everybody; it’s just a matter of who acts on it."


Lesbian Couple Suing Sperm Bank After Giving Birth to Mixed-Race Baby

CramblettJennifer Cramblett and Amanda Zinkon, a lesbian couple living in Uniontown Ohio, are suing the Midwestern Sperm Bank, after one of the women unbeknowingly gave birth to an interracial baby.

According to documents provided by the sperm bank operating in Downers Grove the couple initially requested genetic specimen from donor No. 380, a white man, to conceive their child. Ultimately the women mistakenly received specimen from donor No. 330, a black man. By the time the lab’s error had been caught Cramblett was already pregnant.

“On August 21, 2012, Jennifer gave birth to Payton, a beautiful, obviously mixed-race baby girl,” the recently filed lawsuit reads. “Jennifer bonded with Payton easily and she and Amanda love her very much. Even so, Jennifer lives each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future.”

Though the Midwestern Sperm Bank refunded the couple and issued a written apology upon being made aware of their mistake, Cramblett is suing claiming wrongful birth and breach of warranty. Additionally she is seeking damages for the economic impact that her particular situation is having on her’s and her child’s lives.

The community in Uniontown that Cramblett and Zinkon have been raising their child, the lawsuit explains, is sorely lacking in racial diversity. Cramblett expressed that her own family errs on the side of racial intolerance and bigotry much in the same way that most of Uniontown does. Cramblett’s therapist has strongly advised her to move out of the town before Payton, who is now two, is old enough to be enrolled in the school system.

“Though compelled to repress her individuality amongst family members, Payton’s differences are irrepressible, and Jennifer does not want Payton to feel stigmatized or unrecognized due simply to the circumstances of her birth. Jennifer’s stress and anxiety intensify when she envisions Payton entering an all-white school.”


North Carolina Pastor's Pro-Gay Blog, 'If I Have Gay Children', Goes Viral

JohnPavlovitzJohn Pavlovitz, a North Carolina pastor, recently wrote a blog post titled, "If I Have Gay Children: Four Promises From A Christian Parent/Pastor." Since hitting the web, the blog has blown up, taking over Facebook newsfeeds and receiving over 2,500 comments. The reason for its popularity? Probably because Pastor Pavlovitz approaches LGBTQ identity with a warm, open-minded message of love and support.

WBTV reports:

In the blog, Pavlovitz writes that "sometimes I wonder if I'll have gay children" and says he thinks about it often.

"Maybe it's because I have many gay people in my family and circle of friends. It's in my genes and in my tribe," he wrote. "Maybe it's because, as a pastor of students, I've seen and heard the horror stories of gay Christian kids, from both inside and outside of the closet, trying to be part of the Church."

Pavlovitz says there are four simple steps he will take if his own child(ren) are gay, steps that distance him and his family from the often negative message put across by the Christian right.

1) If I have gay children, you’ll all know it.

My children won’t be our family’s best kept secret...

2) If I have gay children, I’ll pray for them.

I won’t pray for them to be made “normal”. I’ve lived long enough to know that if my children are gay, that is their normal...

I won’t pray that God will heal or change or fix them. I will pray for God to protect them...

3) If I have gay children, I’ll love them.

I don’t mean some token, distant, tolerant love that stays at a safe arm’s length. It will be an extravagant, open-hearted, unapologetic, lavish, embarrassing-them-in-the-school cafeteria, kind of love...

4) If I have gay children, most likely; I have gay children.

If my kids are going to be gay, well they pretty much already are.

God has already created them and wired them, and placed the seed of who they are within them.

Not only is the message almost overwhelmingly touching, Pavlovitz is also a beautiful writer whose passion and concern for the topic at hand is evident throughout the entire blog post.

Since the blog was posted, Pavlovitz says he's spent several hours a day pastoring to people who have reached out to him saying they were touched by his blog...

"I was prepared for some people to applaud it, and for others to condemn it. That's what happens whenever you put an opinion out there," he said. "I was fully prepared for the waves of both support and hostility that accompany any vantage point, especially on a controversial topic like this."

"What I was not prepared for in any way, were the literally hundreds and hundreds of people who have reached out to me personally to thank me for bringing some healing and hope to their families; for giving them a message they rarely get from Christian leaders," he continued.

"People who haven't ever before, or in many years, are telling me the piece has moved them to engage with God and with the Church, which is the most any pastor can hope for."

Congratulations, Pastor John, for crafting an elegant and moving piece! Read the entire post here.


Trending



Towleroad - Blogged