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Gay Portland Couple Celebrates 60 Years Together, Gets Awesome Interview in 'The Oregonian'


For a series called Northwest Love Stories, Jennifer Willis at The Oregonian interviews Eric Marcoux, 82, and Eugene Woodworth, 84, who will celebrate being together for 60 years in June.

Here's part of it:

Q: What advice would you give to new couples today?

Marcoux: God, that's just a terror of a question. To know it's not easy, and leave if it's toxic. Wait long enough to know whether or not it's toxic or just a pain. And be in love with love.

Woodworth: The main thing that I come back to is commitment. You have to decide from the very beginning whether it's going to be a committed relationship for a long period or if it's just going to be as long as it lasts. Which is what most people do. They fall in love with lust instead of love. And they think that when the sex starts getting bad, that's the end of the relationship. That's the beginning of the relationship! That's when you start working on it.

Q: What's the biggest lesson about love and partnership you've learned along the way?

Woodworth: It never lets up.

Marcoux: To be more gentle toward my own vulnerabilities and to his inadequacies, because they disappoint him as well as me. Oh, that didn't make any sense at all.

Woodworth: You never were worried about disappointing me.

Marcoux: Oh, God, I'm going to leave him right now. May I get a ride?

Woodworth: Yeah, teasing is part of it.

Read the full interview HERE.

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Towleroad-roadicon Conservative leader Colin Craig's pamphlet campaign against New Zealand's pro-equality prime minister, John Key:

[The pamphlets] gave prominence to a comment from a disgruntled local: "Colin, you should stand here because John Key is too gay for Helensville."

"MPs have a duty to represent their electorate but John Key has chosen to ignore the views of the people of Helensville and carry on regardless," [wrote Craig.]

"I was in the town a few weeks ago and was surprised at how many people were annoyed that he is not listening to them.

"There are people out there who simply don't like to see their prime minister doing things like dancing on stage with transvestites, as he has done in the past," he said.

Towleroad-roadicon FOX News and Sarah Palin -- on the verge of a breakup?

Palin set the media world aflutter on Wednesday, when she wrote a Facebook post pointedly noting that Fox News had canceled all of her scheduled interviews for the day. Since both her former running mate, John McCain, and her sucessor as nominee, Paul Ryan, were speaking at the Republican National Convention on Wednesday night, it seemed like an odd choice.

AHalDavid... Palin is simply not the political powerhouse she once was, making her steep price tag harder to justify. Though she was the star of the 2008 Republican convention, she did not even attend the 2012 forum.

Towleroad-roadicon Lesbianism in Hollywood:

Oscar Wilde's boyf once famously described the desire for one's own gender as The Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name. Well, times have changed, and homosexuality – at least for showbiz starlets – is these days the love that can't stop nudging, winking, smirking, insinuating and straight-up showing off about itself.

Towleroad-roadicon New York's mohels fight back against a freedom-destroying parental consent form:

Despite the fact that at least 11 NYC boys have been infected with herpes from herpes-infested mohels who have insisted on performing the ancient circumcision ritual "metzitzah b’peh," ultra-Orthodox leaders are fighting the Health Department's “evil plans” to mandate parental-consent forms before performing the procedure. About 200 rabbis signed a proclamation claiming the city “printed and spread order to justify their evil decree. It is clear to us, that there is not even an iota of blame or danger in this ancient and holy custom,” the letter states. Except for those 11 boys with herpes. And the two who died from it.

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How Tom Cruise's Mates Are Found, Vetted, Controlled, And Punished


Vanity Fair is about to publish a feature that'll make Scientology seem even creepier than it does already. It's the story of how Tom Cruise went about acquiring his last two romantic interests, Katie Holmes and actress Nazanin Boniadi. The short version of that story is this: He didn't acquire them. Scientology acquired them.

If Vanity Fair's to be believed, finding a post-Nicole, post-Penelope love interest for Cruise involved a church-run search headed up by Shelly Miscavige, wife of David Miscavige, Scientology's baby-faced leader. From Vanity Fair:

According to several sources, the organization devised an elaborate auditioning process in which actresses who were already Scientology members were called in, told they were auditioning for a new training film, and then asked a series of curious questions including: “What do you think of Tom Cruise?”

Nazanin Boniadi, Scientology's first choice to mate with Tom Cruise, apparently thought he was pretty swell. So the church set about breaking her up with her boyfriend:

Nazanin Boniadi, an Iranian-born, London-raised actress and Scientologist, was selected and dated Cruise from November 2004 until January 2005. Initially she was told only that she had been selected for a very important mission. In a month-long preparation in October 2004, she was audited every day, a process in which she told a high-ranking Scientology official her innermost secrets and every detail of her sex life. Boniadi allegedly was told to lose her braces, her red highlights, and her boyfriend. According to a knowledgeable source, she was shown confidential auditing files of her boyfriend to expedite a breakup ... The source says Boniadi signed a confidentiality agreement and was told that if she “messed up” in any way she would be declared a Suppressive Person (a pariah and enemy of Scientology).

MiscavigeThings allegedly went well between Boniadi and Cruise, but only for a little while. When Boniadi displeased the actor, which she apparently did with increasing frequency during their few months together, he would report her to their church. The crime that ended her relationship with Cruise was allegedly this:

Boniadi also offended Scientology chief David Miscavige, who speaks rapidly, because she kept saying, “Excuse me?” when she was entertaining him and his wife during a visit to Telluride. In Scientology, the ability to have your communication “land” is crucial. Boniadi was excoriated by Cruise for disrespecting Miscavige.

Cruise eventually dumped Boniadi, though indirectly -- she found out he was leaving her, or that she was leaving him, when she was instructed by the church to move out of Cruise's home and into the Scientology Celebrity Center, in Los Angeles. Her punishment for failing Cruise:

... scrub toilets with a toothbrush, clean bathroom tiles with acid, and dig ditches in the middle of the night. After that she was sent out to sell Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard’s Dianetics on street corners.

The church denies everything. Boniadi and Cruise refused to comment. David Miscavige says the whole story's a ridiculous fabrication.

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Towleroad-roadicon Meet Jon and Nedo, a binational married couple whose union is imperiled by an expiring visa:

Since the day we first met, Nedo and I have not been apart with the exception of the seven months while we waited for him to come to the United States on his student visa ... To this day the effects of [the] decision to leave his family are deeply emotional and he can’t allow himself to communicate with them regularly because it is easier to disassociate then deal with the enormity of that decision. Every time he talks to his family he ends up crying for the remainder of the night.  He misses his nieces and nephews terribly and it hurts him not to see them regularly. The fact that he is separated from his mother is something he can’t even fully grasp without his eyes swelling with tears. Due to his current legal status he cannot risk leaving the country for fear his visa will not be renewed, but this means he also must live with the knowledge that he may never see his parents again. They are getting older and the more time that goes by without him being able to visit is another form of torment for us as a gay binational American family. My husband experiences this pain often, and it causes me to resent my government for the pain our families suffer in the name of DOMA.

... Each year we participate in the Diversity Visa Green Card Lottery and this last year was especially bitter for us as we are running out of time on Nedo’s visa. The Green Card Lottery is our final hope ... Because his visa will be up in February of 2013 we are running out of options ...

We can no longer put off conversations about what will happen to us next year ...

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Towleroad-roadicon Indiana megachurch pastor Jack Schaap dismissed after allegations of sexual conduct with a 16-year-old girl:

“At this time, we deeply regret the need to announce that First Baptist Church has dismissed our pastor, Dr. Jack Schaap, due to a sin that has caused him to forfeit his right to be our pastor,” the church said in a statement.

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The violence was ultimately rooted in a dispute over a badly ironed shirt that escalated into a fight in which a Christian burned a Muslim to death, in turn sparking the rampage by angry Muslims.

"It was a devil's moment," Wehba said Thursday at the home of her Muslim neighbors, who have taken her in. "Whoever caused this was the devil's son."

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Under the new regulations, students taking exams or attending formal occasions will no longer have to wear ceremonial clothing that is specific to their gender.

It will mean men will be able to sit tests in skirts and stockings and women will have the option of wearing suits and bow ties.

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“We cannot stand silent as those who seek to undermine Israel voice theircriticisms,” he said. “And we certainly should not join in that criticism. Diplomatic distance in public between our nations emboldens Israel’s adversaries.”

He also referred pointedly to Jerusalem as “the capital of Israel,” something Obama administration officials, in keeping with decades of official American policy, are unwilling to do because Palestinians also envision the city as the future capital of their hoped-for state. The line drew a standing ovation from some in the crowd.

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Attendance At Civil Union Ceremony Results In A Change Of Denomination

W300-084248ff4c4af1192ea7b086bfae4101Col. Timothy Wagoner, a Christian chaplain with the United States Air Force, has departed the Southern Baptist Convention after complaints about his attendance at a same-sex civil union ceremony.

Col. Wagoner did not officiate at the ceremony -- he'd previously made clear that he would conduct no rituals that violate the teachings of his denomination. From The Oklahoman:

Wagoner had told the AP that he decided to attend as a show of support for the base community, for [Tech Sgt. Erwynn Umali, who was being joined in a civil union to civilian Will Behrens], and for the Evangelical Lutheran chaplain, Col. Kay Reeb, who presided over it.

“I wouldn’t miss it,” Wagoner said, describing the ceremony as beautiful.

The ceremony occurred in June, and Wagoner's conversation with the AP took place in either late June or early July. The resulting article, "Air Force chaplains adjust to gays serving openly," was blogged about here by Andrew Belonsky, under the title "No 'Mass Exodus' Of Military Chaplains Post DADT-Repeal." The article was also noticed by Col. Wagoner's co-religionists, who must hope that the DADT repeal will at least result in a mass exodus from the Southern Baptist Convention. The SBC Press got Col. Wagoner on-record against same-sex unions, explaining that he was in attendance at the civil union ceremony only as a sign of friendship and respect, and not because of any theological agreement. This wasn't satisfactory. It is not enough, in the Southern Baptist Convention, to object to same-sex unions; one must also boycott them, and treat those engaged in them with either hostility or indifference. The Southern Baptist Convention planned a videoconference with its chaplains to explain this point, and Col. Wagoner, after 20 years with the Convention, decided he'd had enough. The SBC Press announced his departure on the 20th. He will continue to serve as a chaplain under the imprimatur of the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship.


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