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Gay New York Couple of 60+ Years Who Married Last Year Die Just Two Weeks Apart

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Couples in their golden years who have been together for a long time often can't survive the death of their spouse, and often dies within days, weeks, or months of each other. What's unusual about this case is that the couple was gay, both were noted and acclaimed entertainers, and they were also married.

Shaun O'Brien (right), a dancer of four decades with the New York City Ballet, died at the age of 86 on February 23. His husband (left) Cris Alexander, a Broadway actor and photographer, died on March 7, just two weeks later.

The NYT noted the cause of death most accurately:

When same-sex marriage became legal in New York last year, he married Shaun O’Brien, the celebrated character dancer with the New York City Ballet. They had been together for more than 60 years and died less than two weeks apart — Mr. Alexander on March 7 in Saratoga Springs, N.Y., at age 92; Mr. O’Brien on Feb. 23 at 86. They shared a Victorian house in Saratoga Springs.

“If there is a cause of death, it’s a broken heart,” his friend Jane Klain said in confirming Mr. Alexander’s death. “It’s as simple as that.”

Hopefully we'll all get to lead such fulfilled and long lives. And those long-term couples around the country will have the chance to dignify their relationship in law like O'Brien and Alexander did.

Gay Couples Included in Google Valentine Doodle, Beside Other (Alternative) Romantic Pairs: VIDEO


And you know, milk+cookie romance is just a slippery slope to milk+cookie marriage. (wink)

Watch the video doodle, AFTER THE JUMP...

More on the doodle, which sits at top of the search engine's homepage, over at Techcrunch.

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NEWS: Gingrich, Gingrich, Gingrich, Bradley Manning, And Iran

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Road Newt Gingrich crushed Mitt Romney in SC tonight, and then, in his acceptance speech, explained how.

It's not that I'm a good debater. It's that I articulate the deepest-felt values of the American people.

Road Watch an excerpt from Newt's victory speech AFTER THE JUMP. (I'll post the whole thing when somebody sticks it on the web tomorrow.)

Road Polyamory, thy name is not Newt:

I’m all for having multiple relationships if multiple relationships work for you and all involved. Relationships – all of them – have rules. Some go unspoken: I trust that my boss won’t grab my ass when he passes me in the hall. We’ve never had to have a conversation about that, and probably never will. Some are spelled out: Chris (my husband) and I won’t make babies with anyone other than each other. When you break the rules, you break the trust established in your relationship. When you break the rules for six years behind the back of your partner, you grossly fail at even the basics of trust. If my boss could somehow grab my ass for six years while passing me in the hall without my knowledge and then demand that I allow him when I find out about it because “your co-worker doesn’t care, and if you don’t let me, I’ll fire you” that would not come close to the abuse by Newt to his ex-wife.

Road Dan Savage writes maybe the wisest words on the subject:

Newt Gingrich wants us to know that he did not ask his second ex-wife for an open marriage. An honest open relationship was never on the table. Newt and Callista’s six-year-long adulterous relationship was grounded in deceit and betrayal from the start, and Newt and Callista never wavered from the path of deceit and betrayal. Newt Gingrich was making an implicit promise to socially conservative voters: He did not ask his most recent ex-wife for an open marriage, and he will not ask any of his future ex-wives for an open marriage.

Road Here are people with an allegedly excellent open marriage.

Picture 30 Road Bishops and priests tell Catholics Santorum and Gingrich: Stop being so damned racist.

Road Bradley Manning will be court-martialed. How's that work?

A convening authority, which is a general officer, will decide whether to refer the case to a court-martial. There’s no designated time frame for this, but I think it will be in the next couple of weeks. A court-martial is a military criminal court that will have serious punishment powers. There will be a military judge presiding over it, who is a uniformed lawyer. There’s a prosecutor. There’s defense counsel. Unless Manning waives the jury, there will be a jury of at least five people.

... The jury is selected by the convening authority. It’s not random selection. The general will select the members; it’s supposed to be a blue ribbon group. They are supposed to be the best qualified people with respect to education, experience, judicial temperament and so on. Because Manning is an enlisted man, he has a right to enlisted representation on the court. That means that at least one-third of the jury would have to be enlisted men or women.

Road Alexander mentioned his atheism on his Facebook page. He was then assaulted by a mob and arrested.

Road She bared her breasts in photos, and in a rather lovely French advertisement. Now, actress Golshifteh Farahani can never go home again.

Road Homophobia has a new pitchman in Washington state.

Road Community newspaper editor wrote that Mossad might consider assassinating President Obama. Now he's sorry.

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Gay Couple's Story of Devotion Documented in 'Say Only Yes': VIDEO


The second installment of producer/director Antony Osso's short film series The Devotion Project is called "Say Only Yes" and features the story of Brian Cantor and Paul Labrecque.

The film series documents LGBT couples and the love they share. DO NOT miss the first one, featuring William I. Campbell and John V. Hilton, which I posted in November.

Watch 'Just Say Yes', AFTER THE JUMP...

Gay Couple Talks ABout Their 6 Decades of Commitment and Love: VIDEO [tr]

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A Hundred and Eleven: VIDEO


If you're in the mood for a short, sweet film by undergraduate film student Hieu Tran about a romantic situation many of us have found ourselves in, check this out, AFTER THE JUMP...

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MTV's 'True Life' to Feature Gay 'Self-Proclaimed Chubby Chaser': VIDEO


On Top reports on an upcoming episode of MTV's True Life:

On the January 11 episode, subtitled I'm a Chubby Chaser, viewers meet Justin, whose motto seems to be “the bigger, the better.”

“In the gay community bears are big guys with goatees and body hair,” Justin explains in a trailer for the episode. “When I'm with a bear I feel safe because of his size. I like feeling dwarfed by this individual – a protector almost.”

Justin says at first he dismissed his feelings for larger men as something “not normal.”

“In the gay community there's so much accepting of a lot of different lifestyles and that to me felt really great, because I fit in,” he says.

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