Armistead Maupin’s Partner Speaks Out on Age and Dating

Christopher Turner talks to the SF Chronicle about his relationship with Armistead Maupin, telling the paper that Maupin, who is 27 years older than Turner, cruised him on the street after seeing his profile on a website Turner runs, (site NSFW).

Turner_2“Shortly after Christopher Turner started his Web site in 2002, a hot older male approached him while walking on 18th Street in the Castro district. The man said he recognized Turner from his online profile; he’d even printed out a photograph of the Internet entrepreneur. ‘Apparently he didn’t post his picture because he was too darn shy about the whole thing,’ Turner, 35, recalled.”

Turner has a new site, DaddyHunt, which pairs older men with younger men, and they’ve just posted a number of new billboards around San Francisco. Turner talks about the phenomenon:

“I think when people see a young man with an older guy, they think, ‘Sugar Daddy.’ And I guess the same goes for straight relationships. But one thing people don’t see is that a lot of people have a serious attraction to older men — whether it’s physical, emotional, intellectual — and feel more comfortable in relationships with older men. I launched the site as sort of a political statement: You can have a loving relationship despite an age difference … I think the Greeks understood it well, and so did the gay community. Back in the ’70s, the gay community featured older, hairy guys in gay porn all the time. During the AIDS crisis, everything we saw, in advertising and porn, suddenly became young and clean…Attraction is hard to understand. My current attraction toward older men has been around since I can remember, but I imagine that could change. I’m really not sure. That’s always the issue with an age difference. With Armistead, he’s 27 years my senior and, you know, he’ll likely die before me. So there’s the big issue of any age-difference relationship. But who knows? It’s hard to say where my attractions will be in 20, 30 years.”

Maupin recently published the latest novel in the Tales of the City series, Michael Tolliver Lives, which rejoins his character Michael Tolliver some three decades later. Turner notes that many of the themes on aging in the book bear a striking resemblance to the couple’s own experience.

FIVE QUESTIONS For Christopher Turner [sf chronicle]
Michael Tolliver Lives [amazon]

Gavin Newsom’s Maupin Tribute: Tuesday is Michael Tolliver Day in SF [tr]


  1. woodroad34 says

    At 54, I’m still interested in older men. Although, like Christopher, I am starting to look at people my age and younger. Not quite sure why.

  2. Daniel says

    Interesting WOODROAD34, I’m in my 40s now and have always been attracted to older men. Although, it’s not always easy for me to tell someone’s age anymore. I still kind of think of myself as being in my 20s–though I’m clearly not.

  3. SFStroker says

    I’m a member of Mr. Turner’s website and he appears on there sometimes. Though age never really meant much to me, I found I was always interested in older men, but now that I am one, I keep getting approached by men in their 30’s and am finding that some of them are pretty mature and wonderful, and, yes, “interesting” guys (just like I’m sure I thought I was at the time, lol).

    Thanks, Andy!

  4. Jason says

    Um, I think I just vomited a little in my mouth! Ewwwwww. I can only go as high as 10 years plus or minus my age. My belief is that there are issues you are trying to work through from when you were young and you had issues with an older male or a missing older male in your life. Not sure I want to be changing the diapers of someone 30 years older than me.

  5. Dave says

    Whats that old saying “Every man looks good when he is standing on his money.” I am sorry, but Mr Maupin is not the least bit attractive to me. I have been with plenty of older men, but he is not hot in my opinion.

  6. Caitlin says

    Well, what am I doing in here, she asked? Scouting around on behalf of a friend, she said. But I just read some posts about Armistead Maupin, and had to comment. Excuse me but a) beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and b) older men aren’t just about money. I’m sure Mr. Maupin doesn’t want to hear that a woman finds him hot, but if I do, I can imagine some younger men would as well. Rather than make rude remarks, why not just say “to each his/her own.”

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