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road.jpg New York City department of health eyes bathhouses after new report on increase in HIV infections in men under 30.

Scott_jordanroad.jpg Scott Jordan, swimmer at conservative, religious St. Bonaventure University comes out to teammates: "'Scott, you're gonna get so much ass this year,' [one teammate] said to me. 'The girls are gonna be all over you.' I took the plunge. 'That’s not the kind of ass I’m looking for,' I replied...He didn’t believe me at first; In fact, most everyone I’ve come out to hasn’t believed I’m gay. But once he realized I wasn't joking around, I told him it wasn't a secret anymore. I told just three teammates that summer, purposely telling one teammate in particular because I knew he liked to gossip (yep, straight guys gossip too). As planned, gossip took care of the rest. When I got to school a month later it felt like the entire campus knew I was gay, and I had only told three people."

road.jpg Mariah Carey squeals about possible duet with J Lo: "I'd rather be on stage with a pig."

road.jpg Carson Kressley's How to Look Good Naked debuts higher than any other reality show in Lifetime's history.

road.jpg Patrick Dempsey just stands there for Versace.

road.jpg UK man convicted of two counts of assault for homophobic attack on straight teen in nightclub.

road.jpg California fringe group grades GOP candidates on their support for the "natural family". Huckabee and Paul rate highest, Romney scores a "0".

Dolceroad.jpg Dolce & Gabbana lines 'em up for Fall/Winter campaign.

road.jpg Swimsuit issue: Owen Wilson and Woody Harrelson frolic in Hawaii.

road.jpg Gay nightclub proposed in Madison, Wisconsin would be one of city's largest.

road.jpg Philly anchorwoman Alycia Lane, suspended for calling a police officer "dyke bitch," was relieved of her duties: "'Alycia Lane "has been released from her contract effective immediately,' KYW-TV said in a statement Monday, the day she had been due back on air. Lane is accused of scuffling with a plainclothes female officer during a traffic dispute last month. A police complaint also said she used a sexual slur. Lane has denied the allegations. The 35-year-old newscaster previously found herself the target of critical news coverage, and snickers, after it was reported she had e-mailed bikini shots of herself to a married ESPN sports anchor and she tearfully discussed her divorce on the 'Dr. Phil" show.'"

road.jpg EAT ME: Woman commissions wedding cake in her own image.

Manzelladarrenroad.jpg USA Today takes a look at "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" 60 Minutes Army Sergeant Darren Manzella: "Manzella says he was invited to join more than 600 members of an invitation-only MySpace group, Guys and Gals Like Us, for gays who don't hide their orientation from their units. The members use pseudonyms because some gay servicemembers have been discharged for acknowledging their sexual orientation elsewhere online. Nearly 12,000 troops have been dismissed under the policy approved by President Clinton in 1993. Discharges peaked at 1,273 in 2001 and have fallen sharply since the war began. 'A lot of servicemembers are getting 'wink-wink' treatment from their commanders,' says Aaron Belkin, director of the Palm Center at the University of California, Santa Barbara, which studies the policy."

road.jpg Last year we winner flattered to win Queerclick's Gay Bloggies - this year, Frank at OMG Blog took the prize. Congrats.

road.jpg Gay-friendly gay bashed in Seattle.

road.jpg Vermont opponents of same-sex marriage step up their efforts: "Several prominent opponents of gay marriage will announce at a Statehouse press conference Tuesday morning the formation of the Vermont Marriage Advisory Council, a group that will hold hearings on the benefits of traditional marriage. Stephen Cable of Rutland, the founder of the conservative group Vermont Renewal, said the formation of this traditional marriage council is in response to what he says is the pro-gay marriage leanings of the Vermont Commission on Family Recognition and Protection. 'The council will be holding forums to delegate information on the social goods that come with the institution of marriage,' Cable said Monday afternoon. 'After that, the council will open up the microphone to hear from Vermonters.'"

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  1. I moved to nyc the day i turned 18 about 8 years ago, i have never seen a bathhouse in this city, thought gulianni got to all of em

    Posted by: Davey | Jan 8, 2008 12:52:22 PM

  2. Scott Jordan... that body makes me cryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. Growing old is such a BITCH!

    Posted by: virgoboy | Jan 8, 2008 12:54:30 PM

  3. Someone should tell the New York Department of Health that HIV is spread just as easily in an apartment, a hotel room or a penthouse as it is in a bathhouse. Someone should also tell them that business at sex clubs and bathhouses has slipped dramatically since the advent of the internet. And finally, someone should remind them that bathhouses are excellent places to place information about safer sex.

    Posted by: peterparker | Jan 8, 2008 12:57:58 PM

  4. It's 2008 - I have no sympathy for anyone who gets tainted due to lack of common sense (i.e. condom use). Those who practice barebacking are asking for it, really. And those who enthusiastically go along with it might as well expect it too and should anticipate no pity once they finally test positive or ultimately get AIDS. I guess bathhouses are breeding ground for infectious diseases, not just AIDS or HIV, but if common sense is used, ic could be avoided, or at least curtailed. But unfortunately, men don't always utilize the brains they're born with. Or maybe they do, hence these absurd, hazardous practices.
    Sympathizing with someone with HIV who indulged in barebacking is akin to sympathizing with a lung cancer patient who willingly smoked all his life knowing the risks. Sure, it's a horrible thing (especially their selfishness to their loved ones) but one really can't say 'WHY, GOD, WHY!?' now, really.

    Posted by: jeffreychrist | Jan 8, 2008 1:20:31 PM

  5. So I take it from her comment that Pariah is planning to do a solo concert?

    Posted by: rudy | Jan 8, 2008 1:22:24 PM

  6. What proof do authorities have that bathhouses are the main source for new HIV infections? This proposed crackdown is laughable--it comes from some straight male stereotype of gay men that is rooted in the early 1980s. What a joke.

    As for Jeffreychrist's viewpoint that anyone who contracts HIV shouldn't have much pity or mercy, screw you. You need to grow a heart to match your balls. This is a disease. Anyone who catches it is a victim. And there are plenty of people who contract it without knowing when and where--condoms break, for example, and boyfriends cheat behind your back.

    Posted by: PJ | Jan 8, 2008 1:26:36 PM

  7. Good for Mariah not wanting to do a duo with Jlo!

    Good they let that chick go for her homophobic slur, but, I'm sure she will get a new gig someplace else. This shooting off of the mouth with anti-gay, racial, sexist slurs needs to be stopped, and, what better way that to can the offender.

    People still frequent the baths? Wow, all you have to do is go online if you are that desperate for a quickie. However, its not the baths who are to blame for foolish, irresponsible behavior, these guys need to man up for their own illogical acts.

    And, last, who cares about gays and the military? Killing people for "your" country which won't give you basic rights the fairness and freedom they claim they are doing for others is a bore and total yawn, and, yes, I'm a pacifist who fears the GOP and Bush more than Iran and Iraq and that's where they should be putting energy instead of being GI Joe's and Jane's.

    Posted by: Oliver | Jan 8, 2008 1:30:14 PM

  8. We, as gay men, have the responsibility to eradicate the transmission of this disease among our community, and we have failed. At one point, Syphillis transmissions were almost non existent because WE practiced safe sex. Now we glorify bare-backing- or at least we allow others to eroticize it: look at craigslist or manhunt. The online community censures pandering or soliciting or sex with animals, but no one censures behaviour that promotes the spread of HIV.
    Our carelessness, our selfishness are our shame. And, PJ- boyfriends who cheat behind your back is just another reason to take responsibility for oneself. Whether driving a car or fucking an ass, never put your life in someone elses hands.

    Posted by: dc8stretch | Jan 8, 2008 1:38:58 PM

  9. Blaming the victim is reprehensible. If we really want to stigmatize HIV sufferers, that's the quickest road to it.

    Posted by: PJ | Jan 8, 2008 1:43:45 PM

  10. Part of the problem with the rise in HIV among gay men under 30 is widespread drug use, particularly crystal meth (I'm old enough to remember it as Tina). While the few bathouses that are left may be a factor, I would guesstimate that more sex goes on in apartments after meeting online than in the bathhouses.

    Posted by: Bill H | Jan 8, 2008 1:55:06 PM

  11. Mariah will never say anything like that about another performer! I want video! :)

    Posted by: Alexsander | Jan 8, 2008 1:56:03 PM

  12. Jeffreychrists comparison of sympathy to barebacking and AIDS to lung cancer and smoking is offensive on many levels, not the least of which is that close to 20% of people diagnosed with Lung cancer never smoked a day in their lives.

    Posted by: Wade | Jan 8, 2008 2:01:13 PM

  13. JEFFREYCHRIST...prior to becoming infected with HIV, I practiced condom use *religiously*. The only people with whom I ever barebacked were two long-term boyfriends who were both HIV negative and monogamous. And then I went through a three and a half year period of being single. Because I wasn't dating anyone seriously during that period, I stopped practicing anal sex entirely. I still got tested for HIV 2 or 3 times per year, and I always tested negative...until, at the end of that three and a half year period in which the riskiest thing I did was give blowjobs without taking cum in my mouth, I suddenly tested positive for HIV. So I ask you, JEFFREYCHRIST, am I deserving of a little sympathy? Or should I be judged and castigated by intolerant, judgemental, petty, narrow-minded assholes like yourself?

    Posted by: peterparker | Jan 8, 2008 2:06:39 PM

  14. I don't believe it's possible for Darren Manzella to be any hotter.

    Posted by: sam | Jan 8, 2008 2:16:04 PM

  15. Actually, Peterparker, he said that people who practice barebacking don't deserve sympathy. I'm all for being compassionate, but why can't we ask people to be responsible for their actions? And, Wade, his analogy of barebacking and AIDS to lung cancer and smoking is pretty astute. People with lung cancer that had never smoked where not part of his example. It sounds like no one wants to give themselves a hard look in the mirror.

    Posted by: Jeff | Jan 8, 2008 2:19:15 PM

  16. I look forward to the scale on which we can base our sympathies for people suffering from illness or fatal diseases.

    Once we deal with castigating (with kindness, naturally) those people who got lung cancer or HIV as a result of their behavior, we can then move along to including those who didn't eat their leafy greens, those who kept their emotions bottled up, those who drive on freeways, the list could go on!

    That way, those who really like to wrap their judgment in smugness will have a consistent resource to turn to.

    Posted by: Rey | Jan 8, 2008 2:29:36 PM

  17. ah the bathouses, sex clubs, and sex in back rooms.. what a fabulous era and I'm happy i was there to see it... can't imagine that internet dating has the same thrill of meeting your potential piece of ass face to face with all the preliminary getting to know you bullshit out of the way, just slam bam wham and thank you ma'am... internet dating must be like applying for a teller position at b of a... takes all the mystery out of it, and believe me the mystery is part of the fun of it all...

    Posted by: the queen | Jan 8, 2008 2:42:47 PM

  18. "I don't believe it's possible for Darren Manzella to be any hotter." - SAM

    Or, i might add, more adorabler ;-) and yes i know that is not a word!

    Posted by: virgoboy | Jan 8, 2008 2:43:25 PM

  19. PeterParker - I call bs on your poz story - although if you were giving bjs to rounds of guys, no wonder

    And I agree, in this time where we KNOW being risky by doing bareback (and how pathetic do porn cos. still promote bareback videos!), no take the risk, you face the's pure and simple stupidity to engage in that type of act.

    here's a kleenex for all those who disagree to cry and whine in

    Posted by: Truth Hurts | Jan 8, 2008 2:49:15 PM

  20. Truth Hurts: Here's your Kleenex back, and here's a box full of punctuation marks for you to use.

    You can stick the exclamation mark up your nose, for what it's worth. Perhaps an unintentional lobotomy might make you a bit more human.

    Posted by: Rey | Jan 8, 2008 3:04:09 PM

  21. Rey- the point is, there is actual behavior that is leading to the circumstances these people are in. And, after losing a generation of some of our best and brightest to AIDS, it's seems insane to me that people aren't a more cautious about their own health and that of their fellow man. I see nothing smug about being concerned about the dangerous behavior that's happening right now.

    Posted by: Jeff | Jan 8, 2008 3:12:42 PM

  22. One Word. Manhunt. The virtual bathhouse. DUH

    Posted by: Marcus | Jan 8, 2008 3:21:27 PM

  23. Sam, one word. Shirtless.

    But seriously, can Manzilla take a bad photo?! I mean come on. This isn't even fair. I have to pivot toward the light and balance on one leg just to get a good shot!

    As for the HIV comments, I don't know about you but I do not "glorify" barebacking. I look at barebacking like someone who's got an 8-track ("Nobody does that anymore...")

    And I agree with whomever said Mariah didn't say that about J.Lo. She's been in the industry almost 20 years and she's not stupid (crazy yes, stupid no).

    Posted by: junior | Jan 8, 2008 3:28:20 PM

  24. Oh, I remember the indignity of guys who were all about sexual liberation (read: orgies and bathhouses) when AIDS hit. "What, you're telling me that I can't do what I want!" summed it up nicely. They confused "reality" with "culture and politics"--as if you could pass a law to turn off gravity. Let's just say that AIDS is completely unsympathetic to your wants and desires the same as gravity. There is no appeal to any judge or man-made law that will reverse the situation. As far as sympathy to anyone who has a disease, well, we are all mortal, so the sympathy is just a recognition of this generality.

    PP: you might have have a false positive test result from a mixed up batch of blood or the antibodies did not form rapidly in your system, however oral sex is an excellent way to get AIDS. The mucous membranes of the mouth offer almost no protection to the virus, particularly if there are sores or bleeding gums. It's of the same type as what's in your ass after all.

    Posted by: anon ( | Jan 8, 2008 3:31:00 PM

  25. ANON: you said "PP: you might not have have a false positive test result from a mixed up batch of blood or the antibodies did not form rapidly in your system, however oral sex is an excellent way to get AIDS. The mucous membranes of the mouth offer almost no protection to the virus, particularly if there are sores or bleeding gums. It's of the same type as what's in your ass after all."

    Your statements from the paragraph above, ANON, show a startling lack of knowledge (or perhaps simply disregard) for the science of HIV. Your theory that I may have taken an extra long time to develop antibodies is way off base. I repeatedly tested negative for 3.5 years after foregoing anal sex before I suddenly popped up HIV positive. That means I went in for HIV tests which came back negative at least 6 times, spread out over a 3.5 year period. Furthermore, those HIV tests were not just antibody tests (which blows your theory that I just took an extra long time to develop antibodies). When I was negative I always paid my doctor to test me with a more expensive, more accurate test called the PCR DNA test for HIV. The PCR DNA test looks for the virus itself (not antibodies to the virus) and is accurate two weeks after any possible infection. Whenever they perform a PCR DNA test they also throw in an antibody test. So in that three year period, I went in 6 times to get tested and, given that each time they were testing me with PCR DNA as well as standard antibody tests, there would have been a total of 12 HIV tests that were all negative...until suddenly one wasn't. The test that was positive was a PCR DNA test administered on 3.10.1998 accompanied by an HIV antibody test that was negative (which happened to be roughly two months after I'd tested negative for HIV on a PCR DNA test and an HIV antibody test). We repeated the tests and this time both the PCR DNA test for HIV and the antibody test came back positive. Because I was testing with a combination of PCR DNA and standard HIV antibody test (which initially came back negative because I had not had enough time to form antibodies and then, when repeated a week later, came back positive) I can narrow down my infection to an 8 week period...and that 8 week period came 3.5 years after I ceased having anal sex.

    I'm not sure where to begin in attacking your claim that "...oral sex is an excellent way to get AIDS." I'll start with the fact that no one contracts AIDS...they contract HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Now that we are done with that technicality, oral sex is in fact NOT an efficient way to transmit HIV. There is an enzyme in saliva (nicknamed SLPI by researchers because the actual name is about a page long) that prevents HIV from docking with the receptor cells in the human body. SLPI insures that the mouth is not a friendly environment for HIV.

    Finally, regarding bleeding gums...who the heck is going to suck cock with sores or bleeding gums in their mouth!?

    Posted by: peterparker | Jan 8, 2008 5:01:11 PM

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