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  1. Wayne says

    Honestly, they’re right to poke fun… this is a completely silly idea. Everyone laughed with the “day without a Mexican” and this is even worse. We gave them the ammunition to humiliate us, and to have millions of people laugh at home and agree with them.

    “A Day Without A Gay”?? Are you serious? The majority of American’s still claim they don’t know anyone who is gay so why would a day without one make a difference… except in NYC.

  2. ERB says

    Ok, TXSTEVO and WAYNE…I’ll give you it was a bad idea (even tho, I don’t think that it was). Now, then, tell me what is a good idea? Tell me how to draw attention to the issues on a national scale? We protested in the streets, and the right wing claimed we were quashing religious rights and being violent (both not true). So we tried a separate method…to hit everyone where it hurts *the wallet*. So, instead of sitting in your throne rejecting ideas, tell us what to do as a movement that will meet your oh-so-humbled expectations. Educate us, b/c obviously, we are all too stupid to come up with good ideas.

  3. ERB says

    Ok, TXSTEVO and WAYNE…I’ll give you it was a bad idea (even tho, I don’t think that it was). Now, then, tell me what is a good idea? Tell me how to draw attention to the issues on a national scale? We protested in the streets, and the right wing claimed we were quashing religious rights and being violent (both not true). So we tried a separate method…to hit everyone where it hurts *the wallet*. So, instead of sitting in your throne rejecting ideas, tell us what to do as a movement that will meet your oh-so-humbled expectations. Educate us, b/c obviously, we are all too stupid to come up with good ideas.

  4. ATLSteve says

    OK, the first time I clicked “Comments,” an ad for Mormon.org is running in the right-hand column. “Want to know what happens when you die, talk to us…blah blah blah…”

    This site is running an ad for the Mormon church? For real? It’s the ultimate irony or the ultimate hypocrisy – or both.

  5. Quint King says

    As mean spirited as “It’s the ultimate boycott because instead of going to work they’re staying at home with a boy, possible laying in a cot.” is… that’s a good zinger. Took a while for me to get the pun because cot immediately made me think hurricane shelter or military and I was thrown off the scent of the humor styling…

    The strike idea was a little off for a series of reasons, not the least of which is that it’s silly because we’re not an economic minority. Works a lot better when we as a minority occupy employment as a high percentage of service workers society counts on…

    I don’t support the idea as effective political action, but admit I cannot propose a viable alternate idea.

  6. jonathan says

    I agree that the Day Without a Gay idea was moronic and deserves to be made fun of.

    Is it too much to ask that if you’re going to edgy, controversial, sarcastic and irreverant that you actually be funny while doing it?

  7. Mike says

    I liked the idea floated around a few years ago of using $2 bills. They are still in circulation and if all gay people started using them it would make news. The Federal Reserve would need to increase production and folks would start seeing them around everywhere. If we could claim $2 bills as our own that would help with visibility – which is what this is all about IMO.

  8. Mike says

    From Wikipedia:
    The United States two-dollar bill ($2) is a current denomination of U.S. currency. Former U.S. President Thomas Jefferson is featured on the obverse of the note. The painting The Declaration of Independence by John Trumbull is featured on the reverse. The design on the obverse (excluding the elements of a Federal Reserve Note) is the oldest design of current U.S. currency, having been adopted in 1929; the reverse is the second oldest design, having been adopted in 1976.

    In spite of its relatively low value among the denominations of U.S. currency, the two-dollar bill is one of the most rarely seen in circulation and actual use. They are almost never given as change for commercial transactions, and thus consumers rarely have them on hand. Production of the note is quite low; approximately 1% of all notes currently produced are $2 bills. This comparative scarcity in circulation has led to an overall lack of public knowledge of the $2 bill and has also inspired urban legends and folk beliefs concerning it.

  9. Wayne says

    ERB, you don’t have to be sitting on a throne to see how silly this attempt was. I was sitting in front of my television watching viewers laugh and make fun of us… that’s just sad. As for what else can be done, I push equality at my level. I talk about it to everyone I know, I educate my friends and family and co-workers and I engage them in discussions about why this is so wrong. My mom (a devout Catholic) is now defending gays and lesbians inside her Church and making every effort to educate her fellow parishners about the injustice of this inequality. I write letters to congress with personal examples, I post on blogs (not just gay blogs) and engage anyone who wants to talk about how we can make a difference.

    The whole “Day without a Gay” thing smells like a stereotypical Gay Pride parade… all you see on television are the go-go boys in short shorts and the flaming queens marching down the street. We stereotype oursleves and then beg for change… it’s not going to happen that way. I never said I had all of the answers. I simply do what I can do and I strive to be honest and forthright about my beliefs and how others hostility and homophobia affects my life and those that I love. The truth is what will win… not some ploy to make people feel sorry or ashamed.

  10. JJ says

    Call in Gay and get fired from your job! That’ll show em’!! Silly is right. The only thing “A Day Without Gay” will do is provide fodder for comedians and conservative talk show hosts. Here’s an idea: Go to work. Talk to people. Speak to your heterosexual friends and co-workers about your life. Talk to them about your partners, your kids, your family. Let them know why equal rights is important to you, and why it should be important to them too. A Day WITH Gay will be much more effective than a day WITHOUT.

  11. GregV says

    “Day without a gay” mak4s no sense to me. So all the gay-frequented and gay-staffed businesses lose money that day and people go next door and spend money on a business that has nobody on staff supporting the day. If we were actually participating en masse, the homophobes would make extra money today.

    I suggest, instead, that we make EVERY day of the year a day without our money at ANY business or company that treats anybody as second class.
    The HRC recently released a PDF that scores large companies on how fairly they treat gay and transgendered people.
    More gay people (AND other supporters of equality) need to stop filling up at Exxon and start making a habit of stopping at Chevron. DON’T buy tickets at Priceline.com (I stopped using them when they had a “heterosexuals only” prize in a contest years ago). Instead, I’d click on the Expedia ad that is at the top of my Towleroad page and buy from them.
    DO seek out an airline’s gay-marketing page when you buy. DO seek out gay-friendly hotels to spend your money in. (I recently stayed at the W in Honolulu. Their wedding page is very inclusive of both same and opposite-sex couples.)
    DON’T eat at Cracker Barrell (which until recently had a “heterosexuals only” hiring policy.

    This should be 365 days a year, and we should be boycotting unfair business practises, NOT taking our money away from gay-friendly businesses.

  12. DJ says

    Very well said Wayne.I agree.I still went into work today and Im glad I did.This whole “Day without a Gay” bullshit will not pay my bills there are better and more active ways to protest for our equal rights,what you are doing is what Im doing and what every gay & lesbian American should be doing.The fact that we (not me or you in particular) but general majority of gays live though stereotypes,Thats why the ignorant heteros are making fun of us today.Get with it people.

  13. GregV says

    “Day without a gay” mak4s no sense to me. So all the gay-frequented and gay-staffed businesses lose money that day and people go next door and spend money on a business that has nobody on staff supporting the day. If we were actually participating en masse, the homophobes would make extra money today.

    I suggest, instead, that we make EVERY day of the year a day without our money at ANY business or company that treats anybody as second class.
    The HRC recently released a PDF that scores large companies on how fairly they treat gay and transgendered people.
    More gay people (AND other supporters of equality) need to stop filling up at Exxon and start making a habit of stopping at Chevron. DON’T buy tickets at Priceline.com (I stopped using them when they had a “heterosexuals only” prize in a contest years ago). Instead, I’d click on the Expedia ad that is at the top of my Towleroad page and buy from them.
    DO seek out an airline’s gay-marketing page when you buy. DO seek out gay-friendly hotels to spend your money in. (I recently stayed at the W in Honolulu. Their wedding page is very inclusive of both same and opposite-sex couples.)
    DON’T eat at Cracker Barrell (which until recently had a “heterosexuals only” hiring policy.

    This should be 365 days a year, and we should be boycotting unfair business practises, NOT taking our money away from gay-friendly businesses.

  14. Patrick M says

    I think this show is freaking hilarious – and it makes fun of this concept in exactly the right way… We need to be able to laugh at ourselves, unlike the “ex-gay” paranoid idiots.

    C’mon, everyone on that panel was gay-supportive, and even joining us while making jokes – the first guy does look like a butch lesbian, another said he was bi-curious, and the blonde woman countered the Fox News stereotype of blondes by saying gay rights is the human rights issue of our day.

    Yes there were a few silly stereotypes thrown out that were countered by some other silly stereotypes, and “boycott” was a little lame but also worth a shot at comedy. But the overall message makes sense and they were being kind – this idea is too much like a kid who says I’m not getting out of bed today. In this economy, it is actually kind of insulting and it doesn’t deserve to work. Having said that, it’s just one idea, and there will be more that work better

  15. HerrDoktor says

    For the “Day Without A Gay,” I volunteered at my local Gay Community Center. I guess I’m lucky enough to have a job where I can be out to my coworkers and which offers community service leave. It was a good experience, and just one of many activism opportunities being suggested by JoinTheImpact.com.

  16. Jeff B says

    I am disheartened by all of the criticism surrounding this particular form of activism. I’m also saddened by all of the name-calling towards the guys who organized it.

    Everyone seems to be waiting for a gay MLK to unite the gay community and come up with a grand organized movement that resembles that of the African-American civil rights movement and more recently the protests by Hispanics. The problem is the gay community doesn’t benefit from race and culture (and in some cases poverty) as a unifying force. The gay community is a multi-racial-cultural-political community at every level of the economic spectrum, many out of the closet, many in, some by choice, some not. Gay activism has always been fractured and polarizing, especially in the gay community.

    Back in the 80’s many in the gay community thought the group ACT-UP was doing more harm than good. And today organizations like GLAAD and HRC receive their fair share of criticism. But we have always relied on those individuals with the purest of intentions who were inspired enough to rise from apathy and come up with ideas, big and small, meant to further the cause of equal rights for gays, and there have been many. People have taken to the streets and shelled out thousands for dinner at fancy fundraisers. Many have protested with their pocket books. Yet these actions have always garnered some level of criticism and judgment, none harsher then from the gay community itself. Most progress has been made on a personal level, individual to individual, but large scale activities have woken people up. The fact is we are better off today because those before us spoke up, and the next generation will be better off because of our actions today.

    The men who organized this event didn’t ask people to put themselves out of work. In fact, they included other ways for people to participate on their website. But, I must add, that the individuals who participated in the bus boycotts and civil rights movement of the 50’s and 60’s did so with great sacrifice and hardship. And yes, blood. They knew they had nothing else to lose. Nothing was gained for free.

    The truth is that those least likely to participate are the most successful and blessed among us. But that’s okay. Choose your own form of activism. Just stop judging the choices of others.

    Today, I delivered lunch (purchased from a gay-owned business) to all of my non-gay co-workers (all of whom brought their own lunch today in a show of solidarity), then left to be of service in my community.

    Ultimately, who really cares what Fox news has to say? We are our own worst enemy.

  17. will says

    THis is a total outrage! I don’t necessarily agree with the concept but to actually use stereotypes to make fun of us? What if they said, on a DAY WITHOUT BLACKS that they’re home making chicken instead? What if they said, on a DAY WITHOUT ASIANS that they were home eating rice? All would be inappropriate.
    Please contact them

  18. Krebin says

    Well, let’s look on the bright side. They’re cracking easy jokes that aren’t mean spirited. People are genuinely becoming less comfortable being openly disdainful of homosexuality. Of course, they’re still being indirectly bigoted by equating the core of how we love with a “lifestyle choice” like a job or a budget, but we ARE making progress. Everything we’re doing to increase our visibility, state our case, and win over hearts and minds is working! “A Day Without a Gay” might seem a little silly, but they’re at least talking about it! I watch 4 main tv shows in my week, and EVERY one features multiple, prominent gay characters. The question of gay marriage is in the news almost daily thanks to all the protests. I’m young and I still am amazed at how much saturation we have now! We should quit judging each other’s ideas (but not condone violence or divisiveness) and focus on being open about who we are. No one should be able to say they don’t know a gay person, and if we connect honestly with as many people as we can and show them that we are human and that we truly do love they same way they do, no one will be able to turn a corner without being reminded that gay people are EVERYWHERE.

  19. Savage says

    This truly is quite unfortunate and extremely offensive. I am not gay; I am straight; however, I view this video as an utter act of disrespect and bigotry. Like the woman said, “gay rights is the human rights issue of our day” and it is self-evident that acts such as this convey nothing more than narrow-mindedness. While some may perceive this to be simple entertain and “jokes” I urge you to understand that in current society there is a tremendous amount of severity, significance, sensitivity behind the issue of gay rights.

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