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Gay Stories: A Gay City Councilman Talks About Moving His Family and Adopted Daughter to Higher Ground



Guestblogger Nathan Manske and Marquise Lee are halfway though a 3 month trip around the United States collecting stories for their I'm From Driftwood site. We're finally ready to start catching up with some of the stories collected over the first half of the trip along with some of the insight into what they're seeing now. Anyone can submit their own story via IFD.

Driftwood We had made our way to Palm Springs, CA, a gay mecca in the middle of the desert, where it supposedly rains only 7 days out of the year. As our weather luck, or lack thereof, would have it, the rain fell and fell some more for the entirety of our only full day there, flooding most of the streets in the flat terrain. But our spirits wouldn't be dampened because we would soon be getting a story from Scott Hines, the openly gay city councilman of nearby and much-more-conservative-than-you'd-think Rancho Mirage.

The rain had finally stopped the next day but the streets were still flooded. After navigating and hydroplaning our way to Rancho Mirage, we met Scott at City Hall. My first impression was how handsome he was and how firm of a handshake he gave. I quickly went from swooning to fuming, however, after hearing his story about gay adoption and the sacrifices his family had to make because of anti-LGBT adoption laws in his previous home state of Tennessee. Of course I support gay adoption, of course I'm against anti-gay ballots and measures and propositions and referendums, but until you put a face or a person or a story with an issue, it's just an ideal. Meeting Scott and hearing about his family made it personal. I hope it does for other folks as well.


Additionally, the IFD boys arrive in NYC this weekend. The crew will be having a Reading Event+Screening on Friday, December 10 at the LGBT Center on 13th St., Room 310. They will talk about their adventure on the road as well as show some of the Video Stories they've collected. There will be a live story reading by NYC native Jay Blotcher and an introduction by OutQ Radio Host Michelangelo Signorile.

Previously in this series...
A Survivor's Account of an Unbelievable Hell Called Home [tr]
A Mayor's Coming Out [tr]

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  1. Bravo for this interview. My partner and I adopted our sons four years ago in California and have subsequently moved to the middle of the country (St. Louis) where there are better school choices for our boys. We have not suffered any of the discrimination that I feared could happen. People here have been loving and welcoming and when you put a face on who we are, what we are, they realize we are parents just like them trying to do what's best for our children.

    But it's sad that anywhere in this country state legislatures can stop any man or woman from adopting. The overwhelming number of children in foster care that are able to be adopted so far outnumbers the parents and families willing to do it (which is why whenever I hear anyone say that children "deserve a mother and a father" I want to punch them in the face. And when I find out that they also have never adopted, I want to beat them senseless. It's heartlessly anti-family, anti-anything's actually hateful when people say that.) Kids WANT a parent, they WANT someone to love them, give them a home, give them structure and stability. To prevent that is so vile if there is a hell, the people who prevent it are secured a place in the enternal damnation they are always wishing upon everyone else.

    I would do anything for my family. I love my children so much, I want to give them a great life and help them grow up to be great men. When I see other men stepping up, being the fathers that are sorely lacking in the world today, I want to applaud them as I point to them and say, "There, there, is a father, a real father! That's what a father does!"

    It's time we start shining a light on the good instead of all the disgusting anti-family evil souls in the world that could truly care less about the kids in this country that do not have a parent to love them.

    Posted by: BartB | Dec 9, 2010 12:13:27 PM

  2. I've lived in California for 4 years now. It doesn't feel like the 'high ground' to me, but maybe I'm just picky.

    Posted by: Dan | Dec 9, 2010 2:03:49 PM

  3. It's a very moving story. However, could we not talk about how hot our interview subject is?? Diminishes the journalist's professionalism just a bit....
    It really feeds into the right wing meme that gays are all about sex 24/7. If you can't do an interview about adoption and discrimination without injecting a comment about how horny you are for the married father you are interviewing--looks kind of bad, no?

    Posted by: StillMarriedinCalifornia | Dec 9, 2010 2:40:44 PM


    My thoughts EXACTLY!!

    Posted by: Alexandre | Dec 9, 2010 8:32:21 PM

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